Positively Conflicted - The Audiobook

Sam Ardery
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Positively Conflicted - The Audiobook

Many of us have a messy relationship with conflict. Listen to Sam Ardery read his book Positively Conflicted and learn to fear conflict less and do it better. When confronted with conflict, our fight or flight response kicks in and we either rush into battle or back away. By defaulting into one of these options, however, we risk damaging ties to people we care about, opening ourselves up to future retaliation or allowing resentments to fester. Positively Conflicted invites us to re-examine our instinctive and often destructive reactions to conflict. With decades of experience in mediation Sam Ardery doesn't offer advice on how to win every fight, nor does he promise a one-size-fits-all solution to complex issues. Instead, he presents a different perspective - one that enables us to engage with conflict in novel and courageous ways. Here Sam reads his book Positively Conflicted, each chapter an episode.

  1. EPISODE 1

    Foreword and Introduction

    Conflict always exists in context as the experience of the past, the perception of the presence and the fear of the future fight for attention. Holly McKiernan, a creative thinker and talented leader, offers this forward to describe the value of positively conflicted in the canon of conflict literature. The introduction that follows shares my struggle with conflict and why I wrote the book. To help all of us fear conflict less and do it better.

    21 min

  2. EPISODE 2

    Chapter One - The Storm Inside

    Have you ever had an internal conflict? The kind that exists exclusively between your own ears, and yet it's so powerful that you can't even sleep at night. If that's the case, then you'll be able to relate to Chapter One, the Storm Inside about our own internal conflicts. I hope you enjoy it.

    33 min

  3. EPISODE 3

    Chapter Two - You Versus the World

    When someone challenges you, the first instinct is to defend or justify. The queasy feeling in your stomach arrives before you've even begun explaining why you are right and they are wrong. We all think we have just the right amount of common sense. In Chapter Two, I invite you to explore what it would look like to pause in the discomfort of the moment. In that intentional, uncomfortable moment, you can choose to respond rather than instinctively react. If you take that moment, the unimaginable is possible.

    29 min

  4. EPISODE 4

    Chapter Three - The Problem With Circumstance

    Circumstances remind you how big the world is. Finding your place amongst things so much bigger than you are, is a daily task. When expectations transform into entitlements, it can feel like the circumstances have won. It doesn't have to be that way. You can intentionally choose your path even if you cannot control outcomes. Website: samardery.com Email: sardery@lawbr.com Podcast Production Partner: Steve Heatherington of Good Podcasting Works Music: A Safe Place by Marco Zannone via Pond5 (marcozannone's Artist Page)

    32 min

  5. EPISODE 5

    Chapter Four - The Justice Gene

    The justice gene is as fundamental as hot and cold. You don't even know that it is lingering just below the surface until someone accuses you of not being fair. With that assault on your character, you leap to defend and protect yourself. By examining your perceptions and your options, you can avoid harm and create connections. ~~~~~~ Website: samardery.com Email: sardery@lawbr.com Podcast Production Partner: Steve Heatherington of Good Podcasting Works Music: A Safe Place by Marco Zannone via Pond5 (marcozannone's Artist Page)

    44 min

  6. EPISODE 6

    Chapter Five - Fear

    Fear exposes so much vulnerability that we routinely disguise it as stress, anxiety, discomfort or concern. You feel it in your bones. You've likely done this in the last 24 hours. If you identify your fear and your natural responses, often anger or sadness, you have taken steps toward courage to move forward in the face of fear ~~~~~ Website: samardery.com Email: sardery@lawbr.com Podcast Production Partner: Steve Heatherington of Good Podcasting Works Music: A Safe Place by Marco Zannone via Pond5 (marcozannone's Artist Page)

    42 min

  7. EPISODE 7

    Chapter Six - Power

    The feeling of power is like a drug, and like many drugs, it has side effects. But feeling powerful and being powerful are not the same thing. Even those who are powerless find ways to wield whatever power they have. And it can come with devastating impact. Those who have power and use it wisely may do so under the radar. The most skillful use of power often goes unnoticed. The least skillful use of power unwittingly transfers it to others. In this episode, consider the power you have and the power you don't either. Can be a useful tool ~~~~~ Website: samardery.com Email: sardery@lawbr.com Podcast Production Partner: Steve Heatherington of Good Podcasting Works Music: A Safe Place by Marco Zannone via Pond5 (marcozannone's Artist Page)

    42 min

  8. EPISODE 8

    Chapter Seven - Bias and Stereotype

    We all have preferences and put things into categories. When the preferences involve food, the risk is low. When the categories separate dogs from cats, no harm is done. The stakes change when we reject people from our groups because of how they look or decide that everyone who talks a certain way has ironclad values. The efficiency of bias in the stereotype flies in the face of fairness and decency. But without effort, we can gather people around us who reinforce our naturally closed minds. In this episode, I invite you to consider whether you can recognize your bias and decide not to endorse it. It's easier said than done ~~~~~ Website: samardery.com Email: sardery@lawbr.com Podcast Production Partner: Steve Heatherington of Good Podcasting Works Music: A Safe Place by Marco Zannone via Pond5 (marcozannone's Artist Page)

    40 min
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Many of us have a messy relationship with conflict. Listen to Sam Ardery read his book Positively Conflicted and learn to fear conflict less and do it better. When confronted with conflict, our fight or flight response kicks in and we either rush into battle or back away. By defaulting into one of these options, however, we risk damaging ties to people we care about, opening ourselves up to future retaliation or allowing resentments to fester. Positively Conflicted invites us to re-examine our instinctive and often destructive reactions to conflict. With decades of experience in mediation Sam Ardery doesn't offer advice on how to win every fight, nor does he promise a one-size-fits-all solution to complex issues. Instead, he presents a different perspective - one that enables us to engage with conflict in novel and courageous ways. Here Sam reads his book Positively Conflicted, each chapter an episode.

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