Hurt Meets Healer Podcast

Kim Capps
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Hurt people, hurt people. Are you ready to work through the pain of your past? Healing is possible! Join us on our healing journey, a journey to freedom, where you'll get straight truth from genuine people. We use our story and experience to help others walk through the trauma of intimate betrayal. This is raw and real talk from average people who are walking the path of healing. Kim is a Certified Professional Mentor™ through BraveHearts University, and a Certified Christian Life Coach through the Board of Christian Life Coaching.

  1. May 25

    Safety First, part 1

    Safety isn’t a buzzword for me right now, it’s the line between surviving and actually healing. I’m recording solo as John steps back, and I’m talking plainly about what it feels like to live in the aftermath of infidelity, porn addiction, and long-term secret sexual behaviors. When the person you trusted most becomes a threat, your nervous system does exactly what it was designed to do: it sounds the alarm. If you’ve been told to “just let it go,” I explain why that doesn’t work and what trauma-informed recovery looks like instead. I walk through the non-negotiables that create emotional safety after sexual betrayal: real accountability, consistent transparency, empathy that shows up in actions, and time. I also share what I’m doing on my side of the street to reclaim agency, including finding betrayal trauma support that understands the symptoms, setting boundaries that protect my peace, and building internal safety with grounding, journaling, exercise, and solid support networks. I even use a simple ladder metaphor for unfaithful partners: you don’t learn repair by studying it, you learn by practicing it. If you feel abandoned, disregarded, or like your body won’t calm down, you’re not alone and you’re not too sensitive. Subscribe, share this with someone who needs safety language, and leave a review so more betrayed spouses can find real help. What’s one small step you can take toward safety today? Thank you for listening! For more information about us and the services we offer, visit www.hurtmeetshealer.com. Intro & Outro music written, performed, and produced by Kim Capps. This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal, medical, or professional advice. The views expressed by the Host or any Guest(s) are strictly their own and in no way constitute legal, medical, or professional advice. Copyright ©️ 2026, Hurt Meets Healer, LLC. All rights reserved.

    51 min

  2. May 11

    Break The Cycle

    The fastest way to stay stuck after infidelity is to keep having the same fight with new words. We name the brutal loop that so many couples live in after sexual betrayal: poor communication, misunderstandings, mistrust, and then another round of pain that feels impossible to calm down. We walk through a six-step recovery roadmap drawn from Gottman research, emotionally focused therapy, and betrayal recovery frameworks: commit to the process, create immediate safety, process the betrayal, rebuild communication skills, attune emotionally to rebuild trust, and reconnect into a new kind of relationship. Along the way, we share what we got wrong, why “self-guided talks” can retraumatize, and what “radical honesty” looks like in real life through transparency, accountability, and consistent behavior over time. We also talk about the importance of the right kind of help: trauma-informed counseling for betrayal trauma, CSAT-level support for sexual addiction recovery, and safe groups that keep you from walking this road alone. If you’re dealing with hypervigilance, stonewalling, defensiveness, or that constant feeling that nothing is safe, this conversation offers language, structure, and hope without pretending it’s quick or easy. If this helps, subscribe, share it with someone who needs a steady next step, and leave a review so more hurting couples can find support. What part of the cycle are you trying to break first? Thank you for listening! For more information about us and the services we offer, visit www.hurtmeetshealer.com. Intro & Outro music written, performed, and produced by Kim Capps. This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal, medical, or professional advice. The views expressed by the Host or any Guest(s) are strictly their own and in no way constitute legal, medical, or professional advice. Copyright ©️ 2026, Hurt Meets Healer, LLC. All rights reserved.

    1h 11m

  3. Apr 27

    What The What? A Hard Talk About Trust

    “If you couldn’t talk, would I fall in love with your actions?” That one question exposes what trust is made of and that which betrayal destroys. We sit down for a raw, unfiltered conversation about what happens when words sound spiritual and sincere, but behavior still hides, deflects, or withdraws. If you’re walking through sexual addiction, infidelity, deception, or the aftershocks of a double life, you’ll recognize the push-pull of wanting answers while also needing safety more than explanations. We dig into what actually fuels hiddenness and why it starts so early for so many people: shame, fear of being wrong, fear of being seen, and an identity built around not measuring up. We talk about how resentment forms when we assume instead of asking, how conflict spirals when one partner hears “attack” in a request for transparency, and why “tone” becomes a distraction from the real issue: a bruised heart that needs honesty, consistency, and ownership. We also explore what it means to love without “give to get,” and how identity and faith can reshape the choices that once felt automatic. You’ll hear why you don’t need every “why” to heal, but you do need enough truth to live in reality, including the role of a full therapeutic disclosure in rebuilding trust. If this resonates, subscribe, share this with someone who needs it, and leave a review so more hurting couples can find support. Thank you for listening! For more information about us and the services we offer, visit www.hurtmeetshealer.com. Intro & Outro music written, performed, and produced by Kim Capps. This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal, medical, or professional advice. The views expressed by the Host or any Guest(s) are strictly their own and in no way constitute legal, medical, or professional advice. Copyright ©️ 2026, Hurt Meets Healer, LLC. All rights reserved.

    1h 3m

  4. Apr 13

    Walking With An Emotional Limp

    Betrayal trauma doesn’t fade because someone says “sorry” or quotes forgiveness. When trust gets shattered by infidelity and sexual betrayal, the fallout can look like grief, anxiety, insomnia, PTSD symptoms, shame, and a faith crisis that makes you question everything you thought was true. We call it walking with an emotional limp because you may function on the outside while every step still hurts on the inside. We get honest about what actually blocks healing and what helps it begin. We use a broken toe story to make the point plain: wounds heal when they’re cared for, protected, and given time, and they do not heal while someone keeps re-injuring them. We also name the damage caused by gaslighting, DARVO, blame shifting, and “performance” recovery that looks good on paper but feels unsafe at home. If you’re trying to rebuild trust after betrayal, we talk about why transparency and consistent truth over time matter more than big promises. We also share what supports long-term infidelity recovery for the betrayed partner: healthy boundaries, detaching when needed, verifying instead of blindly trusting, and healing in community so you’re not carrying this alone. And we end with a grounded hope rooted in faith, including a comforting reframing of “fear not” as God staying close, not shouting commands from a distance. If this resonates, subscribe, share this with someone who needs it, and leave a review so more hurting spouses can find real help. Thank you for listening! For more information about us and the services we offer, visit www.hurtmeetshealer.com. Intro & Outro music written, performed, and produced by Kim Capps. This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal, medical, or professional advice. The views expressed by the Host or any Guest(s) are strictly their own and in no way constitute legal, medical, or professional advice. Copyright ©️ 2026, Hurt Meets Healer, LLC. All rights reserved.

    47 min

  5. Mar 30

    Why I Stayed

    The question “Why did you stay?” can feel like an accusation until you’ve lived inside betrayal trauma. We sit down as a married couple and tell the truth about what kept us here after infidelity, lies, and the long fallout of sexual addiction and broken trust. It isn’t one simple reason, and it isn’t a clean timeline. It’s hope, fear, faith, kids, history, and the complicated math of safety. Kim walks through the faulty beliefs that can quietly lock partners into unhealthy dynamics: thinking divorce automatically makes you a failure, believing you caused the betrayal, believing love means enduring anything, or believing grace means ignoring ongoing deception. We also talk about the outside noise that says “just leave,” and why that advice can miss the realities of shared family, shared finances, shared businesses, and deep grief. John answers his own side of “why did I stay,” naming image, fear, and avoidance, plus the struggle to communicate without shutting down. From practical boundaries like separation and ending circular arguments to faith-based healing practices like praying scripture at 3 a.m., we focus on one goal: staying well, not staying stuck. If you’re navigating infidelity recovery, betrayal trauma healing, or a Christian marriage crisis and you need language for what you’re carrying, press play. Subscribe, share this with someone who feels alone, and leave a review so more hurting couples can find real help. Thank you for listening! For more information about us and the services we offer, visit www.hurtmeetshealer.com. Intro & Outro music written, performed, and produced by Kim Capps. This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal, medical, or professional advice. The views expressed by the Host or any Guest(s) are strictly their own and in no way constitute legal, medical, or professional advice. Copyright ©️ 2026, Hurt Meets Healer, LLC. All rights reserved.

    54 min

  6. Mar 16

    Is There Peace in Not Knowing? - Finding Real Peace After Betrayal

    Peace that depends on silence isn’t peace at all—it’s quicksand. We tackle the hard question: is there peace in not knowing after sexual betrayal? Kim and John open up about the shaky calm that comes from avoidance, the simmer beneath a detente, and the moment truth—however painful—becomes the only solid ground. We don’t romanticize disclosure; we show how it spikes distress, then unlocks consent, clarity, and a path to rebuild safety. We break down the difference between honesty and transparency. Honesty answers the question fully; transparency goes first, proactively naming slips, triggers, and financial or digital footprints so nothing lives in the dark. That rhythm creates safety, and only then can trust begin to grow. We talk about gaslighting and how it warps reality, why defensiveness protects shame but destroys intimacy, and how learning to sit with our own pain helps us sit with our partner’s pain without fixing, minimizing, or explaining it away. Anchored in faith and practical tools, we explore boundaries that end enabling: formal disclosure with a professional, trauma-informed counseling, accountability systems, and community support. Kim shares the turning point of saying, “I love you, but I’m no longer interested in the life you offer if it remains hidden,” and how that stance reclaimed agency without revenge. We also address when full truth never arrives and how survivors can still heal—rooted in a God who sees what was concealed and offers wisdom for each next step. If you’re navigating sexual betrayal, infidelity recovery, or the fallout of secrecy, this conversation offers language, structure, and hope. Expect straight talk on safety before trust, the cost and reward of truth, and the courage to live congruent with your values. Subscribe, share with someone who needs it, and leave a review with the one boundary or practice that brought you closer to real peace. Thank you for listening! For more information about us and the services we offer, visit www.hurtmeetshealer.com. Intro & Outro music written, performed, and produced by Kim Capps. This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal, medical, or professional advice. The views expressed by the Host or any Guest(s) are strictly their own and in no way constitute legal, medical, or professional advice. Copyright ©️ 2026, Hurt Meets Healer, LLC. All rights reserved.

    53 min

  7. Mar 2

    The Bucket Of Suck

    A phrase as plain as “bucket of suck” can hold an entire season of life—when betrayal trauma hits, the weight of grief, rage, and confusion follows you everywhere. We open up about what it feels like to carry that load, how it spills into every corner of your day, and what it takes to stop it from pulling you under. From the first shock of disclosure to the slow return of strength, we map the path forward with equal parts honesty and hope. We break down why betrayal isn’t just an emotional storm; it’s a nervous system event. Panic spikes, sleep disappears, and hyper-vigilance takes over for a reason. Drawing on trauma-informed insights, we talk about the brain’s response to betrayal, why validation matters, and how to find calm without gaslighting yourself. Then we get practical: boundaries that protect your peace, ending obsessive monitoring, and the non-negotiables that make rebuilding possible—stopping acting out, telling the full truth, and choosing proactive transparency. Along the way, faith shows up as a steady hand rather than a shortcut. Love is not limitless tolerance; real love insists on safety and accountability. We share tools that helped us drain the bucket: counseling, community, Scripture, and the daily decision to feel without turning feelings into felonies. There’s no timer on healing. Some days you’ll set the bucket down; on others, you’ll carry it with stronger arms. The point is progress—rebuilding self-trust, reclaiming joy, and writing an ending that reflects who you are now. If you’re walking through infidelity, sexual addiction, or the fallout of broken trust, you’re not alone and you’re not “too much.” Press play for grounded guidance, faith-fueled encouragement, and real-world steps you can take today. If this helped you, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs hope, and leave a review so others can find their way through too. Thank you for listening! For more information about us and the services we offer, visit www.hurtmeetshealer.com. Intro & Outro music written, performed, and produced by Kim Capps. This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal, medical, or professional advice. The views expressed by the Host or any Guest(s) are strictly their own and in no way constitute legal, medical, or professional advice. Copyright ©️ 2026, Hurt Meets Healer, LLC. All rights reserved.

    46 min

  8. Feb 16

    Let's Talk About Regrets

    ****Life Unscripted: Our stories, unfiltered. We are walking through life, sharing our stories. If at any point you become triggered by this conversation, please care for yourself. Regret can feel like quicksand after sexual betrayal—pulling you under with shame, second-guessing, and the lie that nothing can change. We open up about the regrets that mattered most, from trusting unsafe people and waiting too long to get help to believing church clichés that sidelined boundaries and protected abuse. Then we pivot to the hard, hopeful work of turning regret into action: setting evidence-based expectations for change, practicing discomfort tolerance, and choosing community over isolation. You’ll hear why “forgive and forget” isn’t a strategy, how “no” can be a complete sentence, and what it looks like to ask for proof of change without apologizing for your needs. We also dig into the inner mechanics of shame—how false agreements like “I am bad” build strongholds—and how to dismantle them with honesty, compassion, and consistent steps in the light. For betrayers, this means moving from vague remorse to measurable responsibility. For betrayed partners, it means radical self-compassion, reality-based acceptance, and boundaries that protect your peace. We name the accountability gaps that sabotage recovery and make a case for groups that actually know this terrain. Real support changes outcomes: a 24/7 call list, weekly groups, and mentors who won’t collude with excuses. If you’re rebuilding after infidelity, this conversation offers practical language, faith-informed wisdom, and a gritty roadmap for healing that doesn’t sugarcoat pain or skip the work. Subscribe, share with someone who needs courage today, and leave a review with the one insight you’ll act on this week. Thank you for listening! For more information about us and the services we offer, visit www.hurtmeetshealer.com. Intro & Outro music written, performed, and produced by Kim Capps. This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal, medical, or professional advice. The views expressed by the Host or any Guest(s) are strictly their own and in no way constitute legal, medical, or professional advice. Copyright ©️ 2026, Hurt Meets Healer, LLC. All rights reserved.

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Hurt people, hurt people. Are you ready to work through the pain of your past? Healing is possible! Join us on our healing journey, a journey to freedom, where you'll get straight truth from genuine people. We use our story and experience to help others walk through the trauma of intimate betrayal. This is raw and real talk from average people who are walking the path of healing. Kim is a Certified Professional Mentor™ through BraveHearts University, and a Certified Christian Life Coach through the Board of Christian Life Coaching.

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  • Creator
    Kim Capps
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    44
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Hurt Meets Healer Podcast
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