The Sex and Relationships Podcast

Clare Prendergast
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Sex and relationship help is here! This podcast is about sharing professional experience and knowledge, tips and techniques to help you develop better relationships and understand sex life issues. Join the conversion as sex therapists Clare and Janet chat about some of the most common issues they see in the therapy room. Whilst Aileen Gonsalves, creator of the Gonsalves Method, joins Clare to help you navigate your way through those tricky relationships with family, at work, on holiday and even with yourself. Clare and Janet have years of experience in the therapy room but they don’t always agree on things and sometimes they learn from each other. Aileen draws on a wealth of experience in the theatre and helping people to become more present and develop authentic connections with those around them. Clare never gets Janet’s jokes, but they are all open, honest, warm and here to help.

  1. From Bliss to Blame

    FEB 8

    From Bliss to Blame

    Have you ever found yourself thinking, ‘What on earth was I doing?This person is all wrong for me’, when only a few months ago they seemed perfect? How did that feeling of bliss when you’re finishing each other’s sentences and laughing at the same jokes turn to irritation, resentment and blaming them for everything that’s wrong? Clare and Aileen help you understand the natural cycle from falling-in-love bliss to relationship blame, why it happens, and how to navigate your way through it. Dip into some of the things Clare and Aileen chat about in this episode: 03:51 What’s happening to our bodies during the bliss phase 10:54 Difference – the good, the bad and the ugly 17:35 The danger of confiding in people who agree with you 20:49 Tips for navigating through the bliss to blame phases 23:50 Esther Perel – many different marriages within the same marriage 26:08 Tips on better communication 28:03 Has this relationship come to the end of the road? 34:22 Tips on how to have honest conversations with partners and friends Want to know more? If you want to hear more about what to do when sexual attraction starts to fade in a relationship listen to Episode 7 “Lust or Bust” from Season 1. Visit our website: The Sex and Relationships Podcast for more information on the issues discussed in this episode. You can also Ask Clare a question or suggest a topic for future episodes. Follow us on social media: Instagram Facebook About the Sex and Relationships Podcast This podcast is for anyone looking for information or help with their sex lives or relationships. In this season your hosts Clare Prendergast and Aileen Gonsalves deep dive into the world of relationships to give you insights, advice and top tips to help guide you through your relationships. Your hosts Clare Prendergast is a sex and relationships therapist and draws on her knowledge and years of experience in the therapy room to give you help and guidance. Aileen Gonsalves is fascinated in human behaviour and drawing on her many years in the theatre has developed the unique Gonsalves Method which helps people be more present and develop authentic connections with those around them.

    47 min
  2. Beyond Human

    JAN 25

    Beyond Human

    Have you’ve ever felt transformed after a walk by the sea or in the woods? Have you’ve ever found yourself reaching for the biscuit tin when anxious rather than hungry, or noticed how your pet knows when you are feeling low? This podcast is for you. Clare and Aileen take you on a tour of some of those relationships we often don’t think about but matter deeply. From pets and nature to time, food and even life and the divine, these relationships have the ability to shape our lives, comfort us, challenge us and sometimes reveal parts of ourselves we didn’t know were there. Dip into some of the things Clare and Aileen chat about in this episode: 00:24 How your pet can teach you about tuning into your senses and being present. 03:34 Nature – when did you last give yourself permission just to experience it. 04:49 Time: what is your relationship to it? Do you find you don’t have enough or are you able to make time for yourself? 12:14 Having a relationship with place, do you have a sense of belonging where you are? 17:49 Understanding your relationship with food. 23:46 Relationships with the divine, the higher power, the universe. 27:19 Embracing the idea that everything will come to an end helps to embrace and enjoy each moment. Visit our website: The Sex and Relationships Podcast for more information on the issues discussed in this episode. You can also Ask Clare a question or suggest a topic for future episodes. Follow us on social media: Instagram Facebook About the Sex and Relationships Podcast This podcast is for anyone looking for information or help with their sex lives or relationships.In this season your hosts Clare Prendergast and Aileen Gonsalves deep dive into the world of relationships to give you insights, advice and top tips to help guide you through your relationships. Your hosts Clare Prendergast is a sex and relationships therapist and draws on her knowledge and years of experience in the therapy room to give you help and guidance. Aileen Gonsalves is fascinated in human behaviour and drawing on her many years in the theatre has developed the unique Gonsalves Method which helps people be more present and develop authentic connections with those around them.

    31 min
  3. Me and Myself

    JAN 11

    Me and Myself

    Your relationship with yourself might sound a bit odd. But it’s so important. How often have you sidelined or neglected yourself to focus on everyone else? When did you last think paying attention to yourself was selfish? Clare and Aileen share their top tips on how to bring your relationship back to you and reveal how investing in yourself can make a real difference not just to you but to those around you. Dip into some of the things Clare and Aileen chat about in this episode: 00:36 Why we look away 10:14 Why loving yourself is worth it 14:30 How to check in with yourself 22:06 Recognising and understanding code switching 24:40 Tips for getting in touch with your inner self 30:31 Finding buried treasure Want to know more? If you want to hear why it’s so important for your relationships to have ‘me’ time, listen to Episode 9 Me-Topia from Season 1. Visit our website: The Sex and Relationships Podcast for more information on the issues discussed in this episode. You can also Ask Clare a question or suggest a topic for future episodes. Follow us on social media: Instagram Facebook About the Sex and Relationships Podcast This podcast is for anyone looking for information or help with their sex lives or relationships.In this season your hosts Clare Prendergast and Aileen Gonsalves deep dive into the world of relationships to give you insights, advice and top tips to help guide you through your relationships. Your hosts Clare Prendergast is a sex and relationships therapist and draws on her knowledge and years of experience in the therapy room to give you help and guidance. Aileen Gonsalves is fascinated in human behaviour and drawing on her many years in the theatre has developed the unique Gonsalves Method which helps people be more present and develop authentic connections with those around them.

    42 min
  4. Surviving Holidays

    12/21/2025

    Surviving Holidays

    Holidays, thanksgiving, Christmas, birthdays – those special, wonderful moments we dream of. But if you’ve ever walked away from a Christmas dinner or a family holiday wondering what on earth went wrong – this podcast is for you. Check out some of the things Clare and Aileen chat about in this episode: 02:10 Great expectations 07:36 What can possibly go wrong? 11:46 Pressure cooker effect 18:27 Tips for how to navigate special occasions 26:35 Small things that make a big difference 33:00 How to stop making the same mistakes – learning for next time Want to know more? Visit our website: The Sex and Relationships Podcast for more information on the issues discussed in this episode. You can also Ask Clare a question or suggest a topic for future episodes. Follow us on social media: Instagram Facebook About the Sex and Relationships Podcast This podcast is for anyone looking for information or help with their sex lives or relationships. In this season your hosts Clare Prendergast and Aileen Gonsalves deep dive into the world of relationships to give you insights, advice and top tips to help guide you through your relationships. Your hosts Clare Prendergast is a sex and relationships therapist and draws on her knowledge and years of experience in the therapy room to give you help and guidance. Aileen Gonsalves is fascinated in human behaviour and drawing on her many years in the theatre has developed the unique Gonsalves Method which helps people be more present and develop authentic connections with those around them.

    36 min
  5. What are relationships anyway?

    12/21/2025

    What are relationships anyway?

    Relationships – what are they? We often think of relationships as intimate with a partner and yet we actually have hundreds of relationships with friends, family, at work, at play even with nature and beyond. Clare and Aileen kick off the season by discussing the breadth of relationships. Check out some of the things Clare and Aileen chat about: 02:01 Hierarchy of friends 05:00 Relationships we don’t choose 08:56 Relationship with myself 11:36 So what are relationships? Want to know more? Visit our website The Sex and Relationships Podcast for more information on the issues discussed in this episode. You can also Ask Clare a question or suggest a topic for future episodes. Follow us on social media: Instagram Facebook About the Sex and Relationships Podcast This podcast is for anyone looking for information or help with their sex lives or relationships. In this season your hosts Clare Prendergast and Aileen Gonsalves deep dive into the world of relationships to give you insights, advice and top tips to help guide you through your relationships. Your hosts Clare Prendergast is a sex and relationships therapist and draws on her knowledge and years of experience in the therapy room to give you help and guidance. Aileen Gonsalves is fascinated in human behaviour and drawing on her many years in the theatre has developed the unique Gonsalves Method which helps people be more present and develop authentic connections with those around them.

    20 min
  6. Me-Topia

    12/15/2024

    Me-Topia

    If you always come last on the priority list, it’s time to learn why ‘Being Selfish for the Team’ helps everyone. Janet and Clare discuss the vital positives of self care on your life and relationship. Dip into some of things Clare and Janet chat about in this episode: 01:47  Why making time for ‘me’ is not selfish, it’s very important for your well-being, your relationship with yourself and our relationships with others. 08:00  Where our attitudes towards self-care often come from. 11:55   Are your needs being met?  Damian Hughes   Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs 16:35   Being selfish for the team. Why women’s desire and energy for sex often disappears if we are not looking after ourselves properly. 22:34  Ideas for self-care Want to know more? If you’re interested to know more about how the lack of self-care can affect sex and relationships check out episode 6 Victims and Villains and episode 5 The Big O..oh no! Visit our website The Sex and Relationships Podcast  for more information on the issues discussed in this episode. You can also Ask Clare a question or suggest a topic for future episodes. Follow us on social media: Instagram Facebook   About The Sex and Relationships Podcast: This podcast is for anyone looking for information or help with their sex lives or relationships.  Your hosts Clare Pendergast (PgDip/COSRT) and Janet Eccles (MSc MA/COSRT/Sup MBACP) are sex and relationship therapists. In each episode they chat about common problems they see in the therapy room and draw on their years of experience to give you some insights, advice and top tips to help guide you through your relationships and sex lives. Series Producer: Amanda Hancox

    29 min
  7. Coming, Ready or Not

    12/15/2024

    Coming, Ready or Not

    Is sex over too quickly? If premature ejaculation happens to you or your partner, it doesn’t have to be game over. Clare and Janet explore why men can orgasm too quickly and what can help. Dip into some of things Clare and Janet chat about in this episode: 02:05  Definitions of rapid ejaculation. 05:16   Some of the medical approaches to treating premature ejaculation and what’s on the market to help. 08:30  Why do I have this problem? Clare and Janet chat about the common reasons this happens. 18:05   What to do about it? 22:56  Clare and Janet share some of the techniques they use to help people with premature ejaculation.  Want to know more? If you want to find out about erectile dysfunction listen to episode 4 Losing It. Visit our website The Sex and Relationships Podcast  for more information on the issues discussed in this episode. You can also Ask Clare a question or suggest a topic for future episodes. Follow us on social media: Instagram Facebook   About The Sex and Relationships Podcast: This podcast is for anyone looking for information or help with their sex lives or relationships.  Your hosts Clare Pendergast (PgDip/COSRT) and Janet Eccles (MSc MA/COSRT/Sup MBACP)are sex and relationship therapists. In each episode they chat about common problems they see in the therapy room and draw on their years of experience to give you some insights, advice and top tips to help guide you through your relationships and sex lives.

    32 min
  8. Lust or Bust

    12/15/2024

    Lust or Bust

    If sex is another job on the ‘to do’ list, and you find you’re losing sexual attraction for your partner, it’s time to press the Reset button. Clare and Janet chat about why we ‘go off it’ and how we can get it back!   Dip into some of things Clare and Janet chat about in this episode: 5:03    How to prioritise your relationship and not take each other for granted. 06:24  How to stop feelings of being taken for granted and resentment building up 11:23  Attitudes towards sex in long term relationships 20’53  How to manage sexual disappointment 24:32  How to negotiate mismatch desire. 28:06  Don’t rush to break up when lust and sexual attraction leave the room. Staying in a relationship can reap benefits beyond imagination. 33:01  Clare and Janet’s top tips Want to know more? If you want to hear more about sexual attraction listen to episode 2 The Arousal Paradox. Visit our website The Sex and Relationships Podcast  for more information on the issues discussed in this episode. You can also Ask Clare a question or suggest a topic for future episodes. Follow us on social media: Instagram Facebook About The Sex and Relationships Podcast: This podcast is for anyone looking for information or help with their sex lives or relationships.  Your hosts Clare Pendergast (PgDip/COSRT) and Janet Eccles (MSc MA/COSRT/Sup MBACP) are sex and relationship therapists. In each episode they chat about common problems they see in the therapy room and draw on their years of experience to give you some insights, advice and top tips to help guide you through your relationships and sex lives.

    35 min
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Sex and relationship help is here! This podcast is about sharing professional experience and knowledge, tips and techniques to help you develop better relationships and understand sex life issues. Join the conversion as sex therapists Clare and Janet chat about some of the most common issues they see in the therapy room. Whilst Aileen Gonsalves, creator of the Gonsalves Method, joins Clare to help you navigate your way through those tricky relationships with family, at work, on holiday and even with yourself. Clare and Janet have years of experience in the therapy room but they don’t always agree on things and sometimes they learn from each other. Aileen draws on a wealth of experience in the theatre and helping people to become more present and develop authentic connections with those around them. Clare never gets Janet’s jokes, but they are all open, honest, warm and here to help.

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