10/29/2025

What If Not Knowing Is the Door to the Life You Want?

It’s late, and the countryside is properly dark—the kind that swallows the path until a headlamp reveals a single step. Adrien walks the dog and meets two green eyes in the forest. Ingrid listens for the soft rustle of deer sleeping below the bedroom window. Together we wonder what darkness is asking of us this season: to see less, to feel more, and to trust the compass we carry in our bodies. We talk about uncertainty as a practice—how one clear step is enough when the next five haven’t formed—and the difference between meaningful effort and the old belief that we must “earn” every good thing by suffering first. Ingrid names the grief she’s been courting (and resisting), the impulse to over-engineer healing, and the relief of letting feeling come on its own time. Adrien remembers a life organized by plans and metrics, and the widening that arrived when planning gave way to presence. We explore Joanna Macy’s four worldviews—battlefield, trap, lover, self—and notice where we slip into certainty or check out entirely. What would it be like to act from “world as lover, world as self,” to belong so deeply we can’t exile each other—or ourselves? We end with a simple hand-and-breath practice to return to the body, and an invitation: write a letter to yourself from Earth. What does she ask of you in this season of long nights and quiet work beneath the soil? If you’re living with questions, may this be company for the dark—and a lantern for the next true step. An Invitation: If you’re in a season of not knowing — between what was and what’s next — you’re not alone. Inside the Unhurried Life Community, we slow down together, listen for what feels true, and remember that life doesn’t need to be rushed to unfold. Come as you are, with your questions and your longing for steadier ground.Join us in the Unhurried Life Community — a place to rest into trust and belong in the in-between.Join for 5 USD/month ❤️ Unhurried Life is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Unhurried Life is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Unhurried Life is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. ✉️ If you’d like to continue the conversation write to us at unhurried.body@gmail.com We’re excited to grow alongside you. Until next time, stay present and live unhurried. ❤️ Much love,Ingrid & Adrien Credit: Excerpt from “Traditional harvest of Burzyan honey | The Master of Bees (Russia)” by wocomoWILDLIFE, used with thanks. Watch the full documentary here: youtube.com/watch?v=JeL6LQcHh_A Unhurried Life is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to Unhurried Life at unhurriedlife.substack.com/subscribe

56 min

10/12/2025

Learning to Grieve: What Letting Go Teaches Us About Change (+ an invitation)

Adrien records solo from home and opens a tender conversation about grief. Not only the grief of death of a loved one, but the everyday griefs that accompany change: leaving a career, moving places, witnessing parents age, watching a child grow. He revisits the five stages—denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance—through his own stories of walking away from a “prestigious” career path and saying good-bye to his grandmother, and explores how grief can coexist with joy, relief, and excitement at the very same time. You’ll hear: * How naming emotions helps them move through the body * What each stage of grief can sound like in real life * How denial, anger, and bargaining often mask fear of uncertainty * Why acceptance doesn’t mean being “over it,” but learning to live with what’s true and how grief can return in gentler waves * How grief can open us to deeper alignment, integrity, and compassion * An invitation to ask: Which stage am I in right now—and what would honesty look like? This is an unedited, intimate episode about telling the truth, letting go, and trusting the life that’s waiting on the other side of change and grief. An Invitation: We’re sensing how much grief — both collective and personal — is moving through the world right now. Many of us are carrying quiet sadness, change, despair or tenderness without space to simply be with what’s alive in us. That’s why our next Unhurried Life community call will be a Rest Session dedicated to grief — just 20 min to pause, soften, and practice the art of being with what’s moving through us. Together, we’ll rest, breathe, and listen — not to fix or analyse, but to make room for whatever is asking to be felt. Because when we allow ourselves to be with life as it is, something in us begins to settle and heal. Join us this Tuesday, October 14, at 1 PM CET.You can sign up through our Substack community.All are welcome — come as you are, rest with us, and remember that we’re not meant to do this alone. Click here to join the community for only 5USD per month. We cannot wait to meet you inside the Unhurried Life Community ❤️ ✉️ If you’d like to continue the conversation write to us at unhurried.body@gmail.com We’re excited to grow alongside you. Until next time, stay present and live unhurried. ❤️ Get full access to Unhurried Life at unhurriedlife.substack.com/subscribe

39 min

09/27/2025

How Much Is Enough? Choosing Less to Live More

How much is “enough”… and what might you gain by choosing less? We recorded this episode outdoors in the beautiful crisp September sun, seated on a bench with a lake in front of us and an oak forest behind us. Ingrid turns the microphone toward Adrien, inviting him into a conversation on minimalism, money, integrity, and the courage it takes to choose a life beyond societal expectations. Adrien shares what minimalism truly means to him—beyond decluttering—as a spiritual practice of enoughness, and how choosing less has opened space for more freedom, presence, and joy. Together, we reflect on the tension between hustle and alignment, integrity and discomfort, societal pressure and inner truth. We also explore: * How “enough” shifts when we step off the path of constant growth * Why choosing less can sometimes create more abundance * The quiet ways integrity speaks through the body * What local economies and small-scale farmers can teach us about resilience * The courage to live aligned with values even when it challenges norms It’s a layered, personal conversation about money, meaning, and the choices that bring us closer to freedom. We can’t wait for you to lean into these questions with us—and perhaps discover what “enough” means for you. Click here to join the community for only 5USD per month. We cannot wait to meet you inside the Unhurried Life Community ❤️ 🌐 If you’d like to continue the conversation, you can head to Ingrid’s website https://www.IngridLillo.com 📞 You can also book a (free) call with Ingrid HERE ✉️ Or write to us at unhurried.body@gmail.com We’re excited to grow alongside you. Until next time, stay present and live unhurried. ❤️ Get full access to Unhurried Life at unhurriedlife.substack.com/subscribe

1h 5m

09/17/2025

A Taste of Rest: Coming Home to Your Unhurried Body in Community

A mid-week check in: a short guided practice to soften, root into presence, and explore the textures of an unhurried body — together in community. This week, Adrien and I hosted our very first community Rest Session, and I recorded it for you. At the start of the session, I shared how my aim is to bring ritual to rest. I recently heard Stephen Jenkinson say that rituals are not about affirming what already exists, but about calling into being something that is not here yet, something that requires us to gather and tend to it together. Unhurried bodies are not common in our dominant cultures today. Which is why rest needs ritual. It needs practice. It needs rhythm. And doing so in the presence of others magnifies it. When we slow down together, our nervous systems resonate, a quiet, invisible exchange called limbic resonance. It is how we remind one another that stillness is here, that we are not alone in choosing differently, and that living unhurried is possible. In this short recording, I guide you through an orientation practice, a simple way to bring awareness to the stillness already present in your environment. It is a powerful way to explore what your unhurried body feels like, in contrast to your hurried self. A gentle invitation to pause, soften, and arrive more fully in yourself. Why share this here?Because I believe we need spaces like this, places where our bodies can rest together, where we can explore who we are unfolding to become, and where we can remember that we do not have to walk this path alone. This recording is a taster of the Unhurried Life Community, our new gathering place for those who are longing for: * A safe, steady place to land in your body and your truth * Companionship with others who are reimagining life outside the rush of dominant currents * Conversations and practices that weave together body, land, and community * A tribe where belonging feels natural, where you don’t need to perform If this practice stirs something in you, you are warmly invited to join us here:Join the Unhurried Life Community * Membership is just $5/month, giving you access to our ongoing live gatherings:Monthly Rest Sessions, practices to slow down, regulate, and return home to yourself * Thematic Conversations & Workshops, exploring together what it means to live unhurried: from parenting to money, from food to community And if you cannot join live, you will always have access to the recordings. Our next live gathering takes place on Monday, September 29 at 13:00 CET, and we would love to meet you there. Join the Unhurried Life Community now for only 5 USD per month With love,Ingrid and Adrien Get full access to Unhurried Life at unhurriedlife.substack.com/subscribe

25 min

09/15/2025

Where Am I Lying to Myself? Creating in the Dance Between Masculine and Feminine

We recorded this episode on a park bench in the September sun, with the city buzzing around us and our daughter asleep beside us. Watching the Friday rush, we found ourselves asking a question that has been shaping both of our lives lately: Where am I lying to myself? It’s not an easy question to ask. The answers often bring grief or discomfort — but also a doorway back into truth. From there, we explored the dance between masculine and feminine in how we create: the push of deadlines and grit, the pull of intuition and flow, and how misalignment shows up in our work, parenting, and everyday choices. In this conversation, we share about: •⁠ ⁠what it feels like to live between the pull of urgency and the longing for presence — and how quickly rush can sneak back in •⁠ ⁠the late-night conversation that helped us see where we were out of alignment in our work and life together •⁠ ⁠the challenge of creating while honoring motherhood as a season with its own rhythm and limits •⁠ ⁠how societal expectations can drown out our intuition — and the courage it takes to listen anyway •⁠ ⁠finding balance between structure and flow, and what happens when one overwhelms the other Finally, we sit with a passage from the Tao Te Ching and wonder: what would it mean to create from this truth — that the good traveler has no fixed plans, the good artist lets intuition lead, and the good scientist frees himself of concepts and remains open to what is? Click here to join the community for only 5USD per month. We cannot wait to meet you inside the Unhurried Life Community ❤️ 🌐 If you’d like to continue the conversation, you can head to Ingrid’s website https://www.IngridLillo.com 📞 You can also book a (free) call with Ingrid HERE ✉️ Or write to us at unhurried.body@gmail.com We’re excited to grow alongside you. Until next time, stay present and live unhurried. ❤️ Get full access to Unhurried Life at unhurriedlife.substack.com/subscribe

56 min

08/30/2025

The Less I Try to Fit In, the More I Belong

Ingrid reflects on hurry, healing with nature, and why true belonging begins where fitting in endsAdrien turns the microphone toward Ingrid with a series of spontaneous questions that open into a layered reflection on belonging, nature, and the tension between the world as it is and the world we long for. Ingrid speaks to the places where hurry still sneaks in — in family patterns, in mornings without solitude, in the pull of productivity — and how nature has become her greatest teacher in remembering another rhythm. Not through grand revelations, but in subtle whispers of the forest that remind her she too is nature, unfolding one step at a time. The conversation deepens into the question of belonging. For much of her life, Ingrid felt out of place, as though she had been born in the wrong time. Yet she’s discovered that the less she tries to fit in, the more she belongs — because true belonging arises not from sameness, but from embracing our uniqueness and meeting others who allow that uniqueness to be seen. Finally, Ingrid shares her vision of a future ten years from now: one where the gap between the pace of modern society and the slower, more life-giving rhythm she longs for is no longer so vast. A world where our choices honor the Earth, future generations, and the truth that we all belong simply because we are here. ✨ As you listen, we invite you to pause and ask: what does belonging mean to you, and where in your life do you feel it most deeply? Click here to join the community for only 5USD per month. We cannot wait to meet you inside the Unhurried Life Community ❤️ 🌐 If you’d like to continue the conversation, you can head to Ingrid’s website https://www.IngridLillo.com 📞 You can also book a (free) call with Ingrid HERE ✉️ Or write to us at unhurried.body@gmail.com We’re excited to grow alongside you. Until next time, stay present and live unhurried. ❤️ Get full access to Unhurried Life at unhurriedlife.substack.com/subscribe

57 min

08/18/2025

Are We Losing Our Humanity in the Chase for Efficiency?

After a week of too many calls, too much screen time, and the creeping urgency we thought we’d left behind, we sat down to ask: what does it really mean to live — and work — in alignment with our values? This episode weaves between personal moments of recalibration and two books that have deeply shaped us: 🌿 Rewilding Motherhood by Shannon K. Evans — an invitation to peel away cultural expectations of motherhood and return to intuition, presence, and the wisdom of the body. 🌍 Sacred Economics by Charles Eisenstein — a radical reimagining of money, value, and gift culture that opens a door to living from trust and reciprocity rather than scarcity. Different entry points, yet somehow they meet in the same place: another way is possible. We reflect on how hurried patterns sneak back in, even when we’ve chosen slower ones, and how unsettling (yet transformative) it can feel to stay with the unknown rather than numbing or rushing past it. And we ask: in a culture that celebrates productivity and now promises efficiency through AI, what if the real opportunity is to choose differently? What if ease is the most radical, courageous path available to us now? Finally, we share something we’ve been quietly creating behind the scenes: The Unhurried Community. A gathering space for those of you who long for rest, resonance, and real connection as you walk your own path of slowing down. Every month we’ll come together online for two gentle calls — spaces to breathe, reflect, and be inspired by others choosing a different rhythm of life. It’s not about more content or pressure, but about the relief of not doing it alone. If you’ve been listening and thinking “I wish I had people like this around me,” this is your invitation. We would love to welcome you in. Join the community for only 5USD per month: Join here We cannot wait to meet you inside the Unhurried Life Community ❤️ 🌐 If you’d like to continue the conversation, you can head to Ingrid’s website https://www.IngridLillo.com and substack page HERE 📞 You can also book a (free) call with Ingrid HERE ✉️ Or write to us at unhurried.body@gmail.com We’re excited to grow alongside you. Until next time, stay present and live unhurried. ❤️ Get full access to Unhurried Life at unhurriedlife.substack.com/subscribe

1h 5m

08/03/2025

What Happens When We Relocalise Our Lives (+a special invitation!)

A conversation about how living more locally—through food, friendship, and community—can restore a sense of belonging in a fragmented world. In a world where so much feels upside down—from food systems to conflict and war, to the way families are stretched thin just trying to keep up—we ask: what happens when we stop chasing constant progress and start looking closer to home? In this episode we share something we’re really excited about: we’re launching a small, intimate online community for listeners of Unhurried Life—gathering twice a month to rest, reflect, and support one another in building lives rooted in values, not hustle. If you’ve been longing for like-hearted connection, we’d love for you to join us. Find out more about the community here more here. To join Unhurried Life Community, become a paid subscriber for only 5USD / month This episode explores what it means to choose a different way, one that doesn’t extract or accelerate, but roots us more deeply in place, relationships, and purpose. After a morning of self-doubt (the kind that often comes with walking against the dominant current), Ingrid wanders into the forest and is struck by a quiet knowing: even the most tangled, unorganised ecosystems thrive—simply by trusting the unfolding. We speak about the ache of wondering whether we were born in the wrong millennia—and how that longing might actually be a clue. Maybe we’re not out of place, but right on time. Here to help seed a more local, relational, and human-scale way of living. We also share stories told by Helena Norberg-Hodge from Ladakh, a remote community on the Tibetan plateau, where ten adults care for every child, and success is measured not in milestones or achievement—but in time spent together, tending the land, and preserving experiential wisdom passed down through generations. This episode is a love letter to localisation and a gentle nudge that change doesn’t always require a master plan. Sometimes it begins by coming together with friends to buy locally-produced food in bulk to make it more affordable. Or asking someone what they need. Or gathering with others to rest, reflect, and imagine a new map, together. We cannot wait to meet you inside the Unhurried Life Community ❤️ Get full access to Unhurried Life at unhurriedlife.substack.com/subscribe

51 min

Unhurried Life Podcast

What If Not Knowing Is the Door to the Life You Want?

Learning to Grieve: What Letting Go Teaches Us About Change (+ an invitation)

How Much Is Enough? Choosing Less to Live More

A Taste of Rest: Coming Home to Your Unhurried Body in Community

Where Am I Lying to Myself? Creating in the Dance Between Masculine and Feminine

The Less I Try to Fit In, the More I Belong

Are We Losing Our Humanity in the Chase for Efficiency?

What Happens When We Relocalise Our Lives (+a special invitation!)

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What If Not Knowing Is the Door to the Life You Want?

Learning to Grieve: What Letting Go Teaches Us About Change (+ an invitation)

How Much Is Enough? Choosing Less to Live More

A Taste of Rest: Coming Home to Your Unhurried Body in Community

Where Am I Lying to Myself? Creating in the Dance Between Masculine and Feminine

The Less I Try to Fit In, the More I Belong

Are We Losing Our Humanity in the Chase for Efficiency?

What Happens When We Relocalise Our Lives (+a special invitation!)

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