The Mindform Podcast

Designing the Mind | Ryan A Bush
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The Mindform Podcast is a unique conversation space in which we get inside the minds of Mindform community members. These conversations center around exploring and altering our psychological landscapes together, focusing on psychological growth, deep human connection, and philosophical inquiry. Our host, Frank Lawton, helps facilitate members in dismantling self-limiting beliefs, challenging perspectives, and practicing psychitecture - self-directed psychological evolution. If you’d like to join the community, connect with the people you get to know here, and maybe even be a guest yourself, apply at mindform.io.

  1. 5d ago

    #54: Co-Regulation: The Secret Skill Behind Every Strong Relationship with Elizabeth Earnshaw

    What if the biggest threat to your relationship isn't your partner — it's your nervous system? What if "good communication skills" are useless the moment your body thinks it's being chased by a lion? In this episode of the Mindformed Podcast, Frank Lawton sits down with Elizabeth Earnshaw — licensed marriage and family therapist, certified Gottman Method therapist, and founder of A Better Life Therapy in Philadelphia. Elizabeth's central argument: most relationship conflict isn't a communication problem, it's a stress problem — and until you treat the body first, no technique will stick. In this conversation: Why couples with great communication skills still have the exact same fight every time The physiological "stop action" technique for breaking an argument before it escalates Why 20 minutes (not 5) is the magic number your body needs to reset The difference between co-regulating and dysregulating with a stressed partner How to run a "stress audit" on your life — and split it into shed, prevent, and adapt The simple questions that pull stress out of a partner instead of pumping more in --- Find Elizabeth at elizabethearnshaw.com or @LizListens. Books mentioned in this episode: 'Til Stress Do Us Part — how stress, not your partner, is the real relationship killer I Want This to Work — Elizabeth's first book on building stronger relationships The Couples Therapy Flip Chart — a clinical tool used by therapists in couples sessions --- Mindform is an exclusive membership platform that gives you access to an ever-expanding toolkit for mental mastery and a community of passionate psychitects. Apply to join Mindform or get the free Psychitect's Toolkit at https://mindform.io/podcast

    55 min

  2. Jun 19

    #53: How to Stop Letting Self-Doubt Run Your Life with Dr. Jill Stoddard

    What if the self-doubt you've been trying to fix is actually proof you care? And what if the harder you work to outrun it, the worse it gets? In this episode, Frank sits down with Dr. Jill Stoddard — clinical psychologist, TEDx speaker, ACT trainer, and author of Be Mighty and Brace No More — to unpack why imposter syndrome is misnamed, misunderstood, and why the conventional advice to "just build your confidence" tends to backfire for most people. Dr. Stoddard makes the case that psychological flexibility — not confidence — is the real antidote to self-doubt, fear, and avoidance. Topics covered: Why "imposter syndrome" is a flawed term — and what the research actually says The gap trap: why waiting until you feel ready keeps you stuck How acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) builds resilience without toxic positivity Pain reprocessing therapy — how the brain creates chronic pain and how to rewire it Speaking truth to power: Jill's personal story and her upcoming podcast We the Sunlight Why discomfort practiced in small ways builds capacity for the big moments 🎙️ This is Episode53 of the Mindform Podcast, hosted by Frank Lawton. 🔗 Find Dr. Jill Stoddard: Website: www.jillstoddard.com New Podcast (Sept 2025): We the Sunlight Books: https://jillstoddard.com/books Be Mighty Imposter No More The Big Book of ACT Metaphors Mindform is an exclusive membership platform that gives you access to an ever-expanding toolkit for mental mastery and a community of passionate psychitects. Apply to join Mindform or get the free Psychitect's Toolkit at https://mindform.io/podcast

    1 hr

  3. Jun 12

    #52: Letting Go of Control Will Unlock Your True Humanity with John Cottingham

    What if the relentless drive to know everything, control everything, and fix everything is actually making you less human? And what if the path to wisdom, meaning, and flourishing begins not with more answers — but with a deeper relationship with the unknown? Frank sits down with philosopher John Cottingham — Professor Emeritus at the University of Reading and Honorary Fellow of St. John's College, Oxford — whose latest book The Humane Perspective (Oxford University Press) is a bold call for philosophy to reconnect with lived experience, emotion, and spiritual reality. John argues that our culture's obsession with left-brain detachment — from academia to AI to tech utopianism — is cutting us off from what makes us most human: vulnerability, transcendence, and the humility to acknowledge our limits. Topics covered: Why philosophy's obsession with detached logic misses the point of being human The "epistemology of involvement" — and why being porous is more powerful than being critical AI, tech billionaires, and the dangerous fantasy of total control The longing for transcendence and why even a well-fed, comfortable life leaves us yearning What Augustine, Aquinas, Freud, and Jung all agree on about self-knowledge Why religion is a practice, not a theory — and what that means for non-believers The Humane Perspective by John Cottingham — Oxford University Press  johncottingham.co.uk --- Mindform is an exclusive membership platform that gives you access to an ever-expanding toolkit for mental mastery and a community of passionate psychitects. Apply to join Mindform or get the free Psychitect's Toolkit at https://mindform.io/podcast

    1h 8m

  4. Jun 5

    #51: The Psychologist's Guide to Welcoming Anxiety and Transforming Your Life with Dr. Alissa Jerud

    What if everything you've been told about managing anxiety is making it worse? What if the kindest thing you can do for your kids — or yourself — is to stop trying to fix the feeling? Dr. Alissa Jerud is a psychologist, Penn faculty member, and author of Emotion Savvy Parenting. She specialises in anxiety disorders, OCD, PTSD, and emotional regulation, using her ART framework — Accept, Regulate, Tolerate — to help people build a fundamentally different relationship with discomfort. In this conversation, Frank and Alissa explore why our instinct to soothe anxiety is the very thing that sustains it — and what it looks like to actually let it be. Topics covered: - Why anxiety misfires — and why that doesn't make it your enemy - The exposure therapy process: what 10–20 sessions really look like - The "fly at the picnic" analogy that reframes everything about acceptance - Why popular anxiety advice in the media is doing more harm than good - How Alissa's own parenting struggles transformed her clinical practice - What it means to be the "rock" for your kids without fixing their emotions --- Emotion Savvy Parenting — Available here: https://www.amazon.com/Emotion-Savvy-Parenting-Alissa-Jerud/dp/1032544945 Learn more at: alissajerud.com --- Mindform is an exclusive membership platform that gives you access to an ever-expanding toolkit for mental mastery and a community of passionate psychitects. Apply to join Mindform or get the free Psychitect's Toolkit at https://mindform.io/podcast

    1 hr

  5. Jun 5

    #50: Why SMART Goals Aren't Enough with Kjerstin Klein

    What if the goal system you've been taught is only half the story? What if the reason you keep falling short has nothing to do with discipline, and everything to do with your tools? Kjerstin Klein is a serial entrepreneur, certified athletic trainer, third-degree black belt, and health and business consultant who built a goal management system out of pure necessity as a neurodivergent person who just needed to get to the bus on time. Her framework, the GRIP (Goals, Requirements, Issues, Plan), isn't just a goal-setting tool. It's an iterative, self-correcting map that reveals what you actually want, why you keep getting stuck, and what to do about it. Why SMART goals measure progress but can't tell you why you're failing The four reasons we avoid doing the things we say we want to do How the GRIP model exposed a client who hadn't called his mother in three years — all in the name of success The Five F's of Flourishing — the domains every fulfilling life needs to balance Why nine times out of ten, people don't actually want what they think they want Connect with Kjerstin Klein: 📧 Email KjerstinKlein@gmail.com 🌐 Website https://devatasolutions.com/ 📖 Get a GRIP on Goals A practical guide to the GRIP Method, available on Kindle and paperback. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0893M1XMM 📘 Facebook Page – Devatas Solutions https://www.facebook.com/DevatasSolutions 🎙️ Goals Gals Podcast Series The first episode in a 12-part series that walks through the GRIP Method using a real-life goal-setting journey. https://soundcloud.com/kjerstin-klein/goals-gals-intro --- Mindform is an exclusive membership platform that gives you access to an ever-expanding toolkit for mental mastery and a community of passionate psychitects. Apply to join Mindform or get the free Psychitect's Toolkit at https://mindform.io/podcast

    1 hr

  6. May 8

    #49: Fewer Rules, Better People, and Video Game Vaccines with Barry Lam

    What if our obsession with rules is making everything worse? What if philosophy isn’t exclusive to university hallways? Barry Lam — philosopher, documentarian, and host of the Hi-Phi Nation podcast — joins the show to explore the collision between abstract ethics and the messiest corners of real life. His book Fewer Rules, Better People makes a provocative case: rule systems kill excellence. From criminal justice to airport security, the institutions we’ve built to be fair have become machines that punish good judgment. We also discuss strange and  true stories of philosophy in action:     •    The gamers who helped stabilise mRNA vaccines     •    Soldiers navigating unjust orders — and what philosophy says they owe themselves     •    A woman who genuinely believes she’s the reincarnation of Anne Frank     •    People falling in love with AI chatbots — and whether that love is real     •    Why lottocracy might be a more honest democracy than the one we have     •    What (if anything) you owe your past self --- Pick up Barry's book Fewer Rules Better People at wwnorton.com/books/fewer-rules-better-people and check out his documentary podcast Hi-Phi Nation at hiphination.org --- Mindform is an exclusive membership platform that gives you access to an ever-expanding toolkit for mental mastery and a community of passionate psychitects. Apply to join Mindform or get the free Psychitect's Toolkit at https://mindform.io/podcast

    56 min

  7. Apr 24

    #48: Why Human Beings Need to Feel Small with Arie Kruglanski

    Frank sits down with Arie Kruglanski, one of the world's leading experts in human motivation psychology, to explore a framework decades in the making. After being invited to study the psychology of terrorism post-9/11, Arie discovered that terrorists, world leaders, and everyday people share the same core drive: the need to matter. He calls it the quest for significance. His model centers on two forces: bigness — the drive to achieve, compete, and be seen — and smallness — the need to connect, belong, and be vulnerable. Too much bigness leads to burnout, conflict, and isolation. Too much smallness breeds feelings of worthlessness. Balance between the two is where human flourishing lives. Arie draws the thread from romantic love to geopolitics, showing how the same psychological dynamic that breaks a relationship also starts wars. The antidote he points to is simple but powerful: pursue significance not for personal glory, but in service of something larger than yourself. --- Mindform is an exclusive membership platform that gives you access to an ever-expanding toolkit for mental mastery and a community of passionate psychitects. Apply to join Mindform or get the free Psychitect’s Toolkit at https://mindform.io/podcast

    59 min

  8. Mar 14

    #47: Stop Mistaking Beliefs for Facts—Here's What Actually Works with Nir Eyal

    In this episode Frank sits down with Nir Eyal, bestselling author of Hooked and Indistractable, to explore his latest book Beyond Belief, a science-backed manifesto on how our beliefs shape everything from our motivation to our suffering. Nir opens with a framework that reframes how we think about beliefs entirely. Most of us confuse facts, beliefs and faith, and that confusion, he argues, is the root of most of our personal and interpersonal problems. The real insight is this: beliefs are tools, not truths. And like any tool, the question isn't whether they're correct, it's whether they're serving you. The conversation covers why motivation isn't a straight line but a triangle, why positive thinking and manifestation are not just ineffective but actively harmful, and what athletes actually visualize that makes the difference. Nir also draws on the neuroscience of perception to reveal why none of us are seeing reality as clearly as we think we are. See as they explore the invisible beliefs quietly running your life, the science behind why none of us see reality clearly, and a simple but powerful four question process you can use to dissolve the beliefs that are keeping you stuck and start building ones that actually serve you. ----more---- More about Nir and his new book Beyond Belief Get Nir's free 30-day Belief Change Journal which includes: 30 days of guided prompts designed to reinforce belief-building habits Eight deep-dive exercises Daily "5-minute belief change" templates Places to track evidence supporting your new beliefs ----more---- Mindform is an exclusive membership platform that gives you access to an ever-expanding toolkit for mental mastery and a community of passionate psychitects. Apply to join Mindform or get the free Psychitect's Toolkit at https://mindform.io/podcast

    56 min
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The Mindform Podcast is a unique conversation space in which we get inside the minds of Mindform community members. These conversations center around exploring and altering our psychological landscapes together, focusing on psychological growth, deep human connection, and philosophical inquiry. Our host, Frank Lawton, helps facilitate members in dismantling self-limiting beliefs, challenging perspectives, and practicing psychitecture - self-directed psychological evolution. If you’d like to join the community, connect with the people you get to know here, and maybe even be a guest yourself, apply at mindform.io.

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  • Creator
    Designing the Mind | Ryan A Bush
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    55
  • Rating
    Explicit
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