Not So Secret Lives

Chantell Edwards and Karina Dustin
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Get ready for unfiltered conversations about dating, life, love, sex, and relationships with two best friends who have truly been through it all. From epic dating fails and steamy confessions to the ups and downs of finding real connection, we’re sharing our most raw and relatable stories with plenty of laughs and zero judgment. Whether you’re navigating the single life, figuring out love, or diving back into the dating pool, join us as we explore every twist and turn with honesty, humor, and heart. Stay Connected! Want to keep the conversation going? Follow us on social media! Instagram: @not_so_secret_lives TikToc: @not.so.secret.lives Facebook: Not So Secret Lives Podcast YouTube: @notsosecretlives Don’t forget to share your thoughts and tag us! We’d love to hear from you.

  1. Are We Dating The Same Guy?

    JAN 29

    Are We Dating The Same Guy?

    This week, we’re diving into the infamous “Are We Dating the Same Guy?” Facebook pages—and whew, do we have thoughts. Do we agree with the original intention of these pages? Absolutely. Women looking out for women, sharing information to stay safe, and avoiding being played or put in dangerous situations? Yes. Always yes. But do we agree with turning these spaces into places for public shaming, rumors, or slander? Not so much. We get real about where the line is, how it’s being crossed, and what accountability should actually look like. Plus—Chan drops some HUGE personal news, so you’ll definitely want to stick around for that 👀 As always, this is an honest, unfiltered conversation with strong opinions, a few laughs, and some real talk that needed to be said. Important Resources: If this conversation brings up anything heavy or if you or someone you know needs support, help is available: • National Domestic Violence Hotline 📞 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) 🌐 thehotline.org • National Sexual Assault Hotline (RAINN) 📞 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) 🌐 rainn.org (24/7 confidential chat available) If you are in immediate danger, please call 911.

    45 min

  2. 11/11/2025

    Foreplay For The Win

    It’s getting real hot this week 🔥 We’re talking all things foreplay — what turns us on, what keeps it interesting, and why it’s way more than just the warm-up. Chan shocks herself (and maybe everyone else) by realizing she actually loves getting head 😏 and let’s just say things in our sex lives are running very smoothly. We’re also reading some juicy listener feedback and exploring all the different kinds of foreplay — from touch to talk to teasing. #ForeplayFun #SpicyTalk #BedroomConvos #SexPositivePodcast #DatingUnfiltered #GirlsWhoTalkSex #SpicyAndHonest #PodcastBesties

    51 min

  3. 11/05/2025

    Love Bombed or Loved Right?

    Love is in the air — and we are so here for it! Big news... Karina and Chan are in relationships! 💕 It started off hot and heavy (are you surprised?) and it’s been going really well. In this episode, we’re getting real about the difference between love bombing and the real deal, and what it’s like navigating other people’s opinions when things move fast. From judgmental comments to unsolicited advice, we’re breaking down why you should always trust your gut, follow what feels good, and stop letting others dictate your happiness. This is your life.... live it how you want to! It’s honest, funny, and all about doing love your way.

    44 min

  4. 10/17/2025

    The Lost Episode: Know Your Worth

    This one’s been sitting in the vault — recorded back on August 21st, it’s our lost episode! We’re diving into knowing your worth — in relationships, in life, and within yourself. We’ve gone through the motions, learned the hard lessons, and finally figured out what it truly means to stand in your value. As always, it’s fun, it’s funny, and full of real talk (with a little spice, of course). Because when you know your worth, everything hits different — your confidence, your choices, your peace, and your love. #MindsetShift #GlowUp #SelfLoveJourney #LevelUpYourLife #FunnyPodcast #EmpowermentVibes #PodcastLife #WomenWhoPodcast #BestieEnergy #SpicyConversations #UnfilteredTalk #RawAndReal #DatingAndSelfWorth #HealthyLove #StrongWomen #RelationshipTalk #RealTalkRelationships

    49 min

  5. 09/17/2025

    I Think I Want Out: Navigating Marriage Crises with Dr. Becky Whetstone

    When Dr. Becky's team reached out and asked if we wanted to have her on we couldn't say yes fast enough! This week we’re joined by Dr. Becky Whetstone, therapist, author, and creator of the new book “I (Think) I Want Out: What to Do When One of You Wants to End Your Marriage” — an essential couples guide filled with real answers and guidance for navigating a marriage crisis. We dive into what inspired Dr. Becky to pursue therapy, her own personal experiences, and the wisdom she’s gained from working with countless couples. From real-life examples to tips and tricks for surviving the toughest relationship moments, this episode is packed with valuable insight. We’re also excited to announce that Dr. Becky will be joining us regularly for “Relationship School with Dr. Becky”, where she’ll continue sharing her knowledge to help couples everywhere. Beyond her book, you can also find her powerful writing on Medium (@DoctorBecky) and connect with her as she provides therapy to clients worldwide. Note: We had alllll the technical difficulties during this recording, so the audio quality isn’t our best — but the conversation is absolutely worth the listen. Links & Resources: I (Think) I Want Out: What to Do When One of You Wants to End Your Marriage — book by Becky Whetstone https://a.co/d/cqzQ26a Becky Whetstone’s Medium page (DoctorBecky) https://medium.com/%40doctorbecky MarriageCrisisManager.com (her site) https://marriagecrisismanager.com Instagram: @doctorbecky Instagram LinkedIn: Becky Whetstone, Ph.D. LinkedIn

    1h 12m

  6. 08/28/2025

    The Comeback Episode: Spice, Stories & Surprises

    We’re back, besties! 🎉 After a little summer break, your favorite duo is finally back behind the mics and catching you up on everything we’ve been up to. From vacations and dating adventures, to Karina’s official hard launch with her man, Chantell still thriving in the single life, house selling drama, and (drum roll, please)… us moving in together! 🏡✨ Still raw, still real, and of course—packed with all the spice you’ve been missing. Come hang out and catch up with us like no time has passed.

    51 min

  7. 06/27/2025

    The Good Girl Era

    This week, we’re flipping the script on what it really means to be in our Good Girl / Soft Girl Era—and trust us, it’s not all sundresses and silence. We dive into the power of softness as women: embracing femininity, surrendering control in the right spaces, and still being bold, vocal, and in charge of our needs. We talk about dominance and submission in the bedroom, the desire to be taken care of, and the trust it takes to lean into that. We're also unpacking what traditional female traits look like today—with a modern twist. Can you be soft and strong? Can you be submissive but still powerful? Oh yes, you can. This episode is all about having a voice, knowing what we want, practicing self-love, and redefining what being a “good girl” actually means. Spoiler: she’s confident, sexy, and doing things her way. Want to keep the conversation going? Follow us on social media! Instagram @notsosecretlives Facebook at Not So Secret Lives Podcast TicTok @not.so.secret.lives and anywhere you stream your podcasts! Can’t wait to hear from you !!

    48 min

  8. 05/29/2025

    Shame, Self-Confidence, and Self-Sabotage: Healing Before Dating

    In this powerful and honest episode, we dive deep into the complicated relationship between shame and self-confidence. From the invisible weight of social norms to the internal battles we fight daily, we explore how shame shows up in our lives—and how it holds us back from becoming our most confident, authentic selves. We talk about the importance of surrounding yourself with friends who lift you up, how positive self-talk can shift your mindset, and why healing yourself is essential before stepping back into the dating world. We’re getting real about self-sabotage, self-worth, and what it truly takes to rebuild your confidence from the inside out. If you've ever struggled with feeling "not enough," this one's for you. Want to keep the conversation going? Follow us on social media! Instagram: @not_so_secret_lives Facebook: @ facebook.com/profile.php?id=61567230722488 YouTube: @notsosecretlives TikTok: @not.so.secret.lives

    43 min
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4.6
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Get ready for unfiltered conversations about dating, life, love, sex, and relationships with two best friends who have truly been through it all. From epic dating fails and steamy confessions to the ups and downs of finding real connection, we’re sharing our most raw and relatable stories with plenty of laughs and zero judgment. Whether you’re navigating the single life, figuring out love, or diving back into the dating pool, join us as we explore every twist and turn with honesty, humor, and heart. Stay Connected! Want to keep the conversation going? Follow us on social media! Instagram: @not_so_secret_lives TikToc: @not.so.secret.lives Facebook: Not So Secret Lives Podcast YouTube: @notsosecretlives Don’t forget to share your thoughts and tag us! We’d love to hear from you.

Information

  • Creator
    Chantell Edwards and Karina Dustin
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    29
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Show Website
    Not So Secret Lives