Self Centered™ with Katie and Allie

I absolutely love this podcast! I am an avid listener, and it has supported me through some really difficult times. I highly recommend it to anyone who is tired of merely getting through each day and is ready to truly thrive.

What Allie is doing here is incredibly disturbing on multiple levels. When trying to guide others publicly, there are necessary cautions to take in positioning. Allie offers extremely reckless ‘advice’ as a licensed therapist to the globe, on heavy and delicate topics such as neglect and abuse. It is wildly misguided and heavily colored by emotion. To then also broadcast your client’s issues to the world is beyond violating and traumatic in so many ways. Names or no, client sessions are not things you publicize. It’s beyond problematic. This is all on top of knowingly, encouraging harassment and harm of uninvolved family, as she generalizes intense claims despite vocally citing them to 1 parent. Sadly disclaimers don’t remove the words you say after them. Finally, after all of the above, she can constantly be heard saying she refuses any responsibility for the heavy extra harm her reckless words are causing. Absolutely unhealthy and a very dangerous example to set from someone with a license. It’s great they want to try and help people, but publicly hurting loved ones and clients in the process is not an ok line to cross in doing so.

As a recovering people-pleaser, this podcast is my holy grail. I’m finally saying what I mean, holding boundaries, and not spiraling from guilt. 10/10 for boundary baddies in training - go listen!

As a family therapist of 20 years I have to raise MAJOR red flags on this podcast, as it includes intensely ill advised and dangerous guidance throughout. I’m genuinely in awe how Allie has a license at all with what she’s publicizing here. To start, the virtue signaling is WILD. She offers a disclaimer at the start of each episode about not “assigning blame” and then goes on to generalize very VERY heavy accusations of abuse and otherwise to her “family” repeatedly, episode after episode, only sporadically revealing it’s actually one person. If it’s not about blame then you should not be publicizing this at all, but if you feel the need to make such an intense accusation to the world about someone then, as a therapist, you have a responsibility to align the claim to “a person” or “parental figure” or what have you, ensuring the rest of your family is not caught in the cross hairs. It is immensely reckless and harmful given what she’s claiming. As a note, ‘Family’ also falls under reasonably identifiable information when it comes to defamation, which is why there is more of a need to not generalize such extremely serious claims. Second, they have a disclaimer saying this podcast is “not a substitute for therapy” and is meant for “entertainment purposes only”. Allie is then, for the majority of the podcast, trying to guide others and “teach”, as she says, on subjects such as gaslighting, abuse, and more. Apart from her guidance being absolutely off and clearly vindictive and emotionally charged, these are highly sensitive, nuanced, and delicate matters that require individualized support and are absolutely not ok for a one size fits all education, AT ALL, in an level. She is setting any listeners up for emotional disaster. Third, Allie and Katie can both be heard many times talking about their clients personal issues. They seem to think as long as they’re not naming people, wether its clients, friends, or family, that it’s ok to say anything and make any claims you want….They don’t seem to understand the responsibility with doing something like this on a world stage, especially when your profession and loved ones are attached to it. Imagine hearing your family member you love or therapist you were told to trust, blast your personal experiences or concerns about you to the world on a public podcast. It’s incredibly harmful and traumatic. This podcast is rife with heavy ethical and moral issues. I actually knew about it earlier this year but I thought she had course corrected. I just discovered the extremely harmful content and accusations she continues to flippantly generalize, despite the trauma that she’s been made well aware it’s causing her family and clients.