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Lucy Barkas & Karen Heras Kelly
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Lucy and Karen, two 40-somethings,  are always chatting about life, and all that it has to throw at them, and now want to share their raw, honest conversations with you. Their journey of finding their own voices, self-discovery and healing is something many of us can relate to. We all possess a unique power within us, but life’s trials often knock us off course. They have the tools, the courage to speak up and simply say it as it is, so you might feel seen, and understood and gain practical tools and techniques for self-discovery and personal growth during the changes we experience.

  1. 5D AGO

    You Can Speak Up Without Sounding Bossy

    Send us Fan Mail We stop normalising the ways we soften, apologise, and shrink our words at work, then practise swaps that sound clear, warm, and authoritative. We also get honest about interruptions and unwanted attention, and how naming boundaries protects both our confidence and our safety.  • why women lose their voices through conditioning and conformity  • a simple journalling method to prepare for difficult conversations  • spotting shrinking language in emails and meetings  • phrase swaps that remove apology and uncertainty  • balancing humility with authority so people trust you  • bridging techniques that refocus without shutting others down  • naming flat energy in a room and handing it back to the group  • scripts and styles for stopping interrupters in the moment  • handling unwanted attention, inappropriate jokes, and personal space violations  • when to escalate, document, and use HR channels  If this episode has resonated with you, please share it with a friend, a colleague, or a sister who needs to hear it. Leave us a review on your favourite podcast app and hit subscribe so you never miss an episode. Webinar : Empowering Women Leaders. 5 strategies to close the gender gap. Join us.

    52 min

  2. MAR 13

    Matriarchy Isn’t Power Over - quite the opposite

    Send a text We explore how love, care and community can be a serious strategy for change, starting at home and rippling out. Stories of protest, school halls, grandmothers and deep democracy show how matriarchy is a circle that centres children and the planet. • choosing creation over chaos • hope found in counter-protests and banners • love not hate as practical method • grief, safety and letting go as parents • matriarchy defined as circles not triangles • Mo Mowlam and deep democracy in action • everyday leaders shaking stale power • grandmothers’ lineages of care • back-to-basics rituals for restoration • women’s voices, paradox and storytelling • naming fear and choosing self-trust • school, scouts and food banks as civic hubs We hope that you can feel the love in our own hearts and that you connect to your own and that you can bring some hope Webinar : Empowering Women Leaders. 5 strategies to close the gender gap. Join us.

    43 min

  3. MAR 6

    IWD 2026: Rights, Justice, Action

    Send a text We centre International Women’s Day by dropping the fluff and focusing on rights, justice, and action for women and girls. We name the weight of the moment, then show how rest, boundaries, and strategy turn exhaustion into sustainable courage and change. • honouring women’s stories and why visibility shifts language and policy • navigating triggers and practising body-led boundaries • gathering with women to regulate, plan, and act • ethical choosing with money, media, and attention • workplace solidarity and the 3.5 percent tipping point • rest, sleep, and nervous system care as resistance • perimenopause, caregiving stress, and practical regulation • closing with the poem We See You and an invite to share stories Make contact, share your stories, but above all, rest Webinar : Empowering Women Leaders. 5 strategies to close the gender gap. Join us.

    36 min

  4. FEB 27

    Who Gets Blamed For Lonely Men

    Send a text We challenge the blame placed on women for male loneliness and declining birth rates, and we map practical ways to build safer homes, better policies, and stronger role models. From South Korea’s 4B to UK school funding, we trace how systems shape choices and how families can lead change. • the media narrative around male loneliness and state “solutions” • fertility politics, from 4B to Roe and egg-freezing offers • fear tactics versus women’s agency and bodily autonomy • the dating mismatch and readiness gap between men and women • costs of living, childcare, leave, and work design as core barriers • the isolation and invisible labour of motherhood • role modelling, consent education, and emotionally present fathers • building matriarchal-led, co-created homes with clear boundaries • practical household prototypes that scale to community change • calling men in as guardians who protect and respect Come follow us, come hang out with us on social media, and we look forward to sharing another conversation with you soon Webinar : Empowering Women Leaders. 5 strategies to close the gender gap. Join us.

    40 min

  5. FEB 20

    Leading Through Crisis With Emma Streets

    Send a text We sit down with crisis comms expert Emma Streets to unpack why old communication playbooks fail during rolling crises and how a trauma‑informed approach helps leaders speak clearly, act with integrity, and build real trust. We share practical tools for safety, trust, and choice that calm nervous systems and reduce risk in workplaces and at home. • defining trauma and its everyday signals in teams • why language, tone, and visuals shape felt safety • apologies without liability and legal myths • predictive and vulnerability-based trust explained • performative statements vs action-led credibility • giving choice in format, timing, and channels • managing uncertainty without fuelling rumour • resilience as reflection, learning, and systems • collaboration and feminine leadership strengths • practical steps leaders can apply today Ellen Griley article Trauma Informed Framework Inspired this Episode. Webinar : Empowering Women Leaders. 5 strategies to close the gender gap. Join us.

    48 min

  6. FEB 13

    From Epstein Files To Everyday Patriarchy

    Send a text We confront the Epstein files as a lens on patriarchy, institutional silence, and the dark triad of sex, money, and power. We share lived stories, map the deny–deflect playbook, and make space for anger, grief, hope, and healing. • centring survivors over sensational images • updates on Maxwell’s silence and why it matters • how rank, privilege, and status shape deference • the dark triad of sex, money, power explained • a personal story of early predation and its echoes • institutional failures from grooming scandals to elites • gaslighting tactics and the power of naming them • signs of cultural change and male allyship • healing with boundaries and soft power • practical next steps and finding support Subscribe so you don’t miss our follow‑up on what we can actually do Webinar : Empowering Women Leaders. 5 strategies to close the gender gap. Join us.

    38 min

  7. FEB 6

    Female Rage, Midlife Anger and turning it into power

    Send a text We explore female anger as life force, tracing how resentment turns to rage, how society polices women’s voices, and how boundaries transform heat into clean power. Real stories, body wisdom, and practical steps to name it, own it, and act with care and clarity. • simmering resentment in midlife and the hidden load • the dishwasher as symbol of unequal labour • sensing anger in the body and naming it • anger’s scale from despair to joy • safety, patriarchy and why women’s voices get labelled • history, leadership and the cost of suppression • grief for wasted years and missed nos • boundaries that hold and non‑negotiables • parenting big feelings with firm limits • healthy release without harm and turning anger into action Webinar : Empowering Women Leaders. 5 strategies to close the gender gap. Join us.

    45 min

  8. JAN 30

    We Don’t Care Club Tribute: and the stuff we wish we didn't care about

    Send a text We celebrate the We Don’t Care Club energy, ditch some performative rules, and get honest about the things we still struggle to release. Inspired by the brilliant Melani Sanders, this conversation moves from what we don't care about, to what we wish we didn't care for, and what matters most.  • naming the silly rules we drop and why it frees time and energy • admitting what we still care about and unpacking conditioning • weight, confidence and the thinness happiness myth • ageing, hair, roots, filters and integrity over polish • why women’s appearance standards persist and how we push back • values-led living and leadership as daily behaviour • honouring elders, healing family patterns and staying present • endometriosis, painful periods and speaking up for care • the two lists exercise for focus and clarity Let us know what you find. Let us know, send us messages, send us, um, you know, join us on Instagram and TikTok and let us know how you're getting on. And of course, if you've got any questions, we're always here for that. We do want to invite listeners to go check out, you know, the woman who's inspired us today, which is Milani Sanders. Check out the We Don't Care Club, which is just hilarious, known for its humanity, hilarity, and honesty Don't forget to subscribe, comment, send us a text. Webinar : Empowering Women Leaders. 5 strategies to close the gender gap. Join us.

    40 min
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Lucy and Karen, two 40-somethings,  are always chatting about life, and all that it has to throw at them, and now want to share their raw, honest conversations with you. Their journey of finding their own voices, self-discovery and healing is something many of us can relate to. We all possess a unique power within us, but life’s trials often knock us off course. They have the tools, the courage to speak up and simply say it as it is, so you might feel seen, and understood and gain practical tools and techniques for self-discovery and personal growth during the changes we experience.

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  • Creator
    Lucy Barkas & Karen Heras Kelly
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    74
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 WhatWhenWhyHow Ltd
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