Your Fertility Counsellor

Tanja Faessler

I’m Tanja Faessler, an accredited coach, counsellor, and the founder of Counsellingconnectz and Fertilityconnectz. In this episode, I’ll share our journey—from starting in 2012 to supporting over 15,000 clients, a milestone that still fills me with gratitude. At Fertilityconnectz, we are dedicated to guiding you through every aspect of your fertility journey—whether you're trying naturally, going through IVF, or exploring options like egg freezing or donor programs. On this podcast, we will focus on all aspects of your well-being—mentally, emotionally, spiritually, on all levels—because we believe that balance in these areas is where the magic happens. Fertility can be an isolating journey, but you are not alone. We've created this podcast to touch on topics we've gathered from our extensive client sessions. These topics are designed to resonate with your experiences or even those of someone you know. Plus, we'll be inviting a series of knowledgeable guests to share their expertise, making each episode both informative and engaging. My goal is to make this podcast your supportive friend, offering understanding and guidance as you navigate your unique path to parenthood. Stay tuned for exciting episodes and let’s make your fertility journey one full of hope and fulfillment! Links: Website: https://www.fertilityconnectz.com/ Email: enquiries@counsellingconnectz.com Instagram: @fertilityconnectz

  1. 6d ago

    EP #82 - July Series: CAN SMALL THINGS CHANGE A LIFE?

    July Series: BE — DO — BECOME CAN SMALL THINGS CHANGE A LIFE? Tiny Loving Choices That Shape Who You Become What if the biggest changes in your life didn’t come from grand decisions — but from the small, loving choices you make every day? In this episode of our July Series: BE — DO — BECOME, we explore the quiet power of tiny moments and how they can gently shape who you become over time. Together, we reflect on the idea that personal growth is rarely about dramatic transformation. More often, it happens through small acts of care, kindness, and consistency — the moments that may seem insignificant, yet slowly build confidence, resilience, and self-trust. We also explore the healing power of reconnecting with your inner child — the part of you that longs for joy, playfulness, curiosity, and care. Especially after stressful or difficult seasons, these small moments can help remind your nervous system that you matter and that safety, comfort, and happiness are still available. At the heart of this conversation is a gentle reminder: love, healing, and growth are often built one small moment at a time — both with yourself and with the people you care about. This isn’t about changing your life overnight. It’s about trusting that tiny loving choices have the power to shape your future. And if life feels overwhelming right now, may this episode remind you: small steps count, small moments matter, and who you are becoming is created through the choices you make today. CONNECT WITH US! Website: www.fertilityconnectz.com Email: enquiries@counsellingconnectz.com Social Media: InstagramFacebookLinkedInTikTokYouTube

    EP #82 - July Series: CAN SMALL THINGS CHANGE A LIFE?
  2. Jul 1

    EP #81 - July Series: WHO DO I WANT TO BE?

    July Series: BE — DO — BECOME WHO DO I WANT TO BE? Reconnecting With Yourself in a Kinder, Gentler Way What if becoming the person you want to be wasn’t about doing more — but about reconnecting with who you already are? In this episode of our July Series: BE — DO — BECOME, we explore what it means to return to yourself with greater kindness, especially during seasons of fertility challenges, grief, uncertainty, or personal growth. Together, we reflect on the question: Who do I want to be? Not what do I want to achieve, but how do I want to feel, live, and show up for myself? Because while goals matter, it is often our daily choices, emotions, and acts of self-care that shape who we become. We also explore the powerful truth that joy and struggle can coexist. You do not need permission to experience moments of softness, hope, or happiness, even when life feels difficult. Becoming isn’t found in dramatic transformation — it begins in small, gentle choices made every day. At the heart of this conversation is an invitation to remember yourself: the version of you that feels most authentic, grounded, and alive. This isn’t about reinventing yourself. It’s about returning to yourself. And if life feels uncertain right now, may this episode remind you: joy is still available, softness is still possible, and the person you are becoming is shaped one gentle choice at a time. CONNECT WITH US! Website: www.fertilityconnectz.com Email: enquiries@counsellingconnectz.com Social Media: InstagramFacebookLinkedInTikTokYouTube

    EP #81 - July Series: WHO DO I WANT TO BE?
  3. Jun 24

    EP #80 - RESETTING… WITHOUT STARTING OVER - A Gentle Mid-Year Reset for the Next Six Months

    What if a mid-year reset didn’t have to mean reinventing your entire life — but simply returning to yourself with more honesty, compassion, and care? In this episode, we explore the quiet invitation that the middle of the year can offer: a chance to pause, reflect, and gently reassess where you are, what you need, and what may no longer fit the person you are becoming. Together, we talk about how easy it is to carry pressure around goals, expectations, and timelines — especially when life has shifted in ways you didn’t anticipate. But growth isn’t always found in dramatic change. Often, it lives in the small shifts: softening your inner criticism, adjusting your priorities, or allowing yourself to choose differently than you did before. We explore the importance of self-compassion during seasons of transition, and why moving forward does not require abandoning yourself in the process. You are allowed to update your goals. You are allowed to change direction. And you are allowed to honor the version of you that exists right now — not only the version you hoped to be by this point in the year. This conversation is a gentle reminder that reflection is not failure. It is awareness. And awareness creates space for intentional change. This isn’t about becoming a completely new person. It’s about reconnecting with yourself in a way that feels more aligned, sustainable, and true. And if this year hasn’t unfolded the way you imagined, may this episode remind you: small shifts still matter. You can begin again from exactly where you are. And you don’t have to navigate that process alone. CONNECT WITH US! Website: www.fertilityconnectz.com Email: enquiries@counsellingconnectz.com Social Media: InstagramFacebookLinkedInTikTokYouTube

    EP #80 - RESETTING… WITHOUT STARTING OVER - A Gentle Mid-Year Reset for the Next Six Months
  4. Jun 17

    EP #79 - Why Do We Struggle So Differently? What Men Don’t Always Say About Stress, Fertility & Emotions

    What if the hardest moments in a fertility journey aren’t always the loud ones — but the quiet misunderstandings that grow between two people trying to cope in different ways? In this episode, we explore the emotional dynamics that can arise within relationships during fertility struggles — the silence, the stress, the differing coping styles, and the longing to feel understood when both partners may be hurting in very different ways. Together, we talk about how easy it can be to misinterpret each other’s responses during difficult seasons. One partner may need to talk openly, while the other becomes quiet or withdrawn. But different coping does not mean different caring. Sometimes silence is not rejection — it is protection. A way of holding emotions that feel too overwhelming to express. We gently explore how stress can shape communication, and why emotional distance often grows not from lack of love, but from fear, exhaustion, or uncertainty. You’ll hear small shifts in conversation — including asking simple, open questions like “How has this been for you?” — can soften defensiveness and create deeper connections. This episode is an invitation to move away from assumptions and toward curiosity, compassion, and emotional safety. Because fertility journeys are not only medical experiences — they are relational ones too. This isn’t about communicating perfectly. It’s about learning how to stay connected, even when both of you are struggling in different ways. And if things have felt distant or heavy lately, may this conversation remind you: you are on the same team. Understanding can grow again. And you don’t have to navigate this season alone. CONNECT WITH US! Website: www.fertilityconnectz.com Email: enquiries@counsellingconnectz.com Social Media: InstagramFacebookLinkedInTikTokYouTube

    EP #79 - Why Do We Struggle So Differently? What Men Don’t Always Say About Stress, Fertility & Emotions
  5. Jun 10

    EP #78 - Why Does This Still Feel So Heavy? When Your Body Still Holds Stress

    What if the stress you feel during your fertility journey isn’t a sign that you’re failing — but your body’s way of trying to protect you? In this episode, we gently explore the connection between stress, emotional overwhelm, and the body — especially during seasons of uncertainty, waiting, disappointment, and hope that so often accompany fertility challenges. Together, we talk about how the nervous system responds when you’ve been carrying prolonged emotional pressure, and why your reactions make sense in the context of what you’ve experienced. Fertility journeys can place the body in a constant state of alertness — scanning for answers, bracing for outcomes, and holding emotions that don’t always have a place to go. We also explore the idea that the body remembers what the mind tries to move past. Certain appointments, conversations, waiting periods, or unexpected triggers can awaken emotional responses that feel bigger than the moment itself — not because you are “too sensitive,” but because your body has been holding so much for so long. You’ll hear gentle grounding practices and small tools for reconnecting with a sense of safety within yourself — not by forcing calm, but by creating moments of steadiness and compassion when overwhelm begins to rise. At the heart of this conversation is a reminder that healing is not always loud or dramatic. Often, it happens quietly — in the small moments where you pause, breathe, soften, and choose to care for yourself differently. This isn’t about “fixing” your emotions or controlling your body. It’s about understanding yourself with more kindness as you move through something deeply human. And if you’ve been feeling emotionally exhausted lately, may this conversation remind you: your body is not working against you. It is responding the best way it knows how. And healing can begin gently, one small moment at a time. CONNECT WITH US! Website: www.fertilityconnectz.com Email: enquiries@counsellingconnectz.com Social Media: InstagramFacebookLinkedInTikTokYouTube

    EP #78 - Why Does This Still Feel So Heavy? When Your Body Still Holds Stress
  6. Jun 3

    EP #77 - Halfway Through the Year… Where Am I, Really?

    Halfway Through the Year… Where Am I, Really? What if reaching the middle of the year wasn’t a moment to judge how far you’ve come — but an invitation to pause, breathe, and gently reconnect with yourself? In this episode, we take a reflective journey through the halfway point of the year — a space to slow down and honestly ask: Where am I, really? Not just in terms of goals or productivity, but emotionally, mentally, and personally. Together, we explore the importance of self-reflection and emotional check-ins, especially during seasons where life may have felt overwhelming, uncertain, or different from what you expected. So often, we keep moving without noticing how much we’ve been carrying. This conversation offers permission to pause long enough to truly listen to yourself again. We also reflect on the different pillars of life — your relationships, wellbeing, work, purpose, and emotional health — and whether they still feel aligned with the values and needs that matter most to you right now. Because growth is not only about pushing forward. Sometimes it’s about adjusting course with honesty and compassion. You’ll hear gentle reminders about resilience too — not the kind built through pressure or perfection, but the kind that grows through awareness, flexibility, and self-care. Even in the face of uncertainty or unexpected change, reflection can become a grounding place to begin again with more clarity and intention. At the heart of this episode is a simple but powerful invitation: to stop measuring yourself only by achievements, and start reconnecting with the person you are becoming along the way. This isn’t about having the year perfectly figured out. It’s about meeting this moment with honesty, curiosity, and care. And as you step into the second half of the year, may this conversation remind you: it’s never too late to realign, reset, and move forward in a way that feels more true to you. CONNECT WITH US! Website: www.fertilityconnectz.com Email: enquiries@counsellingconnectz.com Social Media: InstagramFacebookLinkedInTikTokYouTube

    EP #77 - Halfway Through the Year… Where Am I, Really?
  7. May 27

    EP #76 - May Series: Learning to Hold Yourself

    May Series: Holding It All Together (Even When It’s Heavy) Learning to Hold Yourself What if resilience wasn’t about pushing yourself harder — but about learning how to hold yourself more gently through difficult moments? In this episode of our May Series: Holding It All Together (Even When It’s Heavy), we explore the quiet but powerful practice of self-compassion — especially during seasons where life feels emotionally overwhelming, uncertain, or heavy. Together, we reflect on the way we speak to ourselves in hard moments, and how our inner dialogue can either deepen our suffering or soften it. So often, we respond to ourselves with criticism, pressure, or frustration in ways we would never speak to someone we love. This conversation invites you to begin noticing those patterns without judgment — not to shame yourself, but to create awareness and choice. We also talk about the importance of pausing before reacting — creating small moments of space that allow you to respond rather than emotionally spiral. Because even a single breath, a gentle pause, or a softer thought can begin to shift the way you move through difficult emotions. You’ll hear practical reflections on emotional regulation, mindfulness, and the small internal shifts that help build resilience over time — not through perfection, but through consistent kindness toward yourself. At the heart of this episode is a simple but important reminder: the way you hold yourself matters. Especially when things feel heavy. This isn’t about always staying calm or getting it “right.” It’s about learning to meet yourself with the same compassion you so freely offer others. And if you’ve been carrying a lot lately, may this conversation remind you: you deserve gentleness too. One small pause, one kinder thought, one compassionate moment at a time. CONNECT WITH US! Website: www.fertilityconnectz.com Email: enquiries@counsellingconnectz.com Social Media: InstagramFacebookLinkedInTikTokYouTube

    EP #76 - May Series: Learning to Hold Yourself
  8. May 20

    EP #75 - May Series: The Invisible Load You’re Carrying

    May Series: Holding It All Together (Even When It’s Heavy) The Invisible Load You’re Carrying What if the hardest part of the fertility journey isn’t always what others can see — but the invisible weight you carry every single day? In this episode of our May Series: Holding It All Together (Even When It’s Heavy), we gently explore the emotional load so many people carry silently through fertility struggles — the constant thinking, planning, waiting, hoping, managing, and holding it all together while trying to keep moving forward. Together, we talk about the “emotional cocktail” that can quietly build beneath the surface: exhaustion, grief, anxiety, pressure, fear, and the invisible mental labor that often goes unnoticed by others. And yet, just because your pain isn’t always visible doesn’t mean it isn’t real. This conversation is a reminder that emotional exhaustion does not need proof to deserve care. You are not weak for feeling overwhelmed. You are carrying a lot. We also explore gentle, practical anchors that can help when your nervous system feels overloaded — small ways to create steadiness, soften internal pressure, and reconnect with yourself in moments that feel emotionally heavy. Because healing isn’t about doing everything perfectly. It’s about meeting yourself with compassion, one moment at a time. At the heart of this episode is an invitation to stop minimizing what you’ve been carrying in silence. Your emotional load matters. Your experience matters. And your wellbeing deserves attention too. This isn’t about “holding it all together” flawlessly. It’s about learning that you don’t have to carry everything alone. And if things feel especially heavy right now, may this conversation remind you: progress — not perfection — is enough. You deserve support, gentleness, and space to breathe too. CONNECT WITH US! Website: www.fertilityconnectz.com Email: enquiries@counsellingconnectz.com Social Media: InstagramFacebookLinkedInTikTokYouTube

    EP #75 - May Series: The Invisible Load You’re Carrying

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I’m Tanja Faessler, an accredited coach, counsellor, and the founder of Counsellingconnectz and Fertilityconnectz. In this episode, I’ll share our journey—from starting in 2012 to supporting over 15,000 clients, a milestone that still fills me with gratitude. At Fertilityconnectz, we are dedicated to guiding you through every aspect of your fertility journey—whether you're trying naturally, going through IVF, or exploring options like egg freezing or donor programs. On this podcast, we will focus on all aspects of your well-being—mentally, emotionally, spiritually, on all levels—because we believe that balance in these areas is where the magic happens. Fertility can be an isolating journey, but you are not alone. We've created this podcast to touch on topics we've gathered from our extensive client sessions. These topics are designed to resonate with your experiences or even those of someone you know. Plus, we'll be inviting a series of knowledgeable guests to share their expertise, making each episode both informative and engaging. My goal is to make this podcast your supportive friend, offering understanding and guidance as you navigate your unique path to parenthood. Stay tuned for exciting episodes and let’s make your fertility journey one full of hope and fulfillment! Links: Website: https://www.fertilityconnectz.com/ Email: enquiries@counsellingconnectz.com Instagram: @fertilityconnectz