Sex and The One

Kris Vallay and Bianca El

Sex and the One sees Kris (aka KV) and Bianca (aka B) get personal with all topics related to sex, dating and relationships. KV wrote a book about being a single mother of 4 adult children, having sex and looking for 'The One'. B is very happily married with 3 young daughters. Our unique and diverse views make for some spicy chats that will get you thinking about your own life. www.sexandtheone.com https://www.instagram.com/sexandtheone_podcast?igsh=cThrNDZ2c3Nrbm1i&utm_source=qr

  1. FEB 9

    Have Women Outgrown Men? The Dating Gap No One Wants to Talk About | Sex and the One Podcast

    In this episode of Sex and the One, KV & B unpack a viral TikTok statement that hit a nerve: “Exceptional women are single because women have evolved faster than men.” From the dating app experience (and why it’s feeling worse than ever) to modern relationship expectations, we talk about the widening gap in emotional intelligence, effort, safety, and what “being the provider” even means now. We also get real about the double standard: why so many women give endless empathy to women… but feel a guttural “do better” reaction towards men. And then we flip it—because good men absolutely exist, and resentment can quietly become a filter that blocks them. This one’s honest, funny, a bit spicy, and deeply relatable if you’re single, dating, married, partnered, or simply watching the culture shift in real time. In this episode, we cover: - The “women evolved faster than men” debate - Why dating apps feel cooked (and expensive) - Men’s fear of rejection vs women’s safety planning - Why women’s standards rise when they build a peaceful life - The “competing with her peace” problem - Are expectations too high (for everyone)? - How to spot the good ones (without ignoring red flags) 👇 Question for you: Do you think the gap is real… or are we all just traumatised by the apps? Listen/Watch next: New episode every week. Subscribe for more conversations on love, sex, dating and relationships. #SexAndTheOne #Dating #Relationships #ModernDating #DatingApps #SingleWomen

    21 min
  2. JAN 26

    Low-Effort Men, Married Men & The “Single Girl” Blame Game | Sex and the One Podcast

    Welcome back to Sex & the One, the podcast where we get down and dirty about love, life, sex, dating & relationships (and the taboo topics everyone thinks about, but no one wants to say out loud). In this episode, we unpack a story that honestly made us rage: a single woman at a New Year’s event, a married man crossing the line, and the gross reality that women still end up blaming themselves for men’s behaviour. Then we go deeper into the question so many of us avoid like: - Why do we feel pulled toward emotionally unavailable people, even when we “know better”? - The idea that attraction isn’t logic… It’s a nervous system response, and why “familiar” can feel safer than healthy (even when it’s chaos). Plus: the public cheating scandal conversation, when does a personal mistake become a professional consequence? Should it impact someone’s role, reputation, or leadership? In this episode: - The “single girl” blame game (and why it’s BS) - Married men flirting & why it’s so normalised - Emotional unavailability & low-effort relationships - “The Pattern No One Wants To Name” (and why it keeps repeating) - Attraction, sensation, safety & the nervous system Cheating, integrity & whether it should affect careers 🎧 Listen / watch Sex & the One on YouTube & Spotify 💬 Question for you: Is attraction a choice… or a trauma pattern? And should cheating impact someone’s job? #SexAndTheOne #DatingPodcast #Relationships #ModernDating #Cheating #EmotionalAvailability #AttachmentStyles #WomensStories #LoveAndRelationships #SexPodcast

    31 min
  3. Being a Sugar Baby 101 with Kate Kennedy. Allowances, Boundaries & The Truth About “Sugaring”

    JAN 12

    Being a Sugar Baby 101 with Kate Kennedy. Allowances, Boundaries & The Truth About “Sugaring”

    Kate Kennedy from the Make Them Pay podcast joins Sex and the One for Part 1, and we get real about what “sugaring” actually is (spoiler: it’s not the fairytale people think it is). Kate’s been a sugar baby for 12 years, and she breaks down the blurry line between “paid girlfriend,” escorting, and trophy-wife dynamics, plus the mindset, boundaries, and emotional labour that most people never talk about. We also chat about wealthy men, loneliness, power, travel, and why being “good with money” matters when your income can swing wildly week to week. If you’ve ever wondered: “What is a sugar baby?” “Is sex involved?” “How do allowances work?” “Do sugar daddies catch feelings?” — this one’s for you. In this episode, we cover: - What sugaring is (and what it isn’t) - Why Kate chose it, and why she’s stayed in it - The travel “life hack” side (private jets… then back to backpacking 👀) - Boundaries, confidence, and handling men who push limits - Money talk: allowances, expectations, and setting the bar - When “dating problems” show up in sugaring too - The stigma & discrimination sex workers face (banks, platforms, real estate) - Why we’re having these convos: empowerment, honesty, and awareness If you enjoyed this ep, subscribe and drop a comment: Could you separate money from emotion in dating? #sexandtheone #makethempay #podcast #love #dating #relationship

    24 min

About

Sex and the One sees Kris (aka KV) and Bianca (aka B) get personal with all topics related to sex, dating and relationships. KV wrote a book about being a single mother of 4 adult children, having sex and looking for 'The One'. B is very happily married with 3 young daughters. Our unique and diverse views make for some spicy chats that will get you thinking about your own life. www.sexandtheone.com https://www.instagram.com/sexandtheone_podcast?igsh=cThrNDZ2c3Nrbm1i&utm_source=qr

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