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Lucy Barkas & Karen Heras Kelly
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Lucy and Karen, two 40-somethings,  are always chatting about life, and all that it has to throw at them, and now want to share their raw, honest conversations with you. Their journey of finding their own voices, self-discovery and healing is something many of us can relate to. We all possess a unique power within us, but life’s trials often knock us off course. They have the tools, the courage to speak up and simply say it as it is, so you might feel seen, and understood and gain practical tools and techniques for self-discovery and personal growth during the changes we experience.

  1. 5D AGO

    What Changes When Shame Switches Sides

    Send us Fan Mail Week after week, century after century, stories about sexual violence continue, so we are talking solutions, and why even years of healing does not make it painless. We focus on hope and practical action, from women gathering and speaking out to the steps men can take to stop other men causing harm.  •Naming fear, anger and shaking as normal trauma responses  •Why ignoring abuse memories can make us ill over time  •Finding hope in women validating each other publicly  •The rise of testimony threads and naming abusers databases  •Claire’s Law and Sarah’s Law and why convictions are rare  •Libel threats as a common tactic to silence women  •Petitions, advocacy groups and writing to your MP  •Women’s circles and community as a protective antidote to isolation  •Inner peace practices including prayer, church, nature and quiet  •EFT tapping, counselling and holistic trauma-informed support  •Journalling, hypnosis and other ways to rebuild a sense of safety  •What men can do: call it out, check your mates, build empathy, amplify women  •How to talk to your partner and when to seek another outlet  Rape Crisis England & Wales  Website: https://rapecrisis.org.uk The Survivors Trust  Website: https://thesurvivorstrust.org Rape Crisis Scotland  Website: https://www.rapecrisisscotland.org.uk Refuge  Website: https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk Women’s Aid  Website: https://www.womensaid.org.uk End Violence Against Women Coalition  Website: https://www.endviolenceagainstwomen.org.uk Rights of Women  Website: https://www.rightsofwomen.org.uk  Free legal advice on sexual violence, harassment, and domestic abuse  Specialist helplines for different legal areas NHS Sexual Assault Referral Centres  Website: https://www.nhs.uk/service-search/sexual-assault-referral-centres DABS Pathfinder  Website: https://www.dabspathfinder.co.uk GOV.UK support for victims of sexual violence  Website: https://www.gov.uk  Rape Crisis (24/7): 0808 500 2222 National Domestic Abuse Helpline: 0808 2000 247 The Survivors Trust: 0808 801 0818 Webinar : Empowering Women Leaders. 5 strategies to close the gender gap. Join us.

    46 min

  2. APR 24

    Man Or Bear And Now It’s Your Husband

    Send us Fan Mail We sit with the shock of a widely reported online “r*pe academy” and what it reveals about drugging, consent, and the scale of misogyny online. We share personal stories, name the anger and exhaustion women carry, and get practical about safety, parenting, and what men must do to stop rape culture.  • reacting to the reporting, the numbers, and why shock matters  • how drugging and spiking trauma lives in the body and mind  • why women feel unsafe even at home  • the link between objectification, entitlement, and online grooming spaces  • teaching consent, respect, and what healthy attraction looks like  • parenting and digital boundaries around gaming, p*rn, and VR  • practical due diligence, trusting instincts, and noticing relationship shifts  • what men can do, calling out mates, intervening early, involving police  Just tune in, listen to your instincts.  You will know when something is safe or not.  And if you're not sure, treat it as unsafe.  RAINN (USA): rainn.orgEnd Violence Against Women Coalition (UK): evaw.org.ukVictim Support (UK): 0808 1689 111The Survivors Trust (UK): thesurvivorstrust.orgNational Domestic Abuse Helpline (UK): 0808 2000 247Webinar : Empowering Women Leaders. 5 strategies to close the gender gap. Join us.

    36 min

  3. APR 17

    The Power Of Awe and searching for daily hope

    Send us Fan Mail We talk about awe as a real force that lifts our energy and widens what we believe is possible, especially when winter feels relentless and the news is heavy. We share stories of everyday helpers, then turn that hope into a practical dreaming framework built on micro-choices and honest self-trust.  • Defining awe and why it changes our perspective  • Choosing to show up even with pain or fear  • A civilian act of courage that saves lives  • Training ourselves to look for the helpers  • Finding “glimmers” of joy through community kindness  • Remembering the strangers and mentors who carried us  • Noticing bitterness as a cue for inner work  • Releasing anger without projecting it onto others  • Using micro-choices to move towards a dream  • Six days of dreaming with rest built in  Well, we're inviting you to start dreaming.  If you're dreaming with us, keep dreaming. We want you to raise your vibration, to reset your energy, and to get clear on your intentions. The message is simple if the world feels dark, switch on the lights. There's no time for stuckness right now. It's a time for you to reconnect for yourselves, for your communities, and for the world you want to live in because you do have a say. Are you ready to join us? Webinar : Empowering Women Leaders. 5 strategies to close the gender gap. Join us.

    36 min

  4. APR 3

    How The Manosphere Hooks Boys And Harms Girls

    Send us Fan Mail We name how the red pill manosphere feeds on low self-worth and turns pain into a performance of power that harms girls, boys, and families. We share what we notice as midlife women, why smartphones and algorithms make this harder, and why integrity and inner work are the only way out.  • misogyny and male dominance rhetoric showing up in schools and social media  • Gen X “have it all” messaging and the hidden expectation of traditional gender roles  • young women choosing not to settle without a true partner  • grooming dynamics of podcasts, porn, influencers, and algorithmic content  • loneliness, grief, trauma and abandonment beneath the bravado  • pseudo-self-esteem and the addictive chase for likes, money and status  • practical antidotes through parenting boundaries, community spaces and real role models  • integrity versus pyramid-scheme promises in coaching, spirituality and hustle culture  • the principle that no one is coming to save us and healing is a personal journey  If this episode resonated, share it with a friend.  Webinar : Empowering Women Leaders. 5 strategies to close the gender gap. Join us.

    41 min
  5. Carla Crivaro : Bonobo Lessons For A Safer World

    MAR 27

    Carla Crivaro : Bonobo Lessons For A Safer World

    Send us Fan Mail We ask what the world could look like if women organised power differently, using bonobo matriarchies as a surprising lens on violence, safety and social cohesion. Carla Crivaro  joins us to talk boundaries, reclaiming sensuality and building coalitions that make women safer and stronger in daily life.  • stepping away from constant news to reduce helplessness and rebuild agency  • creating change through individual empowerment and local ripple effects  • reframing “difficult” as a sign of boundaries and self-respect  • learning from bonobo matriarchy and female coalitions that stop aggression  • how shame around women’s sexuality functions as social control  • distinguishing inner sensuality from sexualisation and the invasive male gaze  • responding to inappropriate attention by staying grounded and turning questions back  • workplace sisterhood as practical activism, including women backing younger colleagues  • building community through Carla’s Sister Sanctuary and in-person events  stay connected, follow the hell out of all of us and come and join our communities.  and of course, subscribe to the podcast so you never miss an episode.  Home | Carla Crivaro SEX, LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS Instagram Linkedin Youtube Webinar : Empowering Women Leaders. 5 strategies to close the gender gap. Join us.

    39 min

  6. MAR 20

    You Can Speak Up Without Sounding Bossy

    Send us Fan Mail We stop normalising the ways we soften, apologise, and shrink our words at work, then practise swaps that sound clear, warm, and authoritative. We also get honest about interruptions and unwanted attention, and how naming boundaries protects both our confidence and our safety.  • why women lose their voices through conditioning and conformity  • a simple journalling method to prepare for difficult conversations  • spotting shrinking language in emails and meetings  • phrase swaps that remove apology and uncertainty  • balancing humility with authority so people trust you  • bridging techniques that refocus without shutting others down  • naming flat energy in a room and handing it back to the group  • scripts and styles for stopping interrupters in the moment  • handling unwanted attention, inappropriate jokes, and personal space violations  • when to escalate, document, and use HR channels  If this episode has resonated with you, please share it with a friend, a colleague, or a sister who needs to hear it. Leave us a review on your favourite podcast app and hit subscribe so you never miss an episode. Webinar : Empowering Women Leaders. 5 strategies to close the gender gap. Join us.

    52 min

  7. MAR 13

    Matriarchy Isn’t Power Over - quite the opposite

    Send us Fan Mail We explore how love, care and community can be a serious strategy for change, starting at home and rippling out. Stories of protest, school halls, grandmothers and deep democracy show how matriarchy is a circle that centres children and the planet. • choosing creation over chaos • hope found in counter-protests and banners • love not hate as practical method • grief, safety and letting go as parents • matriarchy defined as circles not triangles • Mo Mowlam and deep democracy in action • everyday leaders shaking stale power • grandmothers’ lineages of care • back-to-basics rituals for restoration • women’s voices, paradox and storytelling • naming fear and choosing self-trust • school, scouts and food banks as civic hubs We hope that you can feel the love in our own hearts and that you connect to your own and that you can bring some hope Webinar : Empowering Women Leaders. 5 strategies to close the gender gap. Join us.

    43 min

  8. MAR 6

    IWD 2026: Rights, Justice, Action

    Send us Fan Mail We centre International Women’s Day by dropping the fluff and focusing on rights, justice, and action for women and girls. We name the weight of the moment, then show how rest, boundaries, and strategy turn exhaustion into sustainable courage and change. • honouring women’s stories and why visibility shifts language and policy • navigating triggers and practising body-led boundaries • gathering with women to regulate, plan, and act • ethical choosing with money, media, and attention • workplace solidarity and the 3.5 percent tipping point • rest, sleep, and nervous system care as resistance • perimenopause, caregiving stress, and practical regulation • closing with the poem We See You and an invite to share stories Make contact, share your stories, but above all, rest Webinar : Empowering Women Leaders. 5 strategies to close the gender gap. Join us.

    36 min
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Lucy and Karen, two 40-somethings,  are always chatting about life, and all that it has to throw at them, and now want to share their raw, honest conversations with you. Their journey of finding their own voices, self-discovery and healing is something many of us can relate to. We all possess a unique power within us, but life’s trials often knock us off course. They have the tools, the courage to speak up and simply say it as it is, so you might feel seen, and understood and gain practical tools and techniques for self-discovery and personal growth during the changes we experience.

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  • Creator
    Lucy Barkas & Karen Heras Kelly
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    79
  • Rating
    Explicit
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