The Sex After Kids Podcast

Sofia Ashley
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Add more play to your couple connection and get back into the bedroom for more frequent and more satisfying naked sexy fun time after kids. 

  1. 11H AGO

    [RETRO] Ready for More Fun, Play, and Connection? An Invitation to My Signature Program!

    Send a text Why does sex after kids suddenly feel so complicated? Many couples fall into a quiet pattern after becoming parents: one partner keeps initiating, the other starts avoiding, and both end up feeling rejected, pressured, or disconnected. Over time flirting disappears, intimacy becomes tense, and sex slowly fades out of the relationship. In this throwback episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast, we unpack one of the most common dynamics couples experience after kids: the initiate–avoid cycle. You'll learn why this pattern happens, why most advice about desire doesn't actually work for parents, and how couples can start rebuilding connection in a way that fits real life with kids. In this episode we talk about: • The initiate–avoid cycle that quietly shuts down desire in long-term relationships • Why having kids is often the first major stress test for a couple's sex life • How pressure, rejection, and miscommunication keep couples stuck • Small shifts that help couples move from avoidance back into connection • How to create a positive feedback loop where intimacy starts to feel easy again If your relationship feels stuck in a dry spell, or intimacy has started to feel awkward or tense, this conversation will help you understand what's actually happening underneath the surface. Sex after kids doesn't disappear because you're broken. It usually disappears because no one ever taught you the skills that help intimacy survive big life transitions. The good news: those skills can absolutely be learned. Watch the free masterclass: The Pressure Free Protocol: How to Have Easy Playful Sex Again (Even in Survival Mode) https://intimacyafterkids.com/masterclass

    28 min

  2. MAR 3

    [RETRO EPISODE] 5 Ways S****y Sex-ed is Messing With Your Sex Life Post Kids

    Send a text In this throwback episode of the 'Sex After Kids' podcast, I delve into the significance of sex education and its lasting effects on adult sex lives, particularly after having children. We cover several key points, including the failure of sex education to address pleasure, the importance of self pleasure, the need for detailed anatomical knowledge, and the impact of societal shame on sexual well-being.  Go from not tonight to let's stay up late for less than a latte. Sign up now: https://intimacyafterkids.com/roommates-to-romance Get my 14 day challenge to bring back the romance after kids.

    34 min

  3. FEB 24

    Stop Fumbling in the Dark: Sex After Kids & Perimenopause (Low Desire, Arousal Changes & Intimacy After Kids)

    Send a text If sex after kids feels confusing, inconsistent, or like your body just isn't responding the way it used to — you're not broken. Many women experience low desire, slower arousal, discomfort during sex, or a loss of libido during perimenopause and after having children. But most couples aren't taught how intimacy changes during this stage of life — so they assume something is wrong with the relationship. In this episode, we talk about what's actually happening with desire, arousal, and intimacy after kids and during perimenopause — and how to stop fumbling in the dark. You'll learn: Why libido and arousal change after kids and in perimenopauseThe difference between spontaneous desire and responsive desireHow "Gold Dates" vs. "Data Dates" can reduce pressure around sexHow to use Pleasure Mapping to rebuild intimacy without performanceThe biggest mistake couples make when trying to "fix" low desireHow expanding your definition of sex increases connection and pleasureIf you're navigating low libido, mismatched desire, painful sex, or emotional distance after kids — this episode will help you understand what’s happening and what to do next. And if you're ready to move from understanding to practice, you can grab the Colour Me Curious workshop replay for $27 (limited-time). Inside the workshop, you'll get: Guided Pleasure Mapping exercisesCommunication scripts for talking about sex without blamePre-date tools to reduce anxietyA structured framework for rebuilding intimacy after kids and during perimenopauseInstead of guessing, you'll have a clear starting point. Grab Colour Me Curious here: Colour Me Curious Your sex life doesn't need more pressure. It needs better information — and a safer way to explore together.

    20 min

  4. FEB 17

    How to Want Sex Again in Perimenopause — Without Forcing Yourself

    Send a text If sex feels like a chore in your 40s or 50s, you're not broken. In this episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast, we're unpacking why desire disappears during perimenopause — even when love hasn't — and how to reconnect with intimacy without pushing through pain or guilt. You'll learn: How hormone shifts impact desire, arousal, and lubricationWhy stress and mental load can shut pleasure downThe "stress-sex loop" that makes everything harder (literally and emotionally)How orgasm can support your health — when it's actually wantedThe one shift that helped me move out of a six-month dry spellWhether you're feeling disconnected from your sex drive, worried sex will hurt, or supporting a partner through these changes — this episode is for you. Grab the Colour Me Curious: The Playful Pleasure Map HERE! Check out the Masterclass HERE If this episode resonates, tap follow and leave a review — and share it with someone who needs to hear: You are not broken. Your body is changing. And you still deserve pleasure.

    28 min

  5. FEB 10

    What Really Changes "Down There" After Childbirth and Menopause

    Send a text Why does sex feel different after having kids — or in perimenopause and midlife? Flatter, harder, painful, or just... off? You're not broken. And your body isn't failing you. In this episode, we talk about what actually happens to your body, brain, and nervous system after childbirth, postpartum, and hormonal shifts — and how to start rebuilding intimacy, even if things feel disconnected. You'll learn: Why most of us never learned how our pleasure actually worksWhat changes physically and hormonally after birth and during perimenopauseWhy "low libido" is often about pressure — not desireHow performance anxiety and rushed sex shut pleasure downA simple, no-pressure experiment to start rebuilding intimacyThe difference between knowing anatomy vs. having a real relationship with your bodyThis is for people with vulvas, penises, and couples of all genders who feel out of sync with their body — or with each other — after having kids. Sex doesn't stop working because you're doing something wrong. It stops working when the old rules no longer fit your life (or nervous system). Join the live workshop: Colour Me Curious Explore your body, talk about it with your partner, and rebuild pleasure step by step. Come solo or with a partner. Replay included. Grab it here!

    18 min

  6. FEB 3

    Stop Being Quiet in Bed — It's Weird (Here's Why Perfection Kills Pleasure)

    Send a text What if the biggest mood killer in your sex life isn't lack of desire, time, or chemistry—but the pressure to be perfect? In this episode, we're digging into why chasing "perfect sex" actually leads to more awkwardness, less connection, and way less fun. Plus, how to shift from performance mode into curiosity and communication. We cover: Why performance anxiety shows up even in long-term relationshipsHow to talk during sex without killing the vibeWhy perfectionism quietly shuts down pleasureWhat it really means to treat sex like a team sportEasy, in-the-moment ways to speak up and stay connectedIf sex has started to feel tense, rushed, or like you're just guessing, this episode will help you breathe again. Plus, I share what my partner and I are experimenting with right now, and why giving feedback in bed is a green flag, not a red one. Valentine's Day Workshop – Color Me Curious  Join me live on February 14 for a playful, pressure-free workshop where you'll learn: How to shift from parent mode to lover modeThe anatomy lesson you missed in schoolA simple way to practice sexual feedbackHow to stop relying on mind reading and start creating crave-worthy sex$27 | Live + Replay Included. GRAB IT HERE Sex doesn't get better by trying harder. It gets better when you get curious.

    22 min

  7. JAN 27

    You're Secretly Sabotaging Your Sex Life (And You Don't Even Know It)

    Send a text Welcome to Season 2! We're kicking things off with a hard truth: If sex feels awkward, disconnected, or just plain off, you might be sabotaging your own sex life without realizing it. In this episode, I'm sharing three traps that quietly kill intimacy — even in the most loving relationships — and what you can do to turn things around. We'll talk about: Why "special occasion sex" backfiresThe performance mindset that ruins the momentThe myth of instant arousalWhy mind reading is not a turn-on (spoiler: communication is) Plus, I've got details for my LIVE Valentine's Day Workshop coming up on February 14. It's just $27, with two time slots to choose from. No pressure. No awkward moments. Just a playful, private way to reconnect — solo or with your partner. Save your spot here: https://intimacyafterkids.com/colour-me-curious Subscribe to the show for weekly conversations about intimacy, confidence, and real-life sex without the shame.

    29 min

  8. JAN 20

    Season Preview: Make 2026 Your Best Year Together

    Send a text Is your relationship feeling more like roommates than romantic partners? You're not alone—and you're not stuck. In this episode, I'm walking you through the proven framework that's helping couples reconnect and rebuild intimacy in a real, practical way. We'll talk about: The four phases of intimacy every couple experiencesWhy sex after kids matters more than you think — for your whole familyHow to break out of frustration and get back to each otherThis is the episode for you if you're craving honest conversations, clear steps, and a renewed connection with your partner in 2026. 💌 Want early access to my Valentine’s Day offer?  Join the list here → https://intimacyafterkids.com/ Got thoughts or questions about this episode? I’d love to hear from you. Shoot me a message or tag me on Instagram @Intimacyafterkids

    23 min
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Add more play to your couple connection and get back into the bedroom for more frequent and more satisfying naked sexy fun time after kids. 

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  • Creator
    Sofia Ashley
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    71
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 The Sex After Kids Podcast
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    The Sex After Kids Podcast

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