Men and Sex: Unlocking Power, Pleasure, and Purpose. ⚔️

Mr. Wood
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This podcast explores the complexities of male sexuality, examining how testosterone, modern influences like the internet, and the drive to procreate shape the lives of men. We air out the "dirty laundry" and bring skeletons out of the closet in real, unfiltered conversations about sex, pleasure, and vitality. As men openly share their journeys, their lives transform—and so can yours. Tune in to break through old patterns, gain deeper insights, and reclaim your power. Follow on Instagram @seedingmasculinity Email to be a guest: menandsexuality@gmail.com

  1. 3d ago

    #83 — Releasing Shame and Guilt

    A lot of men today are walking around half dead. Not physically. But energetically. Screens. Porn. Dopamine on demand. The slow numbing of a man who has forgotten what it feels like to be truly alive in his own body. And underneath all of it — guilt. Shame. Anger turned inward. A quiet war a man is fighting against himself. That's where this conversation starts. In this episode I sit down with Natalie — host of Tantra for the Soul on YouTube — after stumbling across one of her videos and immediately knowing she needed to be on this show. Her work is simple and powerful: Helping men release the guilt, shame, and self-directed anger that is keeping them disconnected from their own sexuality — and from themselves. Because here's what most men don't realize: 👉 The shame isn't protecting you. It's draining you. And the sexual energy you've been taught to suppress, medicate, or feel bad about? That is some of the most powerful energy you have access to. The question isn't how to get rid of it. The question is how to transmute it. In this conversation we explore: Why releasing guilt and shame is the foundation of a healthy relationship with sexualityHow self-directed anger keeps men locked in disconnectionThe difference between building connection with self vs. staying in disconnectionWhat it actually takes to stop numbing and start feelingHow screens and porn are creating a generation of energetically depleted menWhat transmuting sexual energy into masculine power actually looks likeHow sexuality — when worked with consciously — becomes one of the most potent forces a man hasWhat it takes to move from zombie to aliveThis isn't about willpower. It isn't about white-knuckling your way away from what numbs you. It's about giving a man something so much better to move toward that the numbing loses its grip. Alive men don't need to escape. Because they're actually here. This episode is an invitation to come back. To your body. To your energy. To yourself. 🎧 Listen to Episode 83 now. More from Natalie https://www.youtube.com/@TantrafortheSoul Join the Men Rising Community If this episode stirred something in you and you want to be surrounded by men who are actively doing this work — releasing shame, reclaiming energy, and building real masculine presence — Men Rising is that space. Men Rising is a community for men who are done being zombies and ready to come back to life. 👉 Join here: https://www.skool.com/men-rising/about

    57 min

  2. Jun 22

    #82 — Overstimulation, Pleasure & the Art of Feeling Again

    Most men have no idea how numb they've become. Not emotionally. Not spiritually. Physically. Sensationally The ability to feel pleasure — real, subtle, satisfying pleasure — is quietly being destroyed. And the culprit isn't just porn. It's everything. Screens. Scrolling. Notifications. Content. Noise. Information flooding in through your eyes and ears every waking hour of every single day. We have never in human history been this stimulated. And our nervous systems are paying the price. Here's what's actually happening: The more stimulation your nervous system is exposed to, the more it needs just to feel anything. Like a drug addict who needs more and more of the same substance to get the same effect — your brain is adapting. Raising the threshold. Requiring more input to register the same response. And that threshold is bleeding directly into your pleasure. Your sex life. Your self-pleasure. Your ability to feel turned on by a real human body in a real intimate moment. Most men today cannot get hard without porn or fantasy pumping arousal into their body. Not because something is medically wrong with them. Because their nervous system has been trained to require extreme stimulation just to feel something. And then they wonder why real intimacy feels flat. Why they go soft. Why they finish too fast or can't finish at all. Why sex with a real person doesn't feel like enough. It's not her. It's not you. It's your nervous system running on empty after years of overstimulation. In this episode we explore: How overstimulation from all screens — not just porn — is rewiring the nervous systemWhy more stimulation is required to feel the same amount of pleasure over timeHow this directly impacts erection quality, ejaculation control, and sexual satisfactionWhat slowing down actually does to the body and the nervous systemThe discomfort that comes up when you remove high stimulation — and why that discomfort is the processWhat it takes to reconnect with subtle sensation and why that's where the real pleasure livesHow self-pleasure without fantasy or porn can rebuild sensitivity and presenceWhat changes in real intimacy when a man learns to feel againThis episode is for the man who finishes too fast. For the man who goes soft and doesn't know why. For the man who needs more and more stimulation just to feel turned on. For the man who senses that something has shifted — but doesn't have a framework for why. The path back isn't complicated. But it requires something most men in this world are not practiced at. Slowing down. And staying there long enough to feel what's actually available on the other side. 🎧 Listen to Episode 82 now and begin the conversation your nervous system has been waiting for. More from Join the Men Rising Community If this episode resonated and you want to go deeper into embodiment, nervous system regulation, and rebuilding a healthy relationship with pleasure and arousal — Men Rising is that space. Men Rising is a community for men who are ready to feel more — not by chasing more stimulation, but by learning to slow down enough to actually receive what's already there. 👉 Join here: https://www.skool.com/men-rising/about

    23 min

  3. Jun 15

    #81 Keeping Intimacy Alive

    We all hear about relationships that start with real desire. Real heat. Real connection. And somewhere along the way — they fade. Touch becomes transactional. Intimacy becomes infrequent. And the conversation about why never happens. In this episode I sit down with Karen Bigman — midlife relationship and intimacy expert for men, certified sex educator, and host of the Taboo for Truth podcast — for one of the most practical and honest conversations I've had on this show about what actually keeps desire alive in long term relationships. Because this isn't just about sex. It's about connection. Communication. And understanding what's actually happening on both sides. In this conversation we explore: Why younger men today are having less sex than any generation before themWhat a sexless marriage actually looks like — and how couples end up there without realizing itThe breakdown of physical touch and what it costs both partnersWhy women become protective when every touch feels like it's leading somewhereHow non-sexual touch rebuilds safety and reopens desireWhat women actually need to feel desire — and why novelty matters more than most men realizeHow desire and libido change over time — and what men can do about itWhy communication about sex is the most underused tool in relationshipsWhat consent looks like inside long term committed relationshipsHow to have the conversations most couples are too uncomfortable to startThat point about touch deserves its own moment. When a woman feels like every time he reaches for her it's a lead-up to sex — she stops wanting to be reached for. She doesn't pull away because she doesn't love him. She pulls away because she doesn't feel safe enough to just be touched. And most men have no idea that's what's happening. This episode gives men a real lens into what their partner may be experiencing — and what small shifts in awareness and behavior can change everything. If you're in a long term relationship and the intimacy has faded…If you've ever felt rejected and didn't understand why…If you want more connection, more desire, and more honesty in your intimate life… This conversation is exactly what you need to hear. 🎧 Listen to Episode 81 now. More From Karen - https://arya.fyi/start?rfsn=8333683.c9f861 Use code TRUTH15 for 15% off Join the waitlist for men’s coaching here Man’s Handbook for Understanding Menopause Hotter, Wiser, Wilder: The Ultimate Guide to Better Sex, Desire, & Relationships Join the Men Rising Community If this episode resonated and you want to go deeper into real conversations about intimacy, desire, communication, and connection — Men Rising is that space. Men Rising is a community for men who are done settling for less than they want in their intimate lives and ready to build something real. 👉 Join here: https://www.skool.com/men-rising/about

    52 min

  4. Jun 8

    #80 The dark side of Monogamy and ENM

    Every relationship style has a shadow. And most people never look at them. They pick a relationship structure — monogamy, polyamory, ethical non-monogamy — and they tell themselves a story about why it's the right choice. But here's the question nobody wants to ask: 👉 Are you choosing this because it helps you grow — or because it helps you hide? That's what Episode 80 is about. Not attacking any relationship style. Not promoting one over another. Looking at the shadow side of all of them. Because every relationship structure — without exception — can be used as a vehicle for growth or as a vehicle for avoidance. The structure itself isn't the problem. The unconsciousness is. Let's talk about monogamy first. Monogamy can be a profound container for depth, commitment, and facing yourself fully in the mirror of another person. It can also be a place where men go numb. Where desire dies quietly. Where men stop growing because the relationship feels "stable" and stability becomes an excuse to stop showing up. Now let's talk about ethical non-monogamy. There is genuine gold here. Real growth. Real expansion. Men learning to communicate, to face jealousy, to move through discomfort and come out more conscious on the other side. And there is also — let's be honest — a rising tide of men using ENM and polyamory as a sophisticated-sounding cover story for Peter Pan syndrome. Lost boys who don't want responsibility. Who don't want accountability. Who want freedom without integrity and pleasure without depth. Who found a community that validates endless novelty and called it evolution. That's not growth. That's escape with better vocabulary. In this episode we explore: The shadow side of monogamy — where men go to hide in comfort and complacencyThe shadow side of ethical non-monogamy and polyamory — where men hide behind freedom and avoid real depthWhat Peter Pan syndrome actually looks like in modern relationship dynamicsThe difference between choosing a relationship structure consciously vs. using it unconsciouslyHow any relationship style can serve your growth — or your avoidanceWhat it actually looks like to face the parts of yourself you don't want to seeWhy the shadow is where all the real work livesThe question isn't which relationship style is right. The question is: Are you using yours to become more of who you are — or less? Because a man can hide in a marriage for 30 years. And a man can hide in polyamory just as long. The structure doesn't save you. The willingness to look at yourself saves you. 🎧 Listen to Episode 80 now and ask yourself honestly — what is your relationship style asking you to face? Join the Men Rising Community If this episode stirred something — if you felt seen, challenged, or called out in the best way — Men Rising is where that conversation continues. Men Rising is a community for men who are done hiding in whatever structure feels comfortable and ready to do the actual work. Inside Men Rising we go deeper into: Emotional maturity and relational integrityFacing the shadow and unconscious patternsBuilding real intimacy — with yourself and othersBecoming a man of depth, not just freedom👉 Join here: https://www.skool.com/men-rising/about

    25 min

  5. Apr 28

    #79 — What the World Is Asking of Men (with Phoenix Amara)

    The Epstein files. The R@pe Academy. The headlines keep coming. And men are watching. Some are recoiling. Some are angry. Some are going quiet. But there is another response available. Leadership. In this episode I sit back down with Phoenix Amara — sacred sexuality guide, founder of Temple Arts Alchemy, and a woman who has spent over a decade working with men and women in the deepest terrain of intimacy, embodiment, and erotic healing. And I asked her straight: 👉 What are women actually saying they need from men right now? Her answer was clear. And it wasn't about men shrinking or apologizing or disappearing. It was a call forward. The men who are listening to a podcast like this — who are already in the conversation about conscious sexuality, nervous system regulation, embodiment, and real intimacy — are not the problem. They are part of the solution. And this moment in history is asking them to step up. Not back. In this conversation we explore: What this cultural moment is actually asking of menWhat women are saying they need — and what they're not findingWhy the men on the cutting edge of this work carry a responsibility to leadWhat it looks like to show up with embodied presence instead of performanceHow conscious men can reduce the divide between men and womenWhat Phoenix is witnessing from her years of working with bothThis episode isn't about blame. It isn't about guilt. It's about recognizing that the world doesn't need men to disappear. It needs men to rise. At the end of this episode we also talk about something Phoenix and I are co-facilitating together: The Temple Arts Alchemy Men's Practitioner Training — a 13-month immersive initiation into sacred sexuality, archetypal embodiment, ritual, and conscious masculine leadership. This is the first cohort to welcome men alongside the women's Priestess Practitioner Training. It begins May 24th, 2026. If you feel called to go deeper — to do this work not just for yourself but to eventually guide others — this is worth exploring. The first step is a direct call with Phoenix to find out more. 👉 Learn more and apply here: taapractitionertraining.com/taa2026-men 🎧 Listen to Episode 79 now.

    47 min

  6. Apr 20

    #78 — Porn Isn't the Problem (with Brenton Rueger)

    Let's get something straight. Porn isn't the problem. It's the symptom. And until men are willing to look at what's underneath — the real pain, the real emptiness, the real disconnection — nothing changes. That's where this episode starts. I sit down with Brenton Rueger — Mankind Project facilitator, coach, father, and builder — a man who has been deep in men's work for decades. We met through The Mankind Project on the East Coast and this conversation is exactly the kind that needs to happen more. Raw. Honest. No blame. No shame. Just truth. Because here's what's actually going on: Most men aren't turning to porn because they're broken or weak or addicted. They're turning to porn because something hurts. Maybe it's loneliness. Maybe it's lack of purpose. Maybe it's stress they can't put down. Maybe it's touch needs that haven't been met in months. Maybe it's a disconnection so deep they don't even have words for it yet. And porn is right there. Fast. Easy. Available. 👉 It works — for a moment. And then the moment passes. And the pain is still there. And the cycle continues. This is how young boys learn to medicate themselves. And most of them never stop. In this conversation we explore: Why porn is a symptom — and what the real problem actually isThe many forms of pain men are trying to escapeWhy there is so much resistance and fear around men talking about sexWhat it actually takes to break the silenceHealthy functional agreements and boundaries within relationshipsWhat it means to be truly liberated in your own skinThe difference between pleasure that fills a void and pleasure that fuels a missionHow sex and pleasure — when consciously directed — become a force for service and purposeWhat changes when a man stops medicating and starts feelingThat last point is the one I keep coming back to. There is a version of sexuality that powers you. That energizes you. That connects you to something bigger than yourself and sends that energy back out into the world. And then there is a version that just makes the pain quiet for a few minutes. Most men have only ever known the second one. This episode is about finding the first. 🎧 Watch Episode 78 now and explore what becomes possible when a man stops escaping and starts feeling. More from Brenton: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/brenton.rueger Join the Men Rising Community If this episode hit something real and you want to go deeper — with men who are actually willing to have these conversations — Men Rising is that space. Men Rising is a community for men who are done medicating and ready to build something real. 👉 Join here: https://www.skool.com/men-rising/about Want the email blast and Instagram caption for this one too?

    52 min

  7. Apr 13

    #77 — Attunement, Life Force & the Power of Slowing Down (with Adam Bear)

    https://www.skool.com/men-rising/about Most men are leaking their power without knowing it. Not because they're weak. Because they've never been taught how to build it, circulate it, and direct it. That's what this episode is about. I sit down with Adam Bear — martial artist, qi cultivator, and founder of Temple of the Red Cedar Fist — for one of the most grounded and rare conversations I've had on this show. Adam has been on the path for two decades. He's the man I learn martial arts from. We sit in men's group together regularly. We practice together. And the way he sees energy, the body, and power is unlike almost anything you'll hear in mainstream men's spaces. The central theme of this conversation: 👉 Attunement to the subtleties — and why slowing down is one of the most powerful things a man can do. In a world built for instant gratification — next day delivery, endless scrolling, dopamine on demand — the ability to slow down, go inward, and feel what's actually happening inside you is becoming a lost art. And that loss is costing men everything. In this conversation we explore: What attunement to subtleties actually means — and why it changes everythingThe deep connection between martial arts, qigong, and sexual energy cultivationHow all of these practices are pointing at the same thing: drawing attention inwardWorking with pleasure as a way to circulate life force — instead of building energy and losing it all at onceWhat Taoism and body intelligence teach us about power and surrenderWhy slowing down feels deeply uncomfortable at first — and why that discomfort is the practiceHow what you cultivate inwardly directly shapes what you create outwardlyBeing a resource for others — and why that requires doing your own energy work firstAdam's work with the Rainmaker community, men's events, and his connection to Sacred SonsThis isn't a conversation about hacks or quick fixes. It's about building the capacity to feel. To sense. To inhabit your body so fully that your presence alone becomes a force. Most men will never slow down enough to discover what lives inside them. This episode is an invitation to be different. 🎧 Listen to Episode 77 now and explore what becomes possible when a man learns to cultivate — not just consume. More from Adam - Temple of the Red Cedar Fist Bear Healing Arts IG: @ temple_red_cedar_fist Join the Men Rising Community If this episode resonated and you want to go deeper into embodiment, energy, presence, and masculine development with men who are actually doing the work — Men Rising is that space. Men Rising is a community for men who are building from the inside out. 👉 Join here: https://www.skool.com/men-rising/about

    56 min

  8. Apr 6

    #76 — Do Women Want Boundaries? Masculinity, Control & What’s Really Being Asked (with Ellie Tsai)

    ⁠https://www.skool.com/men-rising/about⁠ This episode was sparked by a viral video that generated over 500,000 views and a deeply divided response. The message was simple:That women want a man who can say no.A man with boundaries, discipline, and self-control. Some people resonated immediately.Others pushed back hard. And underneath it all… was tension. In this episode, I sit down with Ellie Tsai, who works with women around faith, femininity, and purpose-driven leadership, to unpack what’s really being said beneath statements like this. Because this isn’t just about dating advice.It’s about leadership, emotional maturity, and the dynamic between men and women that so many people feel—but struggle to understand. We explore what women actually mean when they say they want boundaries, and the difference between control and grounded leadership. We talk about why “no” can feel safe or threatening, how intention and heart posture shape how something is received, and why men often have strong reactions to this kind of messaging. We also look at the broader tension in modern relationships—the push and pull between independence and desire for structure—and what the comment section reveals about where men and women are currently at. This conversation doesn’t take sides.It slows things down. Because the real question isn’t who’s right.It’s what is actually being asked for underneath all of this—and whether men and women can meet each other there without turning it into a fight. If you’ve ever felt confused in dating, triggered by content like this, or unsure how to navigate modern relationship dynamics, this episode will give you a deeper lens to understand what’s really going on. To go deeper into conversations like this with men who are committed to growth, communication, and embodied leadership, you can join the Men Rising community: https://www.skool.com/men-rising/about

    51 min
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This podcast explores the complexities of male sexuality, examining how testosterone, modern influences like the internet, and the drive to procreate shape the lives of men. We air out the "dirty laundry" and bring skeletons out of the closet in real, unfiltered conversations about sex, pleasure, and vitality. As men openly share their journeys, their lives transform—and so can yours. Tune in to break through old patterns, gain deeper insights, and reclaim your power. Follow on Instagram @seedingmasculinity Email to be a guest: menandsexuality@gmail.com

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