The Music of Life

Caryn

Sharing my personal experiences through the pain of divorce, the healing through spirituality, and music's influence through life's greatest lessons and memories.

  1. 2D AGO

    How to Heal After Loving a Narcissist

    Send a text In this episode of The Music of Life, I’m diving into a topic that clearly resonates with so many of you—narcissists. I’ve noticed that whenever I talk about narcissistic abuse, therapy manipulation, or co-parenting with a narcissistic ex, the response is overwhelming. So today, I’m unpacking why that is—and what we can actually do about it. From covert narcissists to the chaos of divorce and co-parenting challenges, I’m sharing what I’ve learned firsthand and what I continue to see in the messages you send me every day. But this isn’t just about identifying narcissistic behavior. It’s about healing. I open up about starting my own inner healing journey while I was still being abused, why doing the inner work is non-negotiable if we want to break the cycle, and how reconnecting with my inner child completely transformed my life. If you’re navigating narcissistic abuse recovery, emotional healing, or wondering how to attract healthier relationships moving forward, this episode is for you.                               Episode Highlights:  [0:02] - Why my narcissist reels are getting the most attention—and what that says about how common this experience really is. [0:21] - The truth about narcissists and therapy: why most won’t go, and how some use it to manipulate the narrative. [2:00] - Discovering the different narcissistic personality profiles and recognizing the covert narcissist. [3:00] - Co-parenting struggles after divorce and the emotional toll of dealing with an uncooperative narcissistic ex. [4:02] - Why healing yourself is essential—and how I began my healing journey while still in the relationship. [6:30] - Understanding the nervous system, the inner child, and how unresolved childhood wounds keep us stuck in cycles. [8:16] - Becoming the version of myself my eight-year-old self would be proud of—and what that means for growth and self-worth. [9:00] - The law of attraction, attracting healed partners, and what a healthy relationship really looks like after doing the work. [10:33] - Details about my new 8-week mentorship program and how we can partner together in your healing journey. Links & Resources: Be sure to follow, share, and leave a comment if this show resonates with you! Send me a message atpodpage.com/themusicoflife to share your experiences, or to leave a comment. I'd love to feature it in a future episode. Check me out on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/caryn-levitt-8a09263a6/  If this episode spoke to you, helped you feel seen, or gave you clarity on your own healing journey, please take a moment to rate, follow, review, and share The Music of Life. Your support helps this message reach the people who truly need it. I’ll see you next week.

    12 min
  2. FEB 26

    So You Married and Divorcing a Narcissist

    Send a text This week, I’m speaking directly to the women who are married to, or divorcing, narcissists. After countless messages from women around the world, including one mother in Canada who is terrified to file for divorce because of the financial and emotional fallout she knows is coming, I knew this conversation needed to happen. In this episode, I share what I’ve learned from my own lived experience navigating a high-conflict divorce with a narcissist. We talk about the fear of starting over, financial uncertainty, child custody struggles, and the reality of dealing with someone who lacks empathy and distorts the truth to fit their narrative. I also explain where my mentorship begins and where professional intervention is necessary. If you’re feeling scared, overwhelmed, or alone in this process, this episode is for you. Episode Highlights: [0:22] – A woman preparing to file for divorce and the financial fear that’s holding her back [2:05] – Choosing peace and freedom, even if it means starting over in a “shoebox” [3:12] – Getting your ducks in a row before filing and preparing for what you already know is coming [3:45] – Why narcissistic personality patterns don’t change—and the role of empathy [4:30] – Distorted narratives, recruitment, and what it feels like to be on the receiving end [5:15] – When situations move beyond mentoring and require legal or crisis support [6:41] – Why the narcissist topic resonates so deeply across social media [7:20] – The value of lived experience versus clinical theory [8:00] – What makes my hands-on mentorship different—and why I wish I had this support years ago [9:12] – How to connect with me and where to find supportLinks & Resources: Be sure to follow, share, and leave a comment if this show resonates with you! Send me a message at podpage.com/themusicoflife to share your experiences, or to leave a comment. I'd love to feature it in a future episode. Check me out on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/caryn-levitt-8a09263a6/

    10 min
  3. FEB 19

    Old School Love vs Hookup Culture

    Send a text This week on The Music of Life, I’m coming to you a little under the weather—but very fired up about something that’s been on my heart: hookup culture, dating apps like Tinder and Bumble, and what’s really happening to love and relationships today. I’m sharing my honest thoughts about modern dating, cheating, emotional immaturity, and why so many people feel disconnected—even when they’re technically “together.” I talk about inner healing, the Law of Attraction, generational trauma, and why I believe toxic relationships form when unhealed people align with other unhealed people. If you’ve ever wondered why dating feels so hard, why meaningful love feels rare, or whether real, soul-aligned love is still possible—this episode is for you. Press play and let’s have an honest conversation about love, self-worth, and what it truly takes to build something beautiful.   Episode Highlights: [0:02] - Opening thoughts and why I wanted to talk about hookup culture—even while feeling under the weather. [0:55] - Dating apps, cheating, and the question: what are people really looking for? [1:30] - How porn, unhealed trauma, and the Law of Attraction shape modern relationship dynamics. [3:01] - Why I believe inner healing is the key to attracting a healthy, evolved partner. [4:15] - Stop asking “why” and start asking “what” when reflecting on your wounds. [5:30] - Why fighting for yourself and your self-worth changes everything in love. [6:00] - Looking back at our parents’ and grandparents’ long marriages—what did they understand about commitment? [7:11] - My personal truth: how the unhealed version of me aligned with the unhealed version of my ex. [8:45] - Why ending a toxic relationship can be one of the most painful—and transformative—experiences. [9:30] - What real love looks like when two whole, healed people come together. [10:27] - Breaking generational trauma and why the cycle of pain stops with me. [11:26] - How to connect with me and share your thoughts on this conversation.     Links & Resources: Be sure to follow, share, and leave a comment if this show resonates with you! Send me a message at podpage.com/themusicoflife to share your experiences, or to leave a comment. I'd love to feature it in a future episode. Check me out on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/caryn-levitt-8a09263a6/

    12 min
  4. FEB 12

    How to Shake Your Ex, Post-Divorce

    Send a text In this very personal episode, I’m reflecting on something I didn’t fully understand when my divorce was finalized: just because the divorce is over doesn’t mean the toxicity magically disappears. What happens when you’re 14 months out from a toxic divorce and your ex is still baiting, harassing, manipulating, and trying to control you—especially when you share children? I’m sharing what I’ve learned over the past five years navigating co-parenting with a high-conflict ex, how I’ve stopped spiraling, and the practical strategies that are finally helping me protect my peace. If you’ve ever struggled with gaslighting, emotional triggers, or feeling like your ex still has power over you—even after the papers are signed—this episode is for you.   Episode Highlights: [0:02] – Celebrating my 60th episode and thanking you for your support. [0:21] – What really happens after a toxic divorce is finalized—and why it doesn’t always feel “over.” [2:34] – Why blocking your ex isn’t realistic when you share minor children—and how I filter what actually deserves a response. [4:36] – Realizing it’s the same game, the same tactics, year after year—and how predictability becomes power. [5:41] – The two strategies that truly work for me: ignoring and rising above. [6:00] – Why I don’t open texts immediately—and how waiting changes everything. [7:00] – Watching his tone shift from bullying to pleading when I don’t engage. [7:45] – The “proverbial box” method: mentally containing the chaos and only opening it when it legitimately involves our daughter. [8:03] – Declaring that no one will ever control me again—and what taking your power back really looks like. [8:53] – Introducing my new 8-week mentorship program and how it’s different from traditional therapy or coaching. [9:07] – How to connect with me, leave a message, and join me every Thursday for new episodes.    Links & Resources: Be sure to follow, share, and leave a comment if this show resonates with you! Send me a message at podpage.com/themusicoflife to share your experiences, or to leave a comment. I'd love to feature it in a future episode. Check me out on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/caryn-levitt-8a09263a6/

    10 min
  5. FEB 9

    Comments from Divorce Groups & Their Cry for Help

    Send a text This week, I’m sharing something that’s been weighing heavily on my heart. After reading post after post in divorce support groups, I felt compelled to speak up—especially after seeing a woman ask what she should do after her husband hit her for the first time. That question alone stopped me in my tracks, and I knew this conversation couldn’t wait. In this episode, I talk openly and passionately about self-love, self-worth, and why abuse is never something to tolerate, justify, or normalize. I also share parts of my own healing journey, what it took to pull myself out of the darkest place of my life, and why doing the inner work—no matter how painful—is the only way to truly break destructive cycles and reclaim your life.   Episode Highlights: [0:02] – Welcoming listeners and why this episode needed to be recorded now [0:22] – A disturbing post in a divorce group sparks outrage and concern [1:10] – Zero tolerance for physical abuse and why staying is not an option [2:01] – Breaking the cycle starts within, not with someone else changing [3:36] – Turning to God when isolation, betrayal, and despair felt unbearable [5:00] – Three years of intense healing, solitude, and emotional excavation [6:37] – Reclaiming self-worth, identity, and the courage to choose growth [8:30] – “Pick your hard”: healing versus staying stuck in pain [9:34] – Introducing my one-on-one mentorship program and how it works [11:37] – Where to find me, connect, and what’s coming next   Links & Resources: Be sure to follow, share, and leave a comment if this show resonates with you! Send me a message at podpage.com/themusicoflife to share your experiences, or to leave a comment. I'd love to feature it in a future episode. Check me out on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/caryn-levitt-8a09263a6/

    12 min
  6. JAN 29

    What Does ChatGPT Have to Say About You?

    Send a text In this episode of The Music of Life, I share something a little unexpected—and honestly, deeply validating. Out of pure curiosity, I asked ChatGPT a question about leadership in the toxic and high-conflict divorce space, and what came back stopped me in my tracks. What started as a simple experiment turned into a powerful reflection on lived experience, healing, and the impact of sharing our stories out loud. I walk you through what was said about some of the most recognized voices in narcissistic abuse and toxic divorce recovery—and then what was said about me. This episode isn’t about ego or titles. It’s about meaning, growth, and what happens when we reclaim our humanity after trauma. I’ll leave you with an open question that I truly want your thoughts on.   Episode Highlights: [0:02] – Welcoming you in and setting the intention for the episode  [0:22] – Curiosity sparks: asking ChatGPT about leadership in toxic divorce  [1:10] – Recognized experts in narcissistic abuse and high-conflict divorce  [3:40] – Why clinical voices and coaching models matter—and where gaps exist  [5:09] – Turning the question inward: “What about Karen Portnoy?”  [6:15] – Reflections on lived experience, storytelling, and peer mentorship  [9:11] – A powerful reframe: from surviving trauma to transformation  [12:20] – My honest reaction and an invitation for your feedback  [13:17] – How to stay connected and what’s coming next    Links & Resources:   Be sure to follow, share, and leave a comment if this show resonates with you! Send me a message at podpage.com/themusicoflife to share your experiences, or to leave a comment. I'd love to feature it in a future episode. Check me out on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/caryn-levitt-8a09263a6/

    14 min
  7. JAN 22

    Recap of Podfest 2026

    Send a text In this episode, I’m sharing a behind-the-scenes look at my experience attending PodFest 2026—for the second year in a row—and how different it felt coming back with a year of podcasting under my belt. From being a brand-new podcaster last year to being invited to speak this year, the growth has been real, humbling, and incredibly rewarding. I talk about what truly made this year different: being intentional with my time, focusing on high-value connections, honoring my energy, and really feeling what it means to be part of a podcasting community. I also open up about listening to your body, navigating big-conference energy, and why relationships—not just information—are what move the needle forward.   Episode Highlights: [0:02] – Welcoming listeners back and sharing a quick personal update after being sick over the holidays  [0:23] – Reflecting on attending PodFest 2026 for the second year and how different it felt this time  [1:30] – Comparing my first PodFest experience as a brand-new podcaster to this year’s growth and milestones  [2:20] – Being invited to speak, celebrating downloads, and expanding to an international audience  [2:55] – How I intentionally balanced sessions, networking, and rest this year  [3:12] – The importance of scheduling rest and managing overwhelm at large conferences  [4:10] – Navigating high-energy environments as a sensitive, energetic person  [4:55] – Why podcasting communities create deep, lasting connections  [5:45] – Trusting alignment, the universe, and meaningful connections that don’t happen by accident  [6:58] – Following up with new connections and keeping momentum after the conference  [7:35] – Exploring the idea of hosting webinars and engaging more deeply with my audience  [8:40] – Asking listeners for feedback, topic ideas, and ways to stay connected  [9:13] – Where to find me online and what’s coming next   Links & Resources: Be sure to follow, share, and leave a comment if this show resonates with you! Send me a message at podpage.com/themusicoflife to share your experiences, or to leave a comment. I'd love to feature it in a future episode.

    10 min
  8. 12/22/2025

    Helping, Inspiring & Empowering Others

    Send a text In today’s episode, I’m sharing some deeply meaningful updates about the work I’ve been doing, the conversations I’m having, and how this journey keeps unfolding in ways I never could have planned. From a recent webinar that reached tens of thousands of people to the incredible feedback that followed, this episode is really about validation, purpose, and trusting the path I’m on. I also talk about authenticity—why it matters so much to me, why I don’t script my message, and how surrendering control has allowed me to connect with people on a much deeper level. If you’ve been following my work, or if you’re navigating divorce, healing, or a toxic marriage yourself, this episode gives you a clear look at where my heart is and what’s coming next.   Episode Highlights: [0:02] – Welcoming listeners and setting the tone for the episode  [0:23] – Sharing exciting news about my recent webinar with St John’s University  [1:40] – Reflecting on attendee feedback and why these conversations matter so much  [3:28] – Being featured in Global Women’s Club magazine and opening up about my divorce journey  [4:30] – Why I chose not to script the webinar and the importance of authenticity  [5:40] – How this work has grown beyond social media and into everyday life  [6:15] – Introducing my new one-on-one mentorship program  [7:10] – Explaining the free 15-minute consult and who this program is for  [8:55] – Where to find me, how to connect, and holiday well-wishes   Links & Resources: Be sure to follow, share, and leave a comment if this show resonates with you! Send me a message at podpage.com/themusicoflife to share your experiences, or to leave a comment. I'd love to feature it in a future episode.

    9 min

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Sharing my personal experiences through the pain of divorce, the healing through spirituality, and music's influence through life's greatest lessons and memories.

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