Men and Sex: Unlocking Power, Pleasure, and Purpose. ⚔️

Mr. Wood
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This podcast explores the complexities of male sexuality, examining how testosterone, modern influences like the internet, and the drive to procreate shape the lives of men. We air out the "dirty laundry" and bring skeletons out of the closet in real, unfiltered conversations about sex, pleasure, and vitality. As men openly share their journeys, their lives transform—and so can yours. Tune in to break through old patterns, gain deeper insights, and reclaim your power. Follow on Instagram @seedingmasculinity Email to be a guest: menandsexuality@gmail.com

  1. 4d ago

    #80 The dark side of Monogamy and ENM

    Every relationship style has a shadow. And most people never look at them. They pick a relationship structure — monogamy, polyamory, ethical non-monogamy — and they tell themselves a story about why it's the right choice. But here's the question nobody wants to ask: 👉 Are you choosing this because it helps you grow — or because it helps you hide? That's what Episode 80 is about. Not attacking any relationship style. Not promoting one over another. Looking at the shadow side of all of them. Because every relationship structure — without exception — can be used as a vehicle for growth or as a vehicle for avoidance. The structure itself isn't the problem. The unconsciousness is. Let's talk about monogamy first. Monogamy can be a profound container for depth, commitment, and facing yourself fully in the mirror of another person. It can also be a place where men go numb. Where desire dies quietly. Where men stop growing because the relationship feels "stable" and stability becomes an excuse to stop showing up. Now let's talk about ethical non-monogamy. There is genuine gold here. Real growth. Real expansion. Men learning to communicate, to face jealousy, to move through discomfort and come out more conscious on the other side. And there is also — let's be honest — a rising tide of men using ENM and polyamory as a sophisticated-sounding cover story for Peter Pan syndrome. Lost boys who don't want responsibility. Who don't want accountability. Who want freedom without integrity and pleasure without depth. Who found a community that validates endless novelty and called it evolution. That's not growth. That's escape with better vocabulary. In this episode we explore: The shadow side of monogamy — where men go to hide in comfort and complacencyThe shadow side of ethical non-monogamy and polyamory — where men hide behind freedom and avoid real depthWhat Peter Pan syndrome actually looks like in modern relationship dynamicsThe difference between choosing a relationship structure consciously vs. using it unconsciouslyHow any relationship style can serve your growth — or your avoidanceWhat it actually looks like to face the parts of yourself you don't want to seeWhy the shadow is where all the real work livesThe question isn't which relationship style is right. The question is: Are you using yours to become more of who you are — or less? Because a man can hide in a marriage for 30 years. And a man can hide in polyamory just as long. The structure doesn't save you. The willingness to look at yourself saves you. 🎧 Listen to Episode 80 now and ask yourself honestly — what is your relationship style asking you to face? Join the Men Rising Community If this episode stirred something — if you felt seen, challenged, or called out in the best way — Men Rising is where that conversation continues. Men Rising is a community for men who are done hiding in whatever structure feels comfortable and ready to do the actual work. Inside Men Rising we go deeper into: Emotional maturity and relational integrityFacing the shadow and unconscious patternsBuilding real intimacy — with yourself and othersBecoming a man of depth, not just freedom👉 Join here: https://www.skool.com/men-rising/about

    25 min

  2. Apr 28

    #79 — What the World Is Asking of Men (with Phoenix Amara)

    The Epstein files. The R@pe Academy. The headlines keep coming. And men are watching. Some are recoiling. Some are angry. Some are going quiet. But there is another response available. Leadership. In this episode I sit back down with Phoenix Amara — sacred sexuality guide, founder of Temple Arts Alchemy, and a woman who has spent over a decade working with men and women in the deepest terrain of intimacy, embodiment, and erotic healing. And I asked her straight: 👉 What are women actually saying they need from men right now? Her answer was clear. And it wasn't about men shrinking or apologizing or disappearing. It was a call forward. The men who are listening to a podcast like this — who are already in the conversation about conscious sexuality, nervous system regulation, embodiment, and real intimacy — are not the problem. They are part of the solution. And this moment in history is asking them to step up. Not back. In this conversation we explore: What this cultural moment is actually asking of menWhat women are saying they need — and what they're not findingWhy the men on the cutting edge of this work carry a responsibility to leadWhat it looks like to show up with embodied presence instead of performanceHow conscious men can reduce the divide between men and womenWhat Phoenix is witnessing from her years of working with bothThis episode isn't about blame. It isn't about guilt. It's about recognizing that the world doesn't need men to disappear. It needs men to rise. At the end of this episode we also talk about something Phoenix and I are co-facilitating together: The Temple Arts Alchemy Men's Practitioner Training — a 13-month immersive initiation into sacred sexuality, archetypal embodiment, ritual, and conscious masculine leadership. This is the first cohort to welcome men alongside the women's Priestess Practitioner Training. It begins May 24th, 2026. If you feel called to go deeper — to do this work not just for yourself but to eventually guide others — this is worth exploring. The first step is a direct call with Phoenix to find out more. 👉 Learn more and apply here: taapractitionertraining.com/taa2026-men 🎧 Listen to Episode 79 now.

    47 min

  3. Apr 20

    #78 — Porn Isn't the Problem (with Brenton Rueger)

    Let's get something straight. Porn isn't the problem. It's the symptom. And until men are willing to look at what's underneath — the real pain, the real emptiness, the real disconnection — nothing changes. That's where this episode starts. I sit down with Brenton Rueger — Mankind Project facilitator, coach, father, and builder — a man who has been deep in men's work for decades. We met through The Mankind Project on the East Coast and this conversation is exactly the kind that needs to happen more. Raw. Honest. No blame. No shame. Just truth. Because here's what's actually going on: Most men aren't turning to porn because they're broken or weak or addicted. They're turning to porn because something hurts. Maybe it's loneliness. Maybe it's lack of purpose. Maybe it's stress they can't put down. Maybe it's touch needs that haven't been met in months. Maybe it's a disconnection so deep they don't even have words for it yet. And porn is right there. Fast. Easy. Available. 👉 It works — for a moment. And then the moment passes. And the pain is still there. And the cycle continues. This is how young boys learn to medicate themselves. And most of them never stop. In this conversation we explore: Why porn is a symptom — and what the real problem actually isThe many forms of pain men are trying to escapeWhy there is so much resistance and fear around men talking about sexWhat it actually takes to break the silenceHealthy functional agreements and boundaries within relationshipsWhat it means to be truly liberated in your own skinThe difference between pleasure that fills a void and pleasure that fuels a missionHow sex and pleasure — when consciously directed — become a force for service and purposeWhat changes when a man stops medicating and starts feelingThat last point is the one I keep coming back to. There is a version of sexuality that powers you. That energizes you. That connects you to something bigger than yourself and sends that energy back out into the world. And then there is a version that just makes the pain quiet for a few minutes. Most men have only ever known the second one. This episode is about finding the first. 🎧 Watch Episode 78 now and explore what becomes possible when a man stops escaping and starts feeling. More from Brenton: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/brenton.rueger Join the Men Rising Community If this episode hit something real and you want to go deeper — with men who are actually willing to have these conversations — Men Rising is that space. Men Rising is a community for men who are done medicating and ready to build something real. 👉 Join here: https://www.skool.com/men-rising/about Want the email blast and Instagram caption for this one too?

    52 min

  4. Apr 13

    #77 — Attunement, Life Force & the Power of Slowing Down (with Adam Bear)

    https://www.skool.com/men-rising/about Most men are leaking their power without knowing it. Not because they're weak. Because they've never been taught how to build it, circulate it, and direct it. That's what this episode is about. I sit down with Adam Bear — martial artist, qi cultivator, and founder of Temple of the Red Cedar Fist — for one of the most grounded and rare conversations I've had on this show. Adam has been on the path for two decades. He's the man I learn martial arts from. We sit in men's group together regularly. We practice together. And the way he sees energy, the body, and power is unlike almost anything you'll hear in mainstream men's spaces. The central theme of this conversation: 👉 Attunement to the subtleties — and why slowing down is one of the most powerful things a man can do. In a world built for instant gratification — next day delivery, endless scrolling, dopamine on demand — the ability to slow down, go inward, and feel what's actually happening inside you is becoming a lost art. And that loss is costing men everything. In this conversation we explore: What attunement to subtleties actually means — and why it changes everythingThe deep connection between martial arts, qigong, and sexual energy cultivationHow all of these practices are pointing at the same thing: drawing attention inwardWorking with pleasure as a way to circulate life force — instead of building energy and losing it all at onceWhat Taoism and body intelligence teach us about power and surrenderWhy slowing down feels deeply uncomfortable at first — and why that discomfort is the practiceHow what you cultivate inwardly directly shapes what you create outwardlyBeing a resource for others — and why that requires doing your own energy work firstAdam's work with the Rainmaker community, men's events, and his connection to Sacred SonsThis isn't a conversation about hacks or quick fixes. It's about building the capacity to feel. To sense. To inhabit your body so fully that your presence alone becomes a force. Most men will never slow down enough to discover what lives inside them. This episode is an invitation to be different. 🎧 Listen to Episode 77 now and explore what becomes possible when a man learns to cultivate — not just consume. More from Adam - Temple of the Red Cedar Fist Bear Healing Arts IG: @ temple_red_cedar_fist Join the Men Rising Community If this episode resonated and you want to go deeper into embodiment, energy, presence, and masculine development with men who are actually doing the work — Men Rising is that space. Men Rising is a community for men who are building from the inside out. 👉 Join here: https://www.skool.com/men-rising/about

    56 min

  5. Apr 6

    #76 — Do Women Want Boundaries? Masculinity, Control & What’s Really Being Asked (with Ellie Tsai)

    ⁠https://www.skool.com/men-rising/about⁠ This episode was sparked by a viral video that generated over 500,000 views and a deeply divided response. The message was simple:That women want a man who can say no.A man with boundaries, discipline, and self-control. Some people resonated immediately.Others pushed back hard. And underneath it all… was tension. In this episode, I sit down with Ellie Tsai, who works with women around faith, femininity, and purpose-driven leadership, to unpack what’s really being said beneath statements like this. Because this isn’t just about dating advice.It’s about leadership, emotional maturity, and the dynamic between men and women that so many people feel—but struggle to understand. We explore what women actually mean when they say they want boundaries, and the difference between control and grounded leadership. We talk about why “no” can feel safe or threatening, how intention and heart posture shape how something is received, and why men often have strong reactions to this kind of messaging. We also look at the broader tension in modern relationships—the push and pull between independence and desire for structure—and what the comment section reveals about where men and women are currently at. This conversation doesn’t take sides.It slows things down. Because the real question isn’t who’s right.It’s what is actually being asked for underneath all of this—and whether men and women can meet each other there without turning it into a fight. If you’ve ever felt confused in dating, triggered by content like this, or unsure how to navigate modern relationship dynamics, this episode will give you a deeper lens to understand what’s really going on. To go deeper into conversations like this with men who are committed to growth, communication, and embodied leadership, you can join the Men Rising community: https://www.skool.com/men-rising/about

    51 min

  6. Mar 23

    #75 — How Do Men from East Germany Relate to Sex? 🇩🇪

    Join the Men Rising Community - https://www.skool.com/men-rising/about In this episode, I continue the series of interviewing men from around the world to explore a simple but powerful question: How does the culture, language, and people you grow up around shape your relationship to sex? My guest for this episode is Stefan Fitzer and he grew up in East Germany behind the Berlin Wall, living under communism until he was 11 years old. His story offers a fascinating contrast to many of the experiences we hear in this series. He shares what it was like growing up in a culture where non-sexual nudity was normalized, sexuality wasn’t heavily tied to religion, and shame around the body wasn’t part of the social conditioning he received. One of the most surprising parts of his story is that he never watched porn or masturbated before his first intimate experiences with another person. Instead, connection and real-life relationships were the primary way he explored sexuality. We talk about: Growing up in East Germany behind the Berlin Wall How German culture normalized non-sexual nudity The difference between sexual curiosity and sexual shame Growing up in a “hippie” cultural pocket without strong religious influence How his first exposure to porn at age 20 changed how he thought about casual sex The role of discipline and self-command in German culture How sexuality can become a force for good when it’s consciously directed This conversation highlights something powerful: when sexuality isn’t buried in shame or secrecy, it can show up in a completely different way—often with more presence, connection, and responsibility. It’s a perspective I’ve never heard before in this series, and it raises important questions about how culture shapes the way men relate to desire, intimacy, and sex. If you’ve been following these international conversations, this is definitely one you won’t want to miss. 🎧 Listen to Episode 75 and explore how a man from East Germany learned to relate to sex. Join the Men Rising Community - ⁠https://www.skool.com/men-rising/about⁠

    58 min

  7. Mar 15

    #74 — Curiosity Over Conflict: Hormones, Cycles & Understanding Women (with Harry Kloser-Pitcher)

    https://www.skool.com/men-rising/about Why do so many relationships feel like a battlefield? Men feel blamed.Women feel misunderstood.And both feel alone. In this episode, I sit down with Harry Kloser-Pitcher, creator of She’s Not Crazy, to unpack one of the biggest sources of tension between men and women: misunderstanding. Harry shares his personal journey with his wife — two educated, self-aware people, both trained in communication and psychology — who still found themselves struggling. That’s the key. It’s not about intelligence.It’s not about being “good communicators.”It’s about understanding differences that most of us were never taught to look at. In this conversation we explore: • The pain that builds when men and women misunderstand each other• How labeling a woman as “crazy” shuts down curiosity• Why men often feel unfairly blamed• How defensive cycles replace partnership• The biological and hormonal differences between men and women• The power of learning about a woman’s monthly cycle• The importance of men understanding their own hormones and health• How curiosity creates closeness We reference the book Period Brain and talk about how cyclical hormonal shifts aren’t flaws — they’re realities. And when men don’t understand them, they personalize what isn’t personal. One of the biggest takeaways from this episode: 👉 Curiosity is leadership. Instead of reacting.Instead of defending.Instead of escalating. What if a man chose to ask:“How is she experiencing reality right now?” Misunderstanding between men and women has existed as long as time. But this episode offers a different path — not blame, not dominance, not withdrawal — but education and curiosity. If you’re in a relationship…If you’ve ever felt frustrated or confused…If you want to stop fighting and start understanding… This conversation will change how you see things. 🎧 Listen to Episode 74 now. More from Harry : Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61584787593157⁠ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shesnotcrazyseries/ If this episode resonates and you want to become a man who leads with awareness, curiosity, and grounded confidence, join Men Rising. Inside Men Rising, we go deeper into:• Emotional regulation• Hormonal awareness• Intimacy and communication skills• Masculine leadership without defensiveness• Real conversations with real men 👉 Join here:https://www.skool.com/men-rising/about

    53 min

  8. Mar 9

    #73 — Circumcision, Trauma, and Men’s Bodies (with Jenna McLelland)

    👉 Join The Men Rising Community here: ⁠https://www.skool.com/men-rising/about⁠ ⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode includes graphic discussion of circumcision and may be emotionally activating for some listeners. This is one of the most real and confronting conversations I’ve ever had on this podcast. In this episode, I sit down with Jenna McLelland, spiritual healer and circumcision researcher, to explore a subject that almost no one wants to look at—but nearly half the men listening have lived through. Circumcision. For many men, this is something that happened before we had language, choice, or consent. And because it happened so early, most of us never question it. We don’t know life any other way. We’re told it’s normal. We’re told it’s necessary. We’re told not to think about it. This episode invites us to think about it anyway. Jenna takes us deep into what actually happens during circumcision, the physical and nervous-system impact on an infant, and how that trauma can ripple into adulthood—affecting sensation, intimacy, emotional regulation, and a man’s relationship to his body. I also share my own story in this episode—as a circumcised man—speaking honestly about what it’s like to wake up to this later in life and begin asking the question: What would my experience of my body, pleasure, and intimacy be like if I had been intact? We explore: The physical and neurological impact of circumcision How early trauma can live in the body without memory Why adult men often feel disconnected from sensation The emotional and relational consequences many men carry unknowingly Cultural, religious, and belief-based justifications—and why they deserve to be questioned Why this practice continues despite lacking necessity This is not an episode meant to shame parents.It is an episode meant to awaken awareness. Outside of inherited dogma and unquestioned belief systems, there is very little reason for this practice to continue. And until men are willing to look directly at it, it will remain hidden, normalized, and unexamined. This conversation is raw.It’s honest.And it matters. 🎧 Listen with care, curiosity, and self-compassion. More from Jenna- https://www.instagram.com/jenna_mcclelland_/ If this episode stirred something in you and you want a space to process, reflect, and explore your relationship with your body, intimacy, and masculinity—Men Rising exists for that reason. Men Rising is a grounded community for men who want to: Develop a deeper relationship with their bodies Unpack inherited beliefs and early conditioning Explore intimacy, touch, and pleasure with awareness Heal rather than suppress 👉 Join Men Rising here:https://www.skool.com/men-rising/about

    55 min
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This podcast explores the complexities of male sexuality, examining how testosterone, modern influences like the internet, and the drive to procreate shape the lives of men. We air out the "dirty laundry" and bring skeletons out of the closet in real, unfiltered conversations about sex, pleasure, and vitality. As men openly share their journeys, their lives transform—and so can yours. Tune in to break through old patterns, gain deeper insights, and reclaim your power. Follow on Instagram @seedingmasculinity Email to be a guest: menandsexuality@gmail.com

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