The Ecology of Intimacy podcast: Sex, Love, Intimacy & Relationship Coaching for Women and Mothers.

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The ecology of intimacy podcast is a place for you to learn about how you can create a rich and nourishing ecology of intimacy in your life, using the incredible systems of Tantra, Taoism and Somatic-based healing methodologies, so that you can have the kind of relationships you dream of. We’ll explore motherhood, sexuality, pleasure, power, creativity, and what it means to come home to our bodies and express ourselves with grace and authenticity. As a certified somatic Sex, Love, and Relationship coach, with a background in Sexology, my work blends the latest science with the ancient wisdom traditions of Tantra and Taoism as they relate to spiritual and sexual liberation. I’m so excited to have the kinds of conversations that can make you feel deeply seen, understood, and empowered to reclaim and reconnect to your pleasure, your power, your voice, and your nervous system. Let’s dive in... If you want to stay connected to my work you can visit my website at www.vilates.com and sign up to my email list, where you’ll receive all the latest research, updates, and opportunities to work with me.

  1. 6D AGO

    Red Flags, Self-Abandonment & Sacred Grieving: How to Reclaim Self-Trust After Separation, Trauma & High-Conflict Relationships with Chavisa Horemans.

    There’s a moment, sometimes quiet, sometimes seismic, when you realise you’ve been overriding yourself for years. You said yes when your body whispered no. You dismissed the niggling feeling. You explained away the red flags. You told yourself it wasn’t “that bad.” And now you’re exhausted. In this deeply powerful conversation, I sit down with Chavisa Horemans, a Trauma-Informed  Divorce, Co-parenting, and Chronic health coach for women going through major life transitions, and we talk about what happens when women finally come home to themselves, after abuse, after coercion, and after years of self-abandonment. We explore: The subtle red flags most women are conditioned to ignore Why having sex when you’re “not in the mood” can be a warning sign Post-separation abuse and hidden power dynamics The difference between transforming trauma and transmitting it Sacred grieving as a path to radical self-trust How patriarchy disconnects women from their intuition And what it really means to rebuild your relationship with yourself after everything falls apart This episode is for you if you've ever felt like something isn’t right but haven't been able to find the words to articulate it. Or if you're navigating separation, divorce, co-parenting, high-conflict relationships, or a season of high complexity. If you’ve ever wondered, “Can I trust this feeling?” This conversation is your answer. You can. And you must. Let this conversation be the beginning of your return.     ===   GUEST LINKS:   Website: https://www.themothercorp.com/    Red Flag Workshop: https://www.themothercorp.com/learn-red-flags    Secure end-to-end encrypted Email:  themothercorp@proton.me   . ===   •Website: https://www.vilates.com/   •FREE RESOURCE Breast Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation   •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/   •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB   •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980   === . . . . Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2026 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.

    50 min

  2. FEB 11

    Midlife Sexuality, Perimenopause, & Reclaiming Pleasure After 40: Finding the Fire You Never Had with Dr Kelly Barron

    What if midlife isn't the crisis society tells us; but rather the beginning of finding your fire? In this powerful conversation, I’m joined by Dr. Kelly Barron, founder of Tempesta and the Dr. KellFire show.  She's a Chiropractor, Licensed Acupuncturist, Certified Menopause Specialist, Sexual Health Alliance Coaching Candidate, and fierce advocate for women reclaiming their sexuality in midlife. Together, we explore what happens when women stop trying to “get back” to who they were in their twenties… and instead discover a fire they may never have known. Kelly shares her extraordinary journey, from surviving a violent assault to becoming a champion powerlifter, MMA fighter, and leader in menopause and sexual health. Her story is one of resilience, reinvention, and radical self-ownership. But what moves me most in our conversation is her unwavering devotion to helping women understand this truth: Midlife is not the end. It is your peak. We speak honestly about: The medical gaslighting so many women experience in perimenopause and menopause Pelvic health, libido changes, GSM, and why “use it or lose it” matters The performative sexuality many of us were conditioned into, and how to unlearn it Why communication (with yourself and your partner) is everything The evolutionary power of menopause Reclaiming pleasure as a portal back to your feminine energy Falling in love with yourself as your first love relationship. We also dive into ritual, nervous system regulation, sisterhood, and why gathering together in community is medicine. If you’ve ever felt flat, lost, invisible, or disconnected from your body, If you’ve wondered where your libido went, or even if you ever truly claimed it, This episode is for you. Because the truth is: your sexuality is not something you outgrow. It is something you grow into. And midlife might just be the most exquisite chapter yet.   === GUEST LINKS === Website: https://drkellfires.com/  Website: https://mytempesta.com/  Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-kellfire-show/id1755062663   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamkellfire/  === LINKS === Website: https://www.vilates.com/  Free Resource: Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/  Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB  Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980   . . . . Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2026 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.

    58 min

  3. FEB 3

    The Erotic Nervous System:
How Safety, Sensation, and Pleasure Rewire the Body with Megan Millington

    Welcome to Season Two of The Ecology of Intimacy. We’re kicking off 2026, the Chinese Year of the Fire Horse, with an invitation into movement, change, courage, and aliveness. Intimacy, like life itself, is always changing. Our bodies, desires, relationships, nervous systems, and erotic lives are constantly evolving, and this conversation is about learning how to ride those waves rather than resist them. I’m joined by Trauma-informed, Sexuality Coach Megan Millington, whose work in erotic re-patterning is helping women and men reclaim pleasure, safety, and deep intimacy from the inside out. Together, we explore why so many women experience low libido, numbness, disconnection, or shame and what lies underneath those layers. We talk about how early experiences, trauma, stress, motherhood, religious conditioning, medicalised sexuality, and cultural myths all shape our understanding of desire. And Megan shares her own journey from believing she was broken, even asexual, to discovering that her body was simply protecting itself. At the heart of this conversation is a powerful truth: desire returns when safety is restored. We explore: Why low libido is often a nervous system response, not a diagnosis How emotional, somatic, spiritual, and energetic safety impact arousal and orgasm The myth of performative, intercourse-based sex and the orgasm gap Why pleasure is not frivolous but a powerful technology for healing and regulation How intimacy can be woven into everyday life, even during exhaustion, parenting, grief, or change Why you're not broken and how your body is deeply intelligent This episode invites you to question the sexual narratives you’ve inherited, and begin rebuilding intimacy in a way that honours your body’s timing, wisdom, and truth.

    1h 6m

  4. 12/19/2025

    You’re Not Broken: Why Low Libido is a Lie and How Learning the Deep Intelligence of Womens Sexuality and Desire System is the Key.

    As we come to the close of Season One of The Ecology of Intimacy podcast, I wanted to pause, reflect, and say a heartfelt thank you for being a part of this journey with me. This episode is both a love letter and a deep exhale. It’s a celebration of the conversations we’ve shared about sexuality, intimacy, pleasure, women’s bodies, relationships, and what it truly means to feel alive in ourselves and to give ourselves permission for pleasure. To close out 2025, I’m sharing highlights from two of our most-loved, most-downloaded conversations. First, Somatic Sex Expert Susan Morgan Taylor unravels the deeply ingrained myth of “low libido” in women. We explore why so many women are mislabeled, misunderstood, and pathologised, and how education, embodiment, and somatic sexuality can radically transform desire, orgasm, and connection. Then, the Incredible Intimacy Expert Lauren Elise Rogers brings us into a tender, revolutionary conversation about body criticism, self-permission, and pleasure. We explore how the way we speak to ourselves, especially about our bodies, directly impacts our ability to feel desire, intimacy, and orgasmic aliveness. Her message is clear and deeply reassuring: you are not broken, the sexual scripts are. This episode is an invitation to soften, to unlearn, to remember, and to step into a more pleasure-filled, deeply embodied relationship with yourself and with your life. As we prepare for Season Two in early 2026, my hope is that these reflections nourish you, inspire you, and remind you why your intimacy matters. Thank you for walking this path with me. I’m so grateful you’re here. Season 2 begins January 2026         === LINKS === •Website: https://www.vilates.com/ •FREE RESOURCE Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980 === . . . . Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2025 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.

    42 min

  5. 12/10/2025

    Why You're Fighting Over Costco Receipts (And What It Really Means): Healing Relational Patterns with Monica Tanner.

    Wow, this conversation completely shifted how I think about marriage and relationships. You know how we're always told that marriage is all about compromise? Well, what if I told you that's actually terrible advice and it's been keeping you stuck? Today I'm speaking with Monica Tanner, an incredible  Relational Life Therapy trained Relationship Coach who literally wrote the book on Bad Marriage Advice (and yes, that's the actual title!), and she absolutely blew my mind. We dove deep into why so much of the traditional wisdom we've been taught about relationships is actually sabotaging our happiness. And what hit me hardest: was how we've been sold the idea that marriage or any successful long term relationship is all about compromise, but that compromise actually makes us start to silently keep score of who gave up what. So Monica introduces this beautiful concept of collaboration instead of compromise. It's about getting what she calls compassionately curious about what matters to you AND what matters to your partner, and WHY, and then using that to create something even better together. We also talked about how we can approach extended family dynamics as the holidays approach, you know that feeling of dread mixed with excitement? That pull back into old family dynamics and the stress so many of us feel at a time of year that's meant to be joyful? Monica helped me understand why that happens and, more importantly, how to navigate it without losing yourself or your relationship in the process. But what's really stayed with me was this idea that our inner children are often running the show in our relationships. All those adaptations and coping mechanisms we created as kids to survive? They're still playing out in our relationships as adults, our communication patterns, our fights over things like Costco receipts (yes, we went there!). But the beautiful part is that once we understand this, we can start to heal and make different choices and begin to shift the patterns that have kept us stuck. This conversation reminded me that nothing has gone wrong when relationships feels hard, it's just that it's time to grow. So if you've been feeling stuck, or like you’re more roommates than lovers, if you're navigating those tricky family dynamics or just wondering how to communicate without everything turning into a battle, this episode is for you. My intention for this episode is that is supports you to navigate the coming holidays and festive season with less stress, and relational triggers, and with more ease and grace. Enjoy.  === GUEST LINKS: OFFER: https://badmarriageadvice.com Website: https://monicatanner.com Instagram: https://instagram.com/monitalksmarriage . === •Website: https://www.vilates.com/ •FREE RESOURCE Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980 === . . . . Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2025 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.

    49 min

  6. 12/02/2025

    When "How Can I Help?" Makes You Want to Scream: Let's Talk Emotional Labor, ADHD, and the Fair Play Solution with Dr Regina Lark.

    Join me in this powerful conversation with Dr. Regina Lark about the invisible work that keeps all our homes and lives running, but that ultimately leaves us completely exhausted. In this episode, we dive deep into emotional labor, and the mental load, and why as women, we're constantly doing the behind-the-scenes work that no one sees or values. Dr Regina has a PhD in women's history and runs a professional organizing and move management company, and she brings a refreshing perspective on the work of household management, decluttering, and the cognitive skills required to keep everything together and running smoothly. We talk about the reality of being the "default parent," the one who's always doing the mental math (like figuring out if we need to to feed the kids by 5:30pm so we can get to the sitter by 6pm so we can make it to that 7pm concert). Sound familiar? Yeah, me too! Regina explains how the work we do at home requires the exact same executive function skills that professionals use in the workplace and that business leaders require to succeed, skills like; planning, processing, sequencing, time management. Yet somehow when we're doing it at home, it's dismissed as "just women's work" or a "labor of love" instead of being recognized as the actual labor and never-ending workload that it is. We also get into ADHD in women, chronic disorganization, and why so many of us are just now discovering we've been struggling with executive function challenges our whole lives. If you've ever felt overwhelmed by clutter, asked permission to throw something away, or wondered why your partner doesn't just see what needs to be done, then this conversation is for you. Regina introduces the concept of radical delegation and shares the game-changing Fair Play method (with actual playing cards!) that helps couples divide household responsibilities equitably. And makes the invisible work we all do, so much more visible. We talk about weaponized incompetence, the dreaded "how can I help?" question, and practical ways to create a household where everyone actually wants to live. This isn't just about organizing your home, it's about re-organizing your life, setting boundaries, asking for help, and recognizing that you deserve support with the enormous amount of work required to keep a house running, the very work that holds the entire fabric of our society together! So whether you're a working mom, managing a household solo, or trying to balance career and family, this conversation will make you feel seen and give you tools to create real change. Join me for this honest, compassionate discussion about women's work, gender equity, household equity, and what it really takes to lighten the load we've been carrying for far too long.   ===   GUEST LINKS: Website: https://aclearpath.net/ Website: https://www.reginalark.com/ Book: https://www.reginalark.com/emotional-labor/   https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Labor-Womans-Never-About/dp/B09HG6C5GF/ref=sr_1_12?dchild=1&keywords=regina+lark&qid=1633128045&s=books&sr=1-12   RESOURCES: The Fair Play Policy Institute: https://www.fairplaylife.com/ Fair Play Cards: https://www.fairplaylife.com/the-cards Institute for Challenging Disorganisation: https://www.challengingdisorganization.org/   . === •Website: https://www.vilates.com/ •FREE RESOURCE Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980   === . . . . Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2025 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.

    44 min

  7. 11/11/2025

    The Hidden Map to Female Power: Thresholds, Portals, and the Four Female Life Cycles

    This episode is a fiery, truth-telling conversation on the four true phases of a woman’s life: Child/Maiden, Mother/Creatrix, Maga/Healer, and Wise Woman/Crone. And how patriarchal culture’s obsession with youth keeps women disconnected from their real power. We unpack how to reclaim every stage of your life as sacred, to honour your desires as your soul’s GPS, and step fully into your creative, erotic, and spiritual potency at any age. Leaving behind what no longer serves you, and claiming the power that's always been yours.  It’s raw, real, and a radical reclamation of womanhood beyond the patriarchy’s script. So often we’re told there are only two stages in a woman’s life; young and old. But that couldn’t be further from the truth.  Each stage of our life cycle carries its own gifts, power, and sacred purpose. From the innocence and exploration of the Maiden years, to the creative fire and mastery of Motherhood and Creatrix, through the potent healing and truth-telling of the Midlife Maga and Healer, and into the deep wisdom and spiritual power of the Wise Woman and Crone; each phase is a portal into greater wholeness. Each cycle carries the stories of our ancestors and the lineage of women's wisdom that we feel in our bones, that we all know in our quieter moments.  This is a tender, fierce, and deeply affirming episode. It's my love letter to every woman who’s ever felt unseen, stuck, or disconnected from her changing body and evolving self. My hope is that you walk away remembering just how extraordinary, powerful, and necessary you are: in every season of your life!       === LINKS: === •Website: vilates.com •FREE Breast Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980     === . . . . Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2025 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.

    42 min

  8. 10/30/2025

    Perimenopause, Power & Pleasure: How Midlife Becomes the Ultimate Power-Shift with Melanie Zimmer.

    In today’s episode, I sit down with the radiant Melanie Zimmer, an Embodiment Coach who guides women through the transformational portal of perimenopause and menopause, helping them reclaim their sensuality, the power of their truth, and pleasure on their own terms. We dive into what it really means to move through this phase of life as a sacred initiation and invitation into becoming who you really are and have always been meant to be. Melanie shares her own raw and beautiful journey of perimenopause; the confusion, the wild emotional highs and lows, the breaking open and breaking through, and how it all became a path to greater self-love, embodiment, and liberation. Together, we explore: ✨ Why midlife isn’t a crisis, but a portal into your deepest truth and power ✨ How to rediscover pleasure, not performative pleasure, but the kind that nourishes your whole being ✨ Healing body shame and rewriting your relationship to sensuality ✨ The connection between safety, trust, and true intimacy ✨ And how this season of life lights a fire in you to finally come home to yourself. Melanie also shares her beautiful “Start Your Day with Sensual Aliveness” ritual, a free guided practice to help you reconnect with your body each morning and awaken your inner spark. You'll find the link to this free resource below.  This episode is an invitation to every woman who’s ever felt disconnected from her body, her pleasure, or her power to remember that your sensuality doesn’t end with menopause. It evolves, deepens, and becomes something even more profound. It’s tender, honest, and filled with embodied wisdom and I can’t wait for you to listen.     === GUEST LINKS:   FREE RESOURCE Sensual Aliveness: https://melaniezimmercoaching.com/sensual-aliveness  Website: https://www.melaniezimmercoaching.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melaniezimmercoaching  FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/melaniezimmercoaching  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@melaniezimmercoaching  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melanie-zimmer-74a0672b0/      . === •Website: vilates.com •FREE RESOURCE Breast Massage Meditation: www.vilates.com/free-breast-massage-meditation •Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vilates_/ •Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fs2KlkHNzICKAg2crZSMB •Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ecology-of-intimacy-podcast/id1772602980     === . . . . Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, medical practitioner, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this podcast. Copyright 2025 © Vilates, Pty. Ltd - All rights reserved.

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The ecology of intimacy podcast is a place for you to learn about how you can create a rich and nourishing ecology of intimacy in your life, using the incredible systems of Tantra, Taoism and Somatic-based healing methodologies, so that you can have the kind of relationships you dream of. We’ll explore motherhood, sexuality, pleasure, power, creativity, and what it means to come home to our bodies and express ourselves with grace and authenticity. As a certified somatic Sex, Love, and Relationship coach, with a background in Sexology, my work blends the latest science with the ancient wisdom traditions of Tantra and Taoism as they relate to spiritual and sexual liberation. I’m so excited to have the kinds of conversations that can make you feel deeply seen, understood, and empowered to reclaim and reconnect to your pleasure, your power, your voice, and your nervous system. Let’s dive in... If you want to stay connected to my work you can visit my website at www.vilates.com and sign up to my email list, where you’ll receive all the latest research, updates, and opportunities to work with me.

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