Dads in Autismland

Mark de Grasse

Dads in Autismland is a heartfelt and candid podcast dedicated to fathers raising children on the autism spectrum. Hosted by Mark de Grasse, a proud dad navigating life in the world of autism, this podcast offers a safe space for dads to share their triumphs, challenges, and personal growth while fostering a supportive community.Each episode dives into the unique experiences of parenting in "Autismland," featuring real stories from dads, expert interviews, and actionable tips for navigating everything from meltdowns to milestones. Whether you're seeking advice, camaraderie, or just a good laugh, Dads in Autismland provides honest conversations about fatherhood, family, and finding joy in the journey.Join us weekly as we explore the ups, downs, and everything in between of raising extraordinary children while becoming stronger, more compassionate dads along the way.

  1. Not Just a Superpower: Jeffery May on Writing Autism Without the Sugarcoating | Season 2 Episode 29

    10/30/2025

    Not Just a Superpower: Jeffery May on Writing Autism Without the Sugarcoating | Season 2 Episode 29

    Send us a text When Jeffery May’s son Jackson was diagnosed with autism, he and his wife didn’t just search for answers, they created one. Our Amazing Minds isn’t just a children’s book; it’s a powerful tool for helping kids understand autism in a way that’s honest, inclusive, and visually relatable.  In this episode, Jeffery shares what it was like to process the diagnosis as a father, how grief turned into creative action, and why representing the full spectrum of autism matters. He opens up about marriage under pressure, the overlooked emotional journey of dads, and how he and his wife turned frustration into a publishing brand.  If you’ve ever struggled to explain autism to your child, or yourself, this conversation will hit home. TOPICS How Our Amazing Minds helps children understand autism through relatable charactersThe emotional impact of receiving an autism diagnosis as a fatherBalancing attention between a neurodivergent child and a neurotypical siblingThe role of faith in navigating autism and family lifeWhy dads must avoid isolation and become more emotionally availableBuilding a family-led brand to create awareness and resourcesFuture plans for Our Amazing Minds and representation through mediaGUEST LINKS Jeffery May / Our Amazing Minds: https://ouramazingminds.org ADVERTISING LINKS The Pathfinder Collective Men's Group: https://dadsinautismland.com/dads-in-autismland-membership-the-pathfinder-collective/ QUOTES: “Even though they share similarities, every autistic child is different—just like every person is.”“The diagnosis journey isn’t uniform. It’s different for every family, every child.”“Sometimes it takes seeing your story in someone else’s to realize you’re not alone.”“Structure matters—our son knows exactly what day it is and what to expect.”“You mentally start ruling things out for the future…until you hear another dad’s story that changes everything.”ℹ️ Note: Every autistic person's journey is unique. This video shares one family's experience of finding success through focusing on interests and abilities rather than limitations. Always consult with appropriate professionals when developing employment plans. Support the show

    32 min
  2. The Autism Journey Begins: Real Dad Stories on Early Autism Diagnosis | Season 2 Episode 28

    08/29/2025

    The Autism Journey Begins: Real Dad Stories on Early Autism Diagnosis | Season 2 Episode 28

    Send us a text In this special solo episode of Dads in Autismland, host Mark de Grasse launches the Guide to Autismland series—a curated journey through the most impactful moments from the podcast’s first 27 episodes. Sharing his own experiences as a father to a profoundly autistic son, Mark dives into the earliest and often most confusing stage of raising a child on the spectrum: the diagnosis.  With stories from other dads like Corey Michael, Dennis Procopio, Steve Levine, and more, this episode paints a realistic, heartfelt picture of what it looks like when families first begin to realize their child is different.  Mark emphasizes that while every autism journey is unique, no dad is alone in this. It's an honest, empathetic guide that empowers fathers to recognize signs, take action, and find community through shared experience. TOPICS: - Common early signs of autism shared by dads - Differences in diagnosis timelines and processes - Personal experiences with school systems and therapy - Emotional challenges and stages of acceptance - Importance of flexibility and family partnership - Stories of hope, including older children finding success - The unique bond and support among autism dads ADVERTISING LINKS: Dads In Autismland Membership: https://dadsinautismland.com/dads-in-autismland-membership-the-pathfinder-collective/ QUOTES: “Even though they share similarities, every autistic child is different—just like every person is.” “The diagnosis journey isn’t uniform. It’s different for every family, every child.” “Sometimes it takes seeing your story in someone else’s to realize you’re not alone.” “Structure matters—our son knows exactly what day it is and what to expect.” “You mentally start ruling things out for the future…until you hear another dad’s story that changes everything.” ℹ️ Note: Every autistic person's journey is unique. This video shares one family's experience of finding success through focusing on interests and abilities rather than limitations. Always consult with appropriate professionals when developing employment plans. Support the show

    31 min
  3. A Guide to Autismland: Real Advice from Fathers Who’ve Been There | Season 2 Episode 27

    07/31/2025

    A Guide to Autismland: Real Advice from Fathers Who’ve Been There | Season 2 Episode 27

    Send us a text Drawing from his personal journey as a father to a profoundly autistic son and insights from the first 26 episodes, Mark offers an encouraging and practical starting point for dads new to the autism journey.  With empathy and humor, he explores the emotional challenges, lifestyle changes, and community support that autism dads often encounter. This episode sets the tone for a powerful series designed to empower, connect, and guide fathers who may feel alone.  Whether you're just beginning your journey or need a refresher on shared experiences, this episode is a heartfelt invitation to join a supportive, no-judgment space built just for dads. TOPICS: - Why the “Navigating Autismland” series was created - Mark’s personal experience raising a profoundly autistic son - The importance of connection and avoiding isolation as an autism dad - Addressing common challenges: diagnosis, family dynamics, stress - Upcoming topics in the series: early signs, coping, advocacy, and more - The need for individualized parenting strategies - How humor and real talk build a stronger autism dad community ADVERTISING LINKS: Dads In Autismland Membership: https://dadsinautismland.com/dads-in-autismland-membership-the-pathfinder-collective/ QUOTES: - "You’re not alone. As tough as your situation is, you don’t have to do it by yourself." - "This is not about giving you exact steps—it’s about showing you options." - "Every autism journey is unique, but the struggle of fatherhood unites us." - "I believe my son is one of the happiest people I know. That makes me feel like a success." - "You’ll get some humor—because otherwise, we’d just cry all the time, and that’s not an option." ℹ️ Note: Every autistic person's journey is unique. This video shares one family's experience of finding success through focusing on interests and abilities rather than limitations. Always consult with appropriate professionals when developing employment plans. Support the show

    15 min
  4. Autism Challenges, Christian Values: David Lee’s Story of Faith & Fortitude | Season 2 Episode 26

    07/18/2025

    Autism Challenges, Christian Values: David Lee’s Story of Faith & Fortitude | Season 2 Episode 26

    Send us a text In this heartfelt episode of Dads In Autismland, host Mark de Grasse sits down with David Lee—professor, podcaster, and father to 9-year-old Eddie, who is on the autism spectrum.  David shares his deeply personal journey, from early moments of uncertainty and shame to finding joy in the smallest victories. Together, they reflect on the unique trials and triumphs of raising an autistic child, discuss the value of faith and community, and explore how big life changes—including a cross-country move—can lead to better care and support.  If you're a dad navigating autism, this episode offers raw honesty, encouragement, and solidarity. TOPICS: - The emotional complexity of publicly sharing your child's autism journey - Dealing with delayed milestones and reframing success as an autism parent - Managing self-injurious behaviors and the importance of proper medical care - Why David’s family relocated from West Virginia to Missouri for better autism resources - The spiritual and emotional resilience built through fatherhood - Finding small wins: from water bottles to grilled cheese - The importance of community, grief, and realistic expectations GUEST LINKS: David Lee – Popcorn Theology: https://linktr.ee/popcorntheology ADVERTISING LINKS: Dads In Autismland Membership: https://dadsinautismland.com/dads-in-autismland-membership-the-pathfinder-collective/ QUOTES: - "We thought it was just ear infections… but then came the self-injury. That changed everything." - "Grief, when processed right, can bring clarity—not just sadness." - "Putting on shoes after a year of refusal? That was our Super Bowl." - "You’re not alone. There are other dads who will nod and say, ‘Same here, man.’" - "Moving states felt impossible—until it became absolutely necessary." ℹ️ Note: Every autistic person's journey is unique. This video shares one family's experience of finding success through focusing on interests and abilities rather than limitations. Always consult with appropriate professionals when developing employment plans. Support the show

    24 min
  5. Autism Fitness Blueprint: A New Approach to Autism Exercise with Eric Chessen | Season 2 Episode 25

    06/18/2025

    Autism Fitness Blueprint: A New Approach to Autism Exercise with Eric Chessen | Season 2 Episode 25

    Send us a text In this powerful episode of Dads in Autismland, host Mark de Grasse welcomes Eric Chessen, founder of Autism Fitness, to explore the long-term importance of physical health for autistic individuals.  Eric shares his journey from personal trainer to autism fitness pioneer, offering insights into motivation, movement planning, and individualized training for children and adults on the spectrum.  With practical advice, personal stories, and thoughtful strategies, this episode empowers dads to prioritize their child's physical health—regardless of age or verbal ability. From behavior-specific praise to handling meltdowns in the gym, Eric delivers tools and encouragement for every autism dad. TOPICS: Why fitness is a lifelong priority for children and adults with autismHow behavior science and fitness training intersect in Autism FitnessStrategies for motivation, including choice and behavior-specific praiseAdapting exercise programs to individual needs and communication stylesThe importance of consistency, reinforcement, and celebrating small winsManaging meltdowns and behavior issues in fitness sessionsHow fitness translates into confidence and independence over timeGUEST LINKS: Eric Chessen – Autism Fitness: https://www.autismfitness.com/ ADVERTISING LINKS: Dads In Autismland Membership: https://dadsinautismland.com/dads-in-autismland-membership-the-pathfinder-collective/ QUOTES: "There’s no such thing as an autism-specific exercise—it’s all about the implementation.""Choice and behavior-specific praise are my biggest coaching go-tos.""Fitness is an investment—compound interest over time builds capability and confidence.""I’ve seen athletes go from unable to squat to dominating ninja courses.""Even if they can’t communicate it, they often appreciate the structure and movement."ℹ️ Note: Every autistic person's journey is unique. This video shares one family's experience of finding success through focusing on interests and abilities rather than limitations. Always consult with appropriate professionals when developing employment plans. Support the show

    48 min
  6. Taking Autism Public: Dad Tips for Autism Outings with Mark Kendall | Season 2 Episode 24

    06/06/2025

    Taking Autism Public: Dad Tips for Autism Outings with Mark Kendall | Season 2 Episode 24

    Send us a text In this episode of Dads in Autismland, host Mark de Grasse welcomes fellow autism dad Mark Kendall for a heartfelt conversation about navigating public life with children on the autism spectrum.  Drawing from personal experiences with his 22-year-old nonverbal daughter, Mark Kendall opens up about the emotional and logistical challenges dads face—from handling staring strangers to managing safety in unpredictable situations.  Together, they share practical tips, honest stories, and a strong message of encouragement: you can go out, you can be confident, and you are your child’s best advocate. Whether you’re wrestling with your first family outing or planning a vacation with accommodations, this episode offers relatable support and empowering advice for autism dads everywhere. TOPICS The role of autism dads as public advocates and "ambassadors"Tips for preparing outings with autistic children, including safety bags and routinesHow public expectations change as autistic kids become adultsStrategies for handling unwanted attention and educating othersNavigating travel, vacations, and community inclusion with autistic childrenSafety protocols, water risks, and long-term planningEmotional insights on adapting to autism parenting over timeADVERTISING LINKS Dads in Autismland Membership - The Pathfinder Collective: https://dadsinautismland.com/dads-in-autismland-membership-the-pathfinder-collective/ QUOTES “You didn’t sign up to be an ambassador for autism—but you are one.”“Dads need to feel confident bringing their kids into public spaces.”“Everybody has their time limits—neurotypical or not.”“Sometimes pulling the ripcord is the best decision for everyone.”“If you're not prepared, you’re not protecting—so have a plan.”ℹ️ Note: Every autistic person's journey is unique. This video shares one family's experience of finding success through focusing on interests and abilities rather than limitations. Always consult with appropriate professionals when developing employment plans. Support the show

    34 min
  7. Building  Autism Acres: How Allan Young is Redefining Safe Spaces for Special Needs | Season 2 Episode 23

    05/30/2025

    Building Autism Acres: How Allan Young is Redefining Safe Spaces for Special Needs | Season 2 Episode 23

    Send us a text In this heartfelt episode of Dads In Autismland, host Mark de Grasse sits down with Allan Young, founder of Autism Acres, a purpose-built sanctuary for children with autism and other special needs.  Allan shares his powerful journey from military service to creating a five-acre haven in Rochester, Washington for families like his own—including his three sons on the spectrum and a foster daughter with Down syndrome.  Listeners will learn about the hands-on life skills training Allan offers at home, the carefully designed features of Autism Acres (from elopement-safe fencing to sensory swings), and how he and his wife are fostering a safe, welcoming community grounded in compassion and faith. It’s an inspiring story of resilience, resourcefulness, and redefining support for families navigating autism. TOPICS The origins and mission of Autism Acres in WashingtonParenting multiple children on the autism spectrum and one with Down syndromeDesigning a safe, sensory-friendly environment for children with special needsTransitioning from military life to full-time caregiving and homeschoolingBuilding community through faith-based service without preachingPersonal wellness and stress management strategies for autism dadsThe importance of structured flexibility in daily routinesGUEST LINKS Allan Young – Autism Acres: https://autismacres.org ADVERTISING LINKS Dads In Autismland Membership – The Pathfinder Collective: https://dadsinautismland.com/dads-in-autismland-membership-the-pathfinder-collective/ QUOTES “My son now has friends—it’s awesome. We needed this just as much as the families we’re trying to help.” “We designed everything at Autism Acres with safety in mind—because eloping isn’t just a possibility, it’s a reality for a lot of us.” “Caretaking is hard. Being alone in the house is hard. Coming home from work is hard. That’s why me and my wife make sure each other gets a break.” “We didn’t want a structure so rigid it became a problem—we wanted routines that help our kids feel secure without trapping them in them.” “We’re not a Christian organization—we’re an organization run by Christians. We’re not here to preach, we’re here to serve.” ℹ️ Note: Every autistic person's journey is unique. This video shares one family's experience of finding success through focusing on interests and abilities rather than limitations. Always consult with appropriate professionals when developing employment plans. Support the show

    30 min
  8. Full-Time Fatherhood: From 80-Hour Workweeks to Autism Advocacy w/Matt Anderton | Season 2 Episode 22

    05/23/2025

    Full-Time Fatherhood: From 80-Hour Workweeks to Autism Advocacy w/Matt Anderton | Season 2 Episode 22

    Send us a text In this heartfelt episode of Dads In Autismland, host Mark de Grasse welcomes guest Matt Anderton, father of three-year-old Beckett, who was diagnosed with autism at just 13 months old.  Matt shares the emotional and practical aspects of their early diagnosis journey, the critical role nutrition and therapy have played, and his life-altering decision to leave a demanding job to become a full-time caregiver.  From the challenges of sleep deprivation to the triumph of Beckett saying his ABCs again, Matt's story is a testament to dedication, adaptability, and the power of community. This candid conversation offers insight, empathy, and encouragement for every father navigating life on the autism spectrum. TOPICS: The impact of early autism diagnosis and the rapid shift in developmental behaviorHow functional nutrition and supplements supported Beckett’s therapy progressThe life-changing decision to leave a full-time job for full-time caregivingThe daily realities of meltdowns, dietary sensitivities, and sleep disruptionTools and tips for sensory integration and public acclimationBuilding a supportive care network and finding the right professionalsThe emotional and relational toll — and strength — found in autism parentingGUEST LINKS: Spencer Dupre, Functional Medicine Practitioner: https://www.empowerchirotx.com/team ADVERTISING LINKS: Dads In Autismland Membership - The Pathfinder Collective: https://dadsinautismland.com/dads-in-autismland-membership-the-pathfinder-collective/ QUOTES "We got two choices: put him on a prescription for life, or figure this out." "It was like he wasn’t there—he went from talking to total silence. We thought he went deaf." "I left my 70-hour-a-week job to be a full-time caregiver. We changed our whole life for our son." "Sometimes you feel alone, and then someone sponsors your son for a speech camp, and you just break down." ℹ️ Note: Every autistic person's journey is unique. This video shares one family's experience of finding success through focusing on interests and abilities rather than limitations. Always consult with appropriate professionals when developing employment plans. Support the show

    40 min
5
out of 5
8 Ratings

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Dads in Autismland is a heartfelt and candid podcast dedicated to fathers raising children on the autism spectrum. Hosted by Mark de Grasse, a proud dad navigating life in the world of autism, this podcast offers a safe space for dads to share their triumphs, challenges, and personal growth while fostering a supportive community.Each episode dives into the unique experiences of parenting in "Autismland," featuring real stories from dads, expert interviews, and actionable tips for navigating everything from meltdowns to milestones. Whether you're seeking advice, camaraderie, or just a good laugh, Dads in Autismland provides honest conversations about fatherhood, family, and finding joy in the journey.Join us weekly as we explore the ups, downs, and everything in between of raising extraordinary children while becoming stronger, more compassionate dads along the way.