Life After Narcissism

Sharlene Lee
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Life After Narcissism helps Christian women discover their true identity and rebuild a holistic life after narcissistic abuse—body, mind, relationships, work, finances, and faith. Hosted by Shar, an identity coach, each episode supports identity discovery, internal authority, and values-based decisions so you can live with clarity, confidence, and alignment. Expect faith-aligned practical tools, expert conversations, and inspiring stories that keep the focus on who you’re becoming—not what happened. Whether you’re stepping boldly into your next chapter or navigating the space between survival and self-discovery, Life After Narcissism provides a forward-looking, faith-centered roadmap for reclaiming identity and thriving holistically. Disclaimer: The content provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The information shared in this episode should not be considered professional counseling, therapy, or medical advice. Guide to breaking free from Narcissistic abuseTake this quiz to find out:

  1. Turning Challenges into Triumph: Survivor Story with Julie Barth

    4D AGO

    Turning Challenges into Triumph: Survivor Story with Julie Barth

    Send us a text SUMMARY ✍🏽 In this episode of Life After Narcissism, I share a powerful thriver's story with Julie Barth—a writer, mother of six, and survivor of narcissistic abuse. Listen as Julie opens up about her journey from surviving to thriving and the hard-won lessons that helped her reclaim her life and her identity. WHAT TO LISTEN FOR 🎧 What are the internal signs to look for when forming new relationships after narcissistic abuse?How do we deal with the uncharacteristic ways narcissistic abuse can cause you to behave?Uncommon support that women leaving these types of relationships need?GUEST BIO JULIE BARTH is a writer, mother of six, trauma survivor, and founder of the Colin James Barth Outreach, a nonprofit dedicated to supporting women-led households in times of crisis. Julie’s memoir, NOTES FROM A BLACKBERRY, is a deeply moving account of love, loss, and resilience, chronicling her journey as a special needs parent while navigating the heartbreaking realities of her first husband’s battle with cancer.  https://www.juliebarthauthor.com/ CONNECT WITH ME    Want to be a guest on Life After Narcissism? Send me a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/sharlenelee  Email me: hello@sharlenelee.com Website: Sharlenelee.com DISCLAIMER The content shared in Life After Narcissism is for educational and inspirational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are struggling with mental health concerns, trauma, or abuse-related issues, please seek support from a licensed therapist, counselor, or qualified healthcare provider. [perplexity]​ The experiences and perspectives shared by guests reflect their personal stories and are not meant to replace individualized care or professional counseling. If you are in an unsafe situation, please prioritize your safety by reaching out to trusted professionals or local authorities. You can contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline 24/7 at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), text "START" to 88788, or visit thehotline.org. Your well-being matters, and there is no shame in asking for help. History+1 Support the show DISCLAIMER The content shared in this episode is intended for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional mental health care, diagnosis, or advice. Every situation is unique, so listeners are encouraged to consult a qualified mental health provider for personalized support or any medical concerns. If you ever find yourself in an unsafe or dangerous situation, please prioritize your safety by seeking immediate help from trusted professionals or local authorities. You can reach the National Domestic Violence Hotline for confidential assistance 24/7 by calling 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), texting “START” to 88788, or visiting thehotline.org. Your well-being matters, and there is no shame in reaching out for support.

    40 min
  2. Why You Can't Just "Pray Away" Narcissistic Abuse: Interview with expert therapist Jennifer Oneil

    JAN 27

    Why You Can't Just "Pray Away" Narcissistic Abuse: Interview with expert therapist Jennifer Oneil

    Send us a text SUMMARY In this powerful episode, I sit down with Jennifer Oneil, a psychotherapist with 30 years of experience and author of the new book, Surviving the Narcissist. Jennifer shares her deep insights into the consistent dynamics of narcissistic abuse and why it often leaves victims feeling "crazy" and dysregulated. The conversation explores the necessity of radical acceptance, the "death of hope" as a path to realistic healing, and the strategic importance of building a support team when navigating or leaving a toxic relationship. Whether you are currently in a relationship with a narcissist or have already left, this episode provides the validation and practical tools needed to reclaim your sense of self. WHAT TO LISTEN FOR The Myth of "Praying it Away": Why faith alone isn't a solution for the systemic toxicity of narcissistic abuse.Normalizing Your Reaction: Understanding that reacting to "crazy" behavior is a sign of health, not a lack of mental stability.The "Chronically Offended": Why trying to keep a narcissist calm is a losing battle and how to tolerate their inevitable distress.Strategic Leaving: The essential components of a "team" you need when deciding to break free, including legal and therapeutic support.GUEST BIO Jennifer O'Neal is a psychotherapist in private practice with over three decades of experience helping clients navigate complex emotional landscapes. Known as an "emotional ninja," Jennifer specializes in the dynamics of narcissism and narcissistic abuse. She is the author of the recently released book, Surviving the Narcissist, which serves as a guide for those seeking to make sense of the chaos and rebuild their lives. Her work is grounded in both clinical training and the profound lessons learned from her clients' lived experiences. RESOURCES Jennifer's book: Surviving the narcissist More content from Jennifer CONNECT WITH ME Want to be a guest on Life After Narcissism? Send me a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/sharlenelee  Email me: hello@sharlenelee.com Website: Sharlenelee.com Support the show DISCLAIMER The content shared in this episode is intended for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional mental health care, diagnosis, or advice. Every situation is unique, so listeners are encouraged to consult a qualified mental health provider for personalized support or any medical concerns. If you ever find yourself in an unsafe or dangerous situation, please prioritize your safety by seeking immediate help from trusted professionals or local authorities. You can reach the National Domestic Violence Hotline for confidential assistance 24/7 by calling 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), texting “START” to 88788, or visiting thehotline.org. Your well-being matters, and there is no shame in reaching out for support.

    52 min
  3. Creating a New Normal: Antoinette Lee's Guide to Thriving Post-Abuse (Part 2)

    JAN 20

    Creating a New Normal: Antoinette Lee's Guide to Thriving Post-Abuse (Part 2)

    Send us a text SUMMARY In Part two of the interview with Antoinette Lee, she share her story of creating the purposeful and fulfilling life that she desired. We also discuss the practical steps of creating the new life you desire after narcissistic abuse. WHAT TO LISTEN FOR The Key questions you should ask yourself when rebuilding your new lifeHow to dream big and not worry about how everything will work outRESOURCES Episode on the cycle of narcissistic abuseFree guide: ⛓️‍💥 Guide to breaking free from Narcissistic abuse ⛓️‍💥Quiz:  ✅ Have I experienced narcissistic abuse: quick quizCONNECT WITH ME Want to be a guest on Life After Narcissism? Send me a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/sharlenelee  Email me: hello@sharlenelee.com Website: Sharlenelee.com Thinking about coaching to help you on your journey but not sure if it’s right for you? Click here to schedule a call with Sharlene Lee Support the show DISCLAIMER The content shared in this episode is intended for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional mental health care, diagnosis, or advice. Every situation is unique, so listeners are encouraged to consult a qualified mental health provider for personalized support or any medical concerns. If you ever find yourself in an unsafe or dangerous situation, please prioritize your safety by seeking immediate help from trusted professionals or local authorities. You can reach the National Domestic Violence Hotline for confidential assistance 24/7 by calling 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), texting “START” to 88788, or visiting thehotline.org. Your well-being matters, and there is no shame in reaching out for support.

    37 min
  4. Creating a New Normal: Antoinette Lee's Guide to Thriving Post-Abuse (Part 1)

    JAN 13

    Creating a New Normal: Antoinette Lee's Guide to Thriving Post-Abuse (Part 1)

    Send us a text SUMMARY Today's episode features a miraculous survivor story combined with expert insights on rebuilding after narcissistic abuse, infused with hope. Our guest, Antoinette Lee, shares her journey from a traumatic brain injury to a flourishing life, offering wisdom on early awareness of narcissistic abuse. WHAT TO LISTEN FOR  Early awareness of abuse - what to look out forThe number one boundary you must set in relationshipsThe Key questions you should ask yourself when rebuilding your new lifeRESOURCES Episode on the cycle of narcissistic abuseFree guide: ⛓️‍💥 Guide to breaking free from Narcissistic abuse ⛓️‍💥Quiz:  ✅ Have I experienced narcissistic abuse: quick quizCONNECT WITH ME Want to be a guest on Life After Narcissism? Send me a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/sharlenelee  Email me: hello@sharlenelee.com Website: Sharlenelee.com Thinking about coaching to help you on your journey but not sure if it’s right for you? Click here to schedule a call with Sharlene Lee Support the show DISCLAIMER The content shared in this episode is intended for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional mental health care, diagnosis, or advice. Every situation is unique, so listeners are encouraged to consult a qualified mental health provider for personalized support or any medical concerns. If you ever find yourself in an unsafe or dangerous situation, please prioritize your safety by seeking immediate help from trusted professionals or local authorities. You can reach the National Domestic Violence Hotline for confidential assistance 24/7 by calling 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), texting “START” to 88788, or visiting thehotline.org. Your well-being matters, and there is no shame in reaching out for support.

    36 min
  5. Faith, Fitness and Food: Healing After Narcissistic Abuse

    JAN 6

    Faith, Fitness and Food: Healing After Narcissistic Abuse

    Send us a text SUMMARY Shar speaks with health and fitness expert Michelle Spadafora about why so many fitness and health plans fail —not because women don’t know what to do, but because years of manipulation and criticism have shaped the beliefs and stories they quietly tell themselves Michelle shares spiritual and practical truths to help listeners in their health and wellness journey as they heal from narcissistic abuse. WHAT TO LISTEN FOR  How faith is connected to fitness and wellbeingWhy it’s necessary to look beyond only on behavior change (what you eat, how you move) for successPractical ways to identify lies you’ve believed about your body, worth, and willpower that will help you succeed this time how inviting God into your wellness journey leads to real, lasting growth.CONNECT WITH Michelle  Bio Michelle Spadafora is the founder of Faithful Workouts, a global movement that blends faith, fitness, and food to help people strengthen their bodies while deepening their relationship with God. For over a decade, Michelle has inspired thousands through her Christian-based workouts, motivational speaking, and faith-centered wellness programs, empowering women to live with energy, joy, and purpose. Her approach goes beyond traditional fitness, it’s about transforming hearts and habits through biblical truth, movement, and community.  Michelle Spadafora's Website Free workouts here: https://www.youtube.com/user/faithfulworkoutsFacebookRESOURCES Free guide: ⛓️‍💥 Guide to breaking free from Narcissistic abuse ⛓️‍💥Quiz:  ✅ Have I experienced narcissistic abuse: quick quizCONNECT WITH ME Want to be a guest on Life After Narcissism? Send me a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/sharlenelee  Email me: hello@sharlenelee.com Website: Sharlenelee.com Thinking about coaching to help you on your journey but not sure if it’s right for you? Click here to schedule a call with Sharlene Lee DISCLAIMER The content shared in this episode is intended for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional mental health care, diagnosis, or advice. Every situation is unique, so listeners are encouraged to consult a qualifi Support the show DISCLAIMER The content shared in this episode is intended for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional mental health care, diagnosis, or advice. Every situation is unique, so listeners are encouraged to consult a qualified mental health provider for personalized support or any medical concerns. If you ever find yourself in an unsafe or dangerous situation, please prioritize your safety by seeking immediate help from trusted professionals or local authorities. You can reach the National Domestic Violence Hotline for confidential assistance 24/7 by calling 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), texting “START” to 88788, or visiting thehotline.org. Your well-being matters, and there is no shame in reaching out for support.

    42 min

  6. 12/30/2025

    Breaking Free from Narcissism: Mia Hanks Survivor's Story

    Send us a text SUMMARY Mia Hanks shares her transformative journey from surviving a 29-year marriage to a narcissist to thriving in her new life. Through her story, she highlights the complexities of living with a narcissist, the awakening to the truth, the challenges of leaving, and the healing process that follows. Mia emphasizes the importance of self-care, building a support system, and recognizing red flags in relationships.  WHAT TO LISTEN FOR  What are the complexities of leaving a relationship with a narcissist?How to deal with guilt and shame after leavingWhat are some of the red flags to look out for to spot narcissists in relationships GUEST BIO Mia Hanks is a survivor of narcissistic abuse.  She was married to a covert narcissist for 29 years and is the author of an award winning book titled Bride-Made: A Memoir. Mia is hoping that her story will help raise awareness about narcissism and help other victims find their voices. Connect with Mia  https://miajhanks.com RESOURCES Free guide: ⛓️‍💥 Guide to breaking free from Narcissistic abuse ⛓️‍💥Quiz:  ✅ Have I experienced narcissistic abuse: quick quizCONNECT WITH ME Want to be a guest on Life After Narcissism? Send me a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/sharlenelee   Email me: hello@sharlenelee.com Website: Sharlenelee.com Thinking about coaching to help you on your journey but not sure if it’s right for you? Click here to schedule a call with Sharlene Lee DISCLAIMER The content shared in this episode is intended for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional mental health care, diagnosis, or advice. Every situation is unique, so listeners are encouraged to consult a qualified mental health provider for personalized support or any medical concerns. If you ever find yourself in an unsafe or dangerous situation, please prioritize your safety by seeking immediate help from trusted professionals or local authorities. You can reach the National Domestic Violence Hotline for confidential assistance 24/7 by calling 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), texting “START” to 88788, or visiting thehotline.org. Your well-being matters, and there is no shame Support the show DISCLAIMER The content shared in this episode is intended for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional mental health care, diagnosis, or advice. Every situation is unique, so listeners are encouraged to consult a qualified mental health provider for personalized support or any medical concerns. If you ever find yourself in an unsafe or dangerous situation, please prioritize your safety by seeking immediate help from trusted professionals or local authorities. You can reach the National Domestic Violence Hotline for confidential assistance 24/7 by calling 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), texting “START” to 88788, or visiting thehotline.org. Your well-being matters, and there is no shame in reaching out for support.

    31 min
  7. Healing Your Nervous System After Narcissistic Abuse: Why You’re Not Broken

    12/23/2025

    Healing Your Nervous System After Narcissistic Abuse: Why You’re Not Broken

    Send us a text SUMMARY In this episode of Life After Narcissism, we unpack how narcissistic abuse impacts your nervous system and why you may not be feeling like yourself after the abuse. You’ll discover how patterns like gaslighting, love-bombing, and constant criticism can leave you hypervigilant or shut down, and why neuroplasticity—means you are not stuck this way forever. By the end, you’ll walk away with faith-filled encouragement and gentle, evidence-based tools to start calming and healing your nervous system. WHAT TO LISTEN FOR  How your nervous system works and how narcissistic abuse can push it into constant survival mode.The most common signs of nervous system dysregulation after narcissistic abuseThe hope of neuroplasticity for healing.Gentle practical tool to help regulate your nervous system RESOURCES Episode on the cycle of narcissistic abuseFacebook groupFree guide: ⛓️‍💥 Guide to breaking free from Narcissistic abuse ⛓️‍💥Quiz:  ✅ Have I experienced narcissistic abuse: quick quizCONNECT WITH ME Want to be a guest on Life After Narcissism? Send me a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/sharlenelee  Email me: hello@sharlenelee.com Website: Sharlenelee.com Thinking about coaching to help you on your journey but not sure if it’s right for you? Click here to schedule a call with Sharlene Lee DISCLAIMER The content shared in this episode is intended for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional mental health care, diagnosis, or advice. Every situation is unique, so listeners are encouraged to consult a qualified mental health provider for personalized support or any medical concerns. If you ever find yourself in an unsafe or dangerous situation, please prioritize your safety by seeking immediate help from trusted professionals or local authorities. You can reach the National Domestic Violence Hotline for confidential assistance 24/7 by calling 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), texting “START” to 88788, or visiting thehotline.org. Your well-being matters, and there is no shame in reaching out for support. Support the show DISCLAIMER The content shared in this episode is intended for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional mental health care, diagnosis, or advice. Every situation is unique, so listeners are encouraged to consult a qualified mental health provider for personalized support or any medical concerns. If you ever find yourself in an unsafe or dangerous situation, please prioritize your safety by seeking immediate help from trusted professionals or local authorities. You can reach the National Domestic Violence Hotline for confidential assistance 24/7 by calling 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), texting “START” to 88788, or visiting thehotline.org. Your well-being matters, and there is no shame in reaching out for support.

    20 min
  8. How to Break the Narcissistic Abuse Cycle: No One is Coming to Rescue You

    12/16/2025

    How to Break the Narcissistic Abuse Cycle: No One is Coming to Rescue You

    Send us a text In this episode of Life After Narcissism, we unpack a hard but freeing truth: no one is coming to rescue you from narcissistic abuse.  Whether you’re still in the relationship or you’ve left but feel stuck, you’ll learn how manipulation, gaslighting, and distorted reality keep others from truly seeing what you’re going through, and why your own clarity and self-validation are the keys to your healing. By the end, you’ll see how educating yourself about narcissistic abuse, trusting your experience, and partnering with God can become the rescue you’ve been waiting for. WHAT TO LISTEN FOR Why no one else—including friends, family, pastors, or counselors—can fully see the narcissistic manipulation taking placeHow narcissistic traits like grandiosity, lack of empathy, entitlement, and shifting masks erode your health, confidence, and faith over timeThe difference between not being responsible for the narcissist’s behavior and being responsible for how you show up for yourself nowHow educating yourself about narcissistic abuse and keeping a record of what you’ve experienced can provide the clarity and “evidence” you need when you feel weak, confused, or tempted to minimize what happened.RESOURCES Facebook group: Flourishers Collective Free guide: ⛓️‍💥 Guide to Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse ⛓️‍💥 Quiz: ✅ Have I Experienced Narcissistic Abuse? Quick Quiz CONNECT WITH ME Email: hello@sharlenelee.com Website: Sharlenelee.com Thinking about coaching to help you on your healing journey but not sure if it’s right for you? Click here to schedule a 30-minute coaching discovery call with Sharlene Lee. DISCLAIMER The content shared in this episode is intended for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional mental health care, diagnosis, or advice. Every situation is unique, so listeners are encouraged to consult a qualified mental health provider for personalized support or any medical concerns. If you ever find yourself in an unsafe or dangerous situation, please prioritize your safety by seeking immediate help from trusted professionals or local authorities. You can reach the National Domestic Violence Hotline for confidential assistance 24/7 by calling 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), texting “START” to 88788, or visiting thehotline.org. Your well-being matters, and there is no shame in reaching out for support. Support the show DISCLAIMER The content shared in this episode is intended for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional mental health care, diagnosis, or advice. Every situation is unique, so listeners are encouraged to consult a qualified mental health provider for personalized support or any medical concerns. If you ever find yourself in an unsafe or dangerous situation, please prioritize your safety by seeking immediate help from trusted professionals or local authorities. You can reach the National Domestic Violence Hotline for confidential assistance 24/7 by calling 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), texting “START” to 88788, or visiting thehotline.org. Your well-being matters, and there is no shame in reaching out for support.

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Life After Narcissism helps Christian women discover their true identity and rebuild a holistic life after narcissistic abuse—body, mind, relationships, work, finances, and faith. Hosted by Shar, an identity coach, each episode supports identity discovery, internal authority, and values-based decisions so you can live with clarity, confidence, and alignment. Expect faith-aligned practical tools, expert conversations, and inspiring stories that keep the focus on who you’re becoming—not what happened. Whether you’re stepping boldly into your next chapter or navigating the space between survival and self-discovery, Life After Narcissism provides a forward-looking, faith-centered roadmap for reclaiming identity and thriving holistically. Disclaimer: The content provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The information shared in this episode should not be considered professional counseling, therapy, or medical advice. Guide to breaking free from Narcissistic abuseTake this quiz to find out:

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  • Creator
    Sharlene Lee
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    69
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Life After Narcissism
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