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Soberly Speaking

Julia Rangiheuea
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Stories from everyday people sharing their darkest moments that led to sobriety. Shedding light on our struggles to help those still finding their way out. 

  1. Coercive Control, a Life Sentence & Finding Love in Prison: Peter Bates

    2D AGO

    Coercive Control, a Life Sentence & Finding Love in Prison: Peter Bates

    Peter Bates was just a child when his father poured petrol over him and his mother to stop her from leaving. Extreme violence, coercive control, and fear shaped Peter’s childhood, but home wasn’t the only place he was unsafe. At school, he experienced SA at the hands of a male teacher.  Desperate to escape the violence, Peter found himself homeless at a young age. But after a tragic accident led to the loss of an innocent young life, Peter was sentenced to life in prison, believing his own life was effectively over too. Instead, prison became the place where Peter began to change.  Peter is now a passionate advocate for domestic violence and coercive control. You can connect or work with Peter Bates below;   https://petebatesproject.com/  Instagram: @petebatesproject TRIGGER WARNING: domestic violence, coercive control and suicide discussed in detail. Please listen with care. Ready to share your story? Email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hello@soberlyspeaking.com.au⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Disclaimer: The stories and experiences shared in this episode are personal accounts told in good faith. While we strive to present these narratives accurately, the views and claims expressed are those of the individuals involved and have not been independently verified. Soberly Speaking and its host, Julia Rangiheuea, do not take responsibility for the accuracy or validity of the information shared. Listener discretion is advised. The National Alcohol & Other Drug Hotline is a free and confidential 24/7 phone service that provides counselling, advice, and information for those struggling with addiction. Call 1800 250 015 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://toolkit.lifeline.org.au/articles/support/national-alcohol-other-drug-hotline⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Creator & Host- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Julia Rangiheuea⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Image & Logo- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jasmine Rule⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ In the spirit of reconciliation Soberly Speaking acknowledges the Traditional Custodians of Country throughout Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples today.

    44 min
  2. Jennifer Watched Footage of Her Mother’s Murder Through a Ring Camera (Subscriber Exclusive)

    MAY 12 • SUBSCRIBERS ONLY

    Jennifer Watched Footage of Her Mother’s Murder Through a Ring Camera (Subscriber Exclusive)

    Jennifer Gaydos Hartman was working in mental health when a conversation with her stepfather immediately rang alarm bells. Not long after, she would be watching Ring camera footage of him murdering her mother, before taking his own life. But even before that moment, Jennifer’s life had already been shaped by trauma, mental health struggles, and addiction. The father of her children suffered a drug-induced accident that left him with severe cognitive impairments, and she also experienced the shock of finding her best friend dead in his home. And in a surprising contrast, Jennifer is also known for her time on reality TV, appearing on The Real Housewives of Dallas, which we briefly chinwag about at the end of the episode. Follow Jennifer on Instagram: @jennifer_gaydos18 Ready to share your story? Email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hello@soberlyspeaking.com.au⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Disclaimer: The stories and experiences shared in this episode are personal accounts told in good faith. While we strive to present these narratives accurately, the views and claims expressed are those of the individuals involved and have not been independently verified. Soberly Speaking and its host, Julia Rangiheuea, do not take responsibility for the accuracy or validity of the information shared. Listener discretion is advised. The National Alcohol & Other Drug Hotline is a free and confidential 24/7 phone service that provides counselling, advice, and information for those struggling with addiction. Call 1800 250 015 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://toolkit.lifeline.org.au/articles/support/national-alcohol-other-drug-hotline⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Creator & Host- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Julia Rangiheuea⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Image & Logo- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jasmine Rule⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ In the spirit of reconciliation Soberly Speaking acknowledges the Traditional Custodians of Country throughout Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples today.

    48 min
  3. Why Can’t I Moderate? with Addiction Psychiatrist Dr Daniel Hochman (Subscriber Exclusive)

    MAY 5 • SUBSCRIBERS ONLY

    Why Can’t I Moderate? with Addiction Psychiatrist Dr Daniel Hochman (Subscriber Exclusive)

    Dr Daniel Hochman is a board-certified addiction psychiatrist who specialises in understanding the emotional and psychological drivers behind substance use. As the first doctor on the show, I had questions that continuously come up in my interviews, but I was hesitant to ask them in case they seemed too “basic” to bring to a doctor. But I realised pretty quickly these aren’t basic questions at all, they’re the ones we all end up asking at some point in our journey. Like, why can’t we moderate? Is addiction a genetic trait? And why do some people keep using even when they know it’s ruining their lives? This conversation was incredibly insightful, and I’m so grateful for Dr Hochman’s time. I hope you enjoy this chat with Dr Daniel Hochman. Self-Recovery by Dr Daniel Hochman Ready to share your story? Email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hello@soberlyspeaking.com.au⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Disclaimer: The stories and experiences shared in this episode are personal accounts told in good faith. While we strive to present these narratives accurately, the views and claims expressed are those of the individuals involved and have not been independently verified. Soberly Speaking and its host, Julia Rangiheuea, do not take responsibility for the accuracy or validity of the information shared. Listener discretion is advised. The National Alcohol & Other Drug Hotline is a free and confidential 24/7 phone service that provides counselling, advice, and information for those struggling with addiction. Call 1800 250 015 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://toolkit.lifeline.org.au/articles/support/national-alcohol-other-drug-hotline⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Creator & Host- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Julia Rangiheuea⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Image & Logo- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jasmine Rule⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ In the spirit of reconciliation Soberly Speaking acknowledges the Traditional Custodians of Country throughout Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples today.

    42 min
  4. The Cycle of Violence and Abandonment: Luke's Story

    MAY 3

    The Cycle of Violence and Abandonment: Luke's Story

    Growing up around addiction, instability and an absent father shaped the course of Luke’s life long before he understood it. In this episode, Luke speaks openly about avoiding accountability and the impact his behaviour had on the people around him during the darkest periods of his life. Beneath it all was a lifelong search for love, validation and escape. TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses suicide, mental health struggles, violence and domestic violence. Please watch with care. Ready to share your story? Email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hello@soberlyspeaking.com.au⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Disclaimer: The stories and experiences shared in this episode are personal accounts told in good faith. While we strive to present these narratives accurately, the views and claims expressed are those of the individuals involved and have not been independently verified. Soberly Speaking and its host, Julia Rangiheuea, do not take responsibility for the accuracy or validity of the information shared. Listener discretion is advised. The National Alcohol & Other Drug Hotline is a free and confidential 24/7 phone service that provides counselling, advice, and information for those struggling with addiction. Call 1800 250 015 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://toolkit.lifeline.org.au/articles/support/national-alcohol-other-drug-hotline⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Creator & Host- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Julia Rangiheuea⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Image & Logo- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jasmine Rule⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ In the spirit of reconciliation Soberly Speaking acknowledges the Traditional Custodians of Country throughout Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples today.

    47 min
  5. Childhood Trauma and a Three-Day Exorcism: Danny’s Story (Subscriber Exclusive)

    APR 28 • SUBSCRIBERS ONLY

    Childhood Trauma and a Three-Day Exorcism: Danny’s Story (Subscriber Exclusive)

    Experiencing sexual abuse as a young child, unfortunately, isn’t unique in Danny’s family. The women in her lineage carry their own stories too. In this episode, we explore what going through something like that at such a young age does to a person, not feeling safe, not being believed, and how those experiences ripple into adulthood. By just 12 years old, Danny had already been exposed to gambling harm, turning to pokies as a way to self-soothe. She later faced eating disorders, serious mental health breakdowns, and a three-day exorcism. TRIGGER WARNING: this episode discusses suicide and touches on themes some may find confronting, including spirituality and experiences that sit outside the norm. Ready to share your story? Email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hello@soberlyspeaking.com.au⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Disclaimer: The stories and experiences shared in this episode are personal accounts told in good faith. While we strive to present these narratives accurately, the views and claims expressed are those of the individuals involved and have not been independently verified. Soberly Speaking and its host, Julia Rangiheuea, do not take responsibility for the accuracy or validity of the information shared. Listener discretion is advised. The National Alcohol & Other Drug Hotline is a free and confidential 24/7 phone service that provides counselling, advice, and information for those struggling with addiction. Call 1800 250 015 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://toolkit.lifeline.org.au/articles/support/national-alcohol-other-drug-hotline⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Creator & Host- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Julia Rangiheuea⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Image & Logo- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jasmine Rule⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ In the spirit of reconciliation Soberly Speaking acknowledges the Traditional Custodians of Country throughout Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples today.

    33 min
  6. The Hidden Grip of Pokies: How a Mum of Six Nearly Lost Everything

    APR 26

    The Hidden Grip of Pokies: How a Mum of Six Nearly Lost Everything

    If a mum of six can walk into her local pub and lose hundreds of thousands on a poker machine, where does the responsibility actually sit? Is it the machines, engineered to be addictive? The system that allows them to exist in every pub and club across the country? Or the individual sitting in front of them? In this episode I sit down with Kate Seselja, founder of The Hope Project, who shares her 15-year experience of gambling harm inside Australia's pokies crisis. She opens up about pulling money from her family business and mortgage just to keep playing, and what it actually cost her and her family. I also bring in a political voice. NSW Greens MP Cate Faehrmann joins to break down what is really happening, or not happening, in parliament when it comes to poker machine reform in Australia. Follow The Hope Project on Instagram Follow Cate Faehrmann on Instagram Ready to share your story? Email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hello@soberlyspeaking.com.au⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Disclaimer: The stories and experiences shared in this episode are personal accounts told in good faith. While we strive to present these narratives accurately, the views and claims expressed are those of the individuals involved and have not been independently verified. Soberly Speaking and its host, Julia Rangiheuea, do not take responsibility for the accuracy or validity of the information shared. Listener discretion is advised. The National Alcohol & Other Drug Hotline is a free and confidential 24/7 phone service that provides counselling, advice, and information for those struggling with addiction. Call 1800 250 015 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://toolkit.lifeline.org.au/articles/support/national-alcohol-other-drug-hotline⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Creator & Host- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Julia Rangiheuea⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Image & Logo- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jasmine Rule⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ In the spirit of reconciliation Soberly Speaking acknowledges the Traditional Custodians of Country throughout Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples today.

    40 min
  7. When Porn Turns Compulsive with Jeremy Lipkowitz (Subscriber Exclusive)

    APR 21 • SUBSCRIBERS ONLY

    When Porn Turns Compulsive with Jeremy Lipkowitz (Subscriber Exclusive)

    Jeremy’s earliest memory of being exposed to erotic material started young, when a shopping catalogue with a lingerie section began arriving at his family home. What started as curiosity became something he kept returning to, and over time, his relationship with porn escalated. It began impacting how he saw women, behaved socially, and showed up in his relationships. What once felt private was no longer contained. In this episode, Jeremy opens up about what porn addiction can actually look like, how to recognise when it’s becoming a problem, and the impact it can have on your brain, behaviour and relationships. We also explore how to approach the conversation with a partner if you’re concerned about their habits, and how parents can navigate these conversations with their children in a healthy, open way. "Jeremy Lipkowitz is a former Buddhist monk meditation teacher and coach helping high-achieving men break free from compulsive behaviours especially porn addiction and build lives of integrity and fulfilment. With 15+ years of meditation experience and time spent in silent retreat he blends ancient wisdom with modern science to support lasting change. As the founder of Unhooked Academy and host of the Unhooked Podcast Jeremy is a leading voice in destigmatising porn addiction helping men understand the neuroscience behind it and create real sustainable transformation." Podcast: https://unhooked.buzzsprout.com/ Website: https://www.unhookedacademy.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremylipkowitz/ Ready to share your story? Email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hello@soberlyspeaking.com.au⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Disclaimer: The stories and experiences shared in this episode are personal accounts told in good faith. While we strive to present these narratives accurately, the views and claims expressed are those of the individuals involved and have not been independently verified. Soberly Speaking and its host, Julia Rangiheuea, do not take responsibility for the accuracy or validity of the information shared. Listener discretion is advised. The National Alcohol & Other Drug Hotline is a free and confidential 24/7 phone service that provides counselling, advice, and information for those struggling with addiction. Call 1800 250 015 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://toolkit.lifeline.org.au/articles/support/national-alcohol-other-drug-hotline⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Creator & Host- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Julia Rangiheuea⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Image & Logo- ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jasmine Rule⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ In the spirit of reconciliation Soberly Speaking acknowledges the Traditional Custodians of Country throughout Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples today.

    49 min
  8. Are You Addicted to Chaos? with Drew Wild

    APR 19

    Are You Addicted to Chaos? with Drew Wild

    You stopped drinking. You changed your habits. So why does it still feel like something is missing?Work, the gym, your phone, the constant chase for more… sometimes the patterns just shift rather than disappear.Trauma Therapist Drew Wild is back on the podcast to go deeper into what might be sitting underneath it all. We talk about the root of these patterns, why we can stay stuck in certain cycles, and what it takes to actually move forward.We also get honest about the identities we outgrow but feel scared to leave behind, our relationship with money and validation, and what you truly want when you strip everything back.Follow Drew Wild on Instagram: @drew_wildBook a session with Drew Wild HERECreator & Host: ⁠⁠Julia RangiheueaReady to share your story? Email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hello@soberlyspeaking.com.au⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Disclaimer: The stories and experiences shared in this episode are personal accounts told in good faith. While we strive to present these narratives accurately, the views and claims expressed are those of the individuals involved and have not been independently verified. Soberly Speaking and its host, Julia Rangiheuea, do not take responsibility for the accuracy or validity of the information shared. Listener discretion is advised.The National Alcohol & Other Drug Hotline is a free and confidential 24/7 phone service that provides counselling, advice, and information for those struggling with addiction. Call 1800 250 015⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://toolkit.lifeline.org.au/articles/support/national-alcohol-other-drug-hotline⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠In the spirit of reconciliation Soberly Speaking acknowledges the Traditional Custodians of Country throughout Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. We pay our respect to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples today.

    54 min
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Stories from everyday people sharing their darkest moments that led to sobriety. Shedding light on our struggles to help those still finding their way out. 

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  • Creator
    Julia Rangiheuea
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    139
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Julia Rangiheuea
  • Show Website
    Soberly Speaking
  • Provider
    Julia Rangiheuea

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