Lucky In Love with Kari Hoskins

Kari Hoskins
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Welcome to Lucky in Love with Kari Hoskins, M.A., Certified Relationship Coach. This is the show where we tell the messy truth about relationships. Because most relationships don’t end in one dramatic moment. They fade out slowly… from the conversations that never happen, the hurts that don’t get repaired, and the distance that becomes normal. Lucky in Love is where we stop tiptoeing and start talking. We'll name the patterns that are keeping you stuck and get practical tools and guidance you can use immediately to plus guest experts and real conversations.   infidelity, rebuilding trust, mismatched desire, sex and intimacy issues, resentment, emotional shutdown, conflict loops, communication and heartbreak. If you’re ready to feel lucky in love, you’re in the right place.    

  1. 6D AGO

    Ep. 42 3 Sneaky Signs Your Relationship Is Taking A Toll On You

    Is your relationship affecting you more than you realize? In this episode of Lucky in Love, I break down 3 sneaky signs your relationship is taking a toll on you—mentally, emotionally, and even physically. If you feel tense when your spouse walks into the room, notice that your patience for everyone else is getting shorter, or find yourself daydreaming more about being alone than reconnecting, this episode is for you.  These subtle signs of relationship stress, marriage burnout, and emotional disconnection often get brushed off, but they can be powerful clues that your unhappy relationship is impacting your health and well-being. I share why chronic stress in a marriage can show up in your body, how emotional strain affects your daily life, and why getting support—whether from a trusted friend, therapist, or relationship coach—can help you feel clearer, calmer, and grounded. If you’re questioning your relationship, feeling stuck in an unhappy marriage, or wondering whether your relationship is hurting your health, this conversation will give you insight and next steps. In this episode, we cover: signs your relationship is taking a toll on youunhappy marriage symptomschronic stress and relationship healthsigns your marriage is affecting your healthdifferent types of help for relationship problems For coaching support, visit kahoskins.com Follow Kari on social: @KariHoskinsCoachingYou can click on the links below Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about Website: https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com

    13 min

  2. MAR 3

    Want To Stop Feeling Resentful In Your Marriage? (Use the 3% Rule)

    In this episode, I'm breaking down a deceptively simple tool that can change the emotional temperature of your marriage fast: the 3% Rule.  If your partner is “97% responsible” for what’s wrong, where is your 3%—the part you can own, influence, and change? This isn’t about taking the blame or excusing bad behavior. It’s about taking responsibility in a relationship in a way that reduces resentment, lowers defensiveness, and gives you real agency instead of staying stuck in the blame game. I share how I learned this concept (inspired by Katherine Woodward Thomas and the work of Unconscious Uncoupling) after my first marriage ended—and how it helped me let go of lingering anger, regret, and bitterness so she could show up better as a co-parent and in other relationships. What you’ll learn: What the 3% Rule is (and why it’s not self-blame—it’s leverage)How the 3% Rule creates emotional peace by reducing resentment, blame, defensiveness, and regretThe biggest clue you’re stuck in the blame game (“they, they, they…” thinking) and what to do insteadHow to identify your recurring negative thoughts, triggers, and patterns to find your 3%What your 3% can look like in common dynamics:Feeling controlled → speaking up, setting and holding boundariesDealing with lies/omissions → creating emotional safety so honesty is possibleFeeling consistently let down → turning unspoken expectations into clear agreementsWhy vague requests (“I need more help”) don’t work—and how to make specific, actionable asksHow to stop ignoring the data when your partner has a track record (late, avoidant, forgetful) and respond with boundaries and/or supportThe “missing step” that keeps couples stuck: not closing the loop with a clear “next time” planA real-life example of how the 3% Rule can shift intimacy issues, desire, and disconnection in a marriageInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about Website: https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com

    19 min

  3. FEB 17

    Episode 40 Dead Bedroom Fix: 3 Everyday Habits That Quietly Kill Desire

    In this episode, Lucky in Love, I’m breaking down how sex quietly turns into a chore in long-term relationships—and how to start fixing it fast.  If you’re in a dead bedroom, a sexless marriage (or nearly sexless relationship), or struggling with mismatched sex drives (a desire discrepancy), this episode will help you understand why your sexual desire may be fading—and what to do to fix a dead bedroom by changing a few everyday habits that kill desire. When sex turns into a checkbox, your brain starts treating it like work—something you power through, avoid, or resent—making it harder to want sex and harder to get turned on. I help you understand why these everyday habits: Sex only at bedtime, initiating sex out of nowhere, quickies only are quietly killing your desire and I offer practical fixes that will help you rekindle desire.  If you want to rebuild intimacy, rekindle attraction, and make sex feel connected again, these small habit shifts can restart the desire loop. Kari Hoskins is a Communication & Conflict Specialist who helps couples stuck in the pain of uncertainty over the future of their relationship. She holds a Master’s degree in Communication & Interpersonal Relationships, spent 20+ years as a college professor, and is a certified relationship coach with specialized training in emotional intimacy, trauma, infidelity, and addiction. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about Website: https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com

    14 min

  4. FEB 10

    Episode 39: Three Passive Aggressive Behaviors That Push Your Partner Away

    In this episode of Lucky in Love, we’re talking about the sneaky relationship habit that quietly pulls couples apart: passive-aggressive behavior.  Not the “big blow-up” fights—more like the slow drip of little moments that leave your partner feeling tense, guarded, and emotionally unsafe over time. And the worst part? A lot of us don’t even realize we’re doing it… or how much it changes the way our partner feels about us. I break down why passive aggression is so damaging: it keeps you from dealing with the real issue directly, and it creates a constant low-grade “hum” of stress in the relationship. Every sarcastic jab, cold shoulder, or “fine, I’ll do it” moment might seem small—but those little pull-backs add up. Eventually, your partner starts bracing for you instead of relaxing with you. That shift is subtle, but it’s a big deal. Then I walk you through three common passive-aggressive behaviors that show up in long-term relationships—especially for couples who are “functioning” on the outside but feel disconnected behind the scenes. We’ll talk about what these behaviors look like in real life, why people use them (hint: it’s often self-protection or punishment), and how to interrupt the pattern before it becomes your relationship’s default setting. Most importantly, you’ll learn what to do instead— how to handle everyday annoyances in a way that builds trust instead of slowly burning it down. If you’ve ever thought, “We’re not terrible… but we’re not close,” this episode will hit home. Listen in, and then pick one small change you can practice this week—because the little things don’t just add up in the negative direction. They can add up toward reconnection, too. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about Website: https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com

    18 min

  5. FEB 3

    Episode 38: The One Thing All Divorces Have In Common

    In this episode of Lucky in Love, I’m talking about the one thing almost every divorce has in common—and it’s not what most people assume. Most marriages don’t end because of one dramatic moment. They end because of tiny turning points—small decisions that quietly change the direction of the relationship… and then get repeated until distance feels normal. I share a personal story from my first marriage—the day things shifted (years before divorce was even on the radar). And then I’ll walk you through the questions I use to help people get real clarity about what’s happening in their relationship right now. If any of this feels familiar, this episode will land: You’re not in constant conflict… but you don’t feel close.You feel that quiet loneliness even though you’re “together.”The little connection habits faded, and nobody really named it.You can’t point to one big event—just a drift you can’t un-feel anymore.This isn’t about blame. It’s about direction—and catching the turning point sooner. Free download mentioned in the outro (VFO):  “Stop the Spiral: 3 Mistakes Couples Make When They’re Mad (and what to do instead)” — a practical guide to help you stop the downward spiral and have a better conversation even when you’re angry. Website / freebie link: kahoskins.com Subscribe for new episodes and practical relationship tools. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about Website: https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com

    12 min

  6. JAN 27

    Episode 37: How To Stop Having Rehashing Conversations With Your Anxious Partner

    Is your partner a chronic worrier or do they struggle with anxiety?  In this episode of 'Lucky in Love', we discusses the often overlooked impact of anxiety on relationships. I emphasize that anxiety affects not only the individual but also their partner, leading to exhaustion and frustration. Through real-life examples, I explains the withdrawal-pursuit cycle that can develop in anxious relationships and offers practical strategies such as implementing a 'worry window' to manage anxiety.  I also highlight the importance of effective communication and setting boundaries to maintain a healthy relationship dynamic.     Takeaways   Anxiety affects both partners in a relationship. Chronic worrying can lead to exhaustion for both individuals. The withdrawal-pursuit cycle creates disconnection in relationships. Implementing a worry window can help manage anxiety. Effective communication is key to resolving anxiety-related issues. Setting boundaries is essential to prevent burnout. Reassurance is crucial for the anxious partner. Partners should not be each other's therapists. Naming the worry helps in addressing it effectively. Seeking external support can strengthen the relationship. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about Website: https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com

    21 min

  7. JAN 20

    Episode 36: Why You Pick Fights You Don't Really Want

    Have you ever led with sarcasm instead of just saying what you wanted or needed?  Started a fight you didn’t really want by asking a question you already knew the answer to— just to prove a point? Or began the conversation with a “joke” that wasn’t really a joke - or if your significant other does— this episode of Lucky In Love is for you.  I’m breaking down why we pick fights we don’t actually want—and what those “random” arguments are really doing for us.  And, I’m teaching you how to stop.  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about Website: https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com

    18 min

  8. JAN 12

    Episode 35: The Secret To Mindblowing Sex in Long Term Relationships

    Do you have a mind-blowing sex life? Do you want one? In this episode, we are talking about common problems couples struggle with when it comes to sex.  We’ll talk about pressure, resentment, desire gaps, and the quiet patterns that shut sex down… and then we’ll get into some practical, real-life suggestions that help sex and intimacy feel connected, playful, and yes—spicier. This episode starts mild and heats up as we go, so consider this your friendly warning. If you want better sex that feels natural instead of forced—and you’re open to a few spicy ideas along the way—press play!  Free PDF Download Stop The Spiral: https://kari-hoskins-coaching-llc.kit.com/stopthespiral The Art of Dirty Talk: https://www.elevatedintimacy.com/store Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about Website: https://www.karihoskinscoaching.com

    36 min
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Welcome to Lucky in Love with Kari Hoskins, M.A., Certified Relationship Coach. This is the show where we tell the messy truth about relationships. Because most relationships don’t end in one dramatic moment. They fade out slowly… from the conversations that never happen, the hurts that don’t get repaired, and the distance that becomes normal. Lucky in Love is where we stop tiptoeing and start talking. We'll name the patterns that are keeping you stuck and get practical tools and guidance you can use immediately to plus guest experts and real conversations.   infidelity, rebuilding trust, mismatched desire, sex and intimacy issues, resentment, emotional shutdown, conflict loops, communication and heartbreak. If you’re ready to feel lucky in love, you’re in the right place.    

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  • Creator
    Kari Hoskins
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    43
  • Rating
    Explicit
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