Doula Talk: Postpartum, Babies and the Battle for Sleep

Doula Deb

Doula Talk is a podcast for parents navigating the real, often messy middle of postpartum and early parenthood. Hosted by Doula Deb, a birth, postpartum, and sleep doula with over 15 years of experience, this show offers compassionate guidance, honest conversation, and practical support for the first year and beyond. We talk about postpartum recovery, newborn care, sleep, nervous system regulation, and the emotional load that so many parents carry quietly. This isn’t about quick fixes or perfect routines. It’s about understanding what’s happening beneath the surface and building steady, supportive foundations that help both parents and babies feel more regulated over time. Through solo episodes and thoughtful conversations with trusted experts, Doula Talk helps you make sense of sleep struggles, feeding questions, recovery, and the constant mental load of early parenthood, without shame, pressure, or panic. If you’re pregnant, newly postpartum, or deep in the exhaustion of caring for a baby, this is a place to slow down, feel less alone, and remember that you’re not doing this wrong.

  1. Aug 11

    63 - Timing Is Everything: Why Your Baby Isn’t Fighting Sleep (Usually)

    Send us Fan Mail Is your baby really fighting sleep—or are they trying to tell you something? In this episode of Doula Talk, Deb breaks down why bedtime battles, short naps, crying, rolling around, or that sudden burst of energy before bed may have less to do with a baby “refusing” sleep and more to do with timing, development, overstimulation, feeding, or changing sleep needs. You’ll learn how to recognize the difference between an overtired and undertired baby, why small timing adjustments can sometimes make a surprisingly big difference, and how to create flexible daily rhythms without becoming trapped by a rigid schedule. Because sometimes you don’t need a brand-new sleep method. You just need to understand what your baby is communicating. In this episode: Why babies appear to “fight” sleepOvertired vs. undertired: what each can look likeHow development and overstimulation affect sleepThe connection between daytime feeding and nighttime sleepWhy timing matters more than many parents realizeFlexible rhythms vs. rigid schedulesWhen it may be time for personalized supportNeed help figuring out your baby’s sleep?  Deb offers one-time consultations for families who want help troubleshooting a specific challenge, First Year Support for families who want ongoing guidance as their baby grows and changes, and personalized sleep support when sleep needs a deeper look. Sometimes the smallest adjustments create the biggest improvements—and you don’t have to figure out which adjustments to make alone. Support the show Thank you for listening! Tune in next time for more insights and support on your parenting journey. Contact Information: Doula Deb: www.DoulaDeb.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doula.deb/ Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/debdoula TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doula.deb Twitter: https://twitter.com/doula_deb Disclaimer: The content in this podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare provider for personalized advice and information.

    63 - Timing Is Everything: Why Your Baby Isn’t Fighting Sleep (Usually)
  2. Jul 28

    62 - Learning to Love Your Pregnant Body: A Conversation on Motherhood, Art & Self-Compassion (Guest: Caroline White, Photographer)

    Send us Fan Mail Pregnancy changes your body. But what if it also changed the way you see yourself? In this episode, Deb sits down with underwater maternity photographer and artist Caroline White for a conversation that goes far beyond photography. Together, they explore the beauty, vulnerability, and transformation of pregnancy and why this season deserves to be honored rather than hidden. What starts as a discussion about breathtaking underwater maternity portraits becomes a deeper conversation about body image, self-compassion, motherhood, and the sacred transition into becoming a parent. Caroline shares how her photography sessions often help women reconnect with their bodies in ways they never expected, while Deb reflects on how many of the same lessons apply to birth itself, like learning to let go, trust your body, and embrace the unknown. If you’ve ever struggled with the changes pregnancy brings, wished you could see yourself with kinder eyes, or simply want a conversation that reminds you of the incredible power of the human body, this episode is for you. In this episode, you’ll hear about: Why underwater maternity photography is about so much more than beautiful photosHow pregnancy can reshape the way we view our bodiesThe connection between surrender in the water and surrender during birthPractical ways to cultivate greater body appreciation and self-compassionWhy preserving this chapter of life matters for generations to comeConnect with Caroline White  Website: https://carolinewhitephotography.com  Instagram: @underwatermaternitybycaroline AND @carolinewfineart Support the show Thank you for listening! Tune in next time for more insights and support on your parenting journey. Contact Information: Doula Deb: www.DoulaDeb.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doula.deb/ Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/debdoula TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doula.deb Twitter: https://twitter.com/doula_deb Disclaimer: The content in this podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare provider for personalized advice and information.

    62 - Learning to Love Your Pregnant Body: A Conversation on Motherhood,  Art & Self-Compassion (Guest: Caroline White, Photographer)
  3. Jul 14

    61 - The Missing Village: Why Parenthood Feels Harder Than It Should

    Send us Fan Mail Becoming a parent isn’t supposed to be a solo journey, but for many families today, that’s exactly what it feels like. In this episode, I’m talking about the “missing village” and why so many new parents feel overwhelmed, isolated, and like they’re somehow failing when, in reality, they’re simply trying to do one of life’s biggest jobs without the support humans were designed to have. We’ll explore why postpartum can feel so much harder than expected, how social media and information overload often add to the stress, and why asking for help is one of the strongest things you can do, not a sign of failure. I also share real stories from recent client consultations, including one family who went from multiple false starts and frequent night wakings to a dramatically better night with just a few realistic adjustments. It’s a reminder that progress doesn’t have to be perfect to be meaningful. In this episode, we talk about: Why modern parents are missing the village they were meant to haveThe hidden mental load of postpartumWhy information overload often increases anxiety instead of confidenceThe difference between seeking perfection and making progressHow compassionate, individualized support can help you feel confident againPractical ways to start building your own villageIf you’ve ever wondered, “Why does this feel so much harder than I thought it would?” this episode is for you. Resources Mentioned 🤍 Learn more about my postpartum, sleep, and first-year support: https://www.douladeb.com 🤍 Book a free discovery call: https://www.douladeb.com/contact 🤍 Join my free monthly Baby Lounge for expecting parents and families with babies: https://www.douladeb.com/events If this episode encouraged you, I’d love for you to share it with another tired parent who could use the reminder that they’re not failing. They’re simply parenting without the village they deserve. Your shares, ratings, and reviews help more families find the support they’re looking for! Support the show Thank you for listening! Tune in next time for more insights and support on your parenting journey. Contact Information: Doula Deb: www.DoulaDeb.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doula.deb/ Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/debdoula TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doula.deb Twitter: https://twitter.com/doula_deb Disclaimer: The content in this podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare provider for personalized advice and information.

    61 - The Missing Village: Why Parenthood Feels Harder Than It Should
  4. Jun 30

    60 - The Overloaded Brain: Why Parenthood Feels Like Decision Fatigue on Steroids

    Send us Fan Mail Why does early parenthood suddenly make even tiny decisions feel impossible? In this episode of Doula Talk, Deb dives into the neuroscience behind postpartum brain fog, decision fatigue, mental overload, and why so many parents feel emotionally exhausted, overstimulated, and stuck second-guessing themselves. From sleep deprivation and the invisible mental load of parenting to the overwhelm of too much information and conflicting advice, Deb explores what’s actually happening in the postpartum brain and why struggling to make decisions doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means your nervous system is overloaded. You’ll also walk away with realistic, practical strategies to reduce overwhelm, protect your mental bandwidth, trust your intuition, and stop feeling like you have to optimize every parenting decision. In this episode, we cover: Why parenthood feels like decision fatigue on steroidsWhat postpartum brain changes actually look like (hint: it’s adaptation, not decline)The hidden mental load of feeding, naps, schedules, and constant trackingWhy too much parenting advice can leave you frozen instead of confident5 practical ways to reduce overwhelm and support your overloaded brainHow to stop treating every parenting decision like a life-or-death situationMost importantly: a reminder that your baby does not need a perfect parent. They need a supported one. Need more support? Grab access to Doula Deb's free resources, gentle sleep and postpartum consult options, and her First Year Support Program for families navigating the early months of parenting below. Resources + Support:  • Free parenting resources library  • Sleep consults  • First Year Support Program  • Monthly parenting newsletter Support the show Thank you for listening! Tune in next time for more insights and support on your parenting journey. Contact Information: Doula Deb: www.DoulaDeb.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doula.deb/ Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/debdoula TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doula.deb Twitter: https://twitter.com/doula_deb Disclaimer: The content in this podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare provider for personalized advice and information.

  5. Jun 16

    59 - Beyond the 6-Week Checkup: Rethinking Postpartum Healthcare (Guest: Dr. Estelle Giraud, CEO of Trellis Health App)

    Send us Fan Mail In this episode of Doula Talk, Deb sits down with Dr. Estelle Giraud, founder and CEO of Trellis, to talk about the massive gaps in postpartum healthcare and why so many women are left feeling exhausted, dismissed, and unsupported after birth. Together, they unpack what is actually happening in the body during postpartum recovery, including hormone shifts, nutrient depletion, nervous system dysregulation, inflammation, thyroid changes, anemia, mental health struggles, and the long-term health impacts that can follow pregnancy and birth. They also explore why postpartum is not just a short recovery phase, but a critical biological window that can shape a woman’s health for decades to come. Deb and Estelle dive into the realities of the broken “six-week checkup” model, the emotional and mental load women carry as the default healthcare managers of their families, and how access to personalized health data can help women advocate for themselves instead of being brushed off with “that’s just postpartum.” They also discuss Trellis Health’s groundbreaking at-home postpartum lab kit, which allows women to test hormones, iron, thyroid function, nutrient levels, inflammation markers, and more from the comfort of home. Plus, they tackle the growing concerns around AI and medical privacy, and how Trellis is building a truly private, HIPAA-compliant healthcare platform centered around women and families. If you’ve ever felt like postpartum care was reduced to “Are you crying? Cool. See you later,” this episode is going to make you feel deeply seen. This conversation is for: Pregnant and postpartum momsParents struggling with postpartum recoveryWomen dealing with brain fog, fatigue, hormonal imbalance, or burnoutAnyone interested in women’s health, postpartum wellness, and long-term maternal health✨ Resources Mentioned: Trellis Health AppAt-home postpartum lab testingDoula Ambassador Program If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a postpartum parent who deserves better support. Support the show Thank you for listening! Tune in next time for more insights and support on your parenting journey. Contact Information: Doula Deb: www.DoulaDeb.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doula.deb/ Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/debdoula TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doula.deb Twitter: https://twitter.com/doula_deb Disclaimer: The content in this podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare provider for personalized advice and information.

    59 - Beyond the 6-Week Checkup: Rethinking Postpartum Healthcare (Guest: Dr. Estelle Giraud, CEO of Trellis Health App)
  6. Jun 9

    58 - The RAINBOW Method: How to Make Intuitive Decisions in Postpartum (When Everything Feels Uncertain)

    Send us Fan Mail Postpartum is full of decisions that can feel impossibly heavy. Breastfeeding or formula? Tongue tie release or wait? Go back to work or stay home longer? Sleep support now or later? In this episode, Deb talks about why decision-making in early parenthood can feel so overwhelming and how to reconnect with your intuition without ignoring research, support, or real-life challenges. Using her RAINBOW method, she walks parents through a grounded framework for making thoughtful, informed decisions during pregnancy, postpartum, and the newborn stage. This episode is for parents who feel stuck between opinions, pressure, guilt, and fear of “getting it wrong.” You are allowed to slow down, ask questions, and make decisions that align with your family. ✨ In this episode: The RAINBOW Method - Free downloadable handout here! R - Reflect (Research & Risks)A - Adjust (Alternatives)I - IntuitionN - NothingB - BenefitsO - ObligationW - What Now?🎧 Connect with Deb:  Doula Deb offers postpartum, feeding, and sleep support for families navigating the first year.  Free Intake Call A low-pressure conversation to talk through what’s feeling hardest and explore what type of support would best fit your family.One-Time Consults & Ongoing Support Flexible virtual support for feeding, sleep, postpartum recovery, regulation, and the emotional load of the first year.Sleep Support & Coaching Gentle, relationship-centered sleep support for babies and toddlers. Includes Sleep Foundations Consults and ongoing coaching options.Free Downloadable Resources Free checklists, handouts, postpartum planning tools, sleep support starters, and parenting resources.Favorite Amazon Finds Curated postpartum and baby essentials focused on function, regulation, and real-life parenting support.Workbooks & Guides Practical tools and printable resources designed to help families navigate postpartum recovery, feeding, sleep, and the mental load of early parenthood.Support the show Thank you for listening! Tune in next time for more insights and support on your parenting journey. Contact Information: Doula Deb: www.DoulaDeb.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doula.deb/ Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/debdoula TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doula.deb Twitter: https://twitter.com/doula_deb Disclaimer: The content in this podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare provider for personalized advice and information.

    58 - The RAINBOW Method: How to Make Intuitive Decisions in Postpartum (When Everything Feels Uncertain)
  7. May 27

    57 - Ten Tips for Partners to Keep Calm, Keep the Peace, and Keep Your Sanity (Especially When Everyone Is Exhausted and Someone Has to Go to Work Tomorrow)

    Send us Fan Mail The first year after having a baby can put pressure on even the healthiest relationships, not because families are failing, but because postpartum recovery, sleep deprivation, work stress, hormones, and nonstop caregiving are a lot for human nervous systems. In this honest and practical episode of Doula Talk: Postpartum, Babies, and the Battle for Sleep, Doula Deb shares 10 realistic tips for partners navigating the newborn and baby stage together. From learning how to pause during overstimulating moments to supporting a recovering partner, lowering expectations, reconnecting through play, and surviving the mental load of parenthood, this episode is packed with grounded encouragement for exhausted families in the thick of the first year.   This conversation is especially helpful for: Partners returning to work postpartumFamilies navigating newborn overwhelmParents struggling with burnout or communicationCouples trying to stay connected during the baby stageIf you’ve ever looked at your partner at 3am and thought, “Are we okay?”… this episode is for you. Doula Deb also shares reminders about trusting your intuition, finding community support, and giving yourselves permission to slow down during this season of life. Support the show Thank you for listening! Tune in next time for more insights and support on your parenting journey. Contact Information: Doula Deb: www.DoulaDeb.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doula.deb/ Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/debdoula TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doula.deb Twitter: https://twitter.com/doula_deb Disclaimer: The content in this podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare provider for personalized advice and information.

    57 - Ten Tips for Partners to Keep Calm, Keep the Peace, and Keep Your Sanity (Especially When Everyone Is Exhausted and Someone Has to Go to Work Tomorrow)
  8. May 12

    56 - Hot Mess, Big Heart, No Sleep: Why Self-Care Isn’t Optional

    Send us Fan Mail Whether you're knee-deep in diapers or wondering if your toddler will ever nap again, one thing’s for sure: you’ve probably put yourself dead last on the priority list. In this episode, I’m sharing real-talk strategies to help you make space for self-care that actually works, even in the chaos of new parenthood. This isn’t about bubble baths or “just go take a nap” advice. It’s about giving yourself permission to be human, asking for help before you're drowning, and finding micro-moments of calm in the middle of the mess. From emotional regulation to partner dynamics, to why eating your toddler’s leftover string cheese absolutely counts as a meal—we’re covering it all. We’ll talk about: Why self-care is non-negotiable (and not selfish)Small, doable rituals that help you feel like you againWhat emotional self-care actually looks like in real lifeHow to share the load with your partner (without resentment)Why support in the first year of parenting can change everythingResources & Support Mentioned in This Episode: 🧠 Free Postpartum Mental Health Handouts –  Get my downloadable guide to help you recognize the signs of postpartum anxiety, depression, and emotional overload—and most importantly, what to do about it. 👉 Download Here 🍼 The First Year Support Program – Support for you, not just the baby. Weekly or monthly check-ins, sleep guidance, emotional support, and a whole lot of “you’re not alone.” 👉 Explore the Program 💤 Doula Deb’s Free Sleep Resources – If your baby is sleep-averse and you are touched out and running on fumes, I’ve got you. 👉 Grab Free Sleep Tips 📱 Follow me on Instagram – For snack-fueled real talk and behind-the-scenes support: @doula.deb Let’s keep parenting honest, supported, and just the right amount of scrappy.  If you need a reminder that you matter too, this episode is it. Support the show Thank you for listening! Tune in next time for more insights and support on your parenting journey. Contact Information: Doula Deb: www.DoulaDeb.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doula.deb/ Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/debdoula TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@doula.deb Twitter: https://twitter.com/doula_deb Disclaimer: The content in this podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare provider for personalized advice and information.

    56 - Hot Mess, Big Heart, No Sleep: Why Self-Care Isn’t Optional

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Doula Talk is a podcast for parents navigating the real, often messy middle of postpartum and early parenthood. Hosted by Doula Deb, a birth, postpartum, and sleep doula with over 15 years of experience, this show offers compassionate guidance, honest conversation, and practical support for the first year and beyond. We talk about postpartum recovery, newborn care, sleep, nervous system regulation, and the emotional load that so many parents carry quietly. This isn’t about quick fixes or perfect routines. It’s about understanding what’s happening beneath the surface and building steady, supportive foundations that help both parents and babies feel more regulated over time. Through solo episodes and thoughtful conversations with trusted experts, Doula Talk helps you make sense of sleep struggles, feeding questions, recovery, and the constant mental load of early parenthood, without shame, pressure, or panic. If you’re pregnant, newly postpartum, or deep in the exhaustion of caring for a baby, this is a place to slow down, feel less alone, and remember that you’re not doing this wrong.

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