Contemplative Currents Podcast

Seye Kuyinu
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Gentle reminders, mindful contemplations for those seeking to explore the depth and essence of our being, the glorious Mystery that we are. seyekuyinu.substack.com

  1. Sep 26

    It Hides In Everything

    IT hides in everything. In unfulfilled expectations and heartbreak. You know that ache beneath the ache beneath the ache? You know that movement? The reaching, the part of you that still wants to be met, held and understood. That longing is IT. IT hides in the whisking of matcha, my small circular wrist motion seductively suggesting that IT’s there. Last week, I looked at the green powder disappearing into water and the froth gathering along the edges of the bowl. There was the life moving the hand, the attention watching the movement, the pleasure of making something and then offering it to strangers. IT was hiding in there. IT hides in arguments. Particularly in disagreements. You and I standing across each other defending our positions, saying the same thing in different words but not even knowing we are saying the same thing. We both want to be understood. We both want the other to cross the invisible distance and meet eachother where we are. And yet we don’t notice how underneath our opposing statement and warm fuming breathes, we are signaling the ‘see me, hear me, come closer’. Ah! It was a wink wink nudge nudge that IT was there. IT hides in my desperation. In my grasping and bargaining, when I am convinced something outside me must change so I will finally finally eventually be okay. Spoiler alert: that deceptive nudge was always there like a bug added while the human was being built. That bug has been the yearning for wholeness. You know what’s weird? The yearning for wholeness is literally happening within Wholeness itself. And IT is the wholeness too. IT hides in the baby! Shhhhh! Wait for the baby to cry. You’d see it then. Notice how this baby has no theology or language or words for ‘mother, hunger, burp me’ and yet it reaches thorugh fake tears and piercing sounds. Something is missing, the baby signals! Hold me! Feed me! Make this separation disappear! IT hides in bodies and in sex. Ah! Even in this! Don’t you see IT? The unbearable wish to disappear into the other where the border between one and the other disappears so IT can be known. But sometimes IT is overlooked. And that happens even with grief. It hides in grief. Hey, did you know that the reason grief hurts so much is because love has nowhere obvious to go. Grief is love encountering a form it can no longer touch. IT is that too! Oh, how IT hides in jealousy. I know how ugly jealousy can be. But look at it too, and see that jealousy is the fear that love is scarce. Isn’t it wild to realize that’s what it is? Being in an ocean and thinking water is a scarce commodity. That someone else receiving it means less remains for me. Like thinking because a candle borrows the fire from another lit candle, the fire is now less! Oh!! Even there, beneath possession and comparison, something is searching for what cannot be taken away. It just doesn’t know IT yet. IT hides in anger. Underneath my clenched jaw and my raised nigerian-accented voice, I find there’s something guarding itself, guarding a boundary, a wound, a longing to matter, a desire for the world to be different from what it is, for change to happen, damn it! But IT creates change! But IT hides while it creates the only thing that ever happens: change! IT hides in boredom. The restless hand reaching for your phone, pre-programmed to hit that Instagram icon. Oh, look how your thumb scrolls even though it knows not what it has seen. The opening and closing of apps, the vague subtle undetectable sense that somewhere, somehow, something interesting must be happening. Look! Look at it! Did you see it yet? See, even boredom is searching! It’s searching for IT. And in ambition too! You, who are looking for title and next position and next big business idea and next accomplishment and next this and next that! Don’t you see it? It’s not the success you want. Maybe what you want is to have a positive answer to the question, “Will I be enough when I get there?” Oh, you know where else it hides? In prayer! In folded hands and whispered petitions, in my beads passing through my fingers and the mantra that curls and winds itself in the inner secret chambers of my prayers. It hides in the person asking God for an answer, unaware maybe and perhaps, that the desire to find God is already occurring in God. Ah! It hides in doubt too. Most especially doubt. But the way doubt is, doubt is a sneaky sneaky camoflaging snake. You know how? Okay, see this: the person that says, “I do not know if any of this is true,” is still turned toward truth. See! You see what I mean? Doubt itself is contained in the sacred and so I can apologize to doubt for accusing it of cowardise. It was just trying to refuse to settle for counterfeit. So then doubt dresses as IT. Okay, how about science too? Does IT hide in science? Yes! Look at that damn scientist leaning over the microscope curious about what ‘this is?’. Isn’t it just laughable that IT camoflaged itself as mytochondric diatomasis ** insert some scientific latin name for something a scientist will look at under a microscope ** IT hides in philosophy asking, What does it mean? And religion that asks, Who made this? IT hides in the mystic who’s asking, Who is asking? In fact, we totally wake up when we laugh so freaking hard realizing that IT was in the question “Who is asking?”. I am laughing so hard typing this and IT hides in my laughter too. IT hides in the child who keeps saying why. IT hid in my grandmother, picking the egusi shells(melon seeds) saying nothing at all. Music too! IT HIDES SO PERFECTLY IN MUSIC. Ah! THe way IT hides is incredible. In fact, notice how when the music notes catches beneath your ribs and you hum, you totally get hypnotized so deeply that you don’t see IT. Remember when you listened to an a cappella harmony and one voice bends beneath another and several separate sounds somehow become one sound without losing their distinction and you just shook your head sideways like “Chai!! did you hear that??”. And the goosebumps just raised just to ‘praise the lord’? Oh, how even in us we recognize this IT but don’t know it. Oh, all the symbolisms in a capella. The many, yet one, distinct, yet inseparable. Oh, IT hides in trees turning toward sunlight and in the next breath after a deep laughter. Yeah, you were too distracted by the joke you didn’t catch it. IT hides in the bad news too. Sadly, yet somehow joyously. Especially when IT demonstrates itself in the first bit of silence after the news. IT hides in our leaving and in our returning too. In our wanting to stay and in our wanting to be free. IT hides in the most ridiculous things! Like yesterday, when I scrolled through Facebook Marketplace looking for a replacement for my air purifier. Little did I know that my search was a search for IT. Oh, I didn’t know at that time. Follow almost any desire far enough and you’d see the object of desire begins to disappear. Oh, you gotta see it for yourself! You have to! Okay, look at the air purifier one as an example. Why do I want the purifier? So the air will be clean. Why do I want clean air? So my home feels better. Why do I want my home to feel better? So I feel comfortable. Why comfort? Peace. Why peace? My gosh, how the air purifier was a symbol of Wholeness, of IT, of the Unspeakable. How you, my secret lover, the Jibaro and Jibarajera, the Seeker are also the Sought, my fascination is yours too. Oh, see how IT hides. We acquire one thing and then IT attaches itself to something else. I laugh so hard when I am awake to this hide and seek! In giggles, I want to scream in frustrated excitement, ‘just stop!’ But I can’t stop IT. Maybe because IT is too big to be in one thing. Maybe it’s because IT is not a thing at all. IT could not be a thing. A thing has edges. A thing begins somewhere and ends somewhere. A thing stands apart from another thing. Whatever this IT is has never presented an edge. IT could not be a pronoun, though I keep calling it “IT”. Some may call it “HIM”. IT could not be a noun because a noun would turn it into an object. IT could not even be a verb because IT is not a ‘what is happening’ alone. IT is not action. IT is not inaction. IT is not presence, if by presence we mean the opposite of absence. IT is not silence, because noise does not disturb it. IT is not stillness, because movement does not leave it. Oh, the Zen Buddhists would call IT emptiness, the Christian mystics would call IT fullness. Oh, what a sneaky sneaky little Sneaker. IT is not emptiness, because everything appears IN IT. IT is not fullness, because nothing has been added. IT is not oneness, because even “one” still has the possibility of two. Oh, don’t even say IT is God. IT cannot be God if by God we are talking of a being somewhere else watching all this happen. IT is not consciousness, if consciousness becomes another concept I carry around in my head. IT is not love even though love seems to come unbearably close. Maybe a sort of manifestation of IT. IT is not mystery, though mystery is one of the words I use for approaching IT. Every single word places a fence around what has no boundary. You see why that’s a problem? How can we solve this though? Okay, let me try this: What do you call what becomes the lover and the beloved, then aches across the imagined distance between them? What do you call what becomes the seeker, the seeking and the thing sought?What do you call what becomes the question and then spends a lifetime searching for its own answer? And even sets up panels as Richard Dwakins, Christopher Hitchens, Sam Harris against all the concept warping apologetics? What do you call what opens its eyes as a newborn baby, forgets itself in a name, gathers a history, falls in love, gets frightened of a job loss, builds a life, loses pieces of itself, grows older, complains of backache from sleeping on the wro

  2. Sep 17

    On uncertainty, our addiction to solid ground, and what remains when even ‘God’ is no longer an answer

    In 2017, I jumped out of a plane. I won’t be doing that again. What I remember most clearly about the beginning of the jump was my incessant need to grab onto something. Anything! My hands kept searching for something to hold, soemthing that would promise me stability and then right before I jumped, I remember gripping the doorframe of the plane so freaking tightly that my legs, now dangled 10,000 feet above the ground, felt numb. Every instinct in me was screaming HOLD ON! This, minus the constant under-my-breath chants of ‘why the f**k did i sign up for this’. I also remember wanting to make absolutely sure that the tandem instructor behind me was properly secured. I wanted to feel the harness connecting us. I wanted those straps to be tight. I wanted the tightness to be so evident that I could hear his own heartbeat. I wanted to know, beyond doubt, that there was something holding me to this person who presumably knew how to fall out of the sky without dying. I mean, Security! Today, I still recognize that instinct within me. Whenever the structures beneath my feet begin to shift, I reach for something to hold on to. I reach for an explanation, a person, a plan, a philosophy, God. Something. Anything! Anything that tells me where the ground is, so I can be held. And the thing is, this would have been unremarkable except for the one uncomfortable fact: there is no damn ground that I know of that has ever promised to remain where I found it. And we know it. You know it! You know people who have died, you see how our bodies change, how relationships change, how governments change. Or even how our beliefs change. The person you were ten years ago believed things with complete sincerity that the person reading this no longer believes. Right? There were things you once feared that never happened and there were things you never thought to fear that did happen. You have been wrong about people. Wrong about yourself. Wrong about what would make you happy. Sometimes beautifully wrong. And still, we keep reaching for certainty. And I know why! Do you know why? It’s because uncertainty feels like jumping out of a plane!To be fair, ‘ground’ is useful and it has its utility! Those straps on the tandem instructor were useful on my jump. Our plans are useful too. A belief that gets you out of bed on a Tuesday when nothing else will is useful. See, a person with a broken leg needs a crutch. I am not bashing crutches. Psychological ground is not the problem. The problem is when we forget that we built this ground. When the crutch becomes the leg, when I start to believe the ground was always there, promised to me, mine, then there’s a problem. We want to know. I want to know. Like, when will I finally become rich? Or, did I make the right decisions? Is this the right path? And when certainty fails us, many of us who try to cultivate a life rooted in spirituality, reach for a deeper certainty. We start to use phrases like “God’s got me.” Or “Everything happens for a reason”. Or even “The universe is unfolding exactly as it should.” or “All things work together for good.” But is it? Is it really? I even sometimes use the phrase “awarness is untouched by experience.” Yes, I have written that here on my Substack several times. Lately I have become interested in what happens if I refuse to stop there. And I am not saying any of these phrases and positions are false. I do not know they are false(because once again, nothing is certain). But I have notied what the mind sometimes does with these positions and statements. It turns them into a new type of ground and then suddenly, the spiritual life, which was supposed to free us from our need to control reality becomes another way to control reality. What if I surrender my need for certainty, and then surrender my certainty about surrender? I know I’m going meta here, but maybe we could treat that as a contemplative prompt also. What if I trust the Universe or God without turning God into my explanation for what happens next? What if “God’s got me” does not mean I know what being held will look like? Don’t we all know that being held might even still include loss. It could still include incredible pain. Like, what are we talking about? It could still include incredible disappointment. Being held might include years in which I cannot see the holding at all. And if my idea of God requires life to unfold in a particular way, perhaps I am still negotiating with life. Perhaps I have said, “I surrender,” while sneakily slipping the universe a list of acceptable outcomes. And it’s laughable, isn’t it? How the ego will apparently attend all the retreats, do all the fasting and praying, quote Eckhart Tolle, Neville Goddard and all the favorite spiritual teacher. It will will surrender everything and then use surrender to make sure everything is going to be okay. Oh, we persistent creatures! The incredible paradox is this: if I become comfortable with uncertainty, then uncertainty has become another kind of certainty. I know! I know! I know this feels like an attempt to split hairs but hear me out. But let’s check this out: Look at me! I know how to live without knowing. I have mastered mystery! Ah! And there we go again, that’s another holding on to something. Perhaps uncertainty is not something we are supposed to become comfortable with. Perhaps there is no final psychological position from which life stops frightening us. Perhaps, there’s no enlightened posture from which change stops hurting, no philosophy that turns the unknown into the known. Perhaps uncertainty gets to remain uncertain. Even our relationship with it. Yes, you read that right, even our relationship with uncertainty. Some mornings, I will meet it with openness. Other mornings I will grip the side of the plane. And both are okay. Both belong! Perhaps the only practice is the capacity to remain available. You see, there is a temptation in spiritual spaces to explain mystery too quickly. Like for instance, when something terrible happens, we say it’s God’s plan. When someone dies, we say they are in a better place. When a door of opportunity closes, we say another will open. But maybe we keep it at PERHAPS. I am not dismissing any of those possibilities. I am questioning our urgency to know. Why must the mystery immediately become a message? Why must pain immediately come with some deep meaning? Why must uncertainty immediately be converted into trust? Why are we so uncomfortable allowing the unanswered thing to remain unanswered? Could it be because an unanswered life requires something different from us? OUR DAMN ATTENTION? If I already know what something means, I will stop looking. If I already know where God is, I will stop listening. If I already know how my life is supposed to unfold, everything that contradicts the plan becomes an interruption. But if I do not know? Then suddenly I have to look, I have to listen, I have to be here. What we forget so often is that wonder does not begin with an answer. Wonder begins when the answer is totally, totally absent and, for the time being, we suspend the need to give langugage to it. That is the actual formular for wonder(feel free to quote me and attribute my name on this one). The first time I saw the mountains I just stared in sheer wonder. I can image how it is, for a child to see the moon for the first time. I bet in that time, there is just this enormous luminous thing hanging in the darkness, right before the child says ‘Mommy, what is that?’. So, let us Look. That just might be one of the purest spiritual instructions, actually. Just look! Look. Looking doesn’t give us any form of certainty. We just look, because we are here. Look because this is happening. Look because, against all the damn odds that you will never be able to calculate, there is something rather than nothing and you have found yourself conscious inside of it. This this! Whatever this is! Our hunger for certainty has cost us our capacity for amazement. We explain away so so quickly. We call it God, destiny, ppurpose, trauma, calling, healing, whatever words we want. We place a word over the actual mystery mistaking the words we have for having understood it. For instance, the notion of ‘God’. The word “God” does not contain God. No wonder, Meister Eckhart, in his contemplations said, “I pray to God to rid me of God”. The word “love” does not explain what happens when someone looks at you and your entire inner world shifts. The word “death” does not tell us anything whatsoever about death. The word “consciousness” does not explain why there is an experience occurring right now from what seems like ‘behind the eyes’. We name things partly because language lets us live together. But naming is not knowing. Spiritual maturity is remembering the difference. I still use the word, “God”, I still talk about “Awareness”. I will keep saying it. Only I hold the words differently. More like a prayer. Not in the way I used to think about prayer which for most of my life was like a contract. A contract wants assurance. But a prayer says “I am here”. That’s all it is. Simple straightforward: prayer is presence.Faith, at its strangest and most alive, begins somewhere around there. It is not certainty about God, not certain about what God will do. Not certainty that everything will turn out according to some hidden architecture that will one day make perfect sense. In fact, maybe it just never wilL! Well, with all this rant over, I will say that I do not know what happens next, or why anything happens. I can say these: * I do not know whether every wound becomes wisdom. * I do not know whether every loss contains a gift. * I do not know whether life owes me an explanation. * I do not even know whether my ideas about surrender are another elaborate attempt to make myself safe. A

  3. Sep 11

    Where Does Attention Come From?

    I have been super inspired by the works of G.I Gurdjieff’s brought to my attention by Cynthia Bourgeault’s Wisdom School and recent book, Mystical Courage. Alongside it, Brian O'Connor's Awareness Games: Playing with Your Mind to Create Joy deserves mention: several of its exercises radically shifted my perception and helped me understand the true seed of contemplation (pun intended, with a nod to Thomas Merton's Seeds of Contemplation). The inspiration is part of what birthed this Contemplative Currents substack. For today, I’m pulling a very short exercise. To go deeper, I’d recommend listening to the audio version; I’ve paced it for ten minutes in total. If you have the time and space, wonderful. And please let me know how it lands when you try it. One thing I’d say to anyone new to these practices: a consistent practice opens you to a clarity in which the mind gives way to seeing with the heart. That seeing is often described as non-dual. I hesitate to call it a state, though, since it is the ground from which every state of mind arises. I offer this as I offer myself— a taster! I hope you enjoy this one. * So let’s start with you reading this entire post once and then come back again. For this first round, do absolutely nothing deliberately. I know! Don’t meditate or regulate your breath or try to become peaceful. Just do absolutely nothing! Only thing I ask is to notice the room. Now, pay attention to how everything you see is appearing effortlessly. Sounds, sensations, even your thoughts…they just pop in and pop out! And the weird thing is you’re not manufacturing any part of these. It’s just happening like that! Stay there for a bit. Stay! * Now find an actual object near you. Something simple that you can hold or at least see. Take a look at it and for the next copuple of minutes, don’t give it a name. If it’s a chair for instance, don’t see it as a chair. See its color, its shape, its texture, its light. Then with a slight internal tilt, I want you to imagine what it is before you knew what it is. If you never knew it was a chair(if the object is a chair), what would it be? See it for the first time. But don’t overanalyze and don’t actually come to a final answer. * Now if you can, close your eyes. Yes, I know, how can you read this with your eyes closed? Well, maybe listen to the audio :P Okay, close your eyes, listen for the most distant sound you can hear. Then now to the nearest. Then notice your breathing. Then your body. Then your thought. Now notice this amazing discovery: the distant sound, the breath, your body, your thought all appear in the same place. In an actual experience. Now, I want you to notice, “Where exactly is the boundary between me and what is appearing?” Okay, don’t philosophize. Just notice. * Now, you can open your eyes. I want us to perform another tiny experiment. Notice you are here. Right? Listen to the words ‘I am here’. Remove ‘here’. That remains “I am”. Hold it! Now remove “am”. Don’t replace it with another word. Stay here for a bit. * Now, we are halfway done. Let’s take it another angle. Notice how you thought I was creating an experience for you. Notice again how I have produced no experience whatsoever. I supplied words. Your mind produced expectations, your body produced sensations. The room supplied the sounds, your memory somehow choked up meanings, your attention selected objects. And all of these happened without your consent. It then seems there has been a PRESENTNESS that existed before the outline of experience. What is that, that is present? Sit with it. * Now we will change directions completely. If you can, stand up. Come on! Just do it! Yes, I know you are still wondering if I’m talking to you. Yes, you! Stand up! :) For the next minute, become unreasonable. Shake your arms, move your hsoulders, dance really badly, make one ridiculous facial expression. See, I know you’re reading this alone so do it! And if someone is there, I guess this is where they will begin to question your sanity. But do it! SERIOUSLY! * Now, stop. Feel what remains in the body. Notice your heart rate, your breathing, the warmth, the tingling, whatever is present. Now, if you can, say this out “This is what being alive feels like right now.” Not what life should feel like. This! Yes, this this. * NOw, feel free to sit down. There is something else I want you to notice. You may have spent years asking profound questions. Yes, I know. If you read this, you have asked these questions or questions around these topics: Awareness. Suffering. God. Self. Wholeness. Love. Surrender. For the next minute, abandon every one of them. Ask instead: “What question is my life asking me right now?” Do not search for any type of impressive answer. Just stay noticing the noticing. If something comes, fine. If nothing, fine. * Now let’s add an interesting part. This one is imaginative but please indulge. Think of yourself at ten years old. Do not analyze. THis is a light imaginative exercise. Let the ‘you’ at 10 years old stand in front of you. At this point, he(I will use this pronoun for now) doesn’t know your career, accomplishments, disappointments, what you’ve worked with or what worked out. He only knows he became you. Look at him/her. Then tell him one thing you learned about being alive that nobody had taught him yet. Say it out loud. Give him the answer you wish someone had given you. Wait with him in this. * Now, let the child disappear. Let the questions you had disappear and look around your room again. Nothing spectacular needs to happen. Here is the surprising part about this exercise that you can pay subtle attention to. You exercised the pulling and directing of sight, hearing, feeling, imagination, thought and its interpretative utility. Notice in all of this, that attention moved into the object being directed. Where does attention come from? Well, welcome back from the silence, Seye. I have not been writing as frequently as I thought I would. At this time, Life has called me to be more present with other things. But if you’re new here, Contemplative Currents is to be a free (bi-weekly) newsletter that aims to shed light into our daily experiences as opportunities for contemplation of this glorious Mystery. If you’d like to support my work, please consider subscribing and/or sharing this free Substack. If you’re looking to monetarily support, buying my book, This Glorious Dance: Thoughts & Contemplations About Who We Are, is enough. I’m grateful for your support in whatever capacity. Thanks for reading Contemplative Currents! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit seyekuyinu.substack.com

  4. Aug 20

    Teacher. Teacher. Many-faced Teacher.

    I don’t hold a lot of my childhood memories but I remember exactly where I was when my parents first attempted to teach me how to read the time from a clock. “Where is the small hand?”, my mother would ask. I was confused. I didn’t see any hand. “Where is the small hand?” she asked again. Probably frustrated with me at this time. “It’s there”, I pointed, hoping to pacify her because I just could not see any hands! Were they little tiny children hands or were they the size of my hands? The hands were there the whole time. My mother was pointing straight at them. In hindsight, I can see they were trying to teach me while I was not comprehending the lesson. My parents were my first teachers, and I was the student. On this path, I have had the pleasure of having teachers like Terence Stephens and Caverly Morgan. Often a session would leave me with more questions than answers as they transmitted their teachings to a mind that was hard as a rock. Sometimes, I would leave with the clarity of a watch face after the fog under the glass finally burns off. It was the clock again. They were pointing at something already in front of me, waiting on me to see it. Over time, I have learned that my physical teachers are students together with me in this unending school where we don't pass or fail, where we are not tested or scored, where our souls evolve through experience. I have learned that the greatest teacher is Life itself. I mean this plainly. I am anthropomorphizing Life as Teacher in the truest sense of the phrase. I forget often, but when I remember, like I remember now, I lay flat on this metaphoric floor to this Teacher. It never comes to class dressed the same way twice. It wears the robe of every circumstance. It wears the shawl of sunshine. It wears the plain coat of an ordinary Thursday afternoon with nothing in it. It wears the heavy coat of the phone call I did not want to answer. And when the Florida heat scorches my balding head, it was even that too. It disappears when I forget, comes when I remember. Often times in the gentle words of a friend that says, “Seye, you’re holding your ideas too tightly again”. It was always here in the background as Everything. The immense joy I feel when this awareness descends, it‘s unspeakable. It’s a gentle, subtle, hidden joy you would not notice from my appearance. My parents and I got frustrated with each other over those hands. The Teacher is patient. Maybe I am the one who is impatient. The same lesson comes tomorrow, and the day after, and the day after the day after, all the while putting on a different face each time, and waits for me to see the hands. Do you see its hands? This week: Once today or this week, something will happen that you did not choose: it could even be the heat, the traffic, the unexpected letter. Stop where you are and say to it, out loud or under your breath, you are here too. Leave the meaning alone. Then carry on with what you were doing. Before you sleep, name one garment the Teacher wore today. I have not been writing as frequently as I thought I would. At this time, Life has called me to be more present with other things. But if you’re new here, Contemplative Currents is to be a free (bi-weekly) newsletter that aims to shed light into our daily experiences as opportunities for contemplation of this glorious Mystery. If you’d like to support my work, please consider subscribing and/or sharing this free Substack. If you’re looking to monetarily support, buying my book, This Glorious Dance: Thoughts & Contemplations About Who We Are, is enough. I’m grateful for your support in whatever capacity. Thanks for reading Contemplative Currents! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit seyekuyinu.substack.com

  5. Aug 17

    The Song of Suffering

    I want a cup of hot coffee but I don’t want to stand here for four minutes waiting on this kettle to boil to 180. I want the blue mug, the one that’s chipped at the corner, the one I keep meaning to throw out. I don’t want the other mugs for coffee. Those are for tea. Oh, also I want the house quiet. I just don’t want it too quiet. I want a little sound here and there. Like the good sounds. The sounds of birds chirping at 6am and the wind chimes chiming their crystal notes. I only don’t want the sound of the leaf blower. No, not the leaf blower!I want to sleep in. I want to be the kind of guy who’s up at five without setting an alarm. By the way, I don’t want to be tired. I don’t want to go to bed early. I want my phone in my hand, scrolling till I get to the end of the Instagrams. But I don’t want to hold the phone in my hand. I want to receive texts. I just don’t want to answer the one I got. I want my knee to stop hurting. I want to run the bridge again the way I did before the knee pains. At the same time, I don’t want to stretch for twenty minutes to warm up. I want the body I had at thirty-one and I don’t want to have spent this much of my life thinking about the body I had at thirty-one. I want someone to say I look well. But I don’t want to be looked at. I want the second helping of my pounded yam and ogbono but I don’t want to be so full that I feel like an idiot.I want her to call me. I don’t want to be the one who called. I want to be understood without having to explain again and again, but then I want to explain anyway. This time with thirteen analogies and two ‘for examples’. I don’t want to be asked about it. I want her to arrive at my conclusion on her own so I can be gracious about it. I want to be right. I want to be right so badly that I’d take being right and alone over being wrong and in company. I want to be left alone. I don’t want to be lonely. I want to be invited so I can decline. I want this potential client to say yes. I don’t want the onboarding call though. I want a record-profit year, and I don’t want to send the email that starts it. I want my work to mean something. I want it to also pay. I want a slow week. I don’t want a slow week showing up in my bank statements. I want to be busy and look like i’m important. I want Friday to come fast. I don’t want the year going so fast. I swear I’m not lazy. My work ethics would show you. I want the rain to hold off till after my evening walk. I want a storm, a real one. Not this fickle one that starts and stops. I want the type that shuts down the power in two of the divisions here. That way, I can call off work together with many others and complain about the poor infrastructure and the government’s inability to respond to change. I also don’t want the fridge to defrost. I want my mother’s voice on the phone. I only don’t want to hear it getting older. I want to have called more. I don’t want to feel this while I’m on the call. I don’t want to want it, because wanting it is how I know how it goes. I want to be free and I want to be chosen. I want no obligations and I want to be needed by name. I want to be unknown and I want to be read. I want silence and I want somebody to tell me something. I want less. I want more of the less. I want to want less than I want. I want the mind to be quiet during meditation, which is a bit like wanting the ocean to hold still so I can look at it properly. I want the insight I had on Tuesday to come back on demand. I want the good sit. I don’t want to sit for forty minutes to get the good sit. I want the fruit without the fruiting. I want to stop wanting. I want that one more than most of them. I don’t want to become a person who wants to stop wanting, because I’ve met a few of those ones. I want this damn wanting to be finished without me having to be the one who finishes the wanting in the first place. I just so desperately want it lifted. I want it free of charge. I want to stop worrying. I want to worry properly first, thoroughly, all the way to the end of it, until I solve all problems and then stop. I want to have thought of everything. I don't want to think about any of it. I want the small hard rehearsal at 3 a.m. where I say the sentence I'll have to say, and then say it better, and then say it a third way that's in essence, the same as the first. I want to be told it's going to be fine. I don't want to be told that by someone who doesn't know exactly how hard it is. I want to stop checking. I want to check one more time so I can stop. I want to be the person who doesn't do this, and I want to be that person retroactively, so that the last twenty years get amended. I don't want to be careless. I want to put it down and I want to keep holding the handle, you know, just in case. I want this essay to land. I don’t want to have wanted it to land. If I sing this wanting and not wanting long and hard enough, with the same pitch, with the same little muscular clench at the front of the chest, I would come to find that one note, and it plays it against everything. If I played it long enough, I may stop finding the singer. If I looked at it long and hard enough, I start to notice the “I” in the song. The “I want” and the “I don’t want” are the same “I”. I want the coffee hot. Who wants it? I want this pain to end? Who wants it? Something wants it. The wanting is definitely appearing. And it’s a pull, an ache, a leaning-forward. God, take this thorn from my side! I search to find this “I” that’s leaning and there’s an embarrassment, like reaching for a step that isn’t there. I want. I don’t want. I want. These prefixes! Don’t you hear them in the mind? Don’t they haunt you? So damn sticky, aren’t they? So damn sticky, this “I”. How do you even catch them? Just like how you notice the fridge’s hum only when it stops, that’s how obvious it is to hear this ceaseless “I” and then one’s able to see clearly that what is is already what is. My wanting can’t change what is already the case. How could I learn to just accept this? What would it take to? My coffee’s already cold. And the leaf blower’s blowing already.My coffee’s already cold. And the leaf blower. It’s still blowing. I have not been writing as frequently as I thought I would. At this time, Life has called me to be more present with other things. But if you’re new here, Contemplative Currents is to be a free (bi-weekly) newsletter that aims to shed light into our daily experiences as opportunities for contemplation of this glorious Mystery. If you’d like to support my work, please consider subscribing and/or sharing this free Substack. If you’re looking to monetarily support, buying my book, This Glorious Dance: Thoughts & Contemplations About Who We Are, is enough. I’m grateful for your support in whatever capacity. Thanks for reading Contemplative Currents! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit seyekuyinu.substack.com

  6. Aug 4

    Grace is what the suffering is made of

    Last night I fell asleep and I have no idea how I did it. There was a stretch where the day was still running its accounts in my head. And then I sent a text with an Australian joke. Then blackness! Well, not blackness but nothingness. Just absolute nothing. Then morning. Usually Milo would come over to my bedside and rub his face under my dangling hand. Then I’d remember where I am. Somewhere in the gap between the falling asleep and the waking up, the ‘one’ doing the worrying stops worrying. What’s crazy is ‘I’ didn’t authorize any of it. I couldn’t have. If you have laid wide awake in bed at 3am in the morning, you know precisely how much sleep obeys your ...free will. This is the closest thing I have to a working model of Grace. One can darken the bedroom, put the phone in the kitchen, take magnesium and all of the ashwaghanda gummies, keep the same bedtime for a month, all of that work and it not necessarily guaranty sleep. In fact, none of it is sleeping. Sleep arrives on its own three feet. Yet, sleep itself is not something one bestows on one’s self.I will argue that Seeing works the same way. For the sake of this conversation, Seeing is what I will call the seeing through suffering and the illusion of separation. The pit comes first You see, suffering isn’t noble and I won’t dress it up. If you’re like me, you’ve also spent most of your life dealing with one variant or the other of suffering. For me, the pit of suffering is where most of my Seeing has happened, and I think I understand why. When what I consider as ‘my life’ works according to plan, the mind has enough material to keep building. Everything is a hallelujah, every song is kumbaya, Grace is the sweetest nectar. Everything holds from the hand of Reality secure in the vice-like grip.But when the plans collapse! My gosh! The mind runs helter skelter, out of scaffolding. Sometimes in it, I catch sight of the ground it was standing on the whole time. Sometimes. My gosh! It is an existential mess- this being human! I’d love to tell you I live in absolute bliss. I don’t. A client goes quiet on an invoice or I remember the dates on a pending immigration case, or a conversation with someone I love goes badly and keeps replaying at 2 a.m. with better lines I didn’t say and a conditioned mind flutters like a butterfly that found milkweed. Three weeks of the same worry wearing the same groove, the clouds come in, thick and total, and the shutter closes, and there is no Seeing at all. Just gruesome terrible weather. But then, in all of this, I’ve come to think of the confusion as a privilege. Even that too is GRACE! On this contemplative path, something in us is stubborn enough to keep asking what all this gooey goo is! The difference between the me of then and now is that I no longer treat the closing as a failure of technique. It isn’t a sign I did the practice wrong either. It’s freaking Tuesday and the world seems to be falling apart— from one true viewpoint. What the books can’t do Friend, I have read all of the good books until the pages came loose(well, all the popular good books, the Spiras, John of the Cross, the Desert Fathers, Jean Klein etc).I have searched until my soles wore out. I have sat in meditation for hours daily. I can tell you with the weight of confident authority that I have, that none of these have any procedure for ending the Illusion of Separation or that moment of enlightenment where suffering ends forever. What all of the practice does is arrange the room neatly. The studying, the searching, the sitting for hours in meditation, all of it makes the individual more available just the way a darkened bedroom makes a person more available to sleep. But nothing will happen to wake you up to end suffering for good! Or something may happen. Doesn’t matter! It has always not been of anyone’s doing. It has always ONLY BEEN THE hand of Grace.And in those clear moments of insight, forgetting will still happen. Look at it! Who is it that forgets. If the Seeing belonged to anyone, won’t they just keep it? Wouldn’t I just keep it during the useful hours? Nobody sets an alarm to forget their own nature. The forgetting comes by itself as unauthored as the remembering of our true nature. See, what did you eat for dinner fourteen nights ago? Ah! You can’t remember? Notice the strain, the blank, the two or three candidate meals your mind offers as plausible. Now notice that if it comes at all, it comes later, at the sink, with the specific bowl and the specific person across the table. And if you even remembered, the remembering was not produced by the straining to remember. The straining was just the noise we made while waiting. I have spent years making that noise. I don’t regret it. The one practice I keep Whatever is in front of me, I turn attention back along the line to what it’s appearing to. And somehow there is some very strange joy in that. No, it’s not a joy. It’s a weirdness. No, it’s a gentle softening.Then I turn my attention to the computer screen, to the ache in my right shoulder and the sound of the fan. Milo shifting his weight against my right leg. Each of these is appearing somewhere, to something, and I look for the somewhere. It isn’t a search for an object. There’s no image to find and there’s no state to install. It’s more like noticing the one place attention never has to travel to reach. It takes a very skillful metaphoric tilt of the neck to find that sweet spot. I don’t see it all the time. It’s the center through which everything arises. It was there during the worst week of last month, unmoved and uninterested in my opinion of It. It doesn’t require good conditions. It doesn’t require me to be calm, or kind, or clear. It was there while I was arguing, while I stood in shame confessing my closest and darkest secrets. It still was there while I was asleep and not present for any of it. The whisper It, that It …is the ever-present standing through all of it. Call it God or the Universe, or Reality or whatever lingo honors the Unthinkable, Unknowable, Untouchable. That objectless object makes no promise that pain will stop, offers no timeline, and doesn’t seem interested in explaining itself. But it whispers, and it whispers to me the way it may for you: all may not be well, and you are in it, through it, out of it, for it, as it. There is no rescue from the mess. We are included so completely that there’s no seam where one ends and it begins. Grief happens inside it. Confusion happens inside it. The whole ugly stretch we’d erase if we could, is happening inside it and has never once been outside it. Back to the bed So, back to that bed. I fell asleep and cannot tell you how. Everyone falls asleep and thinks it’s their own doing, but when people are up at 3am staring, it’s their failure.But look at it again. Nobody authorizes the 3am either! The man lying awake, rehearsing better lines for a conversation that ended nine hours ago, did not sign up for that shift. It was handed to him. He could not put it down, and he could not have picked it up. Which means Grace has both hands in this thing. It opens the shutter. It also closes it. It hands out the clear morning, and it hands out the milkweed mind, and it does not beg for your opinion. That is the part I resisted all along. I wanted Grace to be the good weather. I wanted the Seeing to be the reward and the clouds to be our fault, because at least a fault can be corrected and a technique can be improved and I could stay in business as the one running the operation. But if the forgetting is not mine, and the remembering is not mine, and the falling asleep is not mine, then the pit is not mine either. Somebody put me down there. And the something in me stubborn enough to keep asking what all this gooey goo is, that too was issued, not earned. So Grace is not a thing that comes when the suffering ends. Grace is what the suffering is made of. It is the Seeing and it is the blindness. It is the voice of the client who goes quiet at the most critical moment of the project. It is the immigration date circled and the 2am replay. It is not around it, not underneath it, it is not waiting for the storm to pass so it can finally come out and be praised for its disappearing act(when all was good and rosy). It is in it, as it. And when I wake, Milo comes and rubs his face under my dangling hand, and I remember where I am. None of that was my doing either. This being alive, I did not create it. Did you? A contemplative prompt Will you join me in this exploration? Give this twenty minutes. Read a section, put the page down, and stay with it before moving on. Nothing here is meant to be figured out. Begin without repairs. Sit and let whatever is here be here. If you’re restless, be restless. If you’re grieving, grieve. IF you’re sitting with fear, sit with it. We are not wanting to be a better version. In fact, we will make this the new home. Take one thing that hurts. Bring up something currently painful. Let it be as sharp as it actually is. Now look for the one it’s happening to. For a bit, let’s temporarily pause the story about them. Look for the one who is going through it right now. What do you find when you look directly? Take one thing that delights you. Something small and recent. Sunlight on the wall, the thought of the laugh of your favorite person, the first sip of good wine. Ask the same question. Where is the one this is happening to? Notice whether the answer is in a different location than it was a moment ago. Find what is already fine. Without improving anything, locate one thing that is unproblematic at this moment. The weight of your hands. The breath doing itself. Notice contentment isn’t manufactured here. See whether it was already running underneath, unattended. Turn around. Whatever is arising, look back along the line to what it’s arising in. D

  7. Jul 6

    What do I do with this fear that consumes me?

    One should not give up, neglect, or forget for a moment his inner life, but he must learn to work in it, with it, and out of it so that the unity of his soul may break out in all his activities —Meister Eckhart I held Milo against my body as I felt the waves of trembling rolling through his furry body. In the five years we have shared together, I had never felt him shake with this much intensity and helplessness. Outside, the July 4th fireworks were splitting the night sky, crackling with no cadence, startling even me with every eruption. Holding him, it occurred to me that he’s never once seen the explosions or even where they come from. He has no framework for what was happening to him except that his nervous system was responding to the imagination that the ground may be turning against him. As I tried to hold him steady, I knew this fear. This same one! It is mine! The loud sounds that haunted him became, in me, the possibility of displacement from a life I have gotten familiar with. A future that was floating somewhere. An unseen catastrophe that my mind had rehersed so vividly that my body answered it as if it were already happening. My own body shivering exactly as Milo’s shivered. Oh, how little fear depends on reality yet flourishing in suggestion, feeding on distance and no evidence beyond the stories that the body believes to be true. My body, it clenches and tightens and braces against a world that exists only in my own imagination. My gosh! Who would tell this body? Who would heal the disease of my mind? How can I help myself? You see, we could all lay back in our spiritual stupor, and like Jacob watch the ladder set itself up between heaven and earth, the angels moving easily up and down its rungs, the whole host visible …if you just tilt your head right. We could all enjoy what it is like to feel transcendent— the clouds arranging themselves into readable jolly shapes. Every philosophical position, every sermon about grace hitting the right spots, sounding right and balanced, every recognition of one’s self as the Divine sitting comfortably on the carriage of the mind. But let the world shake! Let turmoil and turbulence come knocking and that ladder into heaven disappears. The angels you saw dancing and floating around like bubbles from a bubble maker are no longer visible from the vantage point. All the techniques, prayers, mantras, pranayamas that worked a moment ago, scatter like something you’re now trying to remember from a dream. The cruelest realization then becomes this: the peace one once knew was only visible in fair weather. Maybe this is the work after all. Maybe one of the deepest signs of spiritual maturity isn’t that we stop trembling. Maybe it’s that we become the kind of people who know how to sit with our fears and so learn to sit beside someone else while they are trembling. Maybe maturity is not reaching a spiritual altitude from which storms no longer exist. Thank goodness! Perhaps the work is seeing what fear is truly made of. Oh it’s easy for me to see that every fear begins with a story of separation. It says to me: * I believe myself to create and direct my life * I believe myself to be separate from all of life * I believe the stories of the mind. I dance to the symphony of thoughts without questioning their ultimate existence * The “I” that I think I am feels real. The body hears the story and does what bodies have done for millions of years. It prepares for exile. So this is what I’m left with, sitting on the floor with a dog who has finally stopped shaking. For him the danger is passed when all the bangers have stopped. Oh, I envy the simplicity of that. For us, the echoes linger. I keep replaying the echoes of chaos that have never happened to me. I keep inhabiting a future that just never comes. I keep exiling myself from a home I have never left. My gosh! Oh, what if Jacob only woke up to what had always been true: “Surely the Lord is in this place, and I knew it not.” Nothing in his surroundings had changed. Only his seeing shifted. My job was never to talk the body into stillness. It was to stay in all this freaking messiness, arms open(if i can open it), breath doing what breaths do, until the mind collapses into what is already true— it’s that everything is already as it is. Simple. Maybe just then the body will remember what was already true long long before all of the noise started. Contemplative Currents is a free (bi-weekly) newsletter that aims to shed light into our daily experiences as opportunities for contemplation of this glorious Mystery. If you’d like to support my work, please consider subscribing and/or sharing this free Substack. If you’re looking to monetarily support, buying my book, This Glorious Dance: Thoughts & Contemplations About Who We Are, is enough. I’m grateful for your support in whatever capacity. Thanks for reading Contemplative Currents! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit seyekuyinu.substack.com

  8. May 29

    The Dream of Separation and the Fascinating Wonder Underneath it.

    When I dream, I sometimes dream of dreaming. This happens when my dreams are not clogged with the same familiar nightmares that mirror my waking life. And when I wake, there are moments when what we call ‘this reality’ appears dreamlike. Like right now! Oh, I’m not saying it’s unreal. I’m saying it feels insubstantial. Like the world is held together by an invisible field that’s lighter than we could ever imagine despite the shakiness that my legs feel when life’s illusory challenges sift my way. The contemplative life makes this easier to notice— how the solidity we grant our experience softens, how the edges lose their certainty. In all of this, what fascinates me most is how strange it is to argue about whether this is a dream or not. If I am a character in a dream, speaking to another character in the same dream, what conclusion could either of us possibly reach? That this is not a dream? Would we not be talking from the same dream? “Hey fellow fish, don’t you see we are made of ocean and we are surrounded by water?” Would it not be the ocean talking to itself? How do I tell you that all of this is poetry and not prose? That we keep lifting symbols and concepts as though they were concrete things? How do I tell you that your joys are mine? That your awards and accolades are mine? That your blessings belong to me as much as they belong to you?How do I tell you that your grief and sorrows reach me because it is not entirely yours? They are mine also! How do I tell you that my “me” and your “me” are known from the same I? That what we call “other people” begins to dissolve under careful examination? That beneath the names, histories, identities, and stories that we tell ourselves, there is a single Knowing appearing as many? Oh, how I could run around naked and feel no shame! Fortunately, this is not a matter of belief. It is in fact something we can readily investigate not through philosophy alone, but through direct experience. Through direct experience!! Though I should warn you: it becomes simple only after the mind exhausts itself. Only after the endless commentary loses its authority and the clouds part long enough for the blue open sky reveals itself. To see it is to enjoy the Silence. To sit in that space that the psyche has fought all its life to escape from. To sit in the very place the mind has spent a lifetime trying to avoid. To remain there long enough that resistance begins to loosen its grip. It is to make your body so stiff in silence that it eventually melts in surrender. Till your legs, they feel so loose and limp that they feel like jello. Oh, you have to be there, to see it. Let those thoughts die till there’s nothing left but sensations. Let sensations die until you hear the same humming echo that the universe has been humming. If you were outside this stratosphere, it’s that same humming. The same hum beneath joy and sorrow. The same hum beneath childhood and old age. The same hum beneath waking and dreaming. The same presence that has accompanied every experience you have ever had. Then, only then would you know it. You know it. You remember! Not the way memory recovers facts. You remember as recognition remembers itself. Remember when you knew no names and your mother’s face was your face? Her hands, yours. Her smile, they moved through you as your smile. Her sickness, your own sickness. Remember when you were in the void of her belly? Shortly before you started to create separation? Before the world was neatly divided into self and other? Oh, you may see that your Knowing is the Knowing through which all is known. You, who you really are, having no boundaries, no edges, nowhere you start or end. You, who belong to no one and no one belonging to you. Belonging, it turns out, is a property of objects and you’re not one. Your body might be an object. A thought may be an object. A memory may be an object but that weirdness, that mystery that’s not even an object knows them and remains untouched. In your last dream, what did you see? Did you see all the people and buildings and mountains and roads? And what did you see them with?? What did you see it with? Eyes? Were there really eyes in your dream? Have you not noticed that you can see without eyes? What do you see out of right now? My friend, let the physical eyes surrender into Seeing. You could not have created the dream, nor the dreamer. The dream and the dreamer are the same Dream. The truth is, all of this, every bit of it, this living, breathing, laughing, grieving, loving existence, is astonishing. And it’s not because it can be explained but because it simply CANNOT! It will never be explainable. And perhaps wonder begins exactly there. So read this again not to understand it but to notice what is already here alive without aliveness, present before the body claims it as its own here-ness. Read this again. I’m serious! Contemplative Currents is a free (bi-weekly) newsletter that aims to shed light into our daily experiences as opportunities for contemplation of this glorious Mystery. If you’d like to support my work, please consider subscribing and/or sharing this free Substack. If you’re looking to monetarily support, buying my book, This Glorious Dance: Thoughts & Contemplations About Who We Are, is enough. I’m grateful for your support in whatever capacity. Thanks for reading Contemplative Currents! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit seyekuyinu.substack.com

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