Man's Search for Meaning

Ari J. Cohen
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“Man’s Search for Meaning” is a podcast exploring what healthy masculinity consists of, answering questions about what it means to be a man in the 2020s by hosting various guests. Our guests are a variety of extraordinary people who have amazing stories to tell or expertise to share. They are leaders of their field, academians, or educational figures. They have a platform where they inspire and reach people — online and offline. We explore topics around psychology, philosophy, modern-day dating, relationships and self development, as well as to physical and mental health.

Episodes

  1. 10/26/2025

    S02E03: How to 'Get good' with women (It's not what you think)

    Ari tears down the outdated idea of “getting good” with women through a just and honest path to genuine connection. This episode is a guide to turning inward, understanding the roots of self-sabotage, and building a relationship life that’s rooted in values, not surface tricks. Whether you’re frustrated with dating apps, tired of the ghosting and failed relationships, or simply want to stop overthinking about every text you send - this episode gives you the deeper framework to shift from shame and confusion to clarity and confidence. Topics Discussed: Why “getting good with women” is the wrong goal What makes some men naturally magnetic (and why it’s not what you think) The danger of manosphere content and the "high value man" narrative Ari’s early journey in the dating world, the book that started it all and why was it different The 3 essential steps to changing your dating life from the inside out: 1. How to find women who align with your values (and why this matters more than chemistry) 2. Breaking comfort-seeking dating loops that lead to pain 3. Healing inner shame and self-judgment so you can show up fully and freely And then some.... for instance: Why cold approaches and dating apps often reinforce your anxiety The power of “creating a well” - places and communities where connection is natural How to stop being self-conscious by becoming self-aware in a different way 🔗 Resources & Links: Get the FREE training video & guided action plan video course : https://strengthinrelationships.com Support the show: Buy Me a Coffee] / Patreon Contact Ari for a free consultation 💬 Found this helpful? Let me know. Share this episode with a friend who’s ready for something real.

    39 min

  2. 10/18/2025

    S02E02: Comfort Zones

    To support the show: Buy me a cup of coffee Support me on Patrion About my Coaching: Watch my Clients success stories and learn how they did it Get my eBook+Video Course about mastering the ethical dating world Book a free consultation call

    21 min

  3. 10/05/2025

    THE COMBACK: Where I've been, Why I stopped, and what's next for the show

    The show is back after a long hiatus - hopefully for good this time. I feel like I want to provide explanations to why I disappeared... I want to be honest about what happened because burnout, as I've come to see and experience, a real thing. Apart from what has been going on with me personally and professionally, I have many different and exciting things planned for the show. It's important for me to say that I want to do things differently from now on, firstly for myself, but also for my audience. I believe I need to give my best, and I want you all to get it. Here is how you can support the show: Buy me a cup of coffee Support me on Patrion About my coaching: Watch my client's success stories Get my eBook + Video Course about conscious ethical dating Book a free consultation call

    32 min

  4. 12/12/2024

    Episode 7: Johannes Kwella — New Ways of Parenthood, Open Relationships, Alcoholism and Recovery

    Transforming Lives and Legacies: A Conversation with Johannes Kuella In this episode of Man's Search for Meaning, Ari converses with Johannes Kuella, a versatile athlete, coach, and sober alcoholic. Johannes discusses his journey from being an alcoholic to becoming a kettlebell world champion and how he transformed his life by renouncing his fear of loss and speaking his truth. He shares insights into his unique parenting approach, emphasizing emotional safety, connection, and the absence of punishment. Johannes also covers his experiences with open relationships, self-worth challenges, and the transformative power of psychedelics. The episode dives deep into personal growth, effective communication, and the importance of taking responsibility for one's needs. WHERE TO FIND Johannes https://johanneskwella.de/ https://www.youtube.com/user/johanneskwella?themeRefresh=1 https://www.instagram.com/johanneskwella WHERE TO FIND ARI Instagram: @strengthinrelationships https://www. strengthinrelationships.com Apply for 1 on 1 coaching with Ari: https://calendly.com/liftheavygrowbeards/30-min-mano-e-mano-clone-1?month=2024-11 TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction to Johannes Kuella 01:22 Parenting Philosophy and Approach 04:46 Handling Misbehavior and Setting Boundaries 14:42 Living as Co-Parents After Separation 21:54 Navigating Open Relationships 47:44 Struggles with Alcoholism and Seeking Help 55:44 Struggles with Addiction and Therapy 56:51 The Emotional Roots of Addiction 58:42 The Feminine Nature of Alcohol 59:11 Plant Medicine and Alcohol 01:00:35 The Teachings of Don Juan 01:04:10 The Importance of Setting Intentions 01:06:43 Emotional Awareness and Parenting 01:07:40 Breaking Generational Cycles 01:14:48 The Power of Communication 01:24:00 Understanding ADHD and Self-Acceptance 01:37:44 The Role of Psychedelics in Healing 01:47:01 Final Thoughts and Resources

    1h 51m

  5. 12/04/2024

    Episode 6: The Inner Kingdom and the Three Kings

    Understanding Your Inner Kingdom: The Three Archetypal Kings In this solo episode of Man's Search for Meaning, Ari delves into a concept he's been developing over time—the idea of the 'inner kingdom' and the three types of kings that govern it. Using examples from myths, ancient stories, and literature, Ari explains the importance of recognizing and understanding the archetype that rules one's inner realm. He discusses the 'tyrant king', the 'passive king', and the 'benevolent king', showing how each manifests in our thoughts and behaviors. This episode aims to offer listeners new perspectives on their inner rhetoric and how adopting a benevolent king archetype can lead to a flourishing mental state. Ari also touches on the role of myths and archetypal stories in human development and the importance of listening to one's inner intuition or 'still small voice'. Join Ari for a deep dive into better understanding yourself and cultivating a thriving inner kingdom. WHERE TO FIND ARI Instagram: @strengthinrelationships https://www. strengthinrelationships.com Apply for 1 on 1 coaching with Ari: https://calendly.com/liftheavygrowbeards/30-min-mano-e-mano-clone-1?month=2024-11 TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction to the Inner Kingdom 02:47 The Power of Myths and Stories 07:54 Understanding Archetypes 11:09 The Concept of the Inner King 27:57 Exploring the Three Kings 29:18 The Tyrant King 33:37 The Passive King 38:03 The Benevolent King 44:36 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

    47 min

  6. 11/28/2024

    Episode 5: Karlijn Kouwenhoven — Limiting Beliefs and the Power of Vulnerability

    Embracing Vulnerability and Exploring Tantra In this podcast episode, Ari reconnects with a facilitator from a transformative retreat and delves into a deep conversation about vulnerability, intuition, the power of retreats, and the essence of Tantra. They discuss personal experiences, the integration of sexuality and spirituality, understanding and setting boundaries, and the importance of physical safety and honesty in relationships. This episode provides profound insights into balancing head, heart, and sexual energies, and explores the challenges and rewards of being fully present and vulnerable in both personal and professional life. WHERE TO FIND KARLIJN www.withkabira.com  Instagram: @withkabira WHERE TO FIND ARI https://www.instagram.com/strengthinrelationships https://strengthinrelationships.com/ Apply for 1 on 1 coaching with Ari: https://calendly.com/liftheavygrowbeards/30-min-mano-e-mano-clone-1?month=2024-11 TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Reconnecting After the Retreat 03:29 The Power of Intuition 04:09 Facilitating Transformative Retreats 05:44 Facing Vulnerability and Shame 07:38 Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies 13:18 Judgment and Compassion 29:12 Navigating Social Media and Self-Worth 33:41 Understanding and Setting Boundaries 47:20 The Importance of Polarity in Relationships 50:59 Exploring Polarity in Relationships 52:42 The Role of Hormones and Chakras 54:42 Masculine and Feminine Energies 57:17 The Importance of Sexuality and Nudity 59:04 Grounded Masculinity and Honest Communication 01:08:27 Navigating Attraction and Intimidation 01:21:43 Balancing Head, Heart, and Sexuality 01:31:11 Understanding Tantra and Sexuality 01:35:12 Final Thoughts and Advice

    1h 40m

  7. 11/20/2024

    Episode 4: Max Planer - Marriage, Masculinity, Achievement, Purpose & Personal Transformation

    Max Planer's Journey: From Olympic Glory to Personal Mastery In this insightful episode of Man’s Search for Meaning, Ari chats with Max Planer, a former Olympic rower and world champion turned high-performance coach. They bond over their love for personal growth as they dive into topics like marriage, dealing with setbacks, and their spiritual journeys. Max shares his experiences, from his unique wedding to finding himself after his sports career. Join and listen in to this light-hearted conversation, packed with wisdom on relationships, self-improvement, and finding joy in life’s ups and downs. WHERE TO FIND MAX: https://www.instagram.com/maxplaner/ https://maxplaner.com/ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/gamechanger-mindset-eines-weltmeisters/id1486763343 WHERE TO FIND ARI: https://www.instagram.com/strengthinrelationships https://www. strengthinrelationships.com Apply for 1 on 1 coaching with Ari: https://calendly.com/liftheavygrowbeards/30-min-mano-e-mano-clone-1?month=2024-11 TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 Introduction  01:10 Max's Wedding Experience 04:19 Technical Difficulties 🫣 05:26 The Decision to Propose 07:14 Spiritual Journeys and Personal Growth 28:16 The Meaning of Marriage 38:53 Understanding Masculine and Feminine Energy in Relationships 39:13 The Importance of Holding Space 39:33 Reflecting on Past Relationships 40:37 Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies 43:09 The Role of Mission and Purpose in Relationships 43:32 Rediscovering Self-Identity 45:01 Healing and Growth Through Challenges 49:39 Emotional Moments and Reflections 54:24 Overcoming Physical Setbacks 01:15:01 Advice for Men at Rock Bottom 01:17:43 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

    1h 19m

  8. 11/13/2024

    Episode 3: Cari Merriam — Sacred Partnership, Bliss, Masculine and Feminine Energies

    In this episode, Ari engages in a conversation with his friend and transformational thought leader Cari Merriam. Cari shares her insights as a yoga and meditation teacher, breathwork healer, and coach with over 14 years of experience. The discussion delves into dating, spirituality, masculine and feminine energies, and personal development.  Ari and Cari explore the dynamics of empowered individuals in relationships, addressing the concepts of inner King and Queen energies, Cari’s path to empowerment, and the importance of clarity and communication in fostering meaningful connections. Listeners will gain valuable wisdom on navigating emotional landscapes and maintaining healthy, fulfilling relationships. --- Where to find Cari: https://www.instagram.com/cari_merriam/?hl=en https://www.carimerriam.com/ Where to find Ari: https://www.instagram.com/strengthinrelationships/ ---- 00:00 Introduction to Cari Merriam 01:26 Starting the Conversation 02:12 Balancing Personal and Professional Life 04:47 Masculine and Feminine Dynamics 14:43 Navigating Emotional Triggers 19:51 Cari's Journey to Coaching 28:00 Following the Breadcrumbs of Bliss 35:43 Empowered Women and Inner Archetypes 43:46 Breaking the Cycle: Starting with the Masculine 44:15 Intellectual Understanding and Awareness 46:25 Inner Prince vs. Inner King Behaviors 49:09 Dating Dynamics and Attachment Patterns 51:48 Clarity and Communication in Relationships 59:59 Providership and Masculine Leadership 01:05:33 Effective Communication in Dating 01:17:35 Advice for Men Feeling Lost 01:19:33 Connecting with Carrie 01:22:52 Final Thoughts and Farewell

    1h 24m

  9. 11/06/2024

    Episode 2: Emanuel Pescari - Humility, Faith, Family & Resilience

    Ari engages in an insightful conversation with Emmanuel Pascari, a two-time strongman world champion. Emmanuel discusses various topics including religion, family, relationships, his strongman career, and coping with injuries. He emphasizes the importance of humility, kindness, and faith in his life and career. Emmanuel provides thoughtful perspectives on dealing with setbacks and maintaining a positive outlook. This episode offers valuable lessons on balancing personal ambition with humility and finding meaning through service to others. Where to find Ari: https://www.instagram.com/strengthinrelationships Where to find Emanuel: https://www.instagram.com/emanuelpescari 00:00 Introduction to Emmanuel Pascari 01:29 The Importance of Humility and Kindness 05:19 Balancing Kindness and Self-Respect 10:51 Finding Meaning Through Faith 27:05 Lessons from a Failed Marriage 43:59 Navigating Relationship Challenges 45:36 Christianity vs. Judaism: A Comparative Insight 46:36 The Complexity of Religious Dogma 47:37 Breaking Free from Dogma 50:52 Introduction to Strongman 52:12 Journey to Strength: Early Beginnings 59:18 Overcoming Health Challenges 01:01:05 The Importance of Mental Health 01:07:05 Returning to Competition 01:08:44 Dealing with Injuries and Setbacks 01:19:58 Finding Purpose and Moving Forward 01:23:15 Conclusion and Reflections

    1h 26m

  10. 10/31/2024

    Episode 1: About the Podcast, Guests, Consciousness & Psychology of the Sun

    What does it mean to be a man in the 2020s? Welcome to Man’s Search for Meaning, a podcast dedicated to exploring the true essence of healthy masculinity in the modern age. Join Ari as he sits down with extraordinary guests—leaders in their fields, educators, and inspiring voices who share their unique stories and insights. In the first episode, Ari gives you a glimpse of the journey ahead and the topics he will dive into — from psychology, philosophy, relationships, and self-development to mental and physical health. Today specifically will be a little “promo” to the rest of the podcast: what’s coming, who will be coming on, what to expect… and sprinkled with a little bit of wisdom from Ari’s latest learnings. Join us if you're a person seeking inspiration, growth, a deeper understanding of self, better relationships or a deeper dating experience! --- 00:00-03:20 - Introduction 3:20- 7:55 - Who is this podcast for? 7:55-9:35 - who will be on the podcast? 9:41 - consciousness and the course of the sun 19:17 - Problems, Trauma and neuroticism 21:38 - How to solve our problems 26:59 - Summary

    29 min

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    Coming Soon!

    What does it mean to be a man in the 2020s? Welcome to Man’s Search for Meaning, a podcast dedicated to exploring the true essence of healthy masculinity in the modern age. Join us Ari as he sits down with extraordinary guests—leaders in their fields, educators, and inspiring voices who share their unique stories and insights. In this trailer, Ari gives you a glimpse of the journey ahead and the topics he will dive into — from psychology, philosophy, relationships, and self-development to mental and physical health. If you're seeking inspiration, growth, and a deeper understanding of yourself, this podcast is for you. Tune in and start your search for meaning with us!

    2 min

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“Man’s Search for Meaning” is a podcast exploring what healthy masculinity consists of, answering questions about what it means to be a man in the 2020s by hosting various guests. Our guests are a variety of extraordinary people who have amazing stories to tell or expertise to share. They are leaders of their field, academians, or educational figures. They have a platform where they inspire and reach people — online and offline. We explore topics around psychology, philosophy, modern-day dating, relationships and self development, as well as to physical and mental health.

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  • Creator
    Ari J. Cohen
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2025
  • Episodes
    11
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Ari J. Cohen
  • Show Website
    Man's Search for Meaning