Your Friend In Grief

Melinda Rubinger & Malani Macias Jones

A safe space for conversations around grief and loss. Bringing these conversations out of the darkness and into the light. 

Episodes

  1. DEC 20

    Enough, On Our Own Terms

    The word “enough” can cut and comfort in the same breath. We explore both sides—drawing a firm line with I’ve had enough of other people’s grief timelines, and wrestling with the quieter fear of am I enough to carry this life on my own. From tiny wins like feeding the cats to the heavy logistics of funerals during COVID, we trade honest stories that honor the mess, the beauty, and the contradictions of mourning. You’ll hear how a weighted‑vest metaphor reframed daily expectations, why speaking our loved ones’ names isn’t “being stuck,” and how control can split into two coping selves: the taskmaster who does it all and the rebel who says screw it and eats ice cream in bed. We talk about guilt’s persistent what‑ifs—Did I do enough? Should I have pushed harder?—and how the rational mind and the grieving heart rarely align on a neat timeline. Anchoring moments emerge: a simple silver bracelet left by a stranger that became a talisman, a teacher who planted a tree so a mother had a place to sit with her boy’s memory, and friends who helped by folding laundry in silence or dropping Oreos at the door. If you’re supporting someone in grief, you’ll find practical guidance: don’t ask how to help, offer something specific—DoorDash, Instacart, packing boxes, childcare, rides. If you’re grieving, you’ll find permission to set your own bar for the day and call it enough without apology. Over time, sufficiency expands from survival to simple contentment: a rainy day, a good book, a show in the background, pets nearby, and the freedom to tell your story on your terms. Subscribe, share with someone who needs gentleness, and leave a review with one small “enough” you claimed this week.

    48 min
  2. DEC 13

    What If Grief Wasn’t Something To Fix But A Place To Belong

    What if grief wasn’t something to fix, but a place to belong? We open the door to a candid, unpolished conversation about loss, love that endures, and the kind of friendship that holds you up when the rest of the world says “move on.” Melinda shares how a grief coaching course—beginning on Mike’s birthday—became a turning point, and Malani reflects on the push into support too soon after losing her son and later her husband. Together we explore why society avoids grief, how language shapes healing, and what it means to be companioned instead of managed. We talk about saying died instead of passed away, the shock and silence that follow honesty, and the relief that comes from hearing your person’s name spoken out loud. Books and voices that helped—Nora McInerny, Megan Devine, Andrew Garfield, Anderson Cooper, Stephen Colbert—show up as guideposts that gave us words when we had none. We widen the frame to include non‑death grief: job loss, relocation, friendships that fade, identities that shift. The throughline is simple and hard: everything changes, and you deserve a space where that truth is safe. Our format is intentionally unscripted. We built a random topic wheel inside clear themes so conversations stay alive and real. Expect pets on camera, no mandatory makeup, and plenty of radical candor. Most of all, expect company. If you’re tired of being told to be strong, or if you need a place where your grief can breathe at its own pace, you’re home. Listen, share with someone who needs it, and help us grow this community. Subscribe for new episodes, send us the topics you want on the wheel, and leave a review to tell us what truth about grief you want the world to hear.

    19 min

Ratings & Reviews

5
out of 5
7 Ratings

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A safe space for conversations around grief and loss. Bringing these conversations out of the darkness and into the light.