The Ideal Identity

Arshia Tousi
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Most personal development advice focuses on the surface—fixing habits, chasing goals, and managing symptoms. But if you try to build a skyscraper on a foundation designed for a shed, the structure will eventually collapse. That collapse is what we call burnout, self-sabotage etc. The Ideal Identity is a podcast for those who are tired of superficial fixes and are ready to become the architects of their own reality. Hosted by Arshia Tousi, this show is about the structural redesign and rebuild of the self, based on the core principle that Identity Precedes Reality.

  1. 4D AGO

    Rewiring the Inner Critic: From Setback to Success by Fixing the Identity Glitch

    Ever felt like you finally cracked the code to your life, only to find yourself spiraling over a minor setback? In this episode, I’ll explore how anyone can face momentary setbacks and how to overcome it, so the inner critic doesn’t prevail. Learn how you can treat your mistake like a technical error rather than a character flaw. It’s time to stop the punishment, fix the glitch, and get back to the business of building the life you crave!

    14 min

  2. FEB 14

    The Self-Love Blueprint: Stop Searching for "The One" & Become the One

    Most of the world is spending today in a state of waiting—for a text, a gift, or a person to tell them they are enough. As of this moment, you’re officially opting out of that because you are not a fraction; you are already complete. In this special Valentine’s Day edition of The Ideal Identity, we’re skipping the clichés and going straight to the core: The relationship you have with yourself. If you’ve been operating from a place of lack, we’re here to flip that script and upgrade your self-love to a level that radically changes your external experience. You’ll discover how your internal dialogue dictates your reality and what you can do to embody wholeness—becoming a magnet for limitless love. Whether you’re single, taken, or "it’s complicated," this episode is a quick reminder of what matters today—and every other day.

    23 min

  3. FEB 5

    The Lottery Mindset: Why Your Self-Concept Sabotages the Win

    Success isn't something you stumble upon; it's something you become. If you've ever wondered why some crash and burn repeatedly despite having every advantage, the answer lies in an identity that isn't calibrated for the win. This episode dismantles the Lottery Mindset - the internal glitch that causes individuals to squander opportunities as quickly as they occur. I'll explore why the self-concept acts as the ultimate gatekeeper of your reality, and how the subconscious standards you've established dictate your capacity to generate a long-term result. Stop chasing the jackpot. Start fixing the foundation.

    18 min

  4. JAN 24

    Introducing The Ideal Identity: How Choice-Making Systems Change Your Life (and This Show)

    Welcome to The Ideal Identity. One year after launching Arshia knows best, or does she?, I’ve officially changed the title to better align with my vision. In this episode, I explain the "why" behind this transition and how I utilized my own choice-making systems to navigate the shift. By breaking down the mechanics of how these systems work, I’ll show you how to better understand and use them for your own strategic pivots. This episode also serves as a roadmap for what to expect from this next chapter of the show as I move into a sharper, more intentional era. The evolution starts here. Press play to step into your Ideal Identity.

    20 min

  5. JAN 13

    Not a Stop Sign, But a Fueling Station: Can’t Run On Fumes

    I’ve always operated with an over-abundance of care, finding my greatest purpose in making sure others feel seen and supported. But I’ve learned the hard way that a heart with no limits eventually becomes limited. In this episode, I’m reframing what it means to say no. For too long, I viewed setting boundaries as "fixing a flaw," but I’ve come to realize that it’s actually about protecting a gift. I’m always one to show up, but the truth is that I can't be there for anyone else if I’m gasping for air myself. A boundary isn’t a stop sign to keep going—it’s simply a fueling station to do so. Join me as I open up about voicing my own needs, and why choosing myself first is the only way I can keep choosing others.

    20 min

  6. 12/30/2025

    A Post-Mortem of My 2025 Version Of Self

    This episode is as raw as they come. Join me for twelve minutes (one for every month of the year) as I rant, reflect, and relive the chaos of 2025. Since this year is almost over it means it's time to leave the weight behind, but make darn sure to take the wisdom with you! May 2026 serve as the year you step into your "best self" era—a year where you finally stop being afraid to do good by yourself, for yourself.

    12 min

  7. 12/03/2025

    The Only Permanent Thing is Impermanence

    As we transition toward a new year, it’s natural to reflect on everything that was achieved and everything that wasn't. If you are feeling that familiar pressure or frustration, this episode offers some thoughts. Letting go of control doesn't mean giving up; it means becoming adaptable to life's inevitable challenges. When things don't pan out as visualized, it's not game over - it's simply time to readjust and try again, differently. The key to moving forward and growing as you do so is simple: focus on consistent, small daily steps, while committing to being fully present and understanding that your best efforts will fluctuate from one day to another - as with everything else in life. By absorbing the bumps on the road and not resisting them, good things will happen in their own time, and as a bonus you’ll find yourself on a much smoother journey while being accompanied by inner peace.

    10 min

  8. 10/28/2025

    How to Stand Strong and Tall Against the Trials and Tribulations of Our Time

    In an age where self-interest and ego is in focus, the dismantlement of our most basic needs is accelerating. Society is tightening its firm grip on citizens, broadcasting false ideas and damaging narratives, threatening whatever is left of the collective good. Consequently, we must learn to notice and neutralize the three Ds, that ultimately paves the way for the fourth D: Distraction, Distortion, Division - and Destruction. In this episode, I talk about why we need a higher purpose than just ourselves. I discuss the reasons of why we need a belief system—not just to survive, but more importantly, in order to thrive—and how teachings from the Bible or the ancient Persian religion Zoroastrianism, can help to fuel the cause for a greater good. By the end of the episode, I hope you will be more inclined to identify your Guiding Light and Shepherd. Discover how acts of good is the true gateway to endless abundance, and how it unlocks the door to a life of creation and confidence amidst the chaos, thus reclaiming your fortitude while generating lasting meaning.

    30 min
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Most personal development advice focuses on the surface—fixing habits, chasing goals, and managing symptoms. But if you try to build a skyscraper on a foundation designed for a shed, the structure will eventually collapse. That collapse is what we call burnout, self-sabotage etc. The Ideal Identity is a podcast for those who are tired of superficial fixes and are ready to become the architects of their own reality. Hosted by Arshia Tousi, this show is about the structural redesign and rebuild of the self, based on the core principle that Identity Precedes Reality.

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  • Creator
    Arshia Tousi
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    32
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Arshia Tousi
  • Show Website
    The Ideal Identity