Sit Around the Fire

Ashlea Dillard
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🔥 Sit Around the Fire 🔥 For First Responders, Military Members, and Families Seeking Healing, Growth, and Connection Welcome to Sit Around the Fire — the space where stories ignite transformation. Hosted by a retired first responder turned licensed professional counselor and hypnotherapist, this podcast blends real-life experiences, powerful teachings, and practical tools for mental and physical health. Each episode invites you to slow down, reflect, and find your spark again. Together, we explore mindfulness, stress management, trauma recovery, and PTSD healing — all through the lens of someone who’s lived it. You’ll hear raw conversations with first responders, veterans, and mental health experts as well as other incredible human beings with amazing stories and missions who share their wisdom on how to move from burnout to balance, from survival mode to thriving. If you’re ready to break free from old patterns and beliefs, reclaim your peace, and live your most abundant, limitless life, this is your community. ✨ What you’ll learn: How to manage stress and trauma while building emotional resilience.Practical mindfulness and mental well-being techniques that fit your lifestyle.Real stories of healing from first responders and military families.Tools to strengthen both mental and physical health for lasting change. 💬 Call to Action: Don’t suffer in silence. Join our community — subscribe, follow, and connect. 👉 Subscribe to Sit Around the Fire wherever you listen to podcasts. 👉 Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and TikTok for daily inspiration. 👉 Visit our site to join the email list and start doing the inner work today. It’s time to heal. It’s time to rise. It’s time to sit around the fire. 🔥 🔥Get Connected with Us!  www.sitaroundthefire.org 🫶🏼 Let's Be Friends  Facebook Instagram Ticktock

  1. 15H AGO

    #043: The Hidden Cost of Always Being the Strong One: Emotional Exhaustion, Vulnerability & Healing

    Are you the one everyone relies on… but secretly feel exhausted, disconnected, or overwhelmed? In this solo episode of Sit Around the Fire, therapist and hypnotherapist Ashlea Dillard explores the hidden cost of always being the strong one—and why this role, while admirable, can lead to emotional exhaustion, nervous system dysregulation, and deep disconnection from yourself and others. If you’ve ever felt like you have to “hold it all together,” struggle to ask for support, or find yourself constantly pushing through despite burnout… this episode will resonate deeply. Ashlea breaks down how the “strong one” identity is often learned and adaptive, rooted in past experiences where vulnerability didn’t feel safe. She shares how this pattern can show up in your daily life—and more importantly, how to begin releasing emotional suppression, embracing vulnerability, and allowing support back in. This episode also includes a guided hypnosis-style integration to help you gently let go of what you’ve been carrying and reconnect with a sense of internal safety and support. ✨ You don’t have to do life alone. And you don’t have to earn rest. 🔑 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:The emotional toll of always being the strong oneSigns of emotional repression, burnout, and nervous system exhaustionHow hyper-independence keeps you stuck and disconnectedWhy vulnerability is essential for healing and personal growthPractical reflection prompts to help you shift patternsA guided integration to release pressure and reconnect with support🔥 Key Takeaways:You don’t have to earn rest or supportStrength isn’t just holding it all together—it’s allowing yourself to be seenAwareness is the first step toward real healing and change🎯 Chapters:00:00 Introduction to Healing Conversations 00:57 The Burden of Being the Strong One 04:53 Understanding the Strong One's Identity 06:48 The Impact of Learned Behaviors 07:32 The Hidden Costs of Emotional Suppression 15:04 Redefining Strength and Vulnerability 18:34 Guided Integration for Mindfulness 20:43 Embracing the Present Moment 20:49 Embracing Softness and Awareness 23:48 Releasing Burdens and Finding Support mental health, emotional exhaustion, vulnerability, support, personal growth, self-care, resilience, healing, nervous system regulation, emotional repression, burnout recovery, trauma healing, therapy, hypnosis, first responders mental health 🌐 Resources & Links:🔗 Sit Around the Fire Podcast: https://sitaroundthefire.com 🔗 Work with Ashlea Dillard (Therapy & Hypnosis): https://ashleadillard.com 🎧 If This Resonated…Share this episode with someone who’s always been the strong one. And if you’re ready to start your own healing journey—support is available.

    25 min

  2. 5D AGO

    #042 First Responder Families: How to Heal, Communicate, and Thrive Under Pressure with TJ & Sarah

    In this powerful episode of Sit Around the Fire, host Ashlea Dillard sits down with Sarah Joy Prieur and TJ to explore the real-life challenges of first responder families—and what it actually takes to move from survival mode into true, sustainable thriving. Together, they unpack the mental health impact of first responder life, including chronic stress, emotional suppression, and the often unspoken normalization of suffering within the culture. Through raw honesty and lived experience, Sarah and TJ share how they transformed their relationship, mindset, and daily systems using mindfulness, intentional communication, and structured personal growth practices. This conversation dives deep into: How trauma and high-stress careers affect relationships and family dynamicsWhy many first responder families feel stuck—and how to break the cycleThe role of nervous system regulation, gratitude, and daily structure in healingHow to rebuild connection, clarity, and purpose in the midst of chaos Through their work with Real Elevation, Sarah and TJ are helping others cultivate resilience, discipline, and authentic alignment—proving that no matter how intense the environment, healing and transformation are always possible. If you or someone you love is in a first responder role, this episode is a must-listen for learning how to communicate better, reconnect deeply, and create a life that feels grounded, intentional, and fulfilling. You don’t have to just survive this life—you can learn to thrive in it. 00:00 – Understanding First Responder Family Dynamics 00:19 – Mental Health, Mindfulness, and Emotional Regulation 04:29 – Turning Trauma into Growth and Purpose 08:52 – Breaking the Culture of Normalized Suffering 16:15 – Communication Strategies That Actually Work 22:03 – Mindfulness, Spirituality, and Self-Awareness 29:54 – Building Resilience Through Real Elevation If this episode resonated with you, share it with a first responder family who needs this message. ✨ Follow, rate, and review Sit Around the Fire to help us continue bringing powerful conversations like this to life. And remember: Heal. Transform. Impact. first responder mental health, first responder families, firefighter family stress, police family life, trauma recovery, mindfulness for anxiety, communication in relationships, nervous system regulation, mental health for first responders, resilience training, personal growth, emotional healing, gratitude practice, structured routines, stress management, marriage in high-stress careers, first responder spouse support

    45 min
  3. #041 Suicide Prevention Through Humor: Frank King on Depression, Vulnerability & Saving Lives

    MAR 13

    #041 Suicide Prevention Through Humor: Frank King on Depression, Vulnerability & Saving Lives

    Suicide prevention starts with a conversation. In this powerful episode, Frank King—comedian and suicide prevention speaker—shares his deeply personal journey through depression, chronic suicidal ideation, and the unexpected role humor has played in his mental health advocacy. Through storytelling, vulnerability, and moments of laughter, Frank explains why anyone—not just clinicians—can help save a life simply by starting the conversation about suicide. This discussion explores the realities of depression, men’s mental health, and the unique challenges faced by first responders, while highlighting the importance of connection, purpose, and asking direct questions when someone may be struggling. Frank’s story reminds us that humor can open doors to difficult conversations, making it easier to talk about topics many people avoid—including suicide. Whether you’re a first responder, mental health professional, or someone supporting a loved one, this conversation offers valuable insight into recognizing warning signs, navigating difficult discussions, and understanding the power of vulnerability. Because sometimes the most important step in suicide prevention is simply starting the conversation. Chapters00:00 Introduction to the Conversation 01:10 The Importance of Starting Conversations on Suicide 02:35 Frank King's Personal Journey with Mental Health 05:41 The Power of Vulnerability and Sharing Stories 08:25 Processing Loss and Trauma 11:52 Transitioning from Comedy to Mental Health Advocacy 14:00 Using Humor to Address Serious Topics 20:00 How to Talk About Suicide and Mental Health 23:31 Navigating Conversations Around Suicide 24:39 The Importance of Purpose and Connection 26:15 Personal Stories of Struggle and Resilience 29:22 Understanding Depression and Seeking Help 31:57 The Journey of Finding the Right Therapy 35:25 Men's Mental Health and First Responders 39:25 Humor as a Tool for Mental Health Advocacy 43:14 The Impact of Sharing Stories on Mental Health Links to Frank's WorkGuts, Grit, and the Grind Book One Unabridgedhttps://youtu.be/wpfAltylpts?si=feOr6kMRe1-KZ5Vu Suicide, The Secret of My Success https://youtu.be/3D4m33DXtsI https://vimeo.com/743798587 Dry Bar Comedy Special suicide prevention |mental health | depression men's mental health | first responder mental health chronic suicidal ideation | suicide awareness mental health advocacy | comedy and mental health humor in advocacy | storytelling and healing mental health conversations

    46 min
  4. #040 Police Reform, Mental Health, and Accountability | A Conversation with Jeff Wenninger

    MAR 6

    #040 Police Reform, Mental Health, and Accountability | A Conversation with Jeff Wenninger

    What does the future of law enforcement look like? And how do we build trust, accountability, and mental health support within policing? In this episode of Sit Around the Fire, I sit down with Jeff Wenninger, who shares insights from his 33-year career in law enforcement and his perspective on the evolving conversation around police reform, police culture, diversity in policing, and community trust. Jeff reflects on how his upbringing shaped his views on race, leadership, and accountability in law enforcement, and how decades on the job challenged many of his early beliefs about policing. We discuss the realities officers face, the impact of use of force decisions, and why mental health support for police officers is essential for both individual well-being and healthier departments. We also explore why education, training, and diversity in law enforcement are critical for building stronger relationships between police and the communities they serve. Jeff shares his passion for fostering the next generation of officers through scholarship initiatives and leadership development, aimed at creating a more transparent, accountable, and community-focused culture in policing. This conversation dives into the difficult but necessary discussions surrounding police reform, officer wellness, and the future of public safety. If you're interested in law enforcement, mental health, police accountability, community trust, or police culture, this episode offers thoughtful insight into how meaningful change can happen. 🔥 Key Topics Discussed • Mental health in law enforcement • Police reform and police accountability • Use of force and decision-making under pressure • Diversity and representation in policing • Building community trust between police and the public • Education and leadership development for officers • Transitioning from active duty to retirement in law enforcement 🎙 About Sit Around the Fire Hosted by Ashlea Dillard, licensed professional counselor, hypnotherapist, and former firefighter/paramedic, Sit Around the Fire explores powerful conversations around mental health, personal growth, leadership, and transformation. The mission is simple: Heal. Transform. Impact. 👍 If you enjoyed this episode: Like 👍 Subscribe 🔔 Share with someone who would benefit from this conversation.

    50 min

  5. FEB 24

    #039 Jess Flores: When the Badge Becomes Your Identity

    In this episode, Ashlea Dillard speaks with Jess Flores, a former law enforcement officer, about her journey of identity loss after leaving the police force. They discuss the challenges of navigating relationships, the importance of communication, and the need for self-awareness and personal responsibility in the law enforcement community. Jess shares her insights on mental health, the impact of law enforcement culture, and offers advice for new first responders. The conversation emphasizes the power of sharing stories and the importance of seeking support and resources for personal growth. Takeaways -You are not alone and you are not stuck. -You are not just a cop; your identity is multifaceted. -Losing your career can lead to a significant identity crisis. -Communication is key in relationships, especially for first responders. -Self-awareness is crucial for personal growth and responsibility. -Transitioning out of law enforcement can be challenging but manageable. -Mental health is a critical issue in law enforcement. -Struggle is a part of life, but suffering is a choice. -Your story matters and can help others. -You can choose to be better every day. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Key Messages 02:46 Jess's Journey in Law Enforcement 05:36 Identity Crisis After Leaving Law Enforcement 08:25 The Impact of Law Enforcement Culture on Identity 11:27 Navigating Relationships as First Responders 14:23 Communication in First Responder Relationships 17:30 The Transition Out of Law Enforcement 20:36 Finding Self Beyond the Badge 24:03 Navigating Grief and Loss in Relationships 30:06 Taking Responsibility for Your Well-being 33:36 The Importance of Self-Awareness 38:58 The Power of Sharing Your Story 43:12 Resources for Law Enforcement and Mental Health law enforcement, identity loss, mental health, first responders, communication, relationships, self-awareness, transition, support, personal growth Next Shift Podcast 🎙️ https://open.spotify.com/show/6Z6KFecFcwKEp0Qyx2XdzM?si=c452980a42a84e6a

    51 min

  6. FEB 17

    #038 How to Get the Most Out of Therapy: 5 Powerful Keys to Real Change

    In this episode, Ashlea Dillard dives into five powerful strategies to help you get the most out of therapy and accelerate your personal growth. If you're committed to improving your mental health, emotional well-being, and self-awareness, this conversation will reshape how you approach the therapeutic process. Too often, people enter therapy without fully understanding how to engage in it. True transformation requires research, willingness, accountability, and commitment. Therapy is not just for crisis moments — it is a proactive investment in your emotional health and long-term self-improvement. Whether you're starting therapy for the first time or wanting to deepen your current experience, this episode explores how to: Choose the right therapist through intentional researchUnderstand therapy beyond crisis managementShow up with willingness and opennessCommit to the therapeutic processTake self-accountability for real, lasting change If you're ready to prioritize your mental health and approach therapy as a journey of growth rather than a quick fix, this episode is for you. Because you’re not meant to do this journey alone. Chapters: 00:00 Why Most People Don’t Get the Full Benefit of Therapy 01:02 How to Research and Choose the Right Therapist 09:18 Therapy Is Not Just for Crisis: A Proactive Mental Health Approach 10:55 The Power of Willingness in the Therapeutic Process 13:07 Commitment, Accountability & Real Personal Growth 18:02 Final Encouragement: Make Yourself a Priority

    21 min
  7. #037: Brian Sachetta: Chronic Stress vs Acute Stress: Which One's Killing You?

    FEB 10

    #037: Brian Sachetta: Chronic Stress vs Acute Stress: Which One's Killing You?

    In this episode of Sit Around the Fire, Ashlea Dillard sits down with Brian Sachetta to discuss mental health, focusing on anxiety and depression. Brian shares his personal journey with anxiety, the importance of understanding the root causes, and the body's physiological responses to stress. They explore the significance of safety and security in mental well-being, the power of surrendering in the healing process, and the value of community in overcoming mental health challenges. The conversation emphasizes actionable strategies for coping with anxiety and the importance of sharing personal stories to reduce stigma. Keywords mental health, anxiety, depression, safety, security, coping strategies, emotional regulation, personal growth, Brian Sachetta, mental wellness Takeaways Actionable tactics for mental health are essential.Understanding the root cause of anxiety is crucial.The body’s response to threats is often misunderstood.Chronic stressors differ from acute stressors.Safety and security are fundamental to mental well-being.Surrendering can lead to healing and growth.Resistance to anxiety can perpetuate suffering.Community and shared experiences reduce stigma.Personal stories can inspire and help others.Finding silver linings in suffering is transformative. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Mental Health Conversations 02:48 Brian Sachetta's Journey with Anxiety 06:33 Exploring Anxiety: Personal Experiences and Breakthroughs 16:41 Understanding the Physiological Response to Anxiety 23:07 Tools for Managing Anxiety and Stress 28:56 The Power of Thoughts and Anxiety 30:04 Understanding Safety and Security in Mental Health 34:30 Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs and Anxiety 41:45 Surrendering to Anxiety and Finding Peace 49:37 The Role of Control in Anxiety and Addiction Check out Brian's book: Get Out of Your Head 🔗https://getoutofyourhead.com/about/ 🔥 We appreciate you! Like, share, and subscribe! Your supports helps us move our mission forward.

    58 min

  8. FEB 6

    #036 Parts Work: Aspects of Our Mind That Get Into Conflict

    In this episode, Ashlea Dillard delves into the concept of parts work, a therapeutic approach that explores the various aspects of our minds, akin to the characters in the movie 'Inside Out.' She explains how different parts of ourselves, such as the inner critic, inner child, and inner adult, can often be in conflict, leading to emotional turmoil and hindering personal growth. By understanding these parts, listeners can learn to navigate their internal dialogues and foster a more harmonious relationship with themselves. Dillard emphasizes that all parts are inherently good and serve a purpose, even if they manifest as anxiety, fear, or self-criticism. She encourages listeners to engage in dialogue with these parts, offering them new roles that align with their current needs. The episode concludes with practical advice on how to integrate these parts through methods like hypnosis and self-reflection, ultimately empowering individuals to achieve a more balanced and fulfilling life. Keywords parts work, inner critic, inner child, mental health, self-awareness, emotional healing, therapy, personal growth, self-discovery, conflict resolution Takeaways -Understanding parts work can lead to personal empowerment. -All parts of ourselves are inherently good and serve a purpose. -Conflict between parts can hinder personal growth and emotional well-being. -Engaging in dialogue with our parts can foster healing and integration. -Using methods like hypnosis can help in addressing and transforming our parts. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Parts Work 01:07 Understanding Internal Conflicts 02:58 Defining Parts and Their Roles 06:16 Emotions as Parts 08:10 The Three Primary Ego States 12:17 The Inner Critic and Its Impact 15:07 The Role of Protectors 18:18 Healing the Inner Child 20:10 Integrating the Inner Adult 22:05 Exploring Shadow Work 24:27 Final Thoughts on Parts Work

    28 min
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🔥 Sit Around the Fire 🔥 For First Responders, Military Members, and Families Seeking Healing, Growth, and Connection Welcome to Sit Around the Fire — the space where stories ignite transformation. Hosted by a retired first responder turned licensed professional counselor and hypnotherapist, this podcast blends real-life experiences, powerful teachings, and practical tools for mental and physical health. Each episode invites you to slow down, reflect, and find your spark again. Together, we explore mindfulness, stress management, trauma recovery, and PTSD healing — all through the lens of someone who’s lived it. You’ll hear raw conversations with first responders, veterans, and mental health experts as well as other incredible human beings with amazing stories and missions who share their wisdom on how to move from burnout to balance, from survival mode to thriving. If you’re ready to break free from old patterns and beliefs, reclaim your peace, and live your most abundant, limitless life, this is your community. ✨ What you’ll learn: How to manage stress and trauma while building emotional resilience.Practical mindfulness and mental well-being techniques that fit your lifestyle.Real stories of healing from first responders and military families.Tools to strengthen both mental and physical health for lasting change. 💬 Call to Action: Don’t suffer in silence. Join our community — subscribe, follow, and connect. 👉 Subscribe to Sit Around the Fire wherever you listen to podcasts. 👉 Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and TikTok for daily inspiration. 👉 Visit our site to join the email list and start doing the inner work today. It’s time to heal. It’s time to rise. It’s time to sit around the fire. 🔥 🔥Get Connected with Us!  www.sitaroundthefire.org 🫶🏼 Let's Be Friends  Facebook Instagram Ticktock

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  • Creator
    Ashlea Dillard
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    45
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2025 Ashlea Dillard
  • Show Website
    Sit Around the Fire