The Optimist

Jake Hurwitz
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The Optimist is a show about what it actually takes to be a man nowadays. Jake Hurwitz sits down with entrepreneurs, scientists, executives, and people who've rebuilt their lives from scratch, and asks the questions men usually only get to in private. Loneliness. Fatherhood. Ambition and what it costs. Sobriety. Work that's changing faster than anyone can keep up with. No performance, no posturing. Just long, honest conversations with people who've thought hard about how to live well. New episodes weekly.

  1. 6d ago ·  Video

    “The Mold In My House Made My 7 Kids Sick”

    Dan Huber lost the company, the house, the cars and the savings between 2008 and 2011. Then the rental they moved into started making the whole family sick, and it took five years and a flooded crawlspace to figure out why. He gained fifty pounds in six months. His kids had constant sinus infections, two developed asthma, his son's tear duct wept for years, his wife miscarried. Doctors told him he was depressed and had too many kids. The mold was concentrated directly under his home office. He sits down with Jake Hurwitz on what he did to get his family out and his health back, why he now spends his life telling people about blue light, and what he sees happening to young men, including his own 21-year-old. Plus the night at the ranch two months ago that put all of it in perspective. In this episode: Fifty percent of US buildings have water damage, and what mold actually does to a body The five years of doctors who couldn't find a root cause Why night shift mode doesn't work, and the phone setting he uses instead Screens, melatonin, and why kids absorb roughly twice the damage adults do The 21-year-old at home, and the "what's the point" he hears from that whole generation Estrogen in the water supply, testosterone in free fall, and what he's seen in his own family What he tells his sons about drinking, pills and how to treat women What he thinks it means to be a man right now New episodes of The Optimist every week. Watch on YouTube, listen on Spotify and Apple Podcasts.

  2. Sep 23 ·  Video

    Dating Coach REVEALS Why Men & Women Struggle

    For a stretch of time, men were told they were the problem. Worthless, unworthy, weak, dangerous. Stefanos Sifandos says a man who absorbs that does one of two things. He disappears into video games and isolation, or he turns aggressive, because a man who doesn't feel powerful will reach for power over someone instead. He has spent 25 years studying what breaks men and what happens when they break. He calls the way back manning in rather than manning up: accountability, ownership, responsibility, starting with yourself before anyone else gets a say. Then it gets uncomfortable. Jake Hurwitz and Stefanos get into the mother wound, and what happens in a marriage when a man never got handed his own autonomy and starts projecting mother onto his partner. Why we keep pursuing the love we believe we deserve. What he says to the men who tell him they hate all women, and the women who tell him the same about men. In this episode: The mother wound, and how projecting mother onto a partner kills attraction before anyone says a word What he tells men who want their partner to be more feminine, and women who want their partner to be more masculine Knowing when to lead and when to be led, and why he calls that wisdom Why women who run companies all day want to soften at home, and why that word sets people off Dating apps, and why his first instruction is to get off them as fast as you can What a genuinely committed relationship costs, and the kind of testing that comes with it Saving the world against doing the work in front of you, and which one actually ripples New episodes of The Optimist every week. Watch on YouTube, listen on Spotify and Apple Podcasts.

  3. Sep 15 ·  Video

    How NOT to Have a Midlife Crisis, with Greg Scheinman @ Midlife Male

    Greg Scheinman asks men for their business plan and they hand it right over. Financial advisor, CFO, marketing guy, KPIs on everything. Then he asks for the plan for their life and the room goes quiet. Greg hosts the Midlife Male podcast and writes the Midlife Male newsletter. He has sat across from more than 250 accomplished men and coached over 100 of them one on one, all circling the same question: what does the second half actually look like when you plan for it. He was 17 when his father died and 22 when he walked out of his first job while everyone told him he’d never work in the industry again. Both felt like crises at the time. He’d now call them the moments that forced him to be self-reliant. Somewhere in his 40s he stopped chasing salary and title and broke his life into six areas instead: family, fitness, finance, food, fashion, fun. It took him three years to work out what success even looked like in each one. That work turned into a book, then a newsletter, then Midlife Male. His argument is that midlife got handed the word crisis for no good reason. He’s 25 years married, moved 1,200 miles to Houston, and thinks 50 to 70 is going to be the best stretch he gets. He didn’t have that in his 20s, his 30s, or most of his 40s. We get into why momentum comes before motivation and not the other way around, the thing every guy under 35 hears about marriage that Jake is sick of, what a year of telling yourself you’ll start actually costs, and what he’d say to a room of 10,000 men who already know things could be better. Subscribe on YouTube, Spotify, and Apple Podcasts.

  4. Sep 9 ·  Video

    I Asked My Ironman Coach What I Needed to Hear | Adam Holz

    In 4 days, I'm racing my first Ironman 70.3. I've been training for 9 months and feeling a whole lot of things. But in the meantime, I'm most excited to share a conversation I had with my coach Adam Holz on this week's episode. Adam spent seven years at JPMorgan. At 18 he watched the guys running student government line up offers at Goldman and JPMorgan and decided that was the path, which is a reasonable thing to believe at 18 and a rough thing to still be living at 25. Then, two months before his first Ironman 70.3, he got hit by a car. He got that race back two years later and cried partway through the bike leg because he was in it at all. So, he quit his job, moved to Boulder (which is where we filmed this episode), and now coaches endurance athletes full-time. I recorded this in July and saved it to publish 4 days before my race. That was deliberate. I hope you enjoy. Wish me luck this weekend. Subscribe on YouTube, Spotify, and Apple Podcasts.

  5. Sep 1 ·  Video

    Is Your Home Secretly Making You Sick? With Ben Parens, CEO at Nestwell

    You spend 90% of your life indoors, and the air in there is 2 to 5 times more toxic than the air outside. Not the air in a factory. The air in your bedroom. Ben Parens is the founder and CEO of Nestwell, a home health platform backed by Stanford medical advisors and built to diagnose what's hiding in the places we live. In this episode he lays out the VOCs coming off your new mattress, the Harvard study that found a 101% jump in cognitive function inside a well ventilated building, why a toddler exposed to mold before age seven carries three times the asthma risk, and what golf course pesticides are doing to the people who live nearby. Then it turns personal: six months chronically sick in a New York apartment, 15 marathons and the achievement addiction underneath them, the mushroom trip that finally quieted his brain, and the line Jake wants printed on a shirt, which is that you cannot solve internal problems with external solutions. This one will make you look around the room. TIMESTAMPS 00:00 — Preview 01:42 — Why home health is the most under-discussed topic in wellness 02:52 — What is actually in the air inside your home 05:05 — The Harvard study: 101% better cognitive function in a well ventilated building 07:18 — Separating what you can control from what you can't 08:20 — What Nestwell actually is 09:50 — Hypothetical: you live in a New York City walk-up. Where do you start? 14:10 — What scares Ben most about his own neighborhood 20:05 — What he would do if he were about to have a kid 25:04 — The last mile problem: you do everything right, then you go home 31:41 — Making the decision that aligns with who you want to become 35:34 — "You cannot solve internal problems with external solutions" 37:56 — 15 marathons, and where the addiction started 44:01 — The letting go paradox in business and wealth 48:29 — Growing up in Westchester and the golden path 55:32 — How he defines success now versus ten years ago 56:54 — The deathbed test 01:01:56 — "Life happens for you, not to you" 01:12:00 — What it means to be a man nowadays 01:15:04 — Where to find Ben and Nestwell

  6. Jan 7 ·  Video

    Why Comfort Is the Most Dangerous Thing in Your Life, with Tanner Waite

    Why are so many men stuck…anxious, restless, and disconnected…even though their lives look “fine” on paper? In this episode of The Optimist, Jake sits down with Tanner Waite; big-wave surfer, endurance athlete, and creator, for a raw conversation about fear, comfort, anger, and the moments that actually shape a man. From nearly drowning at Nazaré to experiencing a full mental breakdown in college… from surfing as an escape to surfing as a mirror… Tanner shares how chasing comfort almost cost him his sense of purpose, and why voluntarily choosing difficulty changed everything. This episode explores: - Why comfort is more dangerous than failure - How fear, anger, and pressure shape modern men - What happens when you remove structure after college - Why most men are afraid of the wrong things - The difference between pain that breaks you and pain that builds you - How nature, endurance, and stillness rewire the mind - Why sunsets became Tanner’s most powerful mental health practice This isn’t motivation porn. It’s not “grind harder” advice. And it’s definitely not about becoming fearless. It’s about learning how to meet fear, sit with discomfort, and build a life that actually feels alive. If you’ve ever felt numb, restless, or stuck in a comfortable life that doesn’t fulfill you, this conversation will hit close to home.

  7. 12/09/2025 ·  Video

    Be Hard to Kill But Soft Enough to Speak - Christian De La Torre on PTSD, Brotherhood & Being a Man

    Veteran & former infantry officer Christian De La Torre gets real about delayed PTSD, rockets over Bagram, and the blueprint men need now: the “King’s Council.” We break down how to ask for help without feeling weak, why every man should learn self‑defense (and change a tire), building real brotherhood, and staying level in hard seasons. What you’ll learn - PTSD that shows up years later—how triggers work and what to do - The King’s Council: a practical playbook for men’s friendship & accountability - ROTC vs. enlisted: respect, leadership, and earning trust - Why trained men fight less—and why confrontation can be healthy - AARs (after‑action reviews) for life, not just the military - Sunday as a barometer for your life & stress protocol that actually helps Chapters 00:00 Cold open 02:58 ROTC vs. enlisted, earning respect as a young officer 06:03 Afghanistan, Bagram & what combat looked like in his era 10:13 Movies vs. reality—how the battlefield changed 16:13 “Closest call” — rockets, alarms and fear management 18:27 PTSD didn’t hit right away: the delayed wave 20:07 Triggers: motorcycles, helicopters, fireworks 23:12 “Pain is pain” — don’t compare your trauma 27:12 “It ain’t weak to speak” — how to start the convo 31:12 Vulnerability invites vulnerability: the car & bar stories 36:41 Creating safe space with men: trust is more important than performance 40:14 What to take to your partner vs. your guys 44:40 King’s Council rules: cadence, honesty, accountability 50:55 AARs for civilians: debriefs, sustains, improves 54:52 Where to find brothers: jiu‑jitsu, run clubs, retreats, even gaming 57:11 Veterans & civilians: step‑by‑step to build your squad 1:02:20 What it means to be a man today (integrity, service, vulnerability) 1:05:00 Why “change a tire” still matters (competence & calm) 1:12:14 Self‑defense & fitness: be capable, not reckless 1:18:41 Hard seasons: mindset, journaling, small wins 1:21:15 Action is vitamin A — get vertical, get moving 1:36:03 Do 4 hard things a year; compound the average 1:37:35 Sunday as a life barometer; make it the best day 1:44:18 What’s next for Christian (content road trip, The Trace Club) 1:45:57 Where to find him & wrap Resources mentioned - Men’s groups/retreats (e.g., Everyman), jiu‑jitsu & martial arts, run clubs - After‑Action Review (AAR) framework for life debriefs - “It ain’t weak to speak” (mental health ethos) About the show Tactical conversations at the intersection of men’s mental health, performance, and modern masculinity, grounded in actions you can use today. Disclaimer This conversation includes adult language and mentions of war. It’s for educational purposes only and is not medical advice. If you’re struggling, talk to a qualified professional or someone you trust today. If this helped you: Like 👍 • Subscribe 🔔 • Comment: Who’s in your King’s Council—and what’s your next “hard thing”?

  8. 12/02/2025 ·  Video

    Test, Don’t Guess: Superpower’s Max Marchione on Labs, Testosterone & HRV

    If your energy crashes after meals, your HRV is low, or you suspect low T, this episode is your blueprint. Max Marchione—Founder/CEO of Superpower—breaks down the health “foundations” that actually move the needle: lab testing, gut & metabolic health, endocrine disruptors, HRV, and micro‑habits you can stack into a busy life. We also get into risk, culture, and modern masculinity. What you’ll learn - Why testing beats guessing (labs, ApoB/Lp(a), vitamin D, prediabetes) - How gut health and metabolism drive mood, energy, and stress - HRV 101: what it is, why high performers often have high HRV, and how to raise it - Micro‑habits that compound (elevator meditations, 5.5/5.5 breathing, “micro‑moments”) - Testosterone & today’s environment: behavior, toxins, and practical fixes - Building teams & culture where fun is a performance input - Risk math for founders: “price risk right” and move faster Chapters (approx.) 00:00 Cold open 07:05 Teenage Max: rule‑breaking, early ventures, health struggles 09:43 DIY diagnostics: CGMs, gut tests, mercury, pushing doctors 11:31 Stress & anxiety: fix sleep, gut, hormones first 12:57 Small levers: breathing, supplements, “micro” stress management 15:08 Why lab testing changes behavior 16:26 Common 2025 patterns: vitamin D, ApoB/Lp(a), prediabetes 18:04 Why Superpower now; consumer health turning point 21:19 Focus beats doing everything; killing v1 & dropping price 23:46 Risk math: “I don’t take much risk—I price it better” 25:57 Culture, failure, parenting & school conditioning 28:39 Testosterone & modern behavior 32:49 Endocrine disruptors, BPA, mold, air quality 36:39 The Superpower protocol: from data to action 37:51 Transformation story 40:12 Social health & community 43:26 Burnout: find the “why” 44:08 HRV explained; why high performers often have high HRV 47:16 Passive optimization: elevator meditations 50:09 Micro‑moments that compound 51:58 Building a healthy office; fun as a performance input 54:17 Banking vs ideal culture 57:07 What it means to be a man today 59:45 2026 goal: do 5 years in 1

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The Optimist is a show about what it actually takes to be a man nowadays. Jake Hurwitz sits down with entrepreneurs, scientists, executives, and people who've rebuilt their lives from scratch, and asks the questions men usually only get to in private. Loneliness. Fatherhood. Ambition and what it costs. Sobriety. Work that's changing faster than anyone can keep up with. No performance, no posturing. Just long, honest conversations with people who've thought hard about how to live well. New episodes weekly.

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  • Creator
    Jake Hurwitz
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    55
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Jake Hurwitz
  • Show Website
    The Optimist

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