Becoming Secure with Magsmindset

Maggie Sandnes
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  • Mental Health
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Welcome to Becoming Secure with Magsmindset; a podcast about love, attachment, self-worth, and becoming the safest place you've ever known. I'm Maggie, a life coach, speaker, and endlessly curious student of human behavior. Every week, we dive into attachment theory, relationships, boundaries, faith, masculinity and femininity, and the stories that shape who we become. Some episodes are vulnerable reflections from my own life. Others are conversations with inspiring guests who've experienced heartbreak, healing, grief, growth, and everything in between. My hope is that when you leave an episode, you understand yourself a little better, love yourself a little deeper, and feel hopeful about what's possible for your life and relationships. Because security isn't something you're born with. It's something you become. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. 2d ago

    #69 The Father Wound: How It Shapes Every Man's Life - with George Stoimenov

    In this episode of Becoming Secure with Magsmindset, I sit down with George Stoimenov, a Bulgarian-born mentor now living in the UK who works with convicted offenders, including men on probation for domestic violence and sexual offenses, through a UK Ministry of Justice rehabilitation program. We go deep into the father wound, how it shapes masculinity, the difference between drivenness and passion, and how unresolved pain from childhood shows up in adult relationships. George shares his own journey — from addiction and violence in his youth to a profound spiritual awakening that let him finally release the weight of his relationship with his father. We also talk about attachment theory, why men and women so often misunderstand each other, and the practical, faith-rooted tools George now uses to help others heal. Chapters: 0:00 – Introduction 0:35 – Who George Works With 0:56 – Passion for Restoring Humanity 2:53 – The Father Wound 6:21 – Masculinity and Culture 8:55 – Men, Women, and Instinct 18:45 – Working with Domestic Violence Offenders 28:55 – Faith and Redemption 42:29 – Practical Steps to Healing 45:24 – Where to Find George Connect with George Stoimenov: 🌐 Website: menscorner.co.uk 📚 Books: Search his surname on Amazon to find his book: Rise From The Ashes. If this episode resonated with you, please like, subscribe, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Wanna watch the episode? Check out my Youtube Channel:3 Thank you for liking and subscribing! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    46 min

  2. Jun 27

    #68 "I walked from Denmark to Spain when my heart broke" - Gideon Enok

    What do you do when heartbreak leaves you feeling completely stuck? For Gideon Enok, the answer was to walk - 7,000 kilometers from the north of Denmark all the way to Santiago de Compostela in Spain. In this episode, Gideon shares the raw, honest story of how a short-lived relationship sent him into a spiral, how a voice at the ocean changed everything, and how months of walking through Europe alone became a journey of radical faith, emotional release, and profound self-discovery. We talk about: Why walking is one of the most powerful healing tools we haveThe three phases of the Camino - physical, mental, and spiritualWhat faith really means when you can't see the road aheadHow letting go of control can lead you exactly where you're meant to beAnd the unexpected love story that found him at the End of the EarthGideon's book, The Pilgrim Spirit, is out now - and if you're not ready to buy, he's offering the first chapter completely free. 📖 Get the book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0H5CNPQ52 🎁 Free chapter: https://thepilgrimspirit.com/free-chapter/ 🌐 Website: https://thepilgrimspirit.com/ 🔗 All links: https://linktr.ee/thepilgrimspirit If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs to hear it. And don't forget to subscribe so you never miss a conversation. Wanna watch the episode? Check out my Youtube Channel:3 Thank you for liking and subscribing! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    38 min

  3. Jun 19

    #67 You're Not Healed, you're Just Alone with Christina Lane

    What if all that self-work is actually keeping you stuck? Somatic coach, educator, and writer Christina Lane joins me to talk about why the most self-aware people are often the hardest to be in a relationship with, and what it actually takes to heal in real life, not just in theory. We get into: - Why your body knows things your mind refuses to admit - How therapy can turn you into a professional victim - The real reason your standards feel impossible to meet - What it means to be "healed" vs. just being alone - How to build self-trust through the body, not the mind - What men actually want (and why we've been reading it wrong) - The difference between a healthy relationship and a controlled one - Christina's work is rooted in somatic coaching (the practice of listening to your body, not just your thoughts), and her perspective is one of the most refreshing and honest takes on modern dating and relationships I've come across. Find Christina: 🌐 christinalanecoaching.com Wanna watch the episode? Check out my Youtube Channel:3 Thank you for liking and subscribing! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    46 min

  4. Jun 13

    #66 You knew it was bad for you. You stayed anyway - with Bev Mitelman

    If you've ever been addicted to a person,;the highs, the chaos, the 72-hour reprieves - this episode will explain why. And more importantly, it'll show you that it was never a character flaw. Attachment therapist Bev Mitelman joins me to break down why we chase what hurts us, what anxious and avoidant attachment actually look like in real life, and what healing really means (hint: it's not what you think). Meet Bev Mitelman: https://securelyloved.com/ Wanna watch the episode? Check out my Youtube Channel:3 Thank you for liking and subscribing! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    38 min

  5. Jun 6

    #65 This is why I know I am Secure

    🎥 The video version of this episode is available on YouTube @Magsmindset. "How do you know you're secure after spending years building Becoming Secure with Magsmindset?" The answer took me all the way back to 2016, when my self-development journey began. In this episode, I reflect on the past 10 years: what heartbreak taught me, how attachment theory changed my life, what it means to feel truly safe in a relationship, and why I no longer spend my days trying to decode what someone else is thinking. I also share a recent experience from my trip to Malaysia with my boyfriend that made me realize just how much I've changed. If you've ever struggled with anxiety in relationships, fear of abandonment, self-worth, or simply learning how to trust yourself, this episode is for you. 💗 Subscribe for more conversations about attachment theory, relationships, personal growth, and becoming secure. #AttachmentTheory #PersonalGrowth #Relationships #BecomingSecure #SelfDevelopment #HealingJourney #Magsmindset Wanna watch the episode? Check out my Youtube Channel:3 Thank you for liking and subscribing! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    24 min

  6. May 29

    #64 Unpause Your Marriage with Lee Baucom

    NOTE! Video available on YouTube. In this episode, I sit down with marriage coach and former therapist Lee Baucom to talk about what really causes marriages to break down—and how to prevent it. Lee explains that most couples unknowingly “hit the pause button” after committing, turning their focus to life demands and building habits of disconnection. We unpack the three levels of connection—physical, emotional, and spiritual—and why love alone doesn’t sustain a marriage without ongoing attention. We also explore complacency, resentment, and what one partner can do when the other isn’t motivated, including inviting connection rather than chasing it. Finally, we discuss expectations, values-based responding, self-regulation during conflict, and shifting from competition to a team mindset, plus where to find Lee’s Save The Marriage and Unpause Your Marriage resources. Un-Pause App: http://UnPauseYourMarriage.com Save The Marriage System: http://SaveTheMarriage.com/system My books: http://SaveTheMarriage.com/books 00:00 Lee Baucom 00:11 Introduction 01:10 Lee's Background & Origin Story 03:24 Why Marriages Fail: The Pause Button 11:48 The Three Levels of Connection 19:10 Rebuilding Connection: One Person Can Start 27:13 Attachment Theory & Personal Healing 28:07 Expectations & The Root of Frustration 32:49 Marriage as a Team 35:44 Self-Regulation & Responding from Values 45:21 Conflict That Serves the Relationship 47:13 Discovering Your Values 52:28 Wrap-Up & Resources Wanna watch the episode? Check out my Youtube Channel:3 Thank you for liking and subscribing! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    54 min

  7. May 23

    #63 How to Receive Love Without Losing Yourself with Lorina

    In this episode, I’m joined by Lorina Manzanita, a somatic intimacy coach and trauma resolution practitioner, to explore how attachment patterns and developmental trauma get encoded in the body and shape our relationships. We talk about why empaths often self-abandon, people-please, and ignore their own needs, and how mindfulness and somatic awareness can build agency, boundaries, and healthier intimacy. Lorina explains implicit memory in the first 18 months of life, the balance of connection and differentiation in secure attachment, and why attachment can differ with each parent. We unpack intermittent positive reinforcement (“pigeon brain”) and why inconsistent love becomes addictive, plus how breakups can feel like death yet lead to liberation when supported by self-compassion, community, and resourcing. We also discuss eros as a life force, pleasure, and the power of gratitude and asking directly for what you need. Website: www.LorinaManzanita.com Nourished: The Neuroscience of Receiving Beautifully www.integratingeros.com/nourished-mini-course 00:00 Meet Lorina 02:00 Wounded Healer Origin 05:03 Somatic Intimacy Basics 07:39 Mindset Versus Body 10:03 Secure Attachment Foundations 12:13 Different Parents Different Styles 17:20 Pigeon Brain Love Pattern 22:57 Building Real Security 26:52 Breaking the Trauma Bond 30:26 Grief Feels Like Dying 31:21 Seven Attempts to Leave 33:10 Finding Real Safety 35:02 Triggers and Resilience 36:54 Surrender and Worthiness 38:51 Rewiring Limiting Beliefs 39:59 Asking Men Directly 40:45 Mending the Dad Bond 44:39 Eros Life Force Energy 46:37 Nature as Resourcing 48:05 Gratitude and God 49:54 Course Plug and Farewell Wanna watch the episode? Check out my Youtube Channel:3 Thank you for liking and subscribing! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    53 min

  8. May 15

    #62 Dr. Wendy O’Connor: Why the Answer is NO, Burn Out, and How to Rebuild Self-Trust

    In this episode, I talk with Dr. Wendy O’Connor, a licensed psychologist of 18 years who shifted from clinical practice to coaching after burning out while running private practices and raising three daughters under 3. We discuss how high-achieving women can do “all the right things” yet still feel unfulfilled, and why she began focusing on helping women thrive through positive psychology. Wendy explains why women overcommit and say yes to gain approval, belonging, and safety, often leading to self-abandonment, resentment, and anxiety. We cover practical ways to reconnect with yourself, including doing a time audit, tuning into body cues, aligning choices with values, and building resilience and self-trust by taking uncomfortable steps. We also explore how depression and anxiety relate to past and future focus, and we plan a future conversation about Alison Armstrong’s books. Wendy's website: https://www.drwendyoconnor.com/home Wanna watch the episode? Check out my Youtube Channel:3 Thank you for liking and subscribing! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    49 min
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Welcome to Becoming Secure with Magsmindset; a podcast about love, attachment, self-worth, and becoming the safest place you've ever known. I'm Maggie, a life coach, speaker, and endlessly curious student of human behavior. Every week, we dive into attachment theory, relationships, boundaries, faith, masculinity and femininity, and the stories that shape who we become. Some episodes are vulnerable reflections from my own life. Others are conversations with inspiring guests who've experienced heartbreak, healing, grief, growth, and everything in between. My hope is that when you leave an episode, you understand yourself a little better, love yourself a little deeper, and feel hopeful about what's possible for your life and relationships. Because security isn't something you're born with. It's something you become. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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