The Sex After Kids Podcast

Sofia Ashley
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Add more play to your couple connection and get back into the bedroom for more frequent and more satisfying naked sexy fun time after kids. 

  1. 13h ago

    How I went from hating swimming to being a swimmer and what that has to do with sex

    Send us Fan Mail I used to hate swimming. Today, I leave the pool feeling stretched out and pain free. I used to dread sex. Last night, I had three orgasms. What happened? In today’s episode, I talk about the six things learning to become a swimmer has in common with how I learned to enjoy sex. If you’re on the Merry-Go-Round of Avoidance, think you just aren’t that sexual a person anymore, or struggle with sex (or your partner does), this episode is for you. Book a free spark session right here and let's get you on the path to the sex that feels fun and easy for you both.

  2. Oct 27

    What is Dearmouring - Finding Your Orgasm and Beyond

    Send us Fan Mail Given up trying to help your partner orgasm? Feel like your own orgasms are a “heavy sneeze” when there’s supposed to be so much more? Friend, your body might not be broken. It might be armoured up. In this episode, inspired by a question from the DMs, I finally talk about dearmouring as a term you can get familiar with: where it comes from, what armour actually is, the dead giveaways that you’ve got some, and why your armour deserves a thank-you before it gets melted. Plus I take you into my own bedroom (and my pelvic floor physio’s office) to show you what dearmouring looks like in real life, brain gremlins and all. In this episode: Where the term dearmouring comes fromWhat armour is, and how it ends up in the bodyPain, numbness, and irritation: the signs you’re armoured upWhy you need to stop fighting your bodyA real-life example of dearmouring in actionHearing yourself (or your partner) in this? Book a free Spark Session and tell me you want to talk about dearmouring.  Links to check out: - Sex As Medicine Podcast with Devi Ward - Rahi Chun - Dearmouring

    What is Dearmouring - Finding Your Orgasm and Beyond

  3. Oct 20

    The 5 Questions I Would Ask You If You Wanted to Fix Your Sex Life

    Send us Fan Mail If you sat down for a cup of coffee with me and said, “Sofia, fix our sex life,” you might expect me to start by asking how often you’re having sex, who initiates, or what exactly is happening in your bedroom. I actually don’t start there. In this episode, I share the five questions I ask every couple I work with. They’re probably not what you expect, and they tell me everything I need to know about the sex you’re having, how often you’re having it, and why you’re stuck. I’ll invite you to answer them for yourself, so grab a coffee and get a little honest with yourself. And I want you to notice what isn’t on the list. If you’re tired of having the same conversation over and over and getting nowhere, book a free, no-obligation Spark Session. Find us on Instagram: @intimacyafterkids [check handle]  Website: www.intimacyafterkids.com

    The 5 Questions I Would Ask You If You Wanted to Fix Your Sex Life

  4. Oct 13

    2 Years In: What I Hear From Listeners and Clients the Most

    Send us Fan Mail Two years of the Sex After Kids Podcast! To celebrate, I'm sharing what I hear most often from both higher libido and lower libido partners in my DMs, on enrollment calls and in client sessions, and the surprising gap between what each of you thinks the other wants. (Hint: the most common "win" I hear isn't more sex.) Then we explore a different kind of question - What if your partner isn't asking you to force yourself to want sex? What if they're asking you to open the box called sexuality that's sitting next to you, and look inside with curiosity instead of fear? In this episode: What higher libido partners actually say would feel like a winWhat lower libido partners wish their partners knewWhy one partner's box is wide open and the other's is wrapped in barbed wireThe five dimensions of human sexuality: biology, intimacy, identity, sensuality and sexualizationWhy most of us go to the buffet and eat the same thing every single timeMentioned in this episode: Naomi Wolf, Vagina: A New BiographySheri Winston, Women's Anatomy of ArousalCharlie Glickman, The Ultimate Guide to Prostate PleasureMy interview with Dan Purcell, verify spelling on the five stages of your sexual relationshipMy sensuality episode from the Naked Fun Comeback lessons Last week's episode on why your body has never really been your own If it’s time to open your sex box maybe for the first time ever, or maybe again, so you can experience sex that feels light, fun and playful again - book a private Spark Session. Totally free, no obligation, come solo or with your partner. You’ll leave with a customized game plan and we’ll see if working together is the right fit for you.

    2 Years In: What I Hear From Listeners and Clients the Most

  5. Sep 29

    Intimacy Is a Team Sport

    Send us Fan Mail For many women, their relationship with sex was complicated long before kids entered the picture—or before they met their current partner. In this episode, Sofia explores how cultural messages, fertility challenges, birth, past sexual experiences and years of feeling disconnected from the body can shape a woman’s experience of intimacy. She also explains why rebuilding that relationship cannot fall entirely on one person. You’ll hear: Why sex can feel easy and uncomplicated for one partner but overwhelming for the otherHow the body holds onto experiences of pressure, pain and disconnectionWhat partners can take responsibility for without spiralling into shameHow small, pressure-free experiences create new evidence that intimacy can feel safe, playful and connectedWhy intimacy gets better when both partners are willing to learn a new way forwardBecause intimacy is a team sport—and creating a sex life that feels good for both of you requires both people to participate. Ready to understand what’s keeping you stuck in the merry-go-round of avoidance? Book a 30-minute Spark Session with Sofia to uncover the root causes and map your next steps back to playful, easy connection and sex.

    Intimacy Is a Team Sport

  6. Sep 22

    The Small Skill That Makes the Sexy Stuff Work

    Send us Fan Mail When you finally get a moment to yourself, do you choose something that fills you up or something that helps you check out? In this episode, Sofia explores the difference between genuine pleasure, quick gratification and everyday dissociation. She breaks down how chronic stress disconnects us from our bodies, why pleasure can feel surprisingly difficult to access and how small moments of joy can help regulate the nervous system. You’ll learn about four forms of pleasure: emotional, physical, spiritual and sexual, and why building your capacity for pleasure outside the bedroom supports desire and connection inside it. Sofia also introduces the 5% More Principle, a simple practice for making everyday life slightly more pleasurable. Put music on while you cook. Sit in the sun while you eat lunch. Choose play when bedtime starts testing every last nerve. These choices may look small, but they build the skills underneath satisfying intimacy: noticing what you want, giving yourself permission to want it and communicating it to someone else. If you’re ready to understand what’s keeping you and your partner stuck in avoidance, book a 30-minute Spark Session with Sofia at intimacyafterkids.com.

    The Small Skill That Makes the Sexy Stuff Work

  7. Sep 15

    The 5 Stages of Your Sexual Relationship with Dan Purcell

    Send us Fan Mail What if the best sex of your life is still ahead of you? In this episode, Sofia revisits a favourite conversation from the Sex After Kids Summit with Dan Purcell, founder of Get Your Marriage On. Together, they explore the five stages a sexual relationship can move through, from the excitement of newness and the reality of maintenance sex to novelty, deeper meaning and complete surrender. They talk about why having kids can shake couples out of sexual complacency, how to recognize the season you’re currently in and why maintenance sex doesn’t have to become your forever. In this episode: The five stages of a sexual relationshipWhy routines form and how couples get stuck in themWhen maintenance sex works and when it stops workingBringing novelty back into a long-term relationshipCreating deeper, more vulnerable sexual connectionWhy sex can become better and more meaningful with ageBuilding a private space for fun, play and pleasure within your relationshipYour sex life will change as your relationship, family and bodies change. That evolution doesn’t mean the best is behind you. With curiosity, new skills and a willingness to keep choosing each other, it may still be ahead. Want help getting off the merry-go-round of pressure, rejection and avoidance? Book a Spark Session with Sofia to uncover what’s keeping you stuck and map your next steps toward playful, easy connection. Learn more at intimacyafterkids.com https://r.dateyourspouse.com/sofia

    The 5 Stages of Your Sexual Relationship with Dan Purcell

  8. Sep 9

    How To Go From Folding Laundry To A Yes

    Send us Fan Mail Most parents can’t go from dishes, deadlines and daycare pickup brain to feeling sexy with the flip of a switch. There is no switch. There’s a bridge. In this episode, Sofia explores the art of the transition: how couples can move out of regular-life mode and into connection, pleasure and play without waiting for spontaneous desire or forcing themselves to push through. You’ll learn: Why waiting for your libido to magically return can keep you stuckThe difference between making an intentional choice and forcing yourselfHow to work with the yellow-light “maybe” zoneWhy a 15-minute cuddle can still be a successful night of connectionHow positive experiences create a breadcrumb trail back to intimacyWhat it looks like to interrupt a negative sexual experienceHow honouring your body’s limits rebuilds self-trustWhy receiving your partner’s boundaries with grace can create more room for future yesesHow higher- and lower-desire partners can build trust togetherGreat sex in a long-term relationship isn’t built by waiting until you’re both spontaneously ready. It grows when you create the conditions for safe connection, listen to what your bodies are telling you and stay curious about what each moment has available. If you’re ready to get off the merry-go-round of avoidance and find your way back to playful, easy connection, book a 30-minute Spark Session with Sofia. Together, you’ll uncover what’s keeping you stuck and map your next steps forward. BOOK YOUR SPARK SESSION → www.intimacyafterkids.com/calendar?utm_source=the-sex-after-kids-podcast&utm_medium=podcast&utm_term=episode-91&utm_content=&utm_campaign=spark-session Connect with Sofia: Instagram and Facebook: @IntimacyAfterKids Website: intimacyafterkids.com

    How To Go From Folding Laundry To A Yes
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Add more play to your couple connection and get back into the bedroom for more frequent and more satisfying naked sexy fun time after kids. 

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  • Creator
    Sofia Ashley
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    103
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 The Sex After Kids Podcast
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    The Sex After Kids Podcast

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