Her New Lens with Dr. Tricia Rose Stone

Dr. Tricia Rose Stone
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"We don't see things as they are. We see them as we are." — Anaïs Nin Dr. Tricia Rose Stone spent 20 years as an optometrist correcting how people see the world — then she realized the most important lenses we wear aren't in front of our eyes. They're the beliefs, stories, and identities we've been looking through for a lifetime. And there comes a moment, for many women, it arrives in midlife, when the prescription simply stops working. Her New Lens is for the woman who knows it's time for a new one. Each episode brings together leading experts and Tricia's hard-won wisdom to help you examine the lens you've been living through—and change it. Through the New Lens Method's four pillars — Heart-Led Transformation, Empowered Vision, Authentic Integration, and Radiant Embodiment — you'll stop seeing yourself through everyone else's eyes and start living a life that's unmistakably yours. Every guest leaves you with one thing: the lens they recommend for seeing yourself more clearly. Because when you change the way you see, everything you see changes. Step into focus. This is Her New Lens.

  1. 6d ago

    Stop Waiting for Clarity — Move Anyway

    Stop Waiting and Move Anyway: From Measurement to Possibility In episode eight of the Empowered Vision season, host Tricia Rose Stone confesses she began Her New Lens with no audio experience, audience, or plan, and nearly listened to an inner voice urging her to wait until she was ready. Drawing on Rosamund and Benjamin Zander’s The Art of Possibility and Ben Zander’s nursing-home story, she argues that clarity and frameworks often appear only after taking action. She contrasts the “world of measurement” (comparison, scarcity, fear, and waiting for proof) with the “universe of possibility” (openness, contribution, and willingness). Tricia shares personal examples—starting the podcast, envisioning a relationship after an eight-month dating pause, and building a Boston practice—showing how committing to a vision and moving step by step creates momentum and invites outcomes that couldn’t be measured in advance. 00:00 Confession And Vision 02:08 Book That Shifts Thinking 02:52 Nursing Home Lesson 04:21 Invented Limitations 06:01 Move Before Clarity 08:01 Two Worlds Explained 09:41 Rock Bottom To Vision 12:49 Be A Contribution 14:12 You Are The Board 16:41 Frameworks Through Movement 17:35 Personal Proof And Practice 19:28 Final Call To Move

    21 min

  2. May 19

    The Relationship You Desire Begins as a Vision

    Build the Vision for Love: Naming the Old Pattern and Creating a New Felt Sense In episode six of the Empowered Vision season of Her New Lens, Tricia Rose Stone shares how she once feared love after repeated dysfunctional relationships that left her feeling unvalued, and how a rock-bottom relationship forced her to confront the “vision” of love she had unconsciously been recreating. She explains that relationship lenses are inherited from early family dynamics and cultural narratives, shaping a self-image that repeats patterns like abandonment, drama, or unworthiness. Tricia describes her own childhood imprint with an alcoholic, unavailable father, and a later emotional breakdown that led her to stop dating and focus on healing, nervous system awareness, and deliberate creation. She outlines building a new relationship vision from the inside out—prioritizing desired feelings like safety, security, and being valued—using journaling, reminders, gratitude, creative visioning, and identity work, then letting go with trust; eight months later, she met her husband, whom she has been with for nine years. 00:00 Fear of Love 01:53 Inherited Relationship Lenses 04:26 Patterns and Self Image 06:54 My Father and Abandonment 08:27 Name the Old Vision 09:38 Rock Bottom Clarity 11:45 My Rock Bottom Story 17:09 Building a New Vision 22:23 Daily Practices to Align 26:40 Letting Go and Trust 28:48 Weekly Takeaways and Close

    31 min

  3. May 12

    The Moment You Can No Longer Abandon Yourself

    This episode of Her New Lens focuses on “empowered vision,” defined as seeing truthfully when old identities no longer fit, and features guest Kim Korven, who shares her recent decision to end her second marriage after 15 years due to boundarylessness and feeling like her husband’s emotional support person. Kim describes recognizing patterns rooted in childhood programming around earning love, choosing to end relationships without making the other person the enemy, and recalling earlier reinventions, including peacefully divorcing her first husband, raising children, and returning to law school with unexpected support and scholarships after “jumping off the cliff” in faith. She discusses how tension in a home harms kids, practices that build self-love (breathwork, Miracle Morning SAVERS, and alphabet-based gratitude), and her work helping families navigate divorce peacefully and strategically with resources like journal prompts, scripts, and educational modules. 00:00 Empowered Vision Intro 01:29 Meet Kim Korven 02:28 Choosing Yourself Again 04:07 Peaceful Divorce Mindset 06:27 Law School Leap of Faith 09:25 Reframing and Being Caught 11:47 Seeing Your Growth Clearly 14:14 The Guitar Boundary Wakeup 18:40 Ending Without Making Enemies 19:44 April Fourth Reveal 20:01 Trusting The Leap 20:53 Proof From Past 23:06 Morning Practices 26:27 Alphabet Gratitude 28:33 Advice For Mothers 34:13 Courage To Stay Or Go 35:42 Helping Families Divorce 38:38 New Lens Closing

    40 min

  4. May 6

    The Stories Blocking Your Vision

    In episode four of the Empowered Vision season of Her New Lens, Tricia Rose Stone explores self-sabotage through Gay Hendricks’ “upper limit problem” from The Big Leap: an unconscious “internal thermostat” that pulls us back when success, love, joy, or abundance exceed what we believe we can allow. She shares two personal upper limits—fear that visible success will lead to isolation and fear she can’t balance success with wellness, relationships, travel, and interests—then describes common upper-limit behaviors like picking fights, worrying, blame and criticism, procrastination, and mindless scrolling, often appearing right after breakthroughs. She outlines Hendricks’ four underlying barriers (feeling fundamentally flawed; disloyalty/abandonment; burden; capacity) and connects the pattern to staying in the “zone of excellence” instead of the “zone of genius.” She offers steps to dismantle it: name the barrier, catch the pattern in real time, complete the vision (especially for capacity fears), and question isolation fears, including learning from “expanders,” and closes with a weekly challenge and a teaser for next week’s guest episode. 00:00 Season Recap Setup 01:05 Personal Upper Limits 02:21 Inner Thermostat Explained 06:21 Upper Limit Behaviors 13:04 Four Hidden Barriers 17:25 Zone of Genius 21:46 Dismantle The Ceiling 24:52 Weekly Challenge Wrap 25:43 Closing Next Week

    28 min

  5. Apr 27

    The Art of Seeing It First

    Tricia Rose Stone presents episode three of the Empowered Vision Series, focusing on visualization as a deliberate, trainable, science-backed skill rather than wishful thinking. Inspired by Maya Raichoora’s book Visualize and supported by ideas she cites from Joe Dispenza, she explains that the predictive brain can’t easily distinguish vividly imagined experiences from real ones, making anxiety a form of unconscious negative visualization, and that deliberate visualization can create new mental patterns. She shares personal examples of manifesting her husband after 7 months of focused visualization, and of manifesting an optometry practice in Boston after recognizing the city and finding a practice one block from a park she’d stayed near. She outlines outcome, process, and creative visualization, recommends a daily “ideal day” rehearsal, emphasizes small, consistent practice, self-belief, and writing down bold visions. 00:00 Series Setup 01:06 Why Visualization Works 02:42 Brain Prediction Patterns 05:32 Anxiety as Visualization 07:30 Athletes Proven Rehearsal 08:32 Manifesting True Love 13:25 Three Visualization Types 18:56 Boston Practice Manifestation 24:09 Daily Ideal Day Routine 27:34 Self-Belief Matters 29:53 Weekly Takeaways Outro

    32 min

  6. Apr 21

    Into Me See: The Art of True Intimacy with Xanet Pailet

    On “Her New Lens,” Tricia interviews Xanet, a sex and intimacy educator, coach, and author (and former healthcare lawyer/executive) who spent 26 years in a sexless marriage, left at 50, and then began a 15-year career helping individuals and couples rebuild connection. They discuss how emotional safety underpins desire—especially for women—and how lack of safety, trauma, shame, and disconnection from the body can shut down libido, while men may feel emotionally safe after sex, creating a common mismatch. Xanet explains what safety feels like (being heard without judgment or fixing), emphasizes that intimacy and sex are learnable skills, and highlights conflict repair as key to long-term relationships. They address menopause and libido myths, noting bad or performative sex and “obligation sex,” and describe how new relationship energy can revive desire at any age. Xanet shares guidance for singles on examining patterns and red flags, and introduces her books, “The Sex and Intimacy Repair Kit” and “Living an Orgasmic Life,” offering lenses of pleasure and vulnerability. 00:00 Welcome and Setup 00:28 Meet Xanet 02:13 Her Turning Point 06:08 Safety Drives Desire 09:03 Men vs Women Safety 11:16 What Safety Feels Like 13:28 Intimacy Skills Learned 16:38 Menopause Desire Myths 17:15 Bad Sex and Obligation 19:06 Long Term Connection 20:21 Attunement Equals Safety 21:15 Attachment Wounds Explained 22:09 Preparing for New Love 25:09 Patterns and Red Flags 27:37 Relationships as Healing 28:39 Pressure to Pick Right 30:15 Healing Takes Time 31:43 Inside the New Book 34:06 Two Lenses to Try 36:37 Final Reflections

    37 min

  7. Apr 14

    Before the Vision Board — There Is You

    Tricia Rose Stone introduces season three of “Her New Lens,” titled “Empowered Vision,” and explains that the work begins before goals or vision boards with updating self-image—what you believe you deserve and what’s possible for a woman like you—drawing on Maxwell Maltz’s “Psycho-Cybernetics.” She contrasts “I’ll believe it when I see it” with Wayne Dyer’s “you’ll see it when you believe it,” arguing that proof follows an inner decision and that circumstances can’t outpace self-image, illustrated with examples from La La Land, Love Actually, and lottery winners. Stone shares her own journey from divorce and single motherhood to meeting her husband at 44 after years of visualization and identity work, and outlines three practices: an identity audit of inherited beliefs, a future-self letter, and seven days of daily mental rehearsal, drawing on neuroscience that shows vividly imagined experiences shape the nervous system. 00:00 Season Premiere Setup 00:38 Vision Before Goals 03:41 Believe Then See 07:15 Movie Proof Lala Land 09:32 Self Image Creates Life 11:22 Maxwell Maltz Explained 12:47 Why We Can't Hold It 15:17 Deposits Into Identity 17:10 Visualization Neuroscience 19:14 Inherited Beliefs Lens 21:51 Self Image Changes 23:53 Her Story: Divorce To Love 27:24 Decide To See Beyond 31:12 No Permission Needed 32:02 Three Practical Exercises 36:03 Wrap Up And Next Week

    38 min

  8. Mar 24

    The Lens You Choose Now

    As this season comes to a close, there is a question quietly waiting beneath everything we’ve explored: What lens will you choose now? Throughout this season of Her New Lens, we’ve looked at the beliefs we inherit, the patterns we repeat, and the ways our past experiences shape how we see love, identity, success, and possibility. But awareness alone is not the transformation. Transformation begins the moment you realize that the lens you’ve been looking through is not fixed — and that a different way of seeing has always been available to you. In this season finale, we step back and gather the deeper thread connecting these conversations: how perception shapes emotional experience… how identity shifts when we question old prescriptions… and how choosing a new lens can quietly change the direction of a life. We explore: • why many of the lenses we live through were never consciously chosen • how attachment patterns, past experiences, and unconscious beliefs influence what feels possible • why clarity often arrives gradually, not dramatically • how small internal shifts create meaningful external change • what it means to begin seeing yourself — and your life — through a lens of possibility rather than limitation You may find that nothing outside of you has changed — and yet everything feels different. Because the moment the lens shifts, the landscape does too. If this season has resonated, this episode offers a space to reflect, integrate, and choose how you want to move forward. The lens you choose now becomes the life you begin to live.

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"We don't see things as they are. We see them as we are." — Anaïs Nin Dr. Tricia Rose Stone spent 20 years as an optometrist correcting how people see the world — then she realized the most important lenses we wear aren't in front of our eyes. They're the beliefs, stories, and identities we've been looking through for a lifetime. And there comes a moment, for many women, it arrives in midlife, when the prescription simply stops working. Her New Lens is for the woman who knows it's time for a new one. Each episode brings together leading experts and Tricia's hard-won wisdom to help you examine the lens you've been living through—and change it. Through the New Lens Method's four pillars — Heart-Led Transformation, Empowered Vision, Authentic Integration, and Radiant Embodiment — you'll stop seeing yourself through everyone else's eyes and start living a life that's unmistakably yours. Every guest leaves you with one thing: the lens they recommend for seeing yourself more clearly. Because when you change the way you see, everything you see changes. Step into focus. This is Her New Lens.

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