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    #49: Processing Emotions - A Quick Tip Mini Episode

    Summary In this episode, Coaches Nicole and Jen explore the reasons why emotions can feel stuck and provide actionable insights on how to process them effectively. They emphasize that thinking about emotions is not the same as processing them and introduce a simple 90-second check-in practice to help listeners connect with their feelings. The conversation highlights the importance of understanding emotions as physiological experiences rather than logical ones, and sets the stage for deeper exploration in future episodes. Takeaways The reason your emotions feel stuck has nothing to do with weakness.Thinking about emotions is not the same as processing emotions.Your mind wants answers, but your body wants completion.Most people believe the goal of emotional work is to get rid of emotions.Emotions are not obstacles; they communicate something important.Completion of emotions doesn't require drama or reliving trauma.The 90-second emotion check is a practical tool for emotional processing.Allowing the body to complete the emotional cycle is crucial.Sometimes emotions need space, boundaries, or conversations.You're not failing at emotions; you're learning how they work.

    8 min

  2. 12/30/2025

    #48: Decoding Self-Forgiveness

    Summary In this conversation, Coach Jen and Coach Nicole explore the complex topic of self-forgiveness, discussing the internal battles of guilt and shame, the illusion of control, and the importance of compassion. They emphasize the biological aspects of forgiveness, the process of rewriting personal narratives, and the necessity of sitting with discomfort to facilitate healing. The discussion highlights the significance of understanding values, empathy, and the journey of personal growth, ultimately framing forgiveness as a path to freedom rather than a mere act of forgetting. Takeaways Self-forgiveness is a slow reconciling of mixed emotions.The amygdala reactivates the stress response when recalling painful mistakes.Guilt and shame activate different brain regions linked to self-threat and moral injury.Control is an illusion; blaming ourselves does not prevent pain.Adaptive accountability involves owning what is yours and releasing what is not.Compassion activates the brain's safety response, promoting healing.Forgiveness involves acknowledging harm, repairing, and releasing.Self-forgiveness is about repairing the relationship with oneself, not just others.Sitting with discomfort is essential for emotional growth.You are not defined by your past mistakes; you can rewrite your story.

    35 min

  3. 12/23/2025

    #47: Holiday Special: Joy in the Quiet Moments

    Summary In this episode, Coaches Jen and Nicole explore the importance of finding peace in small, everyday moments, especially during the holiday season. They discuss the power of mindfulness and gratitude, emphasizing how savoring small joys can enhance emotional wellbeing. The conversation highlights the significance of creating micro moments of joy, sharing quiet joy with others, and breaking the cycle of busyness that often overshadows meaningful experiences. The coaches encourage listeners to embrace personal traditions and experiences that bring joy, reminding them that happiness often comes from the simplest of moments. Takeaways Finding peace in small everyday moments is essential.Savoring small positive experiences enhances mood and happiness.Mindfulness practices can significantly reduce stress hormones.Taking offense is a choice; focus on positive interactions.Gratitude rewires our brains for safety and connection.Creating micro moments of joy can uplift our spirits.Sharing quiet joy with others deepens connections.Rituals and habits can boost feelings of calm and happiness.It's important to break the cycle of busyness during the holidays.You get to decide what your holiday traditions look like.

    41 min

  4. 12/16/2025

    #46: Gathering Grace: Navigating Family Stress, Boundaries & Big Emotions During the Holidays

    Summary In this conversation, Coaches Nicole & Jen emphasize the importance of self-awareness and emotional intelligence in personal growth. They discuss how naming one's feelings can lead to reclaiming personal power and understanding that others' behaviors are often influenced by their own wiring, not a reflection of one's worth. Takeaways Name what you feel to understand your emotions.Ask yourself what you need right now.Reclaim your power through self-awareness.People's behavior reflects their wiring, not your worth.You cannot control others, but you can control your response.Choosing how to meet the moment is empowering.Silence can be a necessary space for reflection.Emotional needs vary from person to person.Self-awareness is key to personal growth.Understanding emotions leads to better relationships.

    39 min

  5. 12/09/2025

    #45: Peace Over Perfect: Redefining The Holiday Mindset

    Summary In this conversation, Coaches Nicole & Jen emphasizes the importance of trusting the process rather than trying to control every aspect of life. She discusses how letting go of perfection can lead to deeper connections and unexpected joy, particularly during the holiday season. By embracing imperfection, individuals can find warmth and laughter in moments that may not go as planned. Takeaways Trusting the season can lead to unexpected joy.Connection can thrive even in messy conversations.Letting go allows for a richer experience of life.Joy is often found in unplanned moments.Perfection is not a requirement for love and connection.Noticing laughter can shift your perspective.Peace comes from willingness to let go.Burnt cookies can lead to cherished memories.The holiday season is about connection, not control.Embracing imperfection can enhance personal growth.

    36 min

  6. 12/02/2025

    #44: The Conflict Code Part 3: Practical Tools to Take Away

    Summary In this conversation, Coaches Nicole and Jen explore the complexities of conflict in relationships, emphasizing that conflict is a natural part of human interaction. They discuss the importance of understanding attachment styles, the four communication habits that can destroy connection, and the detrimental effects of criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. The coaches provide practical tools for navigating conflict, including the importance of vulnerability, accountability, and building a culture of appreciation. They conclude with a call to action for listeners to apply these insights in their own relationships to foster healthier communication and deeper connections. Takeaways Conflict is a natural part of relationships.Understanding your attachment style can shape how you handle conflict.Criticism attacks the person, while complaints address behavior.Contempt erodes emotional bonds and leads to resentment.Defensiveness blocks accountability and escalates conflict.Stonewalling creates emotional disconnection and anxiety.Healthy conflict resolution requires vulnerability and accountability.Building a culture of appreciation can mitigate contempt.Practicing self-soothing techniques can help manage emotional flooding.Effective communication is key to navigating conflict.

    55 min

  7. 11/25/2025

    #43: The Conflict Code Part 2: A Better Understanding of Conflict Dynamics

    Summary In this episode, Coaches Nicole and Jen delve into the complexities of human tension, attachment styles, and conflict patterns in relationships. They explore how understanding these dynamics can lead to better communication, emotional regulation, and personal growth. The conversation emphasizes the importance of awareness and actionable steps to navigate conflicts effectively, highlighting various attachment styles and their impact on relationships. Takeaways Clear thinking creates real power in how we show up.Understanding your patterns allows you to choose differently.Attachment styles influence how we approach conflict.Conflict is often about unmet emotional needs, not the surface issue.Awareness is the first step towards transformation.Attachment styles are fluid and can evolve over time.Healthy communication is key to resolving conflicts.Not every conflict needs to be addressed immediately.Empathy can de-escalate tension in relationships.Understanding your attachment style can improve your relationships.

    59 min

  8. 11/18/2025

    #42: The Conflict Code Part 1: Why Conflict Can Be A Good Thing

    Summary In this episode, Coaches Jen and Nicole explore the complexities of conflict, emphasizing that it is not inherently negative but can be a catalyst for personal growth. They discuss the anatomy of conflict, the emotional responses it triggers, and the importance of self-awareness and emotional intelligence in navigating conflicts. The conversation highlights practical strategies for healthy conflict resolution, including the use of 'I' statements, mindfulness techniques, and the power of validation and curiosity. The coaches encourage listeners to embrace conflict as an opportunity for deeper understanding and connection. Takeaways Conflict is an opportunity for growth, not just a breakdown.Understanding the anatomy of conflict helps in managing it effectively.Core identity needs often drive conflicts.Emotional responses can hijack rational thinking during conflict.Self-awareness is crucial for recognizing triggers in conflict situations.Cognitive dissonance can create inner turmoil during conflicts.Mindfulness practices can reduce stress and improve emotional regulation.Emotional intelligence involves self-awareness, self-regulation, and empathy.Validation of feelings is essential for productive conflict resolution.Curiosity can help de-escalate conflicts and promote understanding.

    53 min
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    Lessons of the Journey
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
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