Transform Your Life - Just Count Me In

Sari Stone

Just Count Me In is a podcast designed to help us navigate and flow with our lives through conscious awareness. When we live with less resistance and more receptivity it is easier to express who we came here to be and enjoy life. We are all walking each other home. 

  1. 6D AGO

    #63: You're Not Misaligned - You're Over-Adjusted

    Send us Fan Mail Alignment Reset Form Influential Women Verified IW Badge Episode Description You’re not stuck because you lack clarity.  You’re stuck because you keep overriding it. In this episode, we go deeper into alignment—not as a concept, but as a lived experience. If you’ve been feeling exhausted, second-guessing yourself, or stretched between expectations, this conversation will help you understand why. We explore the hidden pattern of over-adjustment—how constantly calibrating yourself to meet external expectations disconnects you from your internal truth. Backed by insights from neuroscience and psychology, you’ll learn why your brain is wired to prioritize belonging, how that leads to subtle misalignment, and what you can do to interrupt the pattern in real time. This is a wake-up call—but also a way forward. What You’ll Learn Why misalignment is often a result of over-adjustment, not confusionHow the brain processes social rejection as a threat (and why that matters)The concept of cognitive dissonance and how it drains your energyWhat self-congruence is and why it leads to clarity and confidenceHow over-adjustment shows up in leadership, parenting, and daily decisionsSimple, practical ways to reconnect with your internal alignmentKey Takeaways You don’t need more information—you need to stop overriding what you already knowAlignment is not something you create; it’s something you uncoverThe cost of staying misaligned is subtle but cumulativeTrue belonging doesn’t require you to adjust who you arResearch & References Social pain and the brain (anterior cingulate cortex and rejection response)Self-congruence theory in psychologyGoogle’s Project Aristotle (psychological safety in teams)Work of Carl Rogers on authenticity and self-acceptanceResearch and writing by Brené Brown on belonging vs. fitting inBuzzsprout-Just Count Me In Instagram- Just Count Me In Facebook-Just Count Me In Thank you for joining me! If this episode resonates, please share it with a friend who needs a little inspiration today!

    13 min
  2. MAR 27

    #62: Alignment Over Algorithm: Reclaim Your Attention and Take Back Your Energy

    Send us Fan Mail IW Badge Key Concepts Discussed Why alignment requires practice, not just awarenessHow constant device exposure increases stress and reduces presenceThe impact of attention fragmentation on leadership and parentingThe connection between screen use, anxiety, and reduced emotional regulationDesigning environments that support clarity, connection, and performanceResearch-Informed Ideas cognitive load: Excess stimulation reduces your ability to think clearlydopamine reward system: Devices reinforce habitual checking and distractionattention residue: Your brain stays partially focused on your phone—even when you’re not using itoxytocin: Human connection supports regulation and trustPractical Takeaways 1. Protect Your Attention No phones during mealsNo phones in meetings (remove from the room if possible)Use one communal device if needed2. Implement the “First Hour / Last Hour Rule” No screens the first hour of your dayNo screens the last hour before bed3. Create Device-Free Zones Dinner tableBedroomsTeam meetings / classrooms4. Practice Daily Alignment Ask yourself: “Does this reflect who I am?”“Am I fully present right now?”Leadership Application Phone-free meetings improve engagement and clarityPresence increases trust and team performanceBetter thinking happens in uninterrupted environmentsParenting Application Model intentional tech useProtect connection timeSupport emotional regulation through real interactionResource Mentioned Your Amazing Teen Brain (aligns with discussion on screen use and anxiety in younger generations)Reflection Prompt Where is your attention going… and is that where you want your life to go? Buzzsprout-Just Count Me In Facebook-Just Count Me In Instagram- Just Count Me In Thank you for joining me! If this episode resonates, please share it with a friend who needs a little inspiration today!

    14 min
  3. MAR 14

    #60: Alignment First, Applause Later

    Send us Fan Mail IW Badge Episode Summary Dedicated to Isaac.  What happens when we continue doing something meaningful even after the audience disappears? In this episode, we explore a story about recovery, cooking, and an unexpected dinner that illustrates a deeper principle: intrinsic motivation. Drawing from psychology, leadership science, and behavioral research, we examine how acting from alignment — rather than approval — builds stronger teams, more resilient families, and healthier teens. Sometimes the most important work happens when the room is empty. Some of the inventions that we value most happened because someone stuck with it even when no one was in the room Because it felt right. Wayne Dyer said, "Some people do things right. "No limits" people do the right thing. And sometimes… that’s exactly when the right people show up. Key Takeaways • Intrinsic motivation leads to sustained growth and resilience  • Alignment produces better leadership than approval-seeking  • Parents can model internal motivation for their children  • Teens benefit from learning to follow values rather than crowds  • Environment and identity play a major role in behavior change Reflection Questions What do you continue doing even when no one is watching?Where in your life are you waiting for approval before acting?What small action this week would align with the person you want to become?Facebook-Just Count Me In Instagram- Just Count Me In Influential Women Verified Buzzsprout-Just Count Me In Thank you for joining me! If this episode resonates, please share it with a friend who needs a little inspiration today!

    21 min
  4. MAR 1

    #58: Conflict is the Gateway to Growth

    Send us Fan Mail IW Badge Conflict isn’t the opposite of connection.  Unregulated conflict is. In this episode, we explore why disagreement feels threatening, what neuroscience reveals about our fear of speaking up, and how healthy conflict becomes the birthplace of innovation, intimacy, and expansion. In This Episode We Cover: 1. Why Silence Feels Safer Than Disagreement Research from Amy Edmondson at Harvard Business School shows that high-performing teams aren’t conflict-free — they’re psychologically safe. Safety allows dissent without loss of belonging. 2. Why Dissent Makes Groups Smarter Studies by Charlan Nemeth demonstrate that minority opinions increase creativity and prevent premature consensus — even when the dissenting view is incorrect. 3. The Nervous System & Conflict According to Stephen Porges’s Polyvagal Theory, disagreement can register as threat when past experiences linked speaking up to rejection or punishment. The body reacts before the intellect engages. 4. Creative Tension as Expansion Peter Senge describes “creative tension” as the gap between current reality and a desired future — the very space that generates growth. 5. Regulating Before Responding Practical vagal practices to stay grounded: Inhale 4, exhale 6Feel feet on the floorName shared intentionSeparate ideas from identityKey Takeaways Silence protects short-term comfort but sacrifices long-term growth.Task conflict strengthens outcomes; personal conflict erodes trust.Regulation is the prerequisite to productive disagreement.Creative tension is a sign of expansion, not dysfunction.Reflection Questions Where do I avoid disagreement to preserve belonging?What early experiences shaped how I interpret conflict?Can I feel physiological activation without collapsing or attacking?What would it look like to stay curious instead of defensive?Facebook-Just Count Me In Instagram- Just Count Me In Influential Women Verified Thank you for joining me! If this episode resonates, please share it with a friend who needs a little inspiration today!

    25 min
  5. FEB 22

    #57: 2026 Leadership Is About Psychological Safety: The Hidden Driver of Innovation in Classrooms and Boardrooms

    Send us Fan Mail In this episode we explore why people hold back ideas — from students in a classroom to executives in corporate meetings — and what happens when we create environments where ideas are freely shared and heard. We unpack the concept of psychological safety, the science behind it, and real-world implications for innovation, learning, and collaboration. 🎧 Key Concepts Covered 1) What Psychological Safety Is Psychological safety is defined as a shared belief that a team is safe for interpersonal risk-taking — where people can speak up, admit mistakes, ask questions, and share ideas without fear of embarrassment or retribution. 2) Why People Don’t Share Ideas Humans are socially wired — fear of judgment, rejection, or embarrassment can suppress contribution.In learning environments, students often hesitate to share because of social risk or unestablished trust. Research on group learning shows that students may use conversational strategies (like hedging or joking) to protect themselves when sharing ideas. 3) Psychological Safety Drives Innovation Harvard Business School research by Amy Edmondson highlights that psychologically safe teams are more capable of learning, experimentation, and innovation. Google’s internal research, known as Project Aristotle, found that psychological safety was the strongest predictor of team success — more so than individual talent, tenure, or team composition. In work environments, psychological safety enhances knowledge sharing, idea generation, and adaptive performance. 4) Innovation + Diversity Creating climates where diverse voices feel safe dramatically improves innovation outcomes. Psychological safety allows a wider range of perspectives to be heard and integrated. 5) Psychological Safety in Learning Spaces Students learn more when they feel safe to express ideas, engage with peers, and revise thinking. Project-based learning and collaborative classrooms show that supportive psychological climates increase student creativity and engagement. 🧠 Actionable Takeaways For Leaders & Managers: Cultivate meeting norms where dissent is invited, not punished.Model vulnerability and admit your own mistakes to signal safety.Encouraging questions openly and redirecting blame from individuals to processes fosters trust.For Educators & Parents: Offer multiple ways to contribute (written responses, small-group brainstorms).Normalize idea development — that thinking evolves, and being wrong is part of learning.📚 References & Suggested Reading Edmondson, A. C., The Fearless Organization – foundational work on psychological safety and innovation. Google’s Project Aristotle — long-term research into team effectiveness and psychological safety. Harvard Graduate School of Education, Why Psychological Safety Matters in Class.Conlin & Scherr, Making Space to Sensemake — academic research on risk and idea-sharing in classroom discussions. Learning Policy Institute strategies for building psychological safety in classrooms.Facebook-Just Count Me In Instagram- Just Count Me In Influential Women Verified Thank you for joining me! If this episode resonates, please share it with a friend who needs a little inspiration today!

    22 min

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Just Count Me In is a podcast designed to help us navigate and flow with our lives through conscious awareness. When we live with less resistance and more receptivity it is easier to express who we came here to be and enjoy life. We are all walking each other home.