Carl and Heather Present

Carl and Heather Cartee
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Carl and Heather Present: Marriage, Faith and thriving with your total opposite. We are taking on the humor, challenges, highs and lows of staying married to someone who is nothing like you, while holding to the hope that marriage is worth it all.

  1. 6d ago

    Episode 102: What Technology Is Doing To Your Family

    Technology isn’t just changing how we communicate. It’s shaping our marriages, our parenting, our attention—and even the way our kids are being discipled. In this episode of *Carl and Heather Present*, we sit down with Jesse and Sarah Siegand of **Preserve the Church** to talk about what technology is doing to Christian families and how parents can respond with wisdom, courage, and intention. This isn’t just a conversation about screen-time limits. It’s about a much bigger question: **Who—or what—is discipling your family?** We talk about: • The hidden ways phones can create distance in marriage • What parents should consider before giving a child their first smartphone • Why our own technology habits matter more than we may realize • How algorithms, entertainment, and constant connectivity can shape our children’s values • What “digital discipleship” actually looks like in a Christian home • Practical boundaries Jesse and Sarah have used with their own family • How Scripture can guide the way we think about attention, wisdom, self-control, and technology • What families can start changing this week And ultimately, we ask: **If the goal isn’t simply less screen time, what are we trying to make more room for?** More connection. More conversation. More presence. More prayer. More Scripture. More attention to the people God has placed right in front of us. Technology isn’t going away—but we can become much more intentional about the kind of marriage, family, faith, and legacy we’re building in the middle of it. If you’re trying to raise kids who can think biblically, recognize the pressures of the culture around them, and carry their faith into adulthood, this conversation is for you. **Watch to the end, then ask your family this question:** *What is technology helping us become—and what might it be keeping us from?* Subscribe to *Carl and Heather Present* for honest conversations about marriage, family, faith, and how to build a life together on purpose. Important Links: Technology and Spiritual Health Course: https://learn.seu.edu/course/technology Next Gen Tech Reset Conversation: https://youtu.be/wifJKzI_7cI?si=VsMban4SCEj1i6uj PreserveTheChurch.org Parentswhofight.org Send us Fan Mail Looking to connect with Carl and Heather? Start here... www.carlandheather.com @carlcartee @heather.cartee

  2. Sep 22

    Episode 101: 5 Reg Flags To Watch For In Your Marriage

    In this episode, Carl and Heather talk about five red flags that may be telling you it’s time to pay attention to your marriage: negative words, disappearing sexual intimacy, unforgiveness, spiritual apathy, and isolation from community. But this isn’t an episode about declaring your marriage broken. It’s about noticing the warning lights before unhealthy patterns simply become “normal.” What does it feel like to be on the receiving end of your words? What happens when physical intimacy disappears? Can unforgiveness keep the past in control of your present? Can two Christians have a marriage that isn’t actually Christ-centered? And does anybody outside your marriage really know how the two of you are doing? Carl and Heather look at each of these questions through the lens of Scripture and talk about the healthier things God invites couples to pursue instead: blessing, intimacy, grace, devotion, and community. If you want a marriage that doesn’t simply survive but continues moving toward God and toward each other, this conversation is for you. If this episode encouraged you, don’t just move on—join us. Subscribe and turn on notifications 🔔 so you don’t miss conversations that are helping couples fight for what matters most—their marriage, their family, and their walk with God. If this episode spoke to you, drop a comment 💬 and tap like 👍—it helps more couples find this message. Need prayer? We’d truly be honored to stand with you. 📧 hi@carlandheather.com And if you’re looking to invest in the health of marriages at your church or event, we’d love to serve you. ⛪💍 Submit a request at carlandheather.com/booking Send us Fan Mail Looking to connect with Carl and Heather? Start here... www.carlandheather.com @carlcartee @heather.cartee

  3. Sep 15

    Episode 100 feat. Dr. Gary Chapman

    Dr. Gary Chapman, author of the best-selling book "The Five Love Languages," sits down with us to share what he has learned from a lifetime of working with couples and helping people express and experience love. If you're stuck and you need something to help you better touch the heart of your spouse, this is the episode for you. If this episode encouraged you, don’t just move on—join us. Subscribe and turn on notifications 🔔 so you don’t miss conversations that are helping couples fight for what matters most—their marriage, their family, and their walk with God. If this episode spoke to you, drop a comment 💬 and tap like 👍—it helps more couples find this message. Need prayer? We’d truly be honored to stand with you. 📧 hi@carlandheather.com And if you’re looking to invest in the health of marriages at your church or event, we’d love to serve you. ⛪💍 Submit a request at carlandheather.com/booking Send us Fan Mail Looking to connect with Carl and Heather? Start here... www.carlandheather.com @carlcartee @heather.cartee

  4. Sep 8

    Episode 99: Doubting Your Faith?

    Can you have genuine faith and still experience genuine doubt? When Christian leaders fail, prayers seem unanswered, life doesn’t make sense, or something you’ve always believed suddenly feels uncertain, questions can begin creeping in: Is God really who I thought He was? Can I actually trust Him? What if I’m wrong about all of this? In this episode, Carl and Heather have an honest conversation about doubting your faith—and why doubt itself isn’t necessarily the problem. Thomas doubted after showing extraordinary courage and devotion to Jesus. John the Baptist found himself sitting in prison asking whether Jesus really was the Messiah. And in both cases, their questions were brought toward Jesus, not away from Him. So when is doubt healthy, and when does it become dangerous? We’ll explore how to recognize where your doubts are coming from, the difference between wrestling with God and becoming double-minded, and five practical things you can do when your faith feels uncertain. You don’t have to be afraid of your questions. Don’t waste your doubt. Let it drive you toward prayer, Scripture, truth, and ultimately back to Jesus. Please let us pray for you and with you. Send Prayer requests: hi@carlandheather.com Send us Fan Mail Looking to connect with Carl and Heather? Start here... www.carlandheather.com @carlcartee @heather.cartee

  5. Sep 1

    Episode 98: Love or Respect?

    Love or Respect? Does a woman need love more than respect? Does a man need respect more than love? And what does that actually look like in a real marriage? After our recent conversation with Shaunti Feldhahn, we wanted to circle back to one idea that really resonated with people: many women have a deep need to feel loved and cherished, while many men have a deep need to feel respected, capable, and believed in. This week, it’s just the two of us talking about how that has played out in our own marriage. We unpack the seemingly small things that can make a husband feel disrespected or a wife feel unloved—even when that was never the intention. We talk about criticism, correcting one another, disagreement, emotional distance, and what happens when both spouses start waiting for the other person to go first. Can you respect your husband when you disagree with him? Can you love your wife when she’s distant or frustrated? What if you don’t feel like your spouse deserves what they’re asking for? And how does following Jesus change the way we answer those questions? Ultimately, this isn't just about learning what men want or what women want. It’s about becoming a student of the person you married and learning to communicate love in a way they can actually receive. Because sometimes the thing you’re trying to communicate isn’t the thing your spouse is hearing. Send us Fan Mail Looking to connect with Carl and Heather? Start here... www.carlandheather.com @carlcartee @heather.cartee

  6. Aug 25

    Episode 97: For Women Only

    For Women Only with Dr. Shaunti FeldhahnDo you ever wish you could get inside your husband’s head and understand what he’s really thinking? This week, we’re joined by bestselling author and social researcher Dr. Shaunti Feldhahn for a fascinating conversation about her book, For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men. Shaunti’s research has helped millions of women better understand the men they love—including one finding that can be especially surprising: many men would rather feel respected than loved. But what does that actually mean in a marriage? We talk with Shaunti about the inner life of men—the pressures and insecurities husbands may not know how to put into words, why respect carries so much weight, and some of the things your husband may desperately want you to understand about him. Because sometimes loving your spouse well begins with understanding them better. If you’ve ever thought, “I love this man, but sometimes I just do not understand him,” this episode is for you. Our hope is that this conversation helps you see your husband with fresh eyes and gives you practical ways to build greater connection, affection, and trust in your marriage. If this episode encouraged you, don’t just move on—join us. Follow the podcast so you don’t miss conversations that are helping couples fight for what matters most—their marriage, their family, and their walk with God. And if this episode helped you, consider sharing it with a friend or another couple who might need it too. Need prayer? We’d truly be honored to stand with you. 📧 hi@carlandheather.com And if you’re looking to invest in the health of marriages at your church or event, we’d love to serve you. ⛪💍 Submit a request at carlandheather.com/booking Send us Fan Mail Looking to connect with Carl and Heather? Start here... www.carlandheather.com @carlcartee @heather.cartee

  7. Aug 18

    Episode 96: The Marriage You Thought You'd Have

    What happens when the marriage you have isn’t the marriage you thought you were getting? Most of us entered marriage carrying expectations—about communication, sex, money, parenting, faith, family, and even who we thought our spouse would become. But eventually, there’s a moment when we realize: this isn’t exactly what I ordered. So what do you do with the disappointment? In this episode, Carl and Heather talk about the difference between things in marriage that genuinely need to change and things we may need to learn to accept—and even love. Through Scripture, humor, and a burger with way too many onions, they explore biblical contentment, gratitude, patience, unmet expectations, and the possibility that God may be doing something good in a marriage that looks different from the one you imagined. Maybe the goal isn’t to finally get the marriage you thought you’d have. Maybe it’s to discover what God wants to do with the marriage you actually have. Plus, Carl and Heather share more about their new book, Together on Purpose, coming November 1. Have a prayer request? Email hi@carlandheather.com Carl and Heather set aside time every Monday to pray for listeners. Send your request or learn about having them speak or lead worship at your church or event at CarlAndHeather.com. Send us Fan Mail Looking to connect with Carl and Heather? Start here... www.carlandheather.com @carlcartee @heather.cartee

  8. Aug 11

    Replay Episode: Get Off The Crazy Train

    Replay Episode: Creating Margin (Our Very First Episode) As we approach our 100th episode, we're revisiting the conversation that started it all. Many of you have discovered the podcast over the past couple of years, so we wanted to re-release Episode 1 because its message feels more timely now than ever. Life has a way of filling every open space. Between work, kids, sports, church, and endless opportunities, it's easy to find ourselves running at a pace that leaves little room for what matters most. In this conversation, we talk honestly about our own struggle with overcommitment, the cost of hurry, and why creating intentional margin is essential for a healthy marriage and a healthy soul. You'll hear practical ideas for slowing down, protecting your priorities, and making space to connect with God and each other. Because we've learned this is still true: Margin is the space where connection grows. Whether this is your first time hearing Episode 1 or you're listening again, we hope it encourages you to step off the crazy train and make room for the relationships that matter most. Together is better. Send us Fan Mail Looking to connect with Carl and Heather? Start here... www.carlandheather.com @carlcartee @heather.cartee

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Carl and Heather Present: Marriage, Faith and thriving with your total opposite. We are taking on the humor, challenges, highs and lows of staying married to someone who is nothing like you, while holding to the hope that marriage is worth it all.

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  • Creator
    Carl and Heather Cartee
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    106
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Carl and Heather Present
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