How to Lose the Wait

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Welcome to How to Lose the ‘WAIT’—the podcast for women in midlife who are tired of living like their real life starts “later.” If you’ve been waiting for confidence, the perfect timing, the perfect body, the perfect relationship, or a braver version of you to take the wheel… you’re in the right place. I’m Holly Toscanini, and each week we turn self-trust into something you can actually use. This isn’t motivation that evaporates by Tuesday. It’s smart, practical support for women who are capable on the outside—but privately stuck in overthinking, people-pleasing, perfectionism, and the “I’ll do it when…” loop. Expect episodes on self-trust, intuition (minus the woo), boundaries, visibility in midlife, body confidence and body peace, and creating a next chapter that feels like it belongs to you. You’ll get clear frameworks, scripts you can borrow, micro-actions you can take immediately, and the kind of honest perspective you’ll want to text to a friend. Because Unwaiting isn’t a vibe. I

Episodes

  1. 5D AGO

    103. How to Stop Over-Giving in Relationships (Without Feeling Like a Bad Person)

    In this episode, Holly Toscanini discusses the emotional burden of being the default caretaker in relationships, particularly for women. She explores how this role is often unconsciously adopted and the hidden costs associated with it, such as chronic resentment and emotional burnout. Holly emphasizes the importance of recognizing this pattern and making small, self-honoring shifts to unweight in relationships. Holly provides practical strategies for navigating romantic partnerships, family dynamics, friendships, and work environments, encouraging listeners to prioritize their own needs and establish healthier boundaries. Source

    25 min

  2. FEB 9

    102. Stop Self-Editing: The Unwaiting Rule for Visibility in Midlife

    If you’ve been feeling invisible in midlife, it might not be because you lack confidence—it might be because you’ve been self-editing. In this episode of How to Lose the ‘WAIT’, Holly Toscanini breaks down why smart, capable women often soften their opinions, over-explain their boundaries, and wait for the “perfect wording”… then wonder why they feel unseen. Source

    16 min

  3. FEB 2

    101. Standing in your Brilliance with Kathy Kwiatkowski

    In this episode of How to Lose the ‘WAIT’, Holly sits down with Kathy Kwiatkowski—Licensed Mental Health Counselor, multidimensional healer,[...] Source

    1h 8m

  4. JAN 26

    100. Stop Starting Over: The Unwaiting Method to Turn Insight Into Real Change

    Holly Toscanini speaking about Unwaiting: why starting over provides relief but real change comes from one decision and one small action, encouraging listeners to stop living in “draft mode.” Source

    27 min

  5. JAN 19

    99. The Self-Trust Rule for 2026: Stop Making Decisions That Betray You

    As we step into a new year, the pressure to reinvent ourselves often looms large. But what if the real transformation lies not in starting over, but in cultivating a deeper relationship with ourselves? In this episode of How to Lose the Weight, host Holly Toscanini introduces the self-trust rule for 2026, urging us to stop making decisions that betray our true selves. Source

    19 min

  6. JAN 5

    98. Why New Year’s Resolutions Keep Smart Women Stuck (And What to Do Instead)

    New Year’s resolutions often keep smart women stuck because they’re built on the belief that you must “fix yourself” before you’re allowed to feel confident or start living. In this episode, Holly Toscanini explains why waiting mode isn’t laziness—it’s a self-protection strategy—and shares what to do instead: replace resolutions with standards, build self-trust through small decisions, and create real momentum without pressure or perfectionism. Source

    10 min

  7. 12/29/2025

    97. How to Make 2026 The Year of Unwaiting: Clarity, Courage, and Self-Trust

    How to Make 2026 The Year of Unwaiting: Clarity, Courage, and Self-Trust Year-end reflection for midlife women: close 2025 with compassion and start 2026 with clarity, courage, and self-trust. Includes a guided ritual + confidence quiz. Source

    17 min

  8. 12/22/2025

    96. How to Get Unstuck in Midlife: Tiny Pivots, New Habits, Real Momentum

    Feeling stuck in “someday mode” in midlife? Someday you’ll change careers. Someday you’ll feel confident. Someday you’ll finally do the thing you can’t stop thinking about. In this episode of How to Lose the ‘WAIT’, intuitive living coach Holly Toscanini shows you how to get unstuck in midlife using tiny pivots, simple habits, and micro-actions that build real momentum over time. You don’t need a massive life overhaul. You need movement. Source

    20 min

  9. 12/15/2025

    95. Choosing What to Leave Behind: Emotional Decluttering for the New Year

    What to Leave Behind: Emotional Decluttering for the New Year Before you set a single New Year’s resolution, it’s time for an emotional declutter. In this episode, Holly guides you through a step-by-step process to release outdated identities, habits, and roles that keep you stuck, so you can create a true midlife reset that actually fits the woman you’re becoming. Source

    18 min

  10. 12/08/2025

    94. How to Calm Your Inner Critic Fast! Go from Panicked to Poised in Just 3 Minutes

    Go from Panicked to Poised in Just 3 Minutes Wish you had a confidence reset button for those “Who am[...] Source

    16 min
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About

Welcome to How to Lose the ‘WAIT’—the podcast for women in midlife who are tired of living like their real life starts “later.” If you’ve been waiting for confidence, the perfect timing, the perfect body, the perfect relationship, or a braver version of you to take the wheel… you’re in the right place. I’m Holly Toscanini, and each week we turn self-trust into something you can actually use. This isn’t motivation that evaporates by Tuesday. It’s smart, practical support for women who are capable on the outside—but privately stuck in overthinking, people-pleasing, perfectionism, and the “I’ll do it when…” loop. Expect episodes on self-trust, intuition (minus the woo), boundaries, visibility in midlife, body confidence and body peace, and creating a next chapter that feels like it belongs to you. You’ll get clear frameworks, scripts you can borrow, micro-actions you can take immediately, and the kind of honest perspective you’ll want to text to a friend. Because Unwaiting isn’t a vibe. I

Information

  • Creator
    Holly Toscanini
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    10
  • Copyright
    © Copyright Holly Toscanini 2025
  • Show Website
    How to Lose the Wait