When someone resists change, what are they really trying to tell us? In this episode of The Language of Behavior, Josh is joined by educator, coach, author, and founder of The Whole Educator, Becca Silver. Together, they explore why resistance is not simply someone being difficult. It is often a signal that a need is not being met. Becca shares the framework behind her book, The Resistance Solution, including five mindsets that support meaningful change, value, belonging, success, growth, and ownership. She explains the difference between compliance, buy in, and true ownership, and why leaders need to get curious about what is underneath the pushback instead of trying to force change. The conversation also explores the role belonging plays in mental wellness, why isolation can feel painful, and how reflective listening can help us better understand the people around us. Josh and Becca remind listeners that complaints and resistance can be valuable feedback when we are willing to pause, listen, and ask better questions. About Becca Silver Becca Silver is a speaker, leadership trainer, Resistance Specialist, and author of The Resistance Solution: Why Educators Resist and What They Need Instead. She helps instructional coaches and school leaders understand the human side of change. Becca is also the founder of The Whole Educator and host of the long-running podcast Coaching the Whole Educator, where she explores practical ways leaders can support teachers as whole people while improving practice. Becca’s work focuses on a simple but often overlooked truth: resistance isn’t defiance. It’s information. Through her Catalyst Mindsets™ framework, she helps leaders identify the unmet needs underneath resistance and respond in ways that build trust, ownership, and real progress. Her sessions blend research, real coaching stories, and practical tools educators can use immediately. Follow Becca Silver Website: https://www.thewholeeducator.comTwitter (X): @BeccaSilver_EduInstagram: @thewholeeducatorFacebook: The Whole Educator CommunityLinkedin: Becca SilverYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLXwwkdnMVSc3gu9Uu1HOv0-8vxvfrcp-WFree Resistance Diagnostic Assessment: https://www.thewholeeducator.com/resistance-auditBook: https://link.amazon/B00Suol9d -- FREE The Language of Behavior Book Study Kit: https://thrivingeducator.myflodesk.com/lobbookstudy Bulk Book Discount: https://www.connectedd.org/bulk-orders Do you have any questions for the podcast? Fill out this quick Google Form: https://forms.gle/u5axHazzuyN5pry76 -- About Charle Peck: Charle Peck is the co-creator of Thriving School Community, a revolutionary program designed for schools to improve mental health. She holds an MS in Education and an MS in Social Work as a 20+ year veteran in education (K-12). As a global keynote speaker, she delivers powerful messages of hope to educators and facilitates meaningful professional development. Charle successfully equips school staff with practical tools to mitigate teacher burnout and the youth mental health crisis providing relief to schools all across the country. Her unique lens as a high school teacher turned clinical therapist specializing in trauma makes her stories relevant and captivating to educators struggling in today’s system. You can purchase her book “Improving School Mental Health: The Thriving School Community Solution” on Amazon and connect with her on X @CharlePeck. Follow Charle Peck: Website: www.ThrivingEducator.orgTwitter: https://twitter.com/CharlePeckFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/charlepeckconsulting?mibextid=LQQJ4dLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/charlepeck/Other: charle@thrivibgeducator.orgPodcast: Thriving EducatorBook: https://www.amazon.com/Improving-School-Mental-Health-Community/dp/B0BTS3MN2P?crid=EIKAGWZ4V006&keywords=charle+peck&qid=1705780803&sprefix=charle+peck%2Caps%2C181&sr=8-1&linkCode=ll1&tag=aspirewebsite-20&linkId=6456f4f1bc2440be71d094a5d14656a4&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_tl About Joshua Stamper: Joshua Stamper is the Director of Innovation for the Teach Better Team, a multifaceted role that encompasses his talents as an author, podcaster, leadership coach, and education keynote speaker. With a rich background as a middle school administrator, classroom art educator, and athletic coach, Joshua brings a wealth of experience to his work in education. Joshua is passionate about implementing trauma-responsive techniques, exploring alternative student discipline methods, and promoting healthy leadership habits. He is deeply committed to enhancing leadership capacity through self-care practices, ensuring that educators are equipped to lead with empathy and resilience. As the author of The Language of Behavior and Aspire to Lead and host of two popular podcasts, Joshua continues to inspire and empower educators and leaders worldwide. 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