The Sex After Kids Podcast

Sofia Ashley
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Add more play to your couple connection and get back into the bedroom for more frequent and more satisfying naked sexy fun time after kids. 

  1. 3d ago

     You Cannot Change What You Cannot Talk About

    Send us Fan Mail You love each other, you’re committed to each other and there are still things you’re both quietly not saying. The frustration you swallow. The need you decide isn’t worth bringing up. The disappointing sex you pretend was fine because talking about it somehow feels harder than just moving on. But if it stays silent, it stays stuck. In this episode, I’m sharing an excerpt from The Naked Fun Comeback (my signature program for couples) about one of the biggest shifts I see couples make: learning how to talk about hard things without the conversation immediately turning into blame, defensiveness, shutting down, or another argument that goes absolutely nowhere. We’ll dig into why these conversations can feel so risky, the difference between trying to win and trying to understand each other, and a four-step communication framework you can use to say what’s actually going on without putting your partner immediately on the defensive. You’ll learn: Why keeping the peace can slowly cost you connectionWhat happens when one partner fights to be heard while the other shuts down or people-pleasesThe four steps of Nonviolent CommunicationWhy “I feel ignored” isn’t actually a feelingHow to find the real need underneath the argument you keep havingWhat it can sound like to bring up something hard without making your partner the problemThe goal of a hard conversation isn’t necessarily to agree or even solve everything right away, it’s to understand each other better than you did before you started and every time you learn how to share yourself honestly and stay to hear your partner honestly, you’re not only getting in the way of intimacy, you’re creating it. Ready to get off the merry-go-round of avoidance? Book a 30-minute Spark Session with me — we’ll look at what’s keeping you stuck in patterns of avoidance and map out your next steps toward connection and sex that feel playful, easy, and alive again. BOOK YOUR SPARK SESSION → www.intimacyafterkids.com/calendar?utm_source=the-sex-after-kids-podcast&utm_medium=podcast&utm_term=episode-100&utm_content=&utm_campaign=spark-session Connect with me: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/intimacyafterkids/

     You Cannot Change What You Cannot Talk About

  2. Aug 25

    Why Your Great Relationship Isn't Fixing Your Sex Life

    Send us Fan Mail If you've ever thought, "We're best friends... so why is our sex life still struggling?" this episode is for you. Many couples assume that a strong relationship should naturally lead to a great sex life. But what if being close emotionally isn't the same as knowing how to create desire, connection, and fulfilling intimacy? In this episode, we unpack why so many happy, loving couples still struggle with sex. We talk about the hidden patterns that keep couples stuck, why date nights and hormone tests often don't solve the problem, and the truth that almost nobody is taught the skills needed for a healthy, satisfying sex life. You'll learn why your relationship isn't broken, why your body probably isn't the problem, and how learning new relationship and intimacy skills can change everything. If you're in a long-term relationship, married, or navigating intimacy after kids, this conversation will help you understand why you're stuck and what you can do next. Join the Naked Fun Comeback waitlist to be the first to hear when doors open for the October cohort and receive exclusive bonuses and early-bird pricing. https://intimacyafterkids.com/comeback-waitlist Connect with me: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/intimacyafterkids/

    Why Your Great Relationship Isn't Fixing Your Sex Life

  3. Aug 18

    You Think My Marriage Is Different. It's Not.

    Send us Fan Mail Is marriage after kids harder than you expected? You're not alone. In this episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast, I share the honest story of what our marriage looked like after becoming parents. We've experienced resentment, therapy, sleepless nights, postpartum struggles, the mental load, and moments where I questioned whether we'd make it. I talk about what actually helped us move through those difficult seasons, from changing how we handled the mental load to learning how to communicate better, reconnect emotionally, and approach our relationship as a team instead of opponents. Whether you're navigating postpartum marriage, relationship struggles after kids, low libido after children, or simply trying to reconnect with your partner, I hope this conversation reminds you that you're not alone. Ready to reconnect with your partner? The next round of The Naked Fun Comeback starts this October. Join the waitlist below to be the first to hear when doors open. https://intimacyafterkids.com/comeback-waitlist Connect with me: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/intimacyafterkids/

    You Think My Marriage Is Different. It's Not.

  4. Aug 11

    Why waiting for your sex drive to come back is the hard way to a fun flirty relationship after kids

    Send us Fan Mail In this episode Sofia explores why so many women are just "waiting for their sex drive to come back online" to have a better sex life. She explores why this thinking is the hard way back to a fun and flirty relationship and what couples who have a thriving sex life after kids do instead. She shares dispatches from her bedroom to illustrate how tuning into intention instead of desire, turning stop signs into yield signs in your body, and communicating playfully can get you back to the sex you crave after children. Whether you're navigating postpartum marriage, relationship struggles after kids, low libido after children, or simply trying to reconnect with your partner, I hope this conversation reminds you that you're not alone. Ready to reconnect with your partner? The next round of The Naked Fun Comeback starts this October. Join the waitlist below to be the first to hear when doors open. https://intimacyafterkids.com/comeback-waitlist Connect with me: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/intimacyafterkids/

    Why waiting for your sex drive to come back is the hard way to a fun flirty relationship after kids

  5. Aug 4

    10 Years and 3 kids later my libido was on ice

    Send us Fan Mail From missmatched libidos and pelvic floors, to sexual fantasy and communication skills - your host Sofia Ashley - certified sex coach and educator - will walk you through her thoughts on it all in these solo (for now) episodes. Today I introduce myself and give you the DL on my 10 year relationship and how my sex life has evolved throughout. Grab a cup of tea, and maybe some earbuds and let's get acquainted.  00:00 The Conversation You Are Avoiding 00:09 Navigating Tough Seasons 00:11 Staying Connected Through the Early Years 00:16 Emerging Together Stronger _______________ Add more play to your couple connection and get back into the bedroom for more frequent and more satisfying naked sexy fun time after kids.  https://intimacyafterkids.com/comeback-waitlist Host Sofia Ashley, founder of the Happy Vagina Project, Certified Sex Coach and Sex Educator, brings you one part science of sex, one part magic, and one part real talk to tackle everything from miss matched libidos and lacklustre sex after kids. Whether you adopted, joined a blended family, or made a kid in your body we'll explore the ups and downs and the detours of trying to keep your sex life alive in the chaos of parenting.  Sofia is a mom of two and step mom of one living a neurospicy household in Yukon, Canada on the Traditional territories of the Kwanlin Dün First Nation and the Ta'an Kwäch'än Council where she is grateful to live and play with her hubby and kiddos.

    10 Years and 3 kids later my libido was on ice

  6. Jul 28

    Sexless Marriage: How to Save Your Relationship Before Divorce

    Send us Fan Mail Let’s just put it out there: If you’re in a sexless marriage, you’ve probably had at least one “Would this just be easier if we split up?” moment. Maybe you’ve even daydreamed about a solo life—until you remember that modern dating sounds absolutely exhausting. (No, thank you!) If you’re even flirting with the D-word—even in your head—this episode is for you. Because keeping those worries secret just makes things worse, and you are NOT alone. Join Sofia as she busts myths, calls out the mistakes that keep couples stuck, and shares the real, courageous steps that can bring you back from the edge—before it’s too late. Timestamps & What You’ll Learn: 00:00 — Introduction 01:14 — Addressing Sexless Marriage Struggles 02:34 — Debunking the Myth of Dead Bedrooms After Kids 05:31 — Common Pitfalls in Sexless Marriages 10:59 — Solutions and Steps Forward 14:12 — Closing and Resources Helpful Links: Book a free Spark SessionSolve Your Sex Drive QuizFollow Sofia on InstagramMore episodes of Sex After Kids PodcastDrop your story or questions in the comments. You are not broken, and your marriage is worth fighting for.

    Sexless Marriage: How to Save Your Relationship Before Divorce

  7. Jul 21

    Foreplay Games for Couples: Playful Ways to Get Out of the Roommate Rut After Kids - Especially when it’s been a while

    Send us Fan Mail Feeling awkward about intimacy after kids, or stuck in the “roommate rut?” You’re not alone. In this episode, I share why foreplay (and the “pre-game” before it) is the real secret to rekindling connection—and how to make it feel safe, pressure-free, and fun (especially for the lower libido partner). What we cover: 01:06 — Rethinking Foreplay & Getting Started Again 02:11 — Zero Pressure: The Key to Connection 02:36 — Pre-Foreplay: Building Safety & Trust 03:25 — The Pre-Game: Flirty Connection & Melting Defenses 03:57 — Pressure-Free Scenarios: Massage Examples 06:30 — The Impact of No Pressure & Openness 07:27 — Playful Possibility: Fun Ways to Bring Back Foreplay 08:49 — Anticipation & Pre-Game for Scheduled Sex 09:42 — Building Up to No Pressure Sexy Connection 10:15 — Opening the Door to Libido & Support Offers Links & Resources: Start the Roommates to Romance Challenge Follow Sofia on Instagram More episodes of Sex After Kids Podcast Drop a comment below with your favourite foreplay rituals or questions! And don’t forget to subscribe for more real, sassy support on sex, intimacy, and pleasure after kids.

    Foreplay Games for Couples: Playful Ways to Get Out of the Roommate Rut After Kids - Especially when it’s been a while

  8. Jul 14

    The Four Secret Ingredients for a Fab Sex Life - After Kids

    Send us Fan Mail In this episode of the Sex After Kids podcast, we explore the four secret ingredients essential for a fulfilling sex life post-parenthood. Listen in to find out what the nervous system, communication, your relationship to pleasure and your mindset have to do with reclaiming your sex life after kids.  00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:37 Setting the Stage with 'Easy' 07:24 The Naked Sexy Fun Times Cycle 14:43 Four Core Ingredients for a Fantastic Sex Life 15:10 Nervous System: The First Ingredient 19:50 Communication: The Second Ingredient 21:53 Relationship to Pleasure: The Third Ingredient 26:41 Mindset: The Fourth Ingredient 29:16 Recap and Final Thoughts

    The Four Secret Ingredients for a Fab Sex Life - After Kids
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Add more play to your couple connection and get back into the bedroom for more frequent and more satisfying naked sexy fun time after kids. 

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  • Creator
    Sofia Ashley
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    95
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 The Sex After Kids Podcast
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