Demystifying Child's Play | Play Schemas

Ruth Vercoe

Kia ora, Hello! I’m Ruth Vercoe, a teacher-turned-mum, here on a mission to demystify Child’s Play through understanding play schemas.If you’ve ever found yourself asking, 'Why is my child doing that?'—whether it’s throwing their soft toys, hiding stones around the house, or lining up their crayons —then you’re in the right place, and certainly not alone. Here, we’ll explore the magic of play through the lens of play schemas—those hidden repeated patterns in your child’s behaviour that hold the key to unlocking more meaningful play and connection. Join me each week as we dive into playful insights that will help you bring more joy, connection and understanding into your parenting journey. Get in contact atEmail Ruth@Playschemas.comFacebook and Instagram @Play_Schemas

  1. 15H AGO

    072 The Best Investment in Your Child’s Future Isn’t Money (It’s Play)

    The Most Powerful Investment in Your Child’s Future (It’s Not Money) | Toddler Play, Brain Development & Play Schemas Explained You’ve probably heard people talk about investing in your child’s future… saving for school, planning ahead, setting them up for success. But what if the most powerful investment you’ll ever make has nothing to do with money? In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play, we’re exploring how everyday toddler behaviour, like throwing toys, carrying random objects, or spinning in circles, is actually shaping your child’s brain and future learning. These moments might look messy, repetitive, or even frustrating… but they’re far from meaningless. They’re play schemas, powerful, repeated patterns of play that help your child explore, experiment, and understand the world around them. Inside this episode, you’ll learn: Why the early years (birth–5) are critical for brain developmentWhat play schemas are and how they show up in everyday toddler playWhat your child is really learning when they repeat the same actionsHow play supports problem-solving, creativity, and emotional regulationHow understanding your child’s behaviour can make parenting feel easier and more enjoyableIf you’ve ever wondered:  “Why does my toddler keep throwing things?”  “Why are they constantly moving objects around the house?”  “Why do they repeat the same play over and over again?” This episode will help you see those behaviours in a completely new way. Because when you understand the why behind your child’s play, everything starts to click, and parenting can feel a whole lot less frustrating. toddler behaviour, play schemas, child development, play-based learning, early childhood development, why toddlers throw things, toddler brain development, parenting toddlers, schema play, understanding toddler behaviour, positive parenting, learning through play Send us Fan Mail Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review!  I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

    6 min
  2. APR 29

    071 Why Your Toddler’s ‘Challenging Behaviour’ Is Actually Normal (Play Schemas Explained for Parents)

    If you’ve ever wondered… Why your toddler throws things constantly… Why toys somehow end up scattered across every room… Or why your child lines up their snacks instead of eating them… You’re not alone. And you’re not doing it wrong. In today’s episode of Demystifying Child’s Play, Ruth shares a reminder that many toddler parents need to hear — especially on the days when parenting feels overwhelming, chaotic, or exhausting. Instead of focusing on strategies or quick fixes, this episode zooms out and looks at what’s really happening beneath the behaviours we see every day. You’ll learn: • Why many “challenging” toddler behaviours are actually part of normal development • How play schemas like trajectory, transportation, and positioning show up in everyday play • Why understanding these patterns can shift the way you respond to your child • And the powerful parenting mindset shift that can help you move from frustration to curiosity If your days currently involve flying rocks, transported toys, and carefully lined-up snacks… this episode is your reminder that your child isn’t trying to make your life harder. They’re trying to make sense of their world. And the fact that you’re here, learning and listening, already says a lot about the kind of parent you are. Send us Fan Mail Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review!  I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

    8 min
  3. MAR 18

    067 Play Schema Series - Enclosure 101

    Why your child keeps fencing things in (and why it matters) If your toddler is constantly building walls, creating “no entry” zones, drawing borders, or sitting inside boxes and small spaces, you’re not raising a bossy or controlling child. You’re seeing the Enclosure Play Schema in action. In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play, Ruth Vercoe breaks down enclosure play and explains why children are driven to surround, fence, and define spaces in their play. Learn how enclosure supports spatial awareness, early maths skills, planning, problem-solving, and emotional regulation, especially for sensitive or anxious children. Discover the difference between enclosure and enveloping, what repetition really means for development, and how understanding play schemas can reduce power struggles and transform the way you respond to toddler behaviour. If you want more calm, confidence, and clarity around your child’s play, this episode is for you. Send us Fan Mail Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review!  I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

    7 min
  4. MAR 11

    066 Play Schema Series - Orientation 101

    Why is your child always upside down? It might be the Orientation Play Schema. In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play, we explore the orientation play schema, the powerful drive behind children hanging upside down, climbing high, bending through their legs, and constantly changing their perspective. If your toddler loves to roll, invert, tip, and view the world from every possible angle, they’re not being reckless or attention-seeking. They’re learning. Discover what orientation play really is, why movement is the tool (not the goal), and how children develop spatial awareness, balance, and perspective through this instinctive behaviour. This episode is part of a 10-part series on the top 10 play schemas, helping you understand toddler behaviour through a child development lens so you can respond with confidence instead of frustration. If climbing, hanging, and upside-down antics are a daily occurrence in your home, this one will change the way you see it. Send us Fan Mail Support the show If this episode resonated with you, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review!  I would love to hear your playtime stories—whether you’re celebrating a win or trying to crack the mystery behind a new behaviour, I’m here for it. Reach out on social media or drop me a message. Facebook and Instagram @play_schemas Ruth@PlaySchemas.com www.playschemas.com and if you are keen for a freebie... head to playschemas.com/free to see what there is for you!

    7 min

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Kia ora, Hello! I’m Ruth Vercoe, a teacher-turned-mum, here on a mission to demystify Child’s Play through understanding play schemas.If you’ve ever found yourself asking, 'Why is my child doing that?'—whether it’s throwing their soft toys, hiding stones around the house, or lining up their crayons —then you’re in the right place, and certainly not alone. Here, we’ll explore the magic of play through the lens of play schemas—those hidden repeated patterns in your child’s behaviour that hold the key to unlocking more meaningful play and connection. Join me each week as we dive into playful insights that will help you bring more joy, connection and understanding into your parenting journey. Get in contact atEmail Ruth@Playschemas.comFacebook and Instagram @Play_Schemas