Confessions of a Selfish Bitch

Cher Meli
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Confessions of a Selfish Bitch is a bold, intimate podcast for midlife women ready to stop self-abandoning and start choosing themselves. Hosted by Cher Meli, the podcast explores emotional truth, self-sovereignty, relationships, wellbeing, and midlife reinvention—without sugarcoating or apology. 🎙 Podcast launching January 2026 🌿 Women’s wellness events & programming through Midlife Mastery™ Learn more at CherMeli.com

  1. 2D AGO

    The First Step to Forgiveness

    In this minisode, I offer what I believe is the true first step to forgiveness — and it may not be what you expect. This is not a guided visualization. It is not a spiritual bypass. It is not about rushing yourself into grace before you’re ready. It is about beginning. Forgiveness starts quietly. It starts in reflection. It starts in honesty with yourself. In this episode, I guide you into a contemplative journaling practice designed to help you move through resentment, emotional charge, and the lingering weight of experiences that still live in your body. We explore: – How to regulate your nervous system before leaning into difficult emotions – Why forgiveness can begin privately, without involving anyone else – Reflective prompts to understand what happened and how it shaped you – Reframing pain as part of your evolution rather than proof of victimhood – The importance of grounding back into presence after emotional work Forgiveness does not happen in one sitting. It unfolds over time, with intention and self-respect. This episode is the doorway. If you are ready to begin letting go of resentment and reclaiming your power, start here. Resources mentioned: – The Little Soul and the Sun by Neale Donald Walsch – Guided forgiveness meditation Private Advisory inquiries: hello@chermeli.com

    7 min

  2. 2D AGO

    The Hardest Forgiveness Practice — And the Most Empowering

    Forgiveness is rarely what we think it is. It is not about excusing someone’s behavior. It is not about pretending you weren’t hurt. And it is certainly not about giving someone else access to your healing. In this episode, I share the forgiveness practice that carried me through my second divorce — a season when I questioned everything: my faith, my choices, my identity, and my ability to trust myself. The four foundational phrases — I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you. — are rooted in Ho’oponopono. But what I teach here is not a traditional lesson in that practice. What emerged for me was something more personal — a fusion of those phrases with the teachings of The Little Soul and the Sun — and it became my signature forgiveness process. This conversation explores: – Why resentment quietly drains your energy – How painful relationships can serve as catalysts for growth – The difference between being right and being free – Why forgiveness is about reclaiming personal power – Letting go of blame after divorce or betrayal – Moving beyond the victim archetype into sovereignty If you are navigating heartbreak, divorce, estrangement, or a major life transition, this episode offers a grounded and spiritually expansive way to begin releasing what no longer serves you. This is not spiritual bypassing. It is not denial. It is a reclamation of your personal, energetic power. Resources mentioned: The Little Soul and the Sun by Neale Donald Walsch Guided forgiveness meditation Private Advisory inquiries for women navigating major life transitions: Email - hello@chermeli.com

    31 min

  3. FEB 10

    Guided Meditation for Awareness and Tolerance Building

    This guided meditation supports open awareness, nervous system regulation, and emotional tolerance in real-world conditions. Designed to be practiced anywhere, this session focuses on breath, body awareness, and learning to stay present without tightening or controlling experience. Rather than eliminating distraction, the practice builds discernment, patience, and the capacity to remain grounded amidst noise, movement, and internal tension. This meditation is especially supportive if you’re feeling overstimulated, reactive, or overwhelmed by your environment. Open awareness meditation guidance Breathwork for nervous system support Gentle vagus nerve activation Releasing tension and resistance Cultivating tolerance and discernment This practice is an invitation to soften your grip on control and meet life with steadiness and awareness.

    8 min

  4. FEB 10

    Let That Sh*t Go

    In this episode, Cher explores what it really means to let go of the little things —of irritation, control, and the urge to fix what’s outside of you. This is a conversation about self-awareness, discernment, and emotional regulation in real life—not in silence, not on a cushion, but in relationships, aging bodies, daily frustrations, and overstimulated environments. If you’ve been feeling triggered, overwhelmed, or stuck in repetitive patterns, this episode offers a compassionate but honest reframe: peace doesn’t come from controlling the world—it comes from learning to manage yourself. A practical meditation approach that works in noisy, real-world settings Why resistance and control are the same thing Letting go without bypassing emotion Tolerance versus fixing others Annoyance as a mirror for inner work Boundaries versus discernment Self-prioritization without guilt Forgiveness, responsibility, and emotional peace Topics includeMentioned in this episode Episode 2: Foundational Meditation Practice Private Advisory support with Cher

    24 min

  5. FEB 3

    A Gentle Journaling & Contemplative Practice for Letting Go

    This minisode offers simple guidance — a short pause you can return to anytime you need to slow down and reconnect with yourself. In this guided mini-session, Cher walks you through a stream-of-consciousness journaling practice designed to support self-reflection, emotional release, and clarity — without pressure, fixing, or overthinking. This is not a deep dive. It’s an invitation to create space. You’ll be encouraged to: Put your phone on Do Not Disturb Set aside a few quiet minutes Write without editing, censoring, or judging yourself Practice kindness and patience as thoughts and feelings surface Why short, intentional reflective practices are powerful How to use stream-of-consciousness journaling to release mental clutter Letting thoughts move without trying to solve or control them Noticing patterns, emotions, and beliefs without attaching meaning Creating a simple morning or anytime contemplative practice Choosing self-compassion over self-criticism while reflecting This minisode is especially supportive if: You keep encountering repetitive outcomes and want to understand your role in them You’re attached to ways of being you know are no longer healthy or true for you You want to intentionally examine your thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors — not avoid them You notice rumination or looping and want to explore what’s underneath it You’re ready to create space for new, more aligned life experiences You want a contemplative practice that encourages honest inquiry with self-kindness Growth doesn’t require intensity. It requires presence — practiced gently, again and again. This minisode is part of a larger midlife self-evolution series.

    5 min

  6. FEB 3

    Letting Go in Midlife: Control, Self-Sabotage, and the Exhaustion of Holding On

    Letting go isn’t a one-time event — it’s the beginning of a longer conversation. In this episode of Confessions of a Selfish Bitch, Cher opens a new series by exploring why letting go is often the first — and most necessary — step in midlife self-evolution. Rather than offering answers or quick fixes, this episode invites reflection on the many places where we stay attached long past usefulness — to beliefs, behaviors, coping mechanisms, relational roles, and inner stories that once helped us survive. This is not the episode on letting go. It’s the starting point. Topics introduced include: Why awareness alone doesn’t create change Letting go of grudges and the deeper inquiry of forgiveness Co-dependent participation and over-functioning Toxic coping mechanisms and trauma-based habits Boundaries vs. clarified values Beliefs about self-worth and identity The need to know, control, or stay certain This episode sets the foundation for what comes next: a deeper exploration of how midlife asks us to release, refine, and re-choose ourselves. Letting go begins quietly — with honesty, curiosity, and a willingness to stop carrying what no longer fits.

    26 min

  7. JAN 27

    Stop Saying “That’s Just How I Am” — A Mini Midlife Reset

    This minisode is a practical pause. Cher guides you through a simple reflection to interrupt autopilot thinking, move beyond “that’s just how I am,” and begin making small, intentional changes using the WOOP method and the 1% principle from Atomic Habits. _______________________________________________________________ In this mini episode of Confessions of a Selfish Bitch, I’m inviting you into a brief but meaningful reset. So many of us move through midlife repeating patterns — not because we want to, but because they’ve become familiar. We tell ourselves, “That’s just how I am,” and stop questioning what might actually be possible now. This minisode is designed to interrupt that reflex. I walk you through a simple reflective process using two grounded frameworks that work especially well in midlife: The WOOP method (Wish, Outcome, Obstacle, Plan), developed by Gabrielle Oettingen, to help you name what you want and identify what’s quietly in the way The 1% principle from Atomic Habits by James Clear, reminding us that small, consistent efforts create real change over time This isn’t about fixing yourself or forcing growth. It’s about noticing, choosing, and taking one honest step forward. Perfect to listen to when you want something short, steady, and actionable. Key Takeaways “That’s just how I am” no longer works for you Awareness creates choiceWOOP helps identify internal obstacles without self-blameSmall actions compound into meaningful changeMidlife responds to consistency, not intensityChapters Introduction & purpose Moving beyond “that’s just how I am” Naming your wish Identifying internal obstacles Creating a simple, doable plan Small changes that compound

    6 min

  8. JAN 27

    Stopping the Autopilot: How to Interrupt Self-Sabotage in Midlife

    Self-sabotage in midlife isn’t a character flaw — it’s often unconscious autopilot. In this episode, Cher shares real-life, practical ways on HOW to slow automatic reactions, interrupt old patterns, and begin making intentional changes that actually stick. Drawing from the WOOP method and the 1% principle from Atomic Habits, this conversation focuses on baby steps, nervous-system awareness, and reclaiming agency without shame or pressure. _______________________________________________________________ I recorded this episode very intentionally. Not to motivate you for a moment — but to give you real, usable ways on HOW to start changing your life in real time. Midlife is often where we realize that the things we do automatically — our reactions, beliefs, coping strategies, and behaviors — are no longer supporting us. What once helped us survive quietly turns into self-sabotage. Not because we’re broken. Because no one ever taught us how to interrupt autopilot. In this episode of Confessions of a Selfish Bitch, I talk about real, practical tools on HOW change actually begins in midlife. This episode is not about dramatic reinvention. It’s about self-evolution through awareness and consistency. Why most self-sabotage is unconscious — not intentional How midlife exposes autopilot patterns that no longer work Why slowing reactions is the first act of real self-leadership How small changes compound into meaningful transformation I introduce two complementary frameworks that work especially well in midlife: Developed by Gabrielle Oettingen, WOOP (Wish, Outcome, Obstacle, Plan) helps you: Name what you actually want (without editing yourself) Identify internal obstacles instead of blaming circumstances Create honest, doable plans that respect your nervous system WOOP isn’t about positive thinking — it’s about conscious participation. Drawing from Atomic Habits by James Clear, we talk about why: Small, consistent changes outperform big intentions Interrupting a pattern by 1% is enough to change its trajectory Midlife responds better to repetition than intensity Together, these tools help you slow the moment before reaction — where self-sabotage usually lives — and replace it with choice. Midlife doesn’t ask you to try harder. It asks you to notice sooner, choose differently, and repeat gently. This episode is for you if: You react before you realize what’s happening You understand your patterns intellectually but still repeat them You want change that doesn’t overwhelm your nervous system You’re ready to stop abandoning yourself in subtle, automatic ways Interrupting autopilot isn’t dramatic. It’s quiet. And it’s powerful. What we explore in this episode:🔹 The WOOP Method🔹 The 1% Principle from Atomic Habits

    22 min
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Confessions of a Selfish Bitch is a bold, intimate podcast for midlife women ready to stop self-abandoning and start choosing themselves. Hosted by Cher Meli, the podcast explores emotional truth, self-sovereignty, relationships, wellbeing, and midlife reinvention—without sugarcoating or apology. 🎙 Podcast launching January 2026 🌿 Women’s wellness events & programming through Midlife Mastery™ Learn more at CherMeli.com

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