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Lucy Barkas & Karen Heras Kelly
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Lucy and Karen, two 40-somethings,  are always chatting about life, and all that it has to throw at them, and now want to share their raw, honest conversations with you. Their journey of finding their own voices, self-discovery and healing is something many of us can relate to. We all possess a unique power within us, but life’s trials often knock us off course. They have the tools, the courage to speak up and simply say it as it is, so you might feel seen, and understood and gain practical tools and techniques for self-discovery and personal growth during the changes we experience.

  1. Taking Charge Of Sexual Health In Midlife With Dr Nneka Nwokolo

    1D AGO

    Taking Charge Of Sexual Health In Midlife With Dr Nneka Nwokolo

    Send us a text Dr. Nneka Nwokolo, is the co-founder of NewWoman Health, an online and in-person clinic offering holistic menopause care. She is also an Honorary Consultant Physician in Sexual Health and HIV at Chelsea and Westminster Hospital in London. She is passionate about addressing taboos around sexual health and raising awareness of menopause among women as well as in the general population and is particularly interested in understanding the different menopause experiences of women of diverse backgrounds. Other interests include the sexual and reproductive health of women living and ageing with HIV, and the impact of menopause on HIV, as well as increasing the participation of women in research. We name shame, trade myths for facts, and build a practical plan for safer, more joyful sex in midlife with consultant physician Dr Nneka Nwokolo. From STI testing and consent scripts to menopause changes and redefining intimacy, we get honest and give tools. • modern HIV facts and why it matters • rising STIs in older adults and asymptomatic risk • condoms as baseline safety in new relationships • how to ask partners for testing with simple scripts • home testing versus clinic visits and when to go in • perimenopause, dryness, pain and local oestrogen • redefining desire, responsive arousal and “good enough” • building intimacy outside the bedroom for better sex • shifting shame with open talk and shared responsibility Share it with a sister and leave us a review Webinar : Empowering Women Leaders. 5 strategies to close the gender gap. Join us.

    34 min

  2. JAN 9

    Midlife Career change. Second Act, New Direction

    Send us a text We explore the quiet courage of midlife pivots, from the first tug of misalignment to the practical steps that turn lostness into a second act. Stories, signals, values, and rituals guide us to choices that open energy rather than drain it. • January triggers and career misalignment • Hormonal shifts and growing discernment • Leaving high-status roles for meaning • Lostness as a portal to the next step • Second acts built with intention • Relevance traps and overwork patterns • Feedback as a compass to identity • Navigating noise and finding real educators • Parenting phases and evolving purpose • Values as decision filters • Vision boards, themes and loose plans • Following signals and small experiments • Grieving old selves and keeping their gifts • Owning the wise rebel and setting boundaries • Simple practices to reconnect and choose Please keep us updated of your journey. You can send us messages via the Say It Sister app or via the Say It Sister social media handles, and we're always around to answer any questions as well Hit follow. Share it with a sister and leave us a review Webinar : Empowering Women Leaders. 5 strategies to close the gender gap. Join us.

    35 min
  3. Dr Giselle Goodwin :Rewriting Work For Women In 2026

    JAN 2

    Dr Giselle Goodwin :Rewriting Work For Women In 2026

    Send us a text We challenge the myth of “having it all” and map a human-centred future of work with researcher and author Dr Giselle Goodwin. From the nine-to-five legacy to AI and four-day weeks, we explore how trust, boundaries, and community can shift culture and protect wellbeing. • How industrial-era schedules still shape modern work • Why outcome-focused flexibility beats presenteeism • The hidden labour of biology, beauty, safety and sex • Risks of always on culture and micro-shifting without limits • AI, hybrid work and four-day week evidence • Trust, autonomy and retention as a virtuous cycle • Inclusive design for fertility, menopause and neurodiversity • Rebranding soft skills as business critical leadership • Setting intentions around women, work and wellbeing If something resonates, share it on your socials or with a friend who needs to hear it. Find us on Instagram at Say It Sister Podcasters and Wise Women Lead. Go check out Giselle Goodwin, her work, her books, follow her on Substack, she's amazing. If it moved you and made you think or made you feel seen, hit follow, share it with a sister, and leave us a review Webinar : Empowering Women Leaders. 5 strategies to close the gender gap. Join us.

    36 min

  4. 12/19/2025

    Social Anxiety Or Just Boredom

    Send us a text Inspired by a question Jameela Jamil asked, we question whether social anxiety is always anxiety or sometimes boredom, overwhelm, and changing needs. We share how midlife reshapes identity, why depth beats noise, and why boundaries and recovery rituals matter during busy seasons. • boredom versus anxiety in social spaces • craving deep one-to-one connection • sensory overload and small talk fatigue • slippers, comfort and self-acceptance • grief for old selves and changing friendships • after-event spirals and self-soothing habits • holiday boundaries, enoughness and rest • choosing smaller, richer gatherings If this episode resonated, share it with a woman who needs to hear that she's not alone. Hit follow. Share it with a sister and leave us a review Webinar : Empowering Women Leaders. 5 strategies to close the gender gap. Join us.

    25 min

  5. 12/12/2025

    Midlife Social Anxiety, Named And Navigated

    Send us a text We explore social anxiety in midlife with honesty and care, naming how hormones, sensory overload and identity shifts change how we show up. We offer scripts, boundaries and gentle tactics to regulate the nervous system while keeping real connection alive. • midlife social anxiety as a normal transition, not a flaw • how oestrogen, serotonin, GABA and cortisol shape mood and stress • alcohol as a mask and redefining friendships around it • practical event planning, exit strategies and recovery windows • sensory triggers, breath work and co-regulation with trusted people • choosing depth over noise and letting identity evolve If it moved you and made you think or made you feel seen, hit follow Share it with a sister and leave us a review Webinar : Empowering Women Leaders. 5 strategies to close the gender gap. Join us.

    24 min

  6. 12/05/2025

    Emotional Labour, Midlife, And The Courage To Say No

    Send us a text We explore the hidden costs of emotional labour, why midlife turns up the pressure, and how to share the load with clarity and care. Stories, science, and simple tools help you set boundaries, self-soothe, and redesign roles at home. • defining emotional labour and the invisible job description • midlife hormones shifting patience, clarity and resentment • conditioning that trains girls to caretaking roles • signs of emotional burnout and detachment • practical boundary-setting and the power of no • rituals for energy hygiene and self-soothing • redesigning roles with partners and co-parents • noticing everyday magic and micro-moments of support If you're loving this, please do share it with another sister. Like, leave comments, do what you can because the more you help us, the more amazing women we reach If it moved you and made you think or made you feel seen, hit follow, share it with a sister, and leave us a review Webinar : Empowering Women Leaders. 5 strategies to close the gender gap. Join us.

    45 min
  7. Rachael Lemon. From Queen Bee Syndrome To Brave, Inclusive Leadership

    11/28/2025

    Rachael Lemon. From Queen Bee Syndrome To Brave, Inclusive Leadership

    Send us a text We examine how fear, scarcity and old role models fuel Queen Bee dynamics at work, and how to replace them with mentorship, sponsorship and clear allyship. Rachael Lemon shares lived stories from healthcare leadership and offers practical challenges to build trust and safety. Rachael Lemon is the rebel force behind LemonAiding™ leadership done differently. She’s an executive coach, consultant, and Editor-in-Chief of EmpowHER magazine, giving women a global stage to say the things they were told to swallow. • defining Queen Bee Syndrome and its roots in fear • lived examples of bullying, undermining and idea theft • the cost of caregiving load and menopause at work • why timely feedback and psychological safety matter • masculine masks, energy alignment and authentic power • mentorship over gatekeeping and the value of sponsorship • delegating, trusting and co-creating team standards • acknowledging neurodivergent needs and RSD sensitivity • building women’s forums and informal support circles • three challenges for braver, more inclusive leadership If you love this episode don’t forget to subscribe leave a review and share it with your work bestie Hit follow. Share it with a sister and leave us a review. Your voice has power and your essence is wisdom. EmpowHER magazine  https://link.rachaellemon.com/empowher Connect on LinkedIn http://linkedin.com/in/rachaellemon-leadership-coach-mentor Webinar : Empowering Women Leaders. 5 strategies to close the gender gap. Join us.

    39 min

  8. 11/21/2025

    Finding Your Voice When It Matters Most

    Send us a text We explore why voices seize when truth matters and how to turn that constriction into clarity. Stories, tools and a simple framework help you weigh safety, regulate emotion and ask for what you need with steadiness. • naming the frog in the throat and what it signals • stories of silence, safety and self compassion • speaking up in crisis and advocating for care • asking for help and inviting support • courage and vulnerability as the same practice • taking public stands and brand alignment • the IDEAS model for hard conversations • body-based tools to regulate and speak • reframing the block as a compass for truth Find us on Instagram at Say It Sister Podcasters and wise women lead Loving the conversation, make sure you follow us on your favourite podcast app If something resonates, share it on your socials or with a friend who needs to hear it We’d love to hear your stories too Because your voice matters here If it moved you and made you think or made you feel seen, hit follow, share it with a sister, and leave us a review Webinar : Empowering Women Leaders. 5 strategies to close the gender gap. Join us.

    32 min
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Lucy and Karen, two 40-somethings,  are always chatting about life, and all that it has to throw at them, and now want to share their raw, honest conversations with you. Their journey of finding their own voices, self-discovery and healing is something many of us can relate to. We all possess a unique power within us, but life’s trials often knock us off course. They have the tools, the courage to speak up and simply say it as it is, so you might feel seen, and understood and gain practical tools and techniques for self-discovery and personal growth during the changes we experience.

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  • Creator
    Lucy Barkas & Karen Heras Kelly
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    65
  • Rating
    Clean
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