Established Family Podcast

Derek Palizay
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Established Family Podcast

The Established Family Show is your go-to podcast for biblical wisdom on marriage, restoration, and building a God-centered family legacy. With real, raw conversations, we challenge common misconceptions about love, covenant, and healing. Join us as we dive deep into spiritual truths, practical steps for restoration, and the pursuit of generational transformation—anchored in faith, powered by the Holy Spirit. This isn’t just about marriage—it’s about family revival.

Episodes

  1. 11/21/2024 · BONUS

    SPECIAL: Jezebel’s War on Marriage, Part 3: The 5 Stages of a Broken Marriage

    In the final installment of The Jezebel Series, we’re diving deep into the emotional, mental, and spiritual dynamics that destroy marriages and uncovering the biblical blueprint for restoration. This episode is not just about recognizing what’s broken—it’s about contrasting it with God’s perfect design for marriage and family. We’ll press on the uncomfortable truths and challenge the lies that keep you bound: What is unhealed. What is abnormal. What is under the curse. If you’ve been defensive, blame-shifting, or dismissing hard truths in your marriage, it’s time to compare the condition of your soul to what scripture says about God’s design for restoration. Because restoration isn’t about returning to brokenness or cycles of dysfunction—it’s about returning to covenant. With a prayer inspired by Paul’s letter to the Colossians, we’ll guide you through how to realign with God’s will for your life, walk in moral courage and personal integrity, and uproot the lies of the enemy. Let’s take an account of where our hearts and homes stand and declare freedom from the curses of domination, apathy, and narcissism that threaten to steal your legacy. CTA: Ready to break the strongholds of Jezebel and Ahab in your marriage? Download "The Jezebel Effect: Destroying the Strongholds of Domination, Apathy, and Narcissism in Marriage" today. This ebook will equip you with the tools, prayers, and spiritual wisdom to overcome these battles and restore your marriage to God’s original design. https://access.establishedfamily.com/offers/BehggTiZ

    45 min

  2. 10/31/2024 · BONUS

    SPECIAL: Jezebel’s War on Marriage, Part 2: Reclaiming Authority to Break Spiritual Strongholds

    MAKE SURE YOU STAY FOR THE END WHERE WE FORGIVE AND RELEASE in order to walk in FREEDOM from these SPIRITS! In Part 2 of our deep dive into the Jezebel and Ahab spirits, we’re going beyond awareness and into action. If you've recognized the oppressive hold these spirits have on your marriage—or if you feel like the patterns of control, manipulation, or spiritual complacency are keeping you from true freedom—this episode is for you. Today, we confront the strongholds directly, uncovering how these spirits embed themselves in our lives and marriages, and why only Godly authority can drive them out. Prepare to walk in the power and authority of your God-given identity as we break the chains of control, rejection, and false peace. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: 1. The True Path to Spiritual Freedom in Marriage Discover why partial freedom isn't enough when dealing with Jezebel and Ahab spirits. Learn the dangers of dormant and hidden spirits that operate under the surface, subtly fueling division. 2. Exposing the Tactics of Jezebel and Ahab in Relationships Understand the “swept and put in order” trap, where superficial healing leaves marriages vulnerable to deeper attacks. See how cycles of strife and resentment take hold in marriages that lack true submission to God’s authority. 3. Why Legalism and Therapy Can’t Heal Spiritual Oppression Uncover the limitations of legalism and worldly methods in addressing spiritual strongholds. Discover why only a foundation built on God's Word and authority can bring lasting freedom from Jezebel’s grip. 4. Embracing Godly Authority and True Deliverance Learn how to take a stand in spiritual authority, reclaiming peace and order in your household. Discover scriptural truths to establish a foundation of unity, love, and respect in your marriage under God’s design. Special Offer for Spiritual Activation For those who are ready to wage war against these spirits in their marriage, we’re offering a powerful two-page prayer and decree guide against Jezebel and Ahab spirits. Simply purchase our ebook, Prayers that Restore Marriages [link here: https://access.establishedfamily.com/offers/Bk68onms/checkout], and send proof of purchase to team@establishedfamily.com to receive your free bonus guide for targeted spiritual warfare.

    28 min

  3. 10/26/2024 · BONUS

    SPECIAL: Jezebel’s War on Marriage: Unmasking the Spirit Behind Marital Breakdown | PART 1

    In this episode, we’re diving into one of the most challenging but essential topics in marriage restoration: exposing and breaking the Jezebel and Ahab spirits operating within relationships. Many couples struggle without understanding the underlying spiritual influences driving division, control, and passivity in their marriage. If you’re exhausted from feeling like you’re the only one fighting for God’s will in your marriage, or if you’ve hit a ceiling in your relationship, this episode is for you. Together, we’ll uncover these powerful spirits that attack covenant, reveal the biblical truths about their influence, and walk through the path to reclaiming your marriage under God’s authority. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: Identifying the Spiritual Battle in Marriage Learn why the Jezebel and Ahab spirits are often overlooked yet highly destructive forces within marriages. Discover what Scripture reveals about these spirits and the chaos they bring when left unchecked. How the Jezebel and Ahab Spirits Operate Find out how these spirits take root in marriages and thrive in an environment lacking submission to God’s authority. Understand how they turn marriages into a cycle of strife, fear, and resentment, leading couples away from God’s design for love and unity. Recognizing the Two Paths of Manifestation See how the Jezebel and Ahab spirits show up in different ways, creating patterns of apathy and dominance within relationships. Recognize these traits in both husbands and wives, and how they feed destructive behaviors, breeding cycles of control, manipulation, and avoidance. Breaking the Cycle: Standing Firm in Godly Authority Learn how to take back spiritual authority in your marriage through scriptural declarations and prayer. Discover how breaking these patterns can restore godly love, respect, and peace, building a foundation of unity and partnership. Special Offer for Spiritual Activation For listeners looking to take their prayer life deeper, we’re offering a powerful two-page prayer and decree guide against Jezebel and Ahab spirits. Simply purchase our ebook, Prayers that Restore Marriages [link here: https://access.establishedfamily.com/offers/Bk68onms/checkout] and send proof of purchase to team@establishedfamily.com to receive your free bonus guide for targeted spiritual warfare.

    32 min

  4. 10/17/2024

    Living from The Void: Did God Curse My Marriage and My Home?

    In this episode, we dive deep into the spiritual and emotional void that many marriages experience when spouses fail to live according to God’s design. We explore how missing moments, unmet expectations, and brokenness create a painful gap—leaving spouses confused, hurt, and struggling to find healing. Through biblical truths, we’ll uncover how this “void” isn’t just about what was done wrong, but about who we were meant to be for one another. We’ll also confront the dangers of willful blindness, hardened hearts, and spiritual laws. Are you unknowingly living from a place of hurt and unforgiveness? Are you missing the moments that matter most in your marriage? Together, we’ll examine how personal responsibility, humility, and submission to God’s simple spiritual laws can lead to true restoration. Can't wait to hear your feedback fam!

    28 min

  5. 10/10/2024 · BONUS

    SPECIAL: Can Your Marriage Survive an Affair & Other Morally Degrading Things?

    In this episode of The Established Family Podcast, we tackle a tough question: Can your marriage survive an affair and other morally degrading behaviors? Sin takes many forms, but God’s grace and the power of resurrection are greater. When we invite God into the mess, He can bring clarity, healing, and hope—even when it seems impossible. Join me as we explore: A powerful story of a husband who found new vision and hope through prayer and fasting. Why understanding the death and resurrection of Christ is crucial for restoring your marriage. How God's grace transforms our hearts and minds, making it possible to see our spouse as He does. Why relying on worldly solutions like self-help books, new age practices, or quick fixes will never bring true freedom. Scriptural References: James 3:16-17 – "For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there is disorder and every evil thing." 1 Corinthians 15:10 – "By the grace of God I am what I am, and His grace to me was not without effect..." Romans 6:8-11 – "Now if we died with Christ, we believe that we shall also live with Him..." If you’ve faced betrayal, spiritual exhaustion, or feel stuck in a cycle of shame and despair, this episode is for you. It’s time to stop giving dominion to the past and start embracing the resurrection power of Jesus for your marriage. Let’s dive in and find the hope that only God can provide.

    26 min

  6. 10/03/2024

    When Marriage Becomes an Idol (...and How Idolizing Your Spouse Leads to Separation)

    Idolizing Your Marriage Leads to Brokenness and Adopting the World's False Labels In this powerful episode of The Established Family Podcast, we confront a dangerous pattern that is tearing marriages apart: ..."idolizing your spouse and adopting the world’s false labels for sin." When we place our spouse or marriage on a pedestal, we set ourselves up for disappointment and brokenness. Worse yet, the world often offers counterfeit solutions, giving sin new names and labels that sound helpful but only keep us stuck. Join me as we explore: Why relying on worldly labels like "spousal neglect" or "narcissism" can be spiritually damaging. The truth behind false idols such as therapists, self-help books, and even church leaders. The spiritual implications of placing anything above God’s design for your marriage. How codependency on your spouse or worldly solutions hinders true healing and growth. Why only God’s promises can free you from the destructive cycles in your marriage. Scriptural References: Acts 28:26-27 – “You will keep on hearing, but will not understand...” Romans 8:6 – “For the mind governed by the flesh is death, but the mind governed by the Spirit is life and peace.” Proverbs 3:5 – “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.” If you're tired of searching for healing in all the wrong places, this episode will help you realign your heart and mind to God's truth and design. Let’s break free from the labels and idols that keep us in bondage and embrace the spiritual clarity needed for restoration.

    30 min

  7. 09/27/2024 · BONUS

    SPECIAL: Addicted to Chaos - How to Escape the Invisible Traps Ruining Your Marriage

    In this episode, we tackle a critical topic that could be secretly unraveling your marriage: chaos. Does your marriage feel like it's caught in a cycle of constant turmoil? You may be dealing with more than just conflict—you may be addicted to chaos. Today, we're exposing the traps that keep couples stuck in dysfunction and offering a path to freedom. We’ll take a deep dive into what I call the "Five Faces of Chaos," showing how these forces manifest in your marriage and how they block your relationship from flourishing. Based on James 3:13-18 and other biblical insights, we’ll explore: Shame – How chaos births shame, damaging trust and identity. Vengeance – The aftermath of chaos leading to a destructive cycle of retaliation. Destruction – Chaos surrounds, corrodes, and leaves nothing but ruin in its wake. Falsehood – Lies and deception grow out of chaos, creating relational instability. Pride – Pride invites chaos by rejecting humility and reconciliation. It’s easy to get trapped in the symptoms of chaos without realizing what’s truly going on. Does this sound familiar? Constant emotional and physical disconnection from your spouse Ongoing resentment and unresolved conflicts Living in a state of isolation from community and Godly support Using manipulation or passive-aggressive behavior to control outcomes Feeling like revenge or punishment is the only way to balance the scales These patterns may look like a dysfunctional relationship on the surface, but they stem from deeper spiritual roots. As Galatians 5:19-21 tells us, these are the "deeds of the flesh" that open the door to demonic influence and chaos in our marriages. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: How to identify the chaos at work in your marriage Why false peace often masks deeper chaos and destruction The biblical steps to reclaim God’s design for peace in your relationship How to break free from the addiction to dysfunction and chaos Tools to restore trust and heal from emotional damage Additional Key Verses: James 3:16 (AMP) - “For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there is disorder and every evil thing and morally degrading practice.” Proverbs 14:12 - "There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end, it leads to death." Isaiah 26:3 - "You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast because they trust in you." Breaking the Chains of Chaos: Marriage is meant to reflect God’s peace and covenant, but many couples unknowingly live in cycles of dysfunction that keep them from experiencing true joy and freedom. Whether you’re facing emotional abandonment, betrayal, or the fallout of unresolved conflicts, this episode will equip you with biblical truths to overcome chaos and step into God’s design for your marriage. Listen Now! If you’re ready to leave the cycle of chaos behind and embrace peace, this episode is for you. Take the next step toward healing and restoration.

    28 min

  8. 09/24/2024

    The Danger of Waiting: Why Your Lack of Urgency is Killing Your Marriage

    In this episode, we dive deep into what active restoration and waiting look like in marriage. Just like in health and fitness, where active recovery is essential for progress, the same applies to your relationship. If you're passively waiting for change, you're missing the key to true healing and restoration. We’ll unpack how a lack of urgency is rooted in a lack of peace, and how this leads to anxiety, misfocus, and prayerlessness. Using the powerful formula found in Philippians 4:4-9, we’ll show you how to align your heart with God’s peace and embrace Godly urgency for your marriage. Are you stuck between wanting change but not fully turning your heart to God? If so, this episode will reveal why restoration is delayed and why you’re still battling the same issues. We'll dismantle the false peace the enemy offers and help you rediscover true peace—peace that leads to action, urgency, and real progress in your marriage. We’ll also explore Nehemiah’s story of rebuilding the broken walls and how his God-given burden and urgency offer a blueprint for restoring your marriage. You’re called to restore, but first, you need to stop running from pain and start moving toward true peace and purpose. If you want to break the cycle of destruction in your marriage and walk in Godly urgency, this episode is for you.

    26 min

  9. 09/18/2024

    The Manufactured Marriage: How to Break the Cycle of Fake Covenant

    In this episode, we dive deep into the concept of the "manufactured marriage"—a relationship built on soothing mechanisms and surface-level appearances rather than God's true design for covenant and purpose. Are you merely creating an illusion of family without building a true foundation? Discover how we often use marriage to soothe our pain, boredom, and addictions, missing the deeper calling God has for us. We'll explore the scriptural truths that reveal how God's purpose for marriage goes beyond self-serving desires and moves us into a life of purpose, leadership, and spiritual growth. Join us as we unpack the difference between a manufactured marriage and a covenant marriage designed by God. Learn how to break the cycle of superficial living and embrace the true fear of the Lord, humility, and anointing that leads to a fulfilling, purpose-driven marriage. Key Scriptures: Joshua 1:13-15 - Finding rest and purpose in God's promises 1 John 2:27 - Being taught by the anointing James 1:14-15 - Understanding the dangers of being taught by our flesh James 3:16 - The consequences of jealousy and selfish ambition Topics Covered: Identifying the signs of a manufactured marriage God's purpose for marriage and why it's not just about us The Fear Triangle: Understanding the role of fear in your marriage How to move from chaos and destruction to God’s design and purpose Don't miss this transformative episode that challenges you to break free from a life of manufactured marriage and step into the true covenant God intended for you and your spouse.

    27 min

  10. 09/13/2024

    Healing Beyond Trauma: God’s Plan to Restore and Rebuild Your Marriage

    In this episode of The Established Family Show, we dive deep into the heart of what restoration truly means in the context of marriage. For many, the pain and trauma of a broken relationship can feel overwhelming, but God’s plan for your marriage goes beyond the trauma you’ve experienced. Restoration is more than just fixing what's broken—it’s about reclaiming what God originally designed for your marriage. We explore biblical truths that redefine restoration: the call to return, to make new, to rebuild from the ashes. Through personal stories and scripture, we’ll unpack how many of us have settled for managing the symptoms of dysfunction, when God is calling us to something deeper—complete healing and freedom from spiritual strongholds. We’ll discuss: How to recognize when your marriage has become an idol The difference between God’s restoration and our own version of it How trauma can blind us from seeing God’s true plan for healing Why restoration requires action and spiritual movement, not just waiting and praying The steps to reclaim the "land" that is your marriage and move forward in God’s promise If you’ve been stuck in the cycle of dysfunction or simply praying for change, this episode will challenge you to take the next step in reclaiming your marriage and walking in true restoration.

    18 min

  11. 09/10/2024

    Captured: Reframing the Brokenness in Your Marriage

    In this first episode of The Established Family Show, we confront a difficult but necessary truth: your marriage isn't too broken for God to restore—it’s captured. Together, we’ll uncover the spiritual strongholds that have led to the destruction and dysfunction in your home. Using biblical principles and Hebrew word pictures, we’ll show how captivity is a spiritual battle that stems from giving access to the enemy. You’ll learn to reframe the brokenness, identify the root cause of your marriage struggles, and recognize the symptoms of a house divided. We dive deep into scriptures like 2 Corinthians 10:4-5 and Luke 11:17 to help you understand that God offers freedom and restoration—but it starts with acknowledging the captivity. In this episode, we’ll explore: How legalism, ultimatums, and demands block restoration. The difference between normal as defined by God’s covenant versus what the enemy wants you to believe. The process of breaking down strongholds and renouncing the lies that have kept you and your spouse trapped. It's time to reclaim your home, walk in God’s design for marriage, and move from brokenness to restoration. Plus, listen to learn how you can receive our free ebook, From Conflict to Connection, by leaving a review!

    31 min
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The Established Family Show is your go-to podcast for biblical wisdom on marriage, restoration, and building a God-centered family legacy. With real, raw conversations, we challenge common misconceptions about love, covenant, and healing. Join us as we dive deep into spiritual truths, practical steps for restoration, and the pursuit of generational transformation—anchored in faith, powered by the Holy Spirit. This isn’t just about marriage—it’s about family revival.

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