For eleven Sundays we have talked about operations: what each one does, who it helps, and what healing looks like. This last week of October is about a decision that matters more than any technique I have described: who will do your surgery? Here is what I tell the women who ask me. Why training matters so much here Labiaplasty is not taught in medical school, internship, residency, or fellowship. Neither is elective Vaginoplasty. Surgeons learn it afterward, so two doctors with the same diploma can have very different experience. OBGYNS are trained different from Plastic Surgeons. Gynecologists, urogynecologists, and some plastic surgeons do most of these surgeries. Gynecologists repair fallen bladders, rectums, and birth tears as everyday work; urogynecologists focus on the most severe incontinence and prolapse; plastic surgeons are trained in cosmetic surgery, but few in vaginal surgery. With added training and experience, any of these specialists can do this work well. The title matters less than what the surgeon has actually learned and done. Training should not stop after one course. I still support teaching in operating rooms and at meetings around the world so the surgeons I have trained, my Fellows, stay current, and an Alinsod-trained Fellow can be a good place to start when you book a consultation (ask them the same questions below). Look for someone who can do both The Consultation. This is the point I care about most. If you are considering vaginoplasty, perineoplasty, or anything for “looseness,” your surgeon should be comfortable with both aesthetic surgery (how things look) and reconstructive pelvicsurgery (prolapse and pelvic floor repair). Why? Because a gaping opening is not always just cosmetic. As we saw in November, it can be the visible sign of the rectum, bladder, or small bowel bulging into the vagina. “Just tighten me” can miss the problem underneath, and a prolapse repair alone may ignore how the vulva looks afterward. Ideally, one plan covers both. For many years I have taught surgeons to combine pelvic reconstructive and aesthetic principles for exactly this reason. Teaching surgeons the anatomy of the pelvis. Reconstructive training is what helps a surgeon find the problem underneath. Larger prolapse repairs belong in the operating room, while many labial and vaginal surgeries can be done awake in the office. Ask where your surgery would be done, and why. Before-and-after photos, and how often Ask to see before-and-after photos of the surgeon’s own patients with your problem. Wanting a Barbie Look? Look at Barbie Looks. Planning a revision? Ask for revision photos. You want many examples, not two or three favorites. An online before-and-after gallery with many cases of each procedure. Browse it to find the look you like, then show your surgeon. Ask how often the surgeon does your procedure. There is no magic number, but a surgeon who does it regularly has seen the variations and knows how to handle them. Ask, too, how often they need to touch up their own work, and what they do when it happens. Teaching surgeons from around the world how to repair botched surgery. If you need a revision, ask how much revision work your surgeon does. And ask how long the surgery takes. A careful labia minoraplasty takes me a couple of focused hours. Labial surgery with vaginal surgery is a 3-4 hour case. Easy. Be cautious of a quick half-hour job. Careful labial surgery takes time. Ask your surgeon how long your operation will take. What a thorough consultation looks like A good first visit is unhurried. It starts with a detailed history: your symptoms, your births, your bladder and bowel habits, past medical problems, medications, allergies, your sex life, and what you hope will change. Small details can change a plan. Click here for a past Newsletter on The Labiaplasty Consult you can watch. A private exam room. The consultation is time to talk, and time for a careful examination. Then comes the exam. For labial or hood surgery, your surgeon should look at the inner lips, the hood, the outer lips, and the opening together, because each one changes how the others look. Bring a photo of the look you want, and say plainly how much or how little you want removed. Some choices, like the Barbie Look, cannot be reversed, so feel sure before you decide. A labeled drawing of the vulva: the outer lips (labia majora) and inner lips (labia minora). At your exam, your surgeon should look at these together with the clitoral hood and the vaginal opening. How much to remove is a discussion. A Rim removes just the edges, a Hybrid trims to the level of the outer lips, and a Barbie Look tucks the inner lips below them. The half speculum exam: prolapse, or tissue only? If your complaint is looseness, gaping, air coming out, pressure, a bulge, or trouble emptying your bowels, the exam has to go further. A regular speculum opens the whole vagina and can actually hide a bulge. With a half speculum, the surgeon holds back one wall at a time while you bear down. Covering the floor isolates the bladder. Covering the roof isolates the rectum. This is how we tell a tissue-only problem (stretched skin and muscle at the opening or in the canal, which perineoplasty or vaginoplasty may address) from true prolapse, which needs its own repair. A plan made from photos alone, without this exam, can miss important problems. A half speculum exam while she bears down, before surgery (top) and after (bottom). The rectal bulge is gone after repair. Individual results vary. The same patient with the bladder wall isolated, before (top) and after (bottom) repair. Informed consent is a conversation Informed consent is not just a signature. It is the conversation in which you understand what will be done, why, what the alternatives are, and what the risks are, before anything is scheduled. Risks include reactions to anesthesia, infection, bleeding, and the chance that you will not be fully happy or will need a touch-up. They are uncommon, but you deserve to hear them plainly. A good surgeon will also tell you when pelvic floor therapy, a non-surgical treatment, or no treatment at all is reasonable. ThermiVa, which I invented, can help mild laxity in some women, but it is not a substitute for rebuilding a torn perineum or repairing a rectocele. Read your pre-op and post-op instructions before surgery day, so there are no surprises. And remember: every body heals differently, and results vary. No honest surgeon can guarantee an outcome. Here is the first page of the post-op instruction sheet my own patients take home, so you can see the kind of detail to expect. Red flags * No exam, or a plan made from photos alone. * No half speculum exam when your complaint is looseness, a bulge, or bladder and/or bowel trouble. * Pressure to book today. * Promises or guarantees of a perfect result. * No before-and-after photos of the surgeon’s own patients with your particular problem. * Vague answers about complications or revisions. * A sales pitch built around a device. A laser is a tool, not magic. The skill of the hand holding it matters more. It’s the Wizard and not the Wand that matters. * Feeling rushed, or having your questions brushed aside. Your printable question list Print this, or save it to your phone, and bring it with you. * What is causing my symptom: skin, fat, muscle, or prolapse? * Will you do a half speculum exam? * What is your training in both aesthetic and reconstructive pelvic surgery? * How often do you do this procedure? * May I see before-and-after photos of your own patients with my problem? * Exactly what will you remove or repair, and what will you leave? * Which procedures would not help me, and why? * Will you be using cadaver tissue or mesh in the repair? * Will this be done awake in the office or in the operating room? * What are the risks, and how often do you revise your own work? * If I am unhappy with the result, what happens next? * What will recovery involve: work, driving, exercise, pelvic rest, intimacy? * How do I reach you after surgery, including nights and weekends? * Is there a non-surgical option, or a reason to wait? Questions to ask at your consultation: print this or save it to your phone, and bring it with you. Looking back Over the past year we covered these topics on Feminine Wellness Newsletter: * The map: which symptom points to which procedure. * Labia minoraplasty and the truth about sensation. * Labia majoraplasty and the “camel toe.” * Clitoral hood reduction. * Clitoropexy and clitoral reduction. * Childbirth, constipation, and prolapse. * Perineoplasty. * Vaginoplasty. * Combined surgery and the Unified Approach. * Anal skin tags. * Recovery and revision. A note on timing If you consult with Dr. Alinsod in November or December 2026 and plan your surgery for 2027, you’re eligible for 25% off. Payment in full is due by the end of your consultation month (November 30 or December 31). For in-office procedures, the 25% applies to the full bill; at the surgery center, it applies to Dr. Alinsod’s professional fee. Every surgical procedure qualifies, and surgery is preferably scheduled January through April 2027, with later dates by arrangement. The Institute doesn’t offer financing but accepts CareCredit. To arrange a consultation, call 945-900-7576 or visit alinsodinstitute.com/patient-consultation. A last word Thank you for reading along with me since April 17, 2022. Whatever you decide, surgery or no surgery, you deserve a surgeon who examines you carefully, explains things plainly, answers every question, and never pressures you. Take your time. Bring your list. And be gentle with yourself. That completes the October’s series. Come back to any of these articles whenever you need them. We will end the year with more focus on specific surgical cases. FOR THE SURGEON The BEST place to learn Cosmetic Gynecology from your home and office. Anywhere. GYNFL