Mesilas Yesharim

Rabbi Ari Klapper, Real Judaism, Eli Podcast Productions
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Bridge the gap between knowing and living Torah values. Rabbi Ari Klapper's detailed study of this foundational mussar text addresses the frustrating reality: we know what's right, but struggle to embody it. Practical character development, fear and love of Hashem, spiritual growth through stories and real-world examples. Change is harder than learning all of Shas, but it is possible with consistent effort and authentic guidance.

  1. 6d ago

    Ep. 96 – Lowering Its Importance

    A joke says, "This doesn't matter." The Mesilas Yesharim teaches that leitzonus throws any topic into the dirt, regardless of how important it actually is. The nature of a joke is to take something serious and make it trivial. You feel it when someone jokes at your expense—they're telling you, "You're not important." Spouses who mock each other inflict deep wounds because the message is clear: "You're not chashiv to me." The Rambam says a husband must honor his wife more than himself, and a wife must honor her husband like a king. Making jokes does the exact opposite—it degrades. This style of humor—sharp, biting, cutting—has become normalized over the past 40-50 years, but it destroys relationships and destroys people's outlooks on life. Someone good at this, quick-witted with devastating one-liners, has a talent—but it's a massive nisayon. "A choyzik maker is a choyzik maker," as the saying goes. You can't compartmentalize; if you joke about everything, you'll eventually joke about sacred things, lowering them in your own eyes and everyone else's. Can you use words to build instead of tear down? Will you recognize the damage before it's irreversible? Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

  2. Sep 22

    Ep. 95 – No Imprint At All

    Ancient warriors coated their shields with oil so arrows would slip off without leaving a mark. The Mesilas Yesharim uses this mashal to explain leitzonus: when you make a joke out of something serious, it slides right off you—no impression, no impact, nothing. Someone tries to give you mussar, tries to help you improve, and you crack a joke. Boom. It's gone. Like it was never said. That's the power—and the curse—of levity. This can be a deliberate tactic: a serious issue gets raised, someone makes a light comment, and suddenly the whole room relaxes and the topic is dead. But more often, people do this subconsciously because they don't want to face reality. You can be over on the worst aveiros this way—gilui arayos, the most severe sins—just by making light of them. Some people naturally lean toward seriousness; others toward lightness. If you're the latter, you have to learn to take things seriously, because eventually reality will catch up. Drinking does the same thing—it lets you escape momentarily, but when the buzz wears off, you're right back where you started. Can you stop using jokes as a shield? Will you let truth penetrate? Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

  3. Sep 15

    Ep. 94 – Is Your Whole Life One Big Joke

    If you don't take life seriously, life will eventually force you to—and it won't be gentle. The Mesilas Yesharim reveals that people who live as if everything's a joke are running from reality, scared to face what life is truly about. But serious things happen to everyone—illness, loss, responsibility—and when they do, people who've spent their lives laughing won't know how to respond. They'll freeze, or worse, they'll laugh inappropriately because they literally don't know what else to do. You've seen it—something shocking happens and someone starts giggling nervously. It's not that they think it's funny; their brain can't process reality anymore. If you don't learn to take life seriously, you'll never grow. You'll be 90 years old complaining about who's sitting where at the dinner table like you're still in high school. People who never mature emotionally stay children forever, and it's tragic. Yes, you should be happy, have simcha, smile—but happiness without seriousness is hollow. Can you develop the maturity to handle real life? Will you grow up before circumstances force you to? Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

  4. Sep 8

    Ep. 93 – How Far Can Levity Take You

    A little joke can lead straight to gilui arayos. The Mesilas Yesharim quotes the Mishnah in Avos: frivolity and lightheartedness are the gateway to one of the worst aveiros imaginable. How is that possible? Gilui arayos is one of the big three—people understand how terrible it is, how severe the punishment is. Yet a few jokes, a little loosening up, and suddenly the barriers come down. Fear disappears, one step leads to another, and before you know it, you're standing at the edge of an aveira you swore you'd never approach. This isn't just about the final act—it's about the lead-up, the issurei arayos like looking and thinking that people dismiss as "not such a big deal." Once you joke about something serious, it stops being serious. The inhibitions that protect you dissolve, and what felt impossible becomes shockingly easy. "We're being shomer negiah—we're only holding hands." That's not shomer negiah, and once you've crossed that line, the next step isn't far. Can you recognize how dangerous levity is? Will you guard the seriousness of what protects you before it's too late? Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

  5. Sep 1

    Ep. 92 – Fake Happiness

    Being a leitz is one of the biggest insults you can give someone—it means nothing in life is important to you. The Mesilas Yesharim compares a leitz to someone who's drunk or a shoteh: they're always happy, but their happiness is fake. It doesn't come from deep satisfaction; it comes from thrills and jokes, not from being settled and content. Yes, sometimes you need a good laugh to lift someone up. The Gemara speaks of two clowns who were Ben Olam Haba because they cheered up people who were down—but they did it without taking away the seriousness of their situations. Medical clowns understand this balance: make someone smile without trivializing their terminal illness. But leitzanus as a derech in life? That's when your brain is gone, you have no connection to the seriousness of reality, and all inhibitions disappear. It's like being drunk—you say things you shouldn't because nothing is holding you back. These people can't accept guidance, can't take anything seriously, and end up doing the worst aveiros because there's nothing stopping them. Shlomo HaMelech said there's a time for laughter, but if it's your whole approach to life, you're lost forever. The only thing that might wake you up is heavy yissurim—and you don't want to get there. Will you choose to take life seriously before it's too late? Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

  6. Aug 25

    Ep. 91 – Drowning in Levity

    Being stuck in gashmiyus is the easy nisayon—but there's a harder one. The Mesilas Yesharim reveals that the second major obstacle to zerizus is schok and kalos rosh, joking around all the time. Why is this such a difficult nisayon? Because it's like drowning in the ocean with no land in sight, no boats, no hope. Even if you're a great swimmer, you're not making it out. A couple recently went jet skiing in Aruba, got stranded in the Atlantic, and miraculously were found—but the odds of finding two tiny people bobbing in the ocean are almost zero. That's how difficult this nisayon is. One joke can destroy everything. You're in a serious meeting about campus security, the college president makes a joke, and suddenly the issue is buried—no one can bring it back up without looking overly serious. You want to improve yourself, but someone in your group cracks a joke and the whole thing collapses. You don't want to seem weird in front of your friends, so you go along with it. Levity destroys commitment faster than anything. Can you take your life seriously even when everyone around you is laughing? Will you hold firm when the atmosphere tries to pull you down? Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

  7. Aug 18

    Ep. 90 – Time, Our Most Precious Commodity

    Time is the one commodity you can never get back. The Mesilas Yesharim teaches that if you're smart, you won't waste a second. Don't lose out on time—it's so precious. Use it to serve Hashem better, to fix yourself, to elevate your soul. And yet people spend hours every day on their phones doing absolutely nothing. It's a rachmanis. Rosh Hashanah is approaching, and Hashem is going to decree life and death. You're going to ask for life—but what is life? Life is time. You're asking for more time on this earth. But what are you doing with it? If you're wasting time, what's the point? Hashem isn't giving you life so you can scroll mindlessly through social media. The Yetzer Hara loves boredom because when you're doing nothing, he can get you to do every aveira imaginable. Your mind and eyes wander to places they shouldn't go. Use your time. Create a schedule. Even during bein hazmanim, find ways to make every minute count. Avraham Avinu "came with his days"—he used every single one. A mismid isn't someone who learns 18 hours a day; it's someone who learns 60 minutes in an hour. Are you using every minute, or are you letting your life slip away? Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

  8. Aug 11

    Ep. 89 – How am I Using My Time

    Rosh Hashanah is coming, and you're going to stand before Hashem asking for life—but what are you going to do with it? The Mesilas Yesharim demands that you take a cheshbon hanefesh, especially now in the middle of Elul. Last Rosh Hashanah, the gezeiros for 5785 were sealed. This coming Rosh Hashanah, it's 5786. How will you show Hashem you deserve another year? One of the best defenses is showing Him you're serious—you're a changed person, you're working on yourself. But how? By actually stopping to think about your life and evaluating how you spend your time. What are you doing with your free time? Entertainment is everywhere, but why do you need to be entertained constantly? Because you can't be alone with yourself. We live in a world where boredom is treated like a disease, but downtime should be used for growth, for Torah, for connection. Yes, you need to work, but how much time is truly being wasted? If you're asking Hashem for life, use it right. Are you filling your days with purpose, or are you letting them slip away on nonsense? Can you show Hashem you'll make this year count? Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don't forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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Bridge the gap between knowing and living Torah values. Rabbi Ari Klapper's detailed study of this foundational mussar text addresses the frustrating reality: we know what's right, but struggle to embody it. Practical character development, fear and love of Hashem, spiritual growth through stories and real-world examples. Change is harder than learning all of Shas, but it is possible with consistent effort and authentic guidance.

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    Rabbi Ari Klapper, Real Judaism, Eli Podcast Productions
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
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    98
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