Men and Sex: Unlocking Power, Pleasure, and Purpose. ⚔️

Mr. Wood
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This podcast explores the complexities of male sexuality, examining how testosterone, modern influences like the internet, and the drive to procreate shape the lives of men. We air out the "dirty laundry" and bring skeletons out of the closet in real, unfiltered conversations about sex, pleasure, and vitality. As men openly share their journeys, their lives transform—and so can yours. Tune in to break through old patterns, gain deeper insights, and reclaim your power. Follow on Instagram @seedingmasculinity Email to be a guest: menandsexuality@gmail.com

  1. 1d ago

    #88 — Sperm Quality, Fertility & What Your Body Is Really Telling You

    This episode is not just for men who want to have kids. It's for every man who is sexually active. Because here's something most men never think about: Most babies are oops babies. And if you're sexually active at all — the health of your sperm matters. Not just for whether you want children someday. But for what your sperm quality is telling you about your overall health right now. In this episode I sit down with Gabriela Rosa — Harvard trained fertility specialist, founder and CEO of the Rosa Institute, and author of The Fertility Book — for one of the most eye opening conversations I've had on this show about men's health, vitality, and what's actually happening inside our bodies in the modern world. Here's the number that stopped me cold: 👉 Sperm quality has decreased by 60% in the last fifty years. 60 percent. In half a century. That is not a small shift. That is a crisis. And most men have no idea it's happening — let alone that it might be happening to them. In this conversation we explore: Why sperm quality is a vital sign — just like blood work — and what it reveals about overall healthThe direct connection between fertility, cardiovascular health, and sexual functionWhy a healthy body is a fertile body — and a fertile body is a healthy bodyWhat has driven the 60% decrease in sperm quality over the last fifty yearsHow what we consume and what we come into contact with every day is either building or degrading our healthWhy most pregnancies happen by accident — and why that means every sexually active man should be paying attentionThe environmental, dietary, and lifestyle factors that are quietly impacting men's reproductive and overall healthWhat men can do right now to start improving their health markers across the boardWhy this conversation goes far beyond fertility — and into what it means to be a vital, healthy man in the modern worldThis episode is a wake up call. Not to create fear. But to create awareness. Because the truth is — your body is already keeping score. Your sperm quality, your cardiovascular health, your sexual function — they are all connected. They are all telling the same story. The question is whether you're paying attention. A healthy body is a fertile body. And a fertile body is a body that is fully alive. 🎧 Listen to Episode 88 now. More from Gabriela Rosa: https://www.instagram.com/gabrielarosafertility/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O1q5RJSIx7M https://gabrielarosa.fertilitybreakthrough.com/fertility-challenge/ https://fertilitybreakthrough.com/ Join the Men's Sexual Confidence Community If this episode opened your eyes and you want to be surrounded by men who are taking their health, their vitality, and their bodies seriously — this is that space. A community for men who are done ignoring the signals their body is sending and ready to build something that lasts. 👉 Join here: https://www.skool.com/men-rising/about

  2. 6d ago

    #87 — Why Aren't Couples Having Sex? (And What to Do About It)

    I asked a simple question on social media: "Why didn't you have sex today?" The comments exploded. Men and women from all over — in relationships, in marriages, in situations they'd never talked about publicly — started sharing the real reasons sex keeps getting pushed to the back burner. And what came up wasn't what most people expect. It wasn't just busyness. It wasn't just kids or exhaustion or stress. It was deeper than that. Resentment that never got addressed. Touch that stopped feeling safe. Desire that quietly died while life kept moving. Two people sharing a bed who stopped truly connecting somewhere along the way — and neither one knew exactly when it happened. In this episode I go through those comments — the real ones, from real people — and dive into what's actually keeping couples from having sex in their day to day lives. Because this isn't a small problem. Research consistently shows that sexual disconnection is one of the leading drivers of relationship dissatisfaction, emotional distance, and eventually — separation. And yet most couples never have a direct conversation about it. In this episode we explore: The most common reasons couples stop having regular sex — and what's underneath each oneWhy busyness is rarely the real reasonHow resentment, unspoken needs, and emotional distance quietly kill desireWhy touch becomes loaded — and what it takes to make it feel safe againThe difference between a relationship that has hit a dry spell and one that is genuinely disconnectedWhat the research actually says about how often couples are having sex — and what that's costing themHow men and women experience sexual disconnection differentlyWhat it takes to not end up there — and how to find your way back if you already areWhy the conversation about sex is more important than the sex itselfThis episode isn't about blame. It isn't about making anyone wrong for where they are. It's about bringing one of the most avoided conversations in relationships into the light — because the couples who talk about it are the ones who stay connected. And the ones who don't? They wake up one day and wonder what happened. The question isn't just why you didn't have sex today. 👉 The question is — what are you building toward together? 🎧 Listen to Episode 87 now and start the conversation. Join the Men's Sexual Confidence Community If this episode hit close to home and you want to be in conversation with men who are actively working on their relationships, their intimacy, and their connection — this is that space. A community for men who are done drifting and ready to build something real. 👉 Join here: https://www.skool.com/men-rising/about

  3. Jul 23

    #86 —The Sex Life You Actually Want Requires Internal Family Systems

    Most men think a better sex life comes from learning better techniques. It doesn't. The biggest thing standing between most men and a deeply satisfying intimate life isn't skill. It isn't stamina. It isn't knowing the right moves. It's emotional intelligence. Not having it is one of the biggest c**k blockers there is. And developing it? That's when everything changes — in the bedroom and everywhere else. In this episode I break down one of the most powerful psychological frameworks I've come across for understanding why we do what we do, feel what we feel, and react the way we react in intimate moments: Internal Family Systems — IFS. The core idea is this: You are not a single, unified "you." You are a multiplicity. A system of parts — each with its own perspective, its own fears, and its own job to do. And until you understand those parts, they will keep running the show in your relationships, in your body, and in your bedroom — without you even realizing it. The three core parts in IFS: Managers — the parts that try to keep you safe by controlling everything before anything bad can happen. In the bedroom: the part that overthinks, monitors performance, stays locked in his head instead of feeling pleasure. The part that says don't get too vulnerable, don't want too much, stay in control. Firefighters — the parts that react fast when pain or fear breaks through anyway. Impulsive. Extreme. In the bedroom: the part that checks out, goes numb, rushes to finish, reaches for porn, or disappears into fantasy to escape the discomfort of real intimacy. Exiles — the wounded parts carrying the original pain. Shame. Rejection. The memory of being too much or not enough. These are the parts managers and firefighters are working so hard to protect. In the bedroom: the part that quietly believes I'm not good enough. I'll be rejected. Something is wrong with me. How this connects to performance anxiety: Performance anxiety isn't a sex problem. It's a parts problem. A manager trying to control the outcome. A firefighter ready to shut the whole thing down the moment it gets uncomfortable. An exile underneath it all carrying a wound that was never looked at. Until a man gets curious about those parts — instead of fighting them or being hijacked by them — the anxiety doesn't go away. It just finds new ways to show up. This episode goes far deeper than technique. It's about building the kind of self-awareness, presence, and emotional intelligence that makes real intimacy possible. Because the sex life most men want? It starts inside. 🎧 Listen now and begin getting curious about what's actually running the show. Want to go deeper into parts work? I've put together a playlist of my favorite parts work videos to help you explore this further:👉 https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLNr3Bu5Rb3LbbulZJmL6lATkWB5icMqyH&si=dfTRQd_L4T0gFlqD Join the Men's Sexual Confidence Community If this episode opened something up and you want to go deeper with men who are doing real inner work — this is that space. A community for men who are building emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and a sex life that actually fulfills them. 👉 Join here: https://www.skool.com/men-rising/about Want the YouTube version and email blast for this one too?

  4. Jul 14

    #85 — Vigor, Vitality, Virility (with Kunal Chatkara)

    Most men are running on empty and calling it normal. Low energy. Flat libido. Erections that aren't what they used to be. A body that feels like it's slowly powering down. And the answer they're given is either a pill or "that's just aging." Both are wrong. In this episode I sit down with Kunal Chatkara — functional health coach specializing in hormones and bioenergetics — for one of the most practical and eye-opening conversations I've had on this show about what it actually takes to build a body that is vital, vigorous, and fully alive. Because here's what most men don't understand: 👉 A healthy sex life isn't separate from a healthy life. It's a direct reflection of one. When your testosterone is optimized. When your nitric oxide production is strong. When your cortisol is regulated and your sleep is deep and your cells are actually functioning the way they were designed to — you don't just have better erections. You have a better life. In every area. And the reverse is equally true. What you do every single day is building — or depleting — the energy reserves that determine how you think, how you feel, how you show up, and yes, how you perform sexually. In this conversation we explore: Testosterone — what actually moves the needle and what's overhypedHRT and peptides — when they make sense and what men need to knowEndothelial health, nitric oxide, and the direct connection to blood flow and erectionsDHEA, cortisol, and how chronic stress is quietly destroying men's hormonal healthWhy sleep is one of the most powerful testosterone optimization tools availableProgressive overload and how training directly impacts hormonal outputThe supplement conversation — zinc with copper, magnesium glycinate, shilajit, maca, and what the evidence actually saysWorking at the cellular level — bioenergetics and what's happening beneath the surfaceHow your daily habits are building your biological future right nowWhy men who focus on sexual health end up healthier in every other area of lifeThis episode is for the man who wants more than just to function. It's for the man who wants to be fully turned on by his life. More energy. More drive. More presence. More pleasure. Not because he's chasing performance. Because he's built a body and a life worth showing up for. 🎧 Listen to Episode 85 now. More from Kunal- 🌐 Website: CoachKunal.com📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bioenergeticspecialist Join the Men's Sexual Confidence Community If this episode fired something up and you want to be surrounded by men who are actively optimizing their health, their energy, and their sexual vitality — this is that space. A community for men who are done running on empty and ready to build something that lasts. 👉 Join here: https://www.skool.com/men-rising/about

  5. Jul 8

    #84 — Your Erections Are Trying to Tell You Something (with Dr. Elliot Justin)

    Most men are getting the wrong diagnosis. Not because their doctor is incompetent. Because the tools to get the right one haven't existed — until now. In this episode I sit down with Dr. Elliot Justin — Emergency Medicine physician, Harvard and Boston University educated, serial healthcare entrepreneur, and founder of FirmTech — for a conversation that is going to change how you think about your body, your health, and what your erections are actually telling you. Here's the reality most men don't know: A man walks into a cardiologist with chest pain. He gets an EKG. Ultrasound. Bloodwork. A full picture of what's happening inside his cardiovascular system. A man walks into a doctor with erectile symptoms. He gets a pill. No data. No investigation. No curiosity about what's actually going on. That is a massive problem. Because erections aren't just about sex. 👉 They are one of the most accurate windows into a man's cardiovascular health available. The frequency of your erections. The firmness. What's happening while you sleep. These are vital signs. And most men — and most doctors — are completely ignoring them. Dr. Justin built FirmTech to change that. FirmTech's TechRing is a wearable device that tracks nocturnal erections — the automatic erections men have while sleeping — measuring frequency, duration, and firmness. To date FirmTech has tracked over a quarter million erectile events, building a dataset that is reshaping how we understand men's sexual and cardiovascular health. And what that data is revealing is this: A lot of men who think they have erectile dysfunction — don't. Their nighttime erections are healthy. Which means the issue isn't physical. It's psychological. Relational. Situational. Something that pills will never fix — and that no one ever bothered to investigate. In this conversation we explore: Why erections are one of the most important cardiovascular vital signs a man hasThe difference between erectile dysfunction and erectile disappointment — and why that distinction changes everythingWhy the virility industry is worth billions and still leaving most men without real answersWhat nocturnal erection data actually reveals about blood flow, vascular health, and overall wellbeingHow FirmTech's TechRing works and what men are discovering about themselvesWhy so many men are treating a psychological or relational issue with a physical solutionWhat a real standard of care for men's sexual health should actually look likeWhy the data says this is not just an older man's issueThis episode isn't just for men experiencing symptoms. It's for every man who wants to understand what his body is already trying to tell him. Because your erections aren't just about pleasure. They're about whether your heart is going to keep beating. 🎧 Listen to Episode 84 now. Join the Men's Sexual Confidence Community If this episode opened something up and you want to be in ongoing conversation with men who are taking their health, their bodies, and their lives seriously — the Men's Sexual Confidence Community is that space. A community for men who are done guessing and ready to actually know themselves. 👉 Join here: https://www.skool.com/men-rising/about

  6. Jun 29

    #83 — Releasing Shame and Guilt

    A lot of men today are walking around half dead. Not physically. But energetically. Screens. Porn. Dopamine on demand. The slow numbing of a man who has forgotten what it feels like to be truly alive in his own body. And underneath all of it — guilt. Shame. Anger turned inward. A quiet war a man is fighting against himself. That's where this conversation starts. In this episode I sit down with Natalie — host of Tantra for the Soul on YouTube — after stumbling across one of her videos and immediately knowing she needed to be on this show. Her work is simple and powerful: Helping men release the guilt, shame, and self-directed anger that is keeping them disconnected from their own sexuality — and from themselves. Because here's what most men don't realize: 👉 The shame isn't protecting you. It's draining you. And the sexual energy you've been taught to suppress, medicate, or feel bad about? That is some of the most powerful energy you have access to. The question isn't how to get rid of it. The question is how to transmute it. In this conversation we explore: Why releasing guilt and shame is the foundation of a healthy relationship with sexualityHow self-directed anger keeps men locked in disconnectionThe difference between building connection with self vs. staying in disconnectionWhat it actually takes to stop numbing and start feelingHow screens and porn are creating a generation of energetically depleted menWhat transmuting sexual energy into masculine power actually looks likeHow sexuality — when worked with consciously — becomes one of the most potent forces a man hasWhat it takes to move from zombie to aliveThis isn't about willpower. It isn't about white-knuckling your way away from what numbs you. It's about giving a man something so much better to move toward that the numbing loses its grip. Alive men don't need to escape. Because they're actually here. This episode is an invitation to come back. To your body. To your energy. To yourself. 🎧 Listen to Episode 83 now. More from Natalie https://www.youtube.com/@TantrafortheSoul Join the Men Rising Community If this episode stirred something in you and you want to be surrounded by men who are actively doing this work — releasing shame, reclaiming energy, and building real masculine presence — Men Rising is that space. Men Rising is a community for men who are done being zombies and ready to come back to life. 👉 Join here: https://www.skool.com/men-rising/about

  7. Jun 22

    #82 — Overstimulation, Pleasure & the Art of Feeling Again

    Most men have no idea how numb they've become. Not emotionally. Not spiritually. Physically. Sensationally The ability to feel pleasure — real, subtle, satisfying pleasure — is quietly being destroyed. And the culprit isn't just porn. It's everything. Screens. Scrolling. Notifications. Content. Noise. Information flooding in through your eyes and ears every waking hour of every single day. We have never in human history been this stimulated. And our nervous systems are paying the price. Here's what's actually happening: The more stimulation your nervous system is exposed to, the more it needs just to feel anything. Like a drug addict who needs more and more of the same substance to get the same effect — your brain is adapting. Raising the threshold. Requiring more input to register the same response. And that threshold is bleeding directly into your pleasure. Your sex life. Your self-pleasure. Your ability to feel turned on by a real human body in a real intimate moment. Most men today cannot get hard without porn or fantasy pumping arousal into their body. Not because something is medically wrong with them. Because their nervous system has been trained to require extreme stimulation just to feel something. And then they wonder why real intimacy feels flat. Why they go soft. Why they finish too fast or can't finish at all. Why sex with a real person doesn't feel like enough. It's not her. It's not you. It's your nervous system running on empty after years of overstimulation. In this episode we explore: How overstimulation from all screens — not just porn — is rewiring the nervous systemWhy more stimulation is required to feel the same amount of pleasure over timeHow this directly impacts erection quality, ejaculation control, and sexual satisfactionWhat slowing down actually does to the body and the nervous systemThe discomfort that comes up when you remove high stimulation — and why that discomfort is the processWhat it takes to reconnect with subtle sensation and why that's where the real pleasure livesHow self-pleasure without fantasy or porn can rebuild sensitivity and presenceWhat changes in real intimacy when a man learns to feel againThis episode is for the man who finishes too fast. For the man who goes soft and doesn't know why. For the man who needs more and more stimulation just to feel turned on. For the man who senses that something has shifted — but doesn't have a framework for why. The path back isn't complicated. But it requires something most men in this world are not practiced at. Slowing down. And staying there long enough to feel what's actually available on the other side. 🎧 Listen to Episode 82 now and begin the conversation your nervous system has been waiting for. More from Join the Men Rising Community If this episode resonated and you want to go deeper into embodiment, nervous system regulation, and rebuilding a healthy relationship with pleasure and arousal — Men Rising is that space. Men Rising is a community for men who are ready to feel more — not by chasing more stimulation, but by learning to slow down enough to actually receive what's already there. 👉 Join here: https://www.skool.com/men-rising/about

  8. Jun 15

    #81 Keeping Intimacy Alive

    We all hear about relationships that start with real desire. Real heat. Real connection. And somewhere along the way — they fade. Touch becomes transactional. Intimacy becomes infrequent. And the conversation about why never happens. In this episode I sit down with Karen Bigman — midlife relationship and intimacy expert for men, certified sex educator, and host of the Taboo for Truth podcast — for one of the most practical and honest conversations I've had on this show about what actually keeps desire alive in long term relationships. Because this isn't just about sex. It's about connection. Communication. And understanding what's actually happening on both sides. In this conversation we explore: Why younger men today are having less sex than any generation before themWhat a sexless marriage actually looks like — and how couples end up there without realizing itThe breakdown of physical touch and what it costs both partnersWhy women become protective when every touch feels like it's leading somewhereHow non-sexual touch rebuilds safety and reopens desireWhat women actually need to feel desire — and why novelty matters more than most men realizeHow desire and libido change over time — and what men can do about itWhy communication about sex is the most underused tool in relationshipsWhat consent looks like inside long term committed relationshipsHow to have the conversations most couples are too uncomfortable to startThat point about touch deserves its own moment. When a woman feels like every time he reaches for her it's a lead-up to sex — she stops wanting to be reached for. She doesn't pull away because she doesn't love him. She pulls away because she doesn't feel safe enough to just be touched. And most men have no idea that's what's happening. This episode gives men a real lens into what their partner may be experiencing — and what small shifts in awareness and behavior can change everything. If you're in a long term relationship and the intimacy has faded…If you've ever felt rejected and didn't understand why…If you want more connection, more desire, and more honesty in your intimate life… This conversation is exactly what you need to hear. 🎧 Listen to Episode 81 now. More From Karen - https://arya.fyi/start?rfsn=8333683.c9f861 Use code TRUTH15 for 15% off Join the waitlist for men’s coaching here Man’s Handbook for Understanding Menopause Hotter, Wiser, Wilder: The Ultimate Guide to Better Sex, Desire, & Relationships Join the Men Rising Community If this episode resonated and you want to go deeper into real conversations about intimacy, desire, communication, and connection — Men Rising is that space. Men Rising is a community for men who are done settling for less than they want in their intimate lives and ready to build something real. 👉 Join here: https://www.skool.com/men-rising/about

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This podcast explores the complexities of male sexuality, examining how testosterone, modern influences like the internet, and the drive to procreate shape the lives of men. We air out the "dirty laundry" and bring skeletons out of the closet in real, unfiltered conversations about sex, pleasure, and vitality. As men openly share their journeys, their lives transform—and so can yours. Tune in to break through old patterns, gain deeper insights, and reclaim your power. Follow on Instagram @seedingmasculinity Email to be a guest: menandsexuality@gmail.com

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