In his 1980 hit "Hungry Heart," Bruce Springsteen sings: Everybody needs a place to rest Everybody wants to have a home Don't make no difference what nobody says Ain't nobody like to be alone Everybody's got a hungry heart Everybody's got a hungry heart The Boss speaks to the human condition. Everybody's got a hungry heart. We all have deep longings for connection, acceptance, love, purpose and meaning. But are people even aware of these longings? We often try to run away from our own sense of longing and throw ourselves into busyness or distraction. Jesus wants to fill our hearts with his grace, his love, his joy—something that can satisfy us beyond anything else in the world. As disciples of Jesus, part of our role in the world is to help people remember how much they want. One way we can do that is by asking really good questions. In John 1, when Jesus is talking with some of the disciples for the first time, he asks them, "What do you want?" Jesus is asking them a question about their whole lives. What do you want? What are you looking for? And then he invites them in. He begins to answer the hunger of their heart. We as disciples of Jesus, for ourselves, need to be asking, What do I want? What am I looking for? And am I finding Jesus when I'm looking for love, meaning and purpose? And then as we have opportunity with others, provoking those same questions: Hey, what do you want? What are you looking for? So, how do we ask good questions? Evangelist Sam Chan shares a framework he uses called Coffee, Dinner, Gospel. Imagine a target, with a center of Worldview. Then the next ring out is Values. And then the biggest ring out is Interests. Sam Chan says that in a friendship, you work your way towards the center over time. So, coffee is the Interest layer. You're getting to know somebody over coffee: making small talk, asking how their weekend was, and learning what they're interested in. Then at dinner, you go one layer deeper, to the Values level. Here, you learn what someone really cares about and what motivates them. And then, the Gospel conversation. The Gospel conversation is at the level of Worldview. It centers on why someone believes what they believe. What do they want? What are they looking for? Sam Chan shares what he calls "nudge questions" that can be used in this level of conversation. Nudge questions are designed to give our friends permission to talk about their faith, spirituality, and religion. Some examples include: What are you looking for in life? Why is this important to you? What is the one thing you absolutely must have in this life? What happens if you don't find what you're looking for? What do you think it all means? What do you believe about God? What do you think God wants from you? Do you have a faith? What religion did your parents raise you with? Do you pray? Tell me about some traditions, festivals, or celebrations that are important to you. As you ask these types of questions, use discernment, showing curiosity and genuine interest in the other person. Don Everts and Doug Schaup share a similar list of questions with the goal of nudging people towards spiritual conversations. They share the following questions as starting places: Have you ever had a spiritual experience? Would you like to have one? Have you ever felt like you received a sign from God? What would you do if God gave you a sign? What is your take on this whole God question? What do you think God is like? Why do so many people hide behind religion? What do you think is wrong with Christians today? What do you think life is about? Do you think you have a destiny? Do you think that people are more spiritually interested today than they were five years ago? What is the most significant thing that has happened to you in the last month? As you prepare to ask these types of questions, remember that this is about practice. Practice thinking through which of these questions would feel authentic to you. As you begin to ask these types of deeper questions, you're actually serving your friends by creating space and permission for people to talk about the hungers of their heart. And as people begin to open up about those hungers, we will see natural opportunities to share how Jesus can satisfy them. Sources: Matthew 5:6 (NIV, Living Bible) John 1:36-40 (NIV, NRSVue) "Hungry Heart," track 6 on Bruce Springsteen, The River, Columbia Records, 1980. Sam Chan, How to Talk about Jesus (Without Being That Guy) (Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 2020). Sam Chan's Interests, Values, Worldview diagram Mary Schaller and John Crilly, The 9 Arts of Spiritual Conversations: Walking alongside People Who Believe Differently (Carol Stream, Illinois: Tyndale, 2016). 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