Mesilas Yesharim

Rabbi Ari Klapper, Real Judaism, Eli Podcast Productions
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Bridge the gap between knowing and living Torah values. Rabbi Ari Klapper's detailed study of this foundational mussar text addresses the frustrating reality: we know what's right, but struggle to embody it. Practical character development, fear and love of Hashem, spiritual growth through stories and real-world examples. Change is harder than learning all of Shas, but it is possible with consistent effort and authentic guidance.

  1. 23h ago

    Ep. 101 – People Who Act Like...

    "Always be around people," the Gemara says—but not people who act like animals. The Mesilas Yesharim clarifies that while it's healthy to be social and have friends, you must be around people who act like people, not like animals. What's the difference? Human beings are medaber, elevated above the animal kingdom. We're not supposed to be animals walking on two legs. Yet there are groups—the writer tells a story from college where he wrote a paper describing certain rebellious groups as acting like animals, and the professor's response was, "Who says people can't act like animals?" They both agreed on the diagnosis; they just disagreed on whether it was a problem. Better to have one or two good friends than a whole group of bad ones. Acquaintances aren't real friends. What's a real friend? Rebbi Yossi in Avos says, "Buy yourself a friend"—someone who helps you grow in Avodas Hashem, who elevates you. That's a true friend. Be around people, yes, but only those who lift you up, not those who drag you down. Can you tell the difference? Will you choose quality over quantity? Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

  2. Oct 27

    Ep. 100!! – Are You a Weekend Jew

    Shlomo HaMelech warns: don't mix with people who make changes. The Mesilas Yesharim identifies the third obstacle to zerizus: bad friends, specifically those who say, "Things are different today." This started with the Haskalah, the so-called Enlightenment, which convinced Jews they needed to be modern, to mix with non-Jews, to live in the contemporary world. Before that, there were only two options: shomer Torah u'mitzvos or convert. The Enlightenment created a third category—Reform Judaism—and it destroyed the majority of the Jewish people. Today, most Jews don't even know what Shema Yisrael is. It's heartbreaking. The more you mix Yiddishkeit with the outside world, the weaker your connection becomes. Unfiltered internet accelerates this—whole families go off the derech one by one. The writer once gave a fiery speech about "weekend Jews"—people who are like everyone else during the week, then Jewish on Shabbos. One rabbi in the audience leaned over and said, "My whole congregation is weekend Jews." The founders of Reform saw their own grandchildren intermarry with non-Jews. Two hundred years of history prove this path fails. Don't mix with those who make changes. They'll pull you away, and you might not even notice until it's too late. Are you protecting your Yiddishkeit, or diluting it? Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

  3. Oct 20

    Ep. 99 – Peer Pressure

    Why would you walk straight into a massive hole in the ground? You wouldn't—physically, that's absurd. But spiritually, people do it constantly, and the third reason is friends. The Mesilas Yesharim identifies bad friends as one of the greatest threats to zerizus. You know the danger is there, you understand it's wrong, but you do it anyway because everyone else is. Bachrim climb cranes 25 meters high without harnesses—insanity—but once one guy does it, the next follows, then another. Why? "I want to be part of the chevra." "If your friend jumped off a bridge, would you?" The answer? Probably yes. People will do the worst, craziest things to avoid feeling like outsiders. They'll destroy their lives to fit in with a group. It's the greatest nisayon for most people—loneliness feels unbearable, so they compromise everything. Physically, you'd never walk into that crater on Rechov Strauss. But spiritually, peer pressure makes you blind. Can you resist the pull of the crowd? Will you choose truth over belonging, even if it means standing alone? Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

  4. Oct 13

    Ep. 98 – Using Laughter the Right Way

    A leitz can't be helped by words—only by suffering. The Mesilas Yesharim teaches that someone who doesn't take anything seriously won't be moved by mussar, by advice, by gentle correction. It slides off them. The only thing that penetrates is shoiftim—judgment, physical consequences they can't dismiss. Life will smack them in the face, especially after marriage, when seriousness is demanded and there's no more room for games. If you don't learn beforehand, reality will teach you the hard way. But laughter does have a place. The Gemara speaks of clowns who were ben Olam Haba because they cheered up people in depression. Laughter is a tool—but if you only have one tool, you'll misuse it everywhere. You can't use a drill for every job; sometimes you need a hammer, sometimes a screwdriver. If laughter is your essence, your default everywhere, you've lost the ability to navigate life. You need multiple tools. If you naturally lean toward humor, use it wisely and work on developing seriousness. Otherwise, you'll hurt yourself and possibly others. Can you distinguish when to laugh and when to stop? Will you develop the range of tools you need to live well? Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

  5. Oct 6

    Ep. 97 – What You Will Take Seriously

    Yeshayahu HaNavi screamed at people who turned everything into a joke because they wouldn't listen to the prophets' rebuke. The Mesilas Yesharim explains that the purpose of a navi is to set people straight—"You're doing something wrong, fix it"—but when people joke about everything, they can't hear correction anymore. They laugh it off, strengthen their resolve to keep sinning, and refuse to change. When mussar doesn't work, when intellectual arguments don't penetrate, only one thing speaks: physical punishment. Judgment. Pain. Someone who doesn't use their brain, who won't learn from others' mistakes or even their own—they're in serious trouble. The best teacher is someone else's mistake; the second best is your own. But if you learn from neither, Hashem has no choice but to send stronger messages. Chazal teach that if you ignore the warning signs, the consequences escalate. You weren't careful with tzedakah? You start losing money. Still not getting it? You lose more. We need to wake up and ask: what is Hashem trying to tell me? Why are these things happening? Speak to a Rav if you're unsure, but don't ignore the messages. Can you learn before the lesson gets painful? Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

  6. Sep 29

    Ep. 96 – Lowering Its Importance

    A joke says, "This doesn't matter." The Mesilas Yesharim teaches that leitzonus throws any topic into the dirt, regardless of how important it actually is. The nature of a joke is to take something serious and make it trivial. You feel it when someone jokes at your expense—they're telling you, "You're not important." Spouses who mock each other inflict deep wounds because the message is clear: "You're not chashiv to me." The Rambam says a husband must honor his wife more than himself, and a wife must honor her husband like a king. Making jokes does the exact opposite—it degrades. This style of humor—sharp, biting, cutting—has become normalized over the past 40-50 years, but it destroys relationships and destroys people's outlooks on life. Someone good at this, quick-witted with devastating one-liners, has a talent—but it's a massive nisayon. "A choyzik maker is a choyzik maker," as the saying goes. You can't compartmentalize; if you joke about everything, you'll eventually joke about sacred things, lowering them in your own eyes and everyone else's. Can you use words to build instead of tear down? Will you recognize the damage before it's irreversible? Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

  7. Sep 22

    Ep. 95 – No Imprint At All

    Ancient warriors coated their shields with oil so arrows would slip off without leaving a mark. The Mesilas Yesharim uses this mashal to explain leitzonus: when you make a joke out of something serious, it slides right off you—no impression, no impact, nothing. Someone tries to give you mussar, tries to help you improve, and you crack a joke. Boom. It's gone. Like it was never said. That's the power—and the curse—of levity. This can be a deliberate tactic: a serious issue gets raised, someone makes a light comment, and suddenly the whole room relaxes and the topic is dead. But more often, people do this subconsciously because they don't want to face reality. You can be over on the worst aveiros this way—gilui arayos, the most severe sins—just by making light of them. Some people naturally lean toward seriousness; others toward lightness. If you're the latter, you have to learn to take things seriously, because eventually reality will catch up. Drinking does the same thing—it lets you escape momentarily, but when the buzz wears off, you're right back where you started. Can you stop using jokes as a shield? Will you let truth penetrate? Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

  8. Sep 15

    Ep. 94 – Is Your Whole Life One Big Joke

    If you don't take life seriously, life will eventually force you to—and it won't be gentle. The Mesilas Yesharim reveals that people who live as if everything's a joke are running from reality, scared to face what life is truly about. But serious things happen to everyone—illness, loss, responsibility—and when they do, people who've spent their lives laughing won't know how to respond. They'll freeze, or worse, they'll laugh inappropriately because they literally don't know what else to do. You've seen it—something shocking happens and someone starts giggling nervously. It's not that they think it's funny; their brain can't process reality anymore. If you don't learn to take life seriously, you'll never grow. You'll be 90 years old complaining about who's sitting where at the dinner table like you're still in high school. People who never mature emotionally stay children forever, and it's tragic. Yes, you should be happy, have simcha, smile—but happiness without seriousness is hollow. Can you develop the maturity to handle real life? Will you grow up before circumstances force you to? Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Bridge the gap between knowing and living Torah values. Rabbi Ari Klapper's detailed study of this foundational mussar text addresses the frustrating reality: we know what's right, but struggle to embody it. Practical character development, fear and love of Hashem, spiritual growth through stories and real-world examples. Change is harder than learning all of Shas, but it is possible with consistent effort and authentic guidance.

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    Rabbi Ari Klapper, Real Judaism, Eli Podcast Productions
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    103
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