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Teachings on Inner Work from live weekly Satsang sessions with Dylan Ayaloo, on the topics of personal transformation, healing & energy work, meditation & yoga. 

  1. 1d ago

    [EP60] Why rushing equals love.. and what you're afraid of if you slow down

    Someone asked me this in a recent satsang: "I feel like I'm conditioned to be rushing and doing things quicker than they need to be.. what am I afraid will happen if I slow down?" I don't know what it is for you.. but I can guess. What we do consistently becomes a habit. Do it long enough and it's conditioned, and then it just feels like who I am. It becomes part of our identity. Here's a random example of how the machine wires itself up, and I don't know what it is for you without a conversation.. rushing meant productive, productive meant liked and accepted, and accepted felt like being loved. Take off all the middle bits and join a straight line to it: rushing equals feeling loved. So if you're not rushing, that's a threat to your identity and who you believe you are.. and underneath that, most likely, it's love in some way. We're all wired for love. Then there's the other part, which is simpler. You've rushed all your life, so not rushing is new. It's the unknown, and nobody really wants to step into the unknown without something predictable to hold onto. And there's a vigilant part in the background going, hmm, are you sure? Because rushing worked for you. When the pieces are resettling, it's unsettling. It's scary. It's new. You're going, oh my God, are the pieces going to land in the right place for me? I need control. And that's part of growth.. that's an expansion. When a child grows they say growing pains. Bones growing, muscles growing. It's not comfortable. It's not growing comfort, is it.. it's growing pains. So what to do about it, even though you didn't ask.. let the pieces settle. Give it some space and time. Chapters 00:00 The habit of rushing 01:10 Rushing equals love 03:12 The mind's wiring 04:51 The fear of the unknown 06:22 The vigilant mind 08:44 Let it settle Questions answered in this episode Why am I always rushing, even when nothing is urgent? Because rushing stopped being something you do and became something you are. Practised long enough, a habit turns into part of your identity. Why can't I slow down? What's under threat is your identity, and the love you unconsciously wired to being productive. Why does slowing down feel so uncomfortable? You've never done it this way before, so slowing down means stepping into the unknown, and the mind wants something predictable to hold onto. Is that unsettled feeling a sign something is wrong? No. Shake a snow globe and everything's stirred up for a while before it settles. The pieces are resettling in a new configuration. Why does part of me resist slowing down even when I want to? There's a vigilant part in the background going, hmm, are you sure? Because rushing worked for you. It kept you accepted. It isn't going to hand that over quietly. About this episode This answer came from a live satsang, an open question and answer session that Dylan Ayaloo holds every Friday at 6:30pm inside the free Elevate Community on Skool. You bring the question, we look at it together. Read the full write-up: https://www.dylanayaloo.com/blog/podcast-ep60-the-rush-habit Come and sit with us: https://www.skool.com/elev8-free Free 7-Day Inner Work Challenge: https://www.dylanayaloo.com/challenge Want to join me live weekly in our Satsang sessions? Happens every Friday 6:30pm uk in our free community: https://www.skool.com/elev8-free

  2. Aug 5

    [EP59] Why your clarity feels like rejection.. and how to say it so it lands

    If my clarity feels like rejection to others.. is it on me to adjust? In this satsang Dylan explores what communication really is: not what you say, but what actually lands. He covers simplifying your language, reading how it's received as feedback, aligning words, body and action, and meeting people where they are.. without abandoning your clarity. 🌱 Join the FREE 7-Day Inner Work Challenge: https://www.dylanayaloo.com/challenge 🧘 Sit with us live every Friday at 6:30pm in the free elev8 community: https://www.skool.com/elev8-free Want to join me live weekly in our Satsang sessions? Happens every Friday 6:30pm uk in our free community: https://www.skool.com/elev8-free

  3. Jul 29

    [EP58] Are you being stubborn.. or listening to your needs?

    Someone joked she was being stubborn for skipping a too-early start on a group trip.. but was she actually just listening to her needs? In this satsang Dylan unpacks how to tell the difference: when the same feedback shows up from unconnected people it's worth looking within, how to read the emotional clue underneath your choice, why flexibility is a choice and not a rule, and how to honour your needs without tipping into overgiving or people-pleasing. 🌱 Join the FREE 7-Day Inner Work Challenge: https://www.dylanayaloo.com/challenge 🧘 Sit with us live every Friday at 6:30pm in the free elev8 community: https://www.skool.com/elev8-free Want to join me live weekly in our Satsang sessions? Happens every Friday 6:30pm uk in our free community: https://www.skool.com/elev8-free

  4. Jul 22

    [EP57] How to Stop Hiding When You Know You're Safe

    This week's question: "If my true nature is freedom and love, what still hides, performs and protects itself even when it knows it's safe?" The short answer? The mind.. the ego. Its whole world revolves around itself.. me, my, I.. always reaching for more love, more freedom, more connection, not realising it already is all of those things. We are a drop of the universe, and the universe is abundance in every form. So we don't have to seek any of it. But the mind lives in an illusion of disconnect.. it believes it's separate, and sets out looking for the very thing it already is. That's the cosmic joke of being human.. we identify with the problem-solving machine, and it goes hunting for a problem that never existed. And knowing you're safe in your head isn't enough.. because the body remembers. You're already safe just by being here.. but if you're safe and still trying to be safe, you'll keep chasing your own tail. Join the free 7-Day Inner Work Challenge: https://www.dylanayaloo.com/challenge Want to join me live weekly in our Satsang sessions? Happens every Friday 6:30pm uk in our free community: https://www.skool.com/elev8-free

  5. Jul 8

    [EP56] Why you're not yourself with the people closest to you

    You can be warm and open with a stranger.. then walk through your own front door and feel yourself go cold. Why does that happen? This week someone asked: "How do I soften the survival patterns that make me guarded and reactive with the people I'm closest to?" The people closest to us carry the most emotional history with us, so our deepest conditioning fires around them.. often before we've even had a thought. In this satsang Dylan explains why analysing it keeps you circling, and what actually works: noticing you're not yourself, choosing how you want to show up, and bringing that version consistently.. regardless of how they respond. He shares a personal example of lifting the lid on his own joy around someone who used to dampen it. 🌱 Join the FREE 7-Day Inner Work Challenge: https://www.dylanayaloo.com/challenge 🧘 Sit with us in a live satsang every Friday at 6:30pm inside the free elev8 community: https://www.skool.com/elev8-free Want to join me live weekly in our Satsang sessions? Happens every Friday 6:30pm uk in our free community: https://www.skool.com/elev8-free

  6. Jul 1

    [EP55] You feel frustrated for no reason.. here's what that actually means

    You're not broken for feeling this way.. your body is trying to tell you something. This week someone asked: "Why am I feeling so frustrated and impatient lately.. and how do I meet it without suppressing it or acting it out?" Frustration and anger aren't signs of personal failure.. they're energy that hasn't had anywhere to go. In this satsang Dylan explores where frustration really comes from, why anger is a form of power rather than something to fear, and how to let that energy move through you.. instead of swallowing it or taking it out on someone. He shares two practical ways to meet these feelings in the moment: switching into the body, and bringing a laser focus of awareness right into the centre of it. 🌱 Join the FREE 7-Day Inner Work Challenge: https://www.dylanayaloo.com/challenge 🧘 Sit with us in a live satsang every Friday inside the free Elevate Community: https://www.skool.com/elev8-free Take the free quiz to discover your inner work type: https://www.dylanayaloo.com/quiz Want to join me live weekly in our Satsang sessions? Happens every Friday 6:30pm uk in our free community: https://www.skool.com/elev8-free

  7. Jun 24

    [EP54] Should You Change Your Mind?

    You made a decision.. and now a part of you is quietly wondering if it was the right one. Do you follow through? Or change your mind? In a recent satsang, someone asked me a question I think a lot of us wrestle with in private: how much of our commitment to a decision is genuine.. and how much is just pride? I answer it live and unscripted — the two extremes we swing between, why life keeps handing us the exact lesson we avoid, and how to tell pride apart from real clarity. Read it (with the video) on the blog: https://www.dylanayaloo.com/blog/change-your-mind-satsang Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Tlh_O7A7b2g Join the free 7-Day Inner Work Challenge: https://www.dylanayaloo.com/challenge Come to a live satsang every Friday in the free elev8 community: https://www.skool.com/elev8-free Dylan Ayaloo has spent 19+ years guiding people back to themselves through yoga, meditation and inner work. A new satsang every week. Want to join me live weekly in our Satsang sessions? Happens every Friday 6:30pm uk in our free community: https://www.skool.com/elev8-free

  8. Apr 24

    [EP53] Why You Keep Waking Up at 3am (And What Your Body Is Actually Trying to Tell You)

    Why You Keep Waking Up at 3am (And What Your Body Is Actually Trying to Tell You) It's 3:17am. You're awake again. Not anxious. Not dramatic. Your brain is just on. And no amount of sleep hygiene is fixing it. This isn't insomnia in the way you've been told. Your body isn't broken. Your nervous system is still running survival protocol through the night — and no melatonin, magnesium, blue-light glasses, or screen-free routine fixes a body that doesn't think it's safe to power down. In this satsang I cover: Why everything you've tried (apps, supplements, meditation, "no screens after 9") hasn't worked — it's solving the wrong problemThe two modes of your nervous system, and why sleep can only happen in one of them (Window of Tolerance, Dr Dan Siegel)Why 3am specifically — the cortisol awakening response and why it spikes when it shouldn'tWhat unrefreshing sleep actually means: you slept eight hours, you rested for two (Walker, Why We Sleep)Three places your body is still on night shift — a 30-second body check you can do right now (jaw, breath, ribs)What four researchers — Siegel, van der Kolk, Levine, Maté — agree on about a body that won't restThe one thing you can do tonight, in bed, to begin teaching your body it's safe to land 🎁 FREE 7-DAY INNER WORK CHALLENGE Your body learns a new pattern, one night at a time: dylanayaloo.com/programs/elevate-premium 📖 READ THE COMPANION BLOG dylanayaloo.com/blog/why-you-wake-at-3am ⏱ CHAPTERS (00:00) 3:17am: a body that won't switch off (01:13) Everything you've tried (and why it hasn't worked) (02:12) Sleep isn't the problem — safety is (03:56) The Window of Tolerance (Dr Dan Siegel) (05:24) The cortisol awakening curve (why 3am specifically) (07:21) Carl Jung: what you deny submits (08:09) You slept. Your body didn't. (Matthew Walker) (10:53) Four researchers — Siegel · Van der Kolk · Levine · Maté (13:27) The antidote to exhaustion (David Whyte / Brother David) (14:26) One thing tonight: jaw, breath, ribs (15:58) Pema Chödrön: nothing goes away until it teaches us (18:36) Free 7-Day Inner Work Challenge 📚 RESEARCH + BOOKS CITED • Dr Dan Siegel — The Developing Mind (1999) • Dr Bessel van der Kolk — The Body Keeps the Score (2014) • Dr Peter Levine — In an Unspoken Voice (2010) • Dr Gabor Maté — When the Body Says No (2003) • Dr Robert Sapolsky — Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers (2004) • Dr Matthew Walker — Why We Sleep (2017) • Clow et al. (2010), Stress and Health — cortisol awakening response • Brother David Steindl-Rast (via David Whyte, Crossing the Unknown Sea, 2001) • Pema Chödrön — When Things Fall Apart (1997) • Carl Jung — what you deny submits, what you accept transforms 🎯 THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF • You wake at 3am and can't get back to sleep • You sleep eight hours and feel rested for two • You've tried meditation, magnesium, screen-free routines — and nothing touched it • Your jaw is tight, your breath is shallow, your shoulders carry the day • You know the pattern but can't stop it at the body level • You've been told it's "just stress" — and you know it's deeper than that 🔗 CONNECT • Website: dylanayaloo.com • Free 7-day challenge: dylanayaloo.com/programs/elevate-premium • Instagram: Want to join me live weekly in our Satsang sessions? Happens every Friday 6:30pm uk in our free community: https://www.skool.com/elev8-free

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Teachings on Inner Work from live weekly Satsang sessions with Dylan Ayaloo, on the topics of personal transformation, healing & energy work, meditation & yoga. 

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    Dylan Ayaloo
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    60
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