The Sex After Kids Podcast

Sofia Ashley
  • 4.4 (7)
  • Sexuality
  • Updated Weekly

Add more play to your couple connection and get back into the bedroom for more frequent and more satisfying naked sexy fun time after kids. 

  1. 2d ago

    The Small Skill That Makes the Sexy Stuff Work

    Send us Fan Mail When you finally get a moment to yourself, do you choose something that fills you up or something that helps you check out? In this episode, Sofia explores the difference between genuine pleasure, quick gratification and everyday dissociation. She breaks down how chronic stress disconnects us from our bodies, why pleasure can feel surprisingly difficult to access and how small moments of joy can help regulate the nervous system. You’ll learn about four forms of pleasure: emotional, physical, spiritual and sexual, and why building your capacity for pleasure outside the bedroom supports desire and connection inside it. Sofia also introduces the 5% More Principle, a simple practice for making everyday life slightly more pleasurable. Put music on while you cook. Sit in the sun while you eat lunch. Choose play when bedtime starts testing every last nerve. These choices may look small, but they build the skills underneath satisfying intimacy: noticing what you want, giving yourself permission to want it and communicating it to someone else. If you’re ready to understand what’s keeping you and your partner stuck in avoidance, book a 30-minute Spark Session with Sofia at intimacyafterkids.com.

    The Small Skill That Makes the Sexy Stuff Work

  2. Sep 15

    The 5 Stages of Your Sexual Relationship with Dan Purcell

    Send us Fan Mail What if the best sex of your life is still ahead of you? In this episode, Sofia revisits a favourite conversation from the Sex After Kids Summit with Dan Purcell, founder of Get Your Marriage On. Together, they explore the five stages a sexual relationship can move through, from the excitement of newness and the reality of maintenance sex to novelty, deeper meaning and complete surrender. They talk about why having kids can shake couples out of sexual complacency, how to recognize the season you’re currently in and why maintenance sex doesn’t have to become your forever. In this episode: The five stages of a sexual relationshipWhy routines form and how couples get stuck in themWhen maintenance sex works and when it stops workingBringing novelty back into a long-term relationshipCreating deeper, more vulnerable sexual connectionWhy sex can become better and more meaningful with ageBuilding a private space for fun, play and pleasure within your relationshipYour sex life will change as your relationship, family and bodies change. That evolution doesn’t mean the best is behind you. With curiosity, new skills and a willingness to keep choosing each other, it may still be ahead. Want help getting off the merry-go-round of pressure, rejection and avoidance? Book a Spark Session with Sofia to uncover what’s keeping you stuck and map your next steps toward playful, easy connection. Learn more at intimacyafterkids.com https://r.dateyourspouse.com/sofia

    The 5 Stages of Your Sexual Relationship with Dan Purcell

  3. Sep 9

    How To Go From Folding Laundry To A Yes

    Send us Fan Mail Most parents can’t go from dishes, deadlines and daycare pickup brain to feeling sexy with the flip of a switch. There is no switch. There’s a bridge. In this episode, Sofia explores the art of the transition: how couples can move out of regular-life mode and into connection, pleasure and play without waiting for spontaneous desire or forcing themselves to push through. You’ll learn: Why waiting for your libido to magically return can keep you stuckThe difference between making an intentional choice and forcing yourselfHow to work with the yellow-light “maybe” zoneWhy a 15-minute cuddle can still be a successful night of connectionHow positive experiences create a breadcrumb trail back to intimacyWhat it looks like to interrupt a negative sexual experienceHow honouring your body’s limits rebuilds self-trustWhy receiving your partner’s boundaries with grace can create more room for future yesesHow higher- and lower-desire partners can build trust togetherGreat sex in a long-term relationship isn’t built by waiting until you’re both spontaneously ready. It grows when you create the conditions for safe connection, listen to what your bodies are telling you and stay curious about what each moment has available. If you’re ready to get off the merry-go-round of avoidance and find your way back to playful, easy connection, book a 30-minute Spark Session with Sofia. Together, you’ll uncover what’s keeping you stuck and map your next steps forward. BOOK YOUR SPARK SESSION → www.intimacyafterkids.com/calendar?utm_source=the-sex-after-kids-podcast&utm_medium=podcast&utm_term=episode-91&utm_content=&utm_campaign=spark-session Connect with Sofia: Instagram and Facebook: @IntimacyAfterKids Website: intimacyafterkids.com

    How To Go From Folding Laundry To A Yes

  4. Sep 1

     You Cannot Change What You Cannot Talk About

    Send us Fan Mail You love each other, you’re committed to each other and there are still things you’re both quietly not saying. The frustration you swallow. The need you decide isn’t worth bringing up. The disappointing sex you pretend was fine because talking about it somehow feels harder than just moving on. But if it stays silent, it stays stuck. In this episode, I’m sharing an excerpt from The Naked Fun Comeback (my signature program for couples) about one of the biggest shifts I see couples make: learning how to talk about hard things without the conversation immediately turning into blame, defensiveness, shutting down, or another argument that goes absolutely nowhere. We’ll dig into why these conversations can feel so risky, the difference between trying to win and trying to understand each other, and a four-step communication framework you can use to say what’s actually going on without putting your partner immediately on the defensive. You’ll learn: Why keeping the peace can slowly cost you connectionWhat happens when one partner fights to be heard while the other shuts down or people-pleasesThe four steps of Nonviolent CommunicationWhy “I feel ignored” isn’t actually a feelingHow to find the real need underneath the argument you keep havingWhat it can sound like to bring up something hard without making your partner the problemThe goal of a hard conversation isn’t necessarily to agree or even solve everything right away, it’s to understand each other better than you did before you started and every time you learn how to share yourself honestly and stay to hear your partner honestly, you’re not only getting in the way of intimacy, you’re creating it. Ready to get off the merry-go-round of avoidance? Book a 30-minute Spark Session with me — we’ll look at what’s keeping you stuck in patterns of avoidance and map out your next steps toward connection and sex that feel playful, easy, and alive again. BOOK YOUR SPARK SESSION → www.intimacyafterkids.com/calendar?utm_source=the-sex-after-kids-podcast&utm_medium=podcast&utm_term=episode-100&utm_content=&utm_campaign=spark-session Connect with me: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/intimacyafterkids/

     You Cannot Change What You Cannot Talk About

  5. Aug 25

    Why Your Great Relationship Isn't Fixing Your Sex Life

    Send us Fan Mail If you've ever thought, "We're best friends... so why is our sex life still struggling?" this episode is for you. Many couples assume that a strong relationship should naturally lead to a great sex life. But what if being close emotionally isn't the same as knowing how to create desire, connection, and fulfilling intimacy? In this episode, we unpack why so many happy, loving couples still struggle with sex. We talk about the hidden patterns that keep couples stuck, why date nights and hormone tests often don't solve the problem, and the truth that almost nobody is taught the skills needed for a healthy, satisfying sex life. You'll learn why your relationship isn't broken, why your body probably isn't the problem, and how learning new relationship and intimacy skills can change everything. If you're in a long-term relationship, married, or navigating intimacy after kids, this conversation will help you understand why you're stuck and what you can do next. Join the Naked Fun Comeback waitlist to be the first to hear when doors open for the October cohort and receive exclusive bonuses and early-bird pricing. https://intimacyafterkids.com/comeback-waitlist Connect with me: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/intimacyafterkids/

    Why Your Great Relationship Isn't Fixing Your Sex Life

  6. Aug 18

    You Think My Marriage Is Different. It's Not.

    Send us Fan Mail Is marriage after kids harder than you expected? You're not alone. In this episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast, I share the honest story of what our marriage looked like after becoming parents. We've experienced resentment, therapy, sleepless nights, postpartum struggles, the mental load, and moments where I questioned whether we'd make it. I talk about what actually helped us move through those difficult seasons, from changing how we handled the mental load to learning how to communicate better, reconnect emotionally, and approach our relationship as a team instead of opponents. Whether you're navigating postpartum marriage, relationship struggles after kids, low libido after children, or simply trying to reconnect with your partner, I hope this conversation reminds you that you're not alone. Ready to reconnect with your partner? The next round of The Naked Fun Comeback starts this October. Join the waitlist below to be the first to hear when doors open. https://intimacyafterkids.com/comeback-waitlist Connect with me: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/intimacyafterkids/

    You Think My Marriage Is Different. It's Not.

  7. Aug 11

    Why waiting for your sex drive to come back is the hard way to a fun flirty relationship after kids

    Send us Fan Mail In this episode Sofia explores why so many women are just "waiting for their sex drive to come back online" to have a better sex life. She explores why this thinking is the hard way back to a fun and flirty relationship and what couples who have a thriving sex life after kids do instead. She shares dispatches from her bedroom to illustrate how tuning into intention instead of desire, turning stop signs into yield signs in your body, and communicating playfully can get you back to the sex you crave after children. Whether you're navigating postpartum marriage, relationship struggles after kids, low libido after children, or simply trying to reconnect with your partner, I hope this conversation reminds you that you're not alone. Ready to reconnect with your partner? The next round of The Naked Fun Comeback starts this October. Join the waitlist below to be the first to hear when doors open. https://intimacyafterkids.com/comeback-waitlist Connect with me: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/intimacyafterkids/

    Why waiting for your sex drive to come back is the hard way to a fun flirty relationship after kids

  8. Aug 4

    10 Years and 3 kids later my libido was on ice

    Send us Fan Mail From missmatched libidos and pelvic floors, to sexual fantasy and communication skills - your host Sofia Ashley - certified sex coach and educator - will walk you through her thoughts on it all in these solo (for now) episodes. Today I introduce myself and give you the DL on my 10 year relationship and how my sex life has evolved throughout. Grab a cup of tea, and maybe some earbuds and let's get acquainted.  00:00 The Conversation You Are Avoiding 00:09 Navigating Tough Seasons 00:11 Staying Connected Through the Early Years 00:16 Emerging Together Stronger _______________ Add more play to your couple connection and get back into the bedroom for more frequent and more satisfying naked sexy fun time after kids.  https://intimacyafterkids.com/comeback-waitlist Host Sofia Ashley, founder of the Happy Vagina Project, Certified Sex Coach and Sex Educator, brings you one part science of sex, one part magic, and one part real talk to tackle everything from miss matched libidos and lacklustre sex after kids. Whether you adopted, joined a blended family, or made a kid in your body we'll explore the ups and downs and the detours of trying to keep your sex life alive in the chaos of parenting.  Sofia is a mom of two and step mom of one living a neurospicy household in Yukon, Canada on the Traditional territories of the Kwanlin Dün First Nation and the Ta'an Kwäch'än Council where she is grateful to live and play with her hubby and kiddos.

    10 Years and 3 kids later my libido was on ice
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Add more play to your couple connection and get back into the bedroom for more frequent and more satisfying naked sexy fun time after kids. 

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  • Creator
    Sofia Ashley
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    98
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 The Sex After Kids Podcast
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