Becoming The Woman I Needed

Tahtyana Ernest-King
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Welcome to Becoming the Woman I Needed, a podcast about my journey through motherhood, relationships, grief, entrepreneurship, and personal growth. Join me as I reflect on the lessons I’ve learned, the challenges I’ve faced, and the victories—big and small—that have shaped me into the person I’m becoming. This is a space for raw honesty, deep reflection, and inspiration as I work to become the woman I needed at every stage of my life. If you’re navigating your own path and seeking connection, growth, or just a little encouragement, you’re in the right place. Let’s grow together.

Episodes

  1. 11/21/2025

    Episode 2: What does healing look like?

    In this episode, Tahtyana delves into the complexities of healing, sharing her personal experiences and struggles. She discusses the emotional ups and downs that accompany the healing process, the societal pressures to thrive, and the internal battles that arise from generational expectations. Tahtyana emphasizes that healing is not a linear journey but rather a daily challenge that requires constant self-reflection and adaptation. Takeaways: Healing is not pretty for most people.The emotional ups and downs can feel overwhelming.You have to go through obstacles to grow.Generational expectations can create pressure to survive rather than thrive.Healing is a daily recurring process, not a one-time event.Triggers can arise unexpectedly, requiring constant self-reflection.It's important to redefine personal benchmarks for success.Internal struggles can be just as challenging as external ones.Finding peace and harmony is essential for true healing.Resilience is important, but thriving should be the goal.

    10 min

  2. 11/09/2025

    Welcome to Season 2!!!

    I'm so excited to be back at this again. So much has changed in my life and I can't wait to share my healing journey, but also to do some live growing with you all. Thanks for sticking with me here. Takeaways I want to bring back the mediums that make me feel safe again.I appreciate you so much. You have no idea.I was extremely raw and transparent last season.I'm going to get raw-er this season.There's going to be more people that don't like me.I'm okay with that. Very much okay with that.If you are still on this fricking ride with me, I appreciate you.I feel like I'm going to be a little bit more controversial.I want to be creative in the ways that make me feel joy.There's going to be more people that don't freaking understand me.

    14 min

  3. 03/01/2025

    Episode 8: Spirituality in Everyday Life

    Spirituality isn’t just about rituals or religion—it’s about connection, growth, and the way we navigate everyday life. In this episode of Becoming the Woman I Needed, I’m sharing my personal journey with spirituality, the complexities of different belief systems, and how I found freedom in embracing a path that feels true to me. Whether you’re deep in your spiritual practice or just beginning to explore, this conversation is all about discovering what resonates with your soul. 🔹 Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Exploring spirituality: a personal journey 10:12 – The complexity of belief systems 20:37 – Finding freedom in spirituality Let’s continue the conversation! Connect with me on Instagram: @ternestking 💬✨ 🎧 Listen, share, and don’t forget to leave a review! Your support helps spread the message of self-discovery and growth. 💜 #SpiritualJourney #SelfDiscovery #AuthenticLiving #BecomingTheWomanINeeded

    26 min

  4. 02/22/2025

    Episode 7: Navigating Polyamory and Refocusing on Us

    Polyamory is more than just multiple relationships—it’s about trust, communication, and living authentically. In this episode of Becoming the Woman I Needed, I’m opening up about my personal journey in polyamory, the importance of boundaries, and how spirituality plays a role in this relationship dynamic. Whether you’re poly, curious, or just want to expand your perspective, this episode is all about love, honesty, and growth. 🔹 Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Introduction to our polyamory journey 08:28 – Exploring boundaries and rules in polyamory 17:33 – The spiritual aspect of polyamory 26:37 – Living authentically: embracing polyamory 30:04 – Future aspirations Let’s keep the conversation going! Connect with me on Instagram: @ternestking 💬✨ 🎧 Listen, share, and don’t forget to leave a review! Your support helps spread the message of love and authenticity. ❤️ #Polyamory #EthicalNonMonogamy #LivingAuthentically #BecomingTheWomanINeeded

    32 min

  5. 02/15/2025

    Episode 6: Breaking the Cycle: Healing Generational Trauma

    In this episode of Becoming the Woman I Needed, we’re diving deep into the reality of generational trauma—how it’s passed down, how it affects our relationships, and most importantly, how we can heal. Breaking the cycle isn’t easy, but it’s possible. I share personal insights on my mental health journey, the role of therapy, and why seeking help is a powerful step toward healing. If you’ve ever felt weighed down by patterns that don’t serve you, this episode is for you. Let’s break the cycle together. 💜 🔹 Episode Breakdown: 00:00 – Introduction to my mental health journey 00:50 – Understanding generational trauma 05:45 – The impact of trauma on relationships 10:30 – The importance of therapy 14:49 – Encouragement for seeking help Let’s continue the conversation! Connect with me on Instagram: @ternestking 💬✨ 🎧 Listen, share, and don’t forget to leave a review! Your support helps spread the message of healing and growth. 💜 #BreakingTheCycle #HealingJourney #GenerationalTrauma #BecomingTheWomanINeeded

    17 min

  6. 02/08/2025

    Episode 5: The Woman I Needed at 10, 20, and 30

    Who did I need when I was 10? 20? 30? In this episode ofBecoming the Woman I Needed, I take a deep dive into my journey of self-discovery—looking back at the pivotal moments in my life and reflecting on the guidance, love, and support I longed for at different stages. From childhood dreams to the struggles of young adulthood to the clarity that comes with 30, I explore the lessons I’ve learned, the wounds I’ve worked to heal, and the ways I’m becoming the woman I once needed. This episode is about growth, self-reflection, and the power of breaking generational cycles to build a better future—for myself and those who come after me. What You’ll Hear in This Episode: • [0:00]Intro: The journey of self-discovery and why this conversation matters. • [2:28]The woman I needed at 10: Navigating childhood, self-worth, and finding a voice. • [7:31]The woman I needed at 20: Learning independence, love, and self-respect. • [18:00]The woman I need at 30: Embracing wisdom, healing, and stepping into my power. • [25:23]Breaking generational curses and healing: Redefining the future by unlearning the past. Let’s Connect: • If this episode touched you,please leave a review and rate the podcast—it helps these conversations reach more people! • Follow me on Instagram for more reflections and personal growth insights: @ternestking. Share the Love: Know someone who would resonate with this episode?Share it with them or post about it on social media. Don’t forget to tag me—I’d love to hear your thoughts!

    33 min

  7. 02/04/2025

    Episode 4: A Father’s Perspective with Giari

    In this special episode of Becoming the Woman I Needed, I sit down with my father, Giari, for an open and heartfelt conversation about fatherhood. From his experiences raising me to the lessons he’s learned over the years, we dive into what it truly means to be a father. But this episode isn’t just about parenting—we touch on love, legacy, personal growth, and the evolving nature of relationships between parents and their children. It’s a rare and raw look into a father’s heart and mind, filled with wisdom, laughter, and reflections that will resonate with anyone navigating family, parenthood, or self-discovery.

    1h 5m

  8. 01/25/2025

    Episode 3 - Marriage, Mess, and Making It Work

    In this raw and honest episode, I open up about my 12-year journey with my husband—the good, the messy, and everything in between. From navigating the ups and downs of marriage to exploring polyamory, I share the lessons we’ve learned, the challenges we’ve faced, and how we’ve managed to keep our core relationship strong through it all. Whether you’re married, in a long-term partnership, or just curious about what it takes to make love last, this episode offers an unfiltered look at how we’ve grown together. What You’ll Hear in This Episode: • [0:00] Introduction to marriage and self-discovery. • [2:47] The journey of love: from friends to partners. • [5:54] Navigating breakups and reconciliation. • [8:55] Exploring polyamory: a new relationship dynamic. • [11:55] The impact of life changes on relationships. • [15:15] Healing and growth through therapy and self-reflection. • [17:47] Focusing on the core relationship and keeping it strong. • [21:08] The importance of friendship in marriage. • [24:04] Conclusion: embracing the messiness of marriage and making it work. Why Listen? Marriage isn’t always easy, but it’s worth it. If you’ve ever wondered how to navigate the ups and downs of a long-term relationship, how to prioritize love and growth, or how to embrace the messiness along the way, this episode is for you. Let’s Connect: • If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review and rate the podcast wherever you’re listening—it helps others find these meaningful conversations. • Follow me on [Instagram/Twitter/Your Platform of Choice] for more personal reflections and updates: @ternestking. Share the Love: If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who might need it. Tag me on social media so I can thank you personally for spreading the love.

    25 min

  9. 01/22/2025 · BONUS

    Bonus Episode - Communication Struggles in Real Time

    In this bonus episode of Becoming the Woman I Needed, I get candid about the realities of marriage and the challenges of communication. Relationships aren’t always smooth sailing, and this episode takes you into the emotional landscape of navigating struggles in real time. From understanding the messy parts of marriage to learning how communication can strengthen connection, this is an honest look at the work it takes to grow together. What You’ll Hear in This Episode: • [0:00] Navigating the messiness of marriage: how challenges arise and what they reveal for me. • [2:37] The emotional landscape of relationships: understanding feelings and trying hard to finding balance. • [5:30] Communication as the key to connection: reflecting on our communication efforts in real time. Why Listen? This episode is for anyone who’s faced communication challenges in a relationship and wants to understand how to move forward with empathy and connection. It’s a raw, relatable conversation for anyone navigating love in the real world. Let’s Connect: • If you enjoyed this bonus episode, please leave a review and rate the podcast—it helps me reach more people who need these conversations. • Follow me on [Instagram/Twitter/Your Platform of Choice] for updates, insights, and behind-the-scenes moments: @ternestking. Share the Love: If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend or on social media. Don’t forget to tag me—I’d love to hear your thoughts!

    7 min

  10. 01/18/2025

    Episode 2 - Motherhood After Loss

    In this deeply personal episode of Becoming the Woman I Needed, I open up about my journey through motherhood after experiencing loss. I take you through the challenges of navigating grief, the impact it had on my sense of identity, and how I’ve worked to rediscover joy in motherhood. This is a raw, honest conversation about resilience, healing, and finding light in dark times. What You’ll Hear in This Episode: • [10:06] How I’ve navigated the complexities of grief after loss. • [20:10] The profound impact of loss on my identity and sense of self. • [28:35] My journey to rediscover joy in motherhood and life. Why Listen? This episode is for anyone who has experienced loss or struggled to find themselves again. Whether you’re a parent or not, these reflections on grief, identity, and hope are universal. Let’s Connect: • If this episode touched you, please leave a review and rate the podcast wherever you’re listening. Your feedback helps me reach more people who need these conversations. • Follow me on [Instagram/Twitter/Your Platform of Choice] for updates, resources, and more personal reflections: @ternestking. Share the Love: If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who might need it, or post about it on social media. Don’t forget to tag me so I can thank you personally.

    27 min

  11. 01/11/2025

    Episode 1 - Who I Was, Who I’m Becoming

    Episode Summary: Welcome to the very first episode of Becoming the Woman I Needed! In this introduction, I share a glimpse into who I am, the pivotal moments that have shaped me, and the purpose behind starting this podcast. From reflecting on life’s defining experiences to rediscovering myself and envisioning the future, this is a heartfelt beginning to our journey together. What You’ll Hear in This Episode: • [3:49] The pivotal moments that shaped my life and led me here. • [11:00] How I’m rediscovering who I am and my aspirations for the future. Why This Podcast? This space is all about navigating motherhood, relationships, grief, entrepreneurship, and personal growth. My goal is to share the lessons I’ve learned and the steps I’m taking to become the woman I needed at every stage of my life. Let’s Connect: • If you enjoyed this episode, please take a moment to leave a review and rate the podcast wherever you’re listening. Your support helps me reach more listeners and continue sharing these stories. 💛 • Follow me on [Instagram/Twitter/Your Platform of Choice] for updates, behind-the-scenes moments, and more inspiration: @ternestking. Share the Love: If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend or post about it on social media! Don’t forget to tag me so I can say thank you.

    14 min
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About

Welcome to Becoming the Woman I Needed, a podcast about my journey through motherhood, relationships, grief, entrepreneurship, and personal growth. Join me as I reflect on the lessons I’ve learned, the challenges I’ve faced, and the victories—big and small—that have shaped me into the person I’m becoming. This is a space for raw honesty, deep reflection, and inspiration as I work to become the woman I needed at every stage of my life. If you’re navigating your own path and seeking connection, growth, or just a little encouragement, you’re in the right place. Let’s grow together.

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  • Creator
    Tahtyana Ernest-King
  • Years Active
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  • Episodes
    11
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Tahtyana Ernest-King
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