Ecstatic Life

Nicole Desiree Goff
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The Ecstatic Life Podcast is for women ready to do deep healing work in their bodies, minds, spirits and hearts—and in marriage and mothering. Hosted by holistic life coach Nicole Goff, this podcast explores nervous system regulation, feminine embodiment, self-care, emotional healing, and conscious relationships. Through practical tools and soulful conversations, you’ll learn how to feel safe in your body, reconnect with your feminine energy, and create a life rooted in presence, love, and vitality.

  1. 3d ago ·  Video

    Boundaries Are Not Walls: How to Say Yes and No From Your Whole Self

    Want to feel more alive in your body, more connected to yourself, and more supported as you grow? Come dance with me inside the Ecstatic Life Academy. Every week we gather for online ecstatic dance, somatic practices, and real connection with a community of women who are also choosing to live more fully, honestly, and joyfully. Join here -> https://nicoledesireegoff.com/communities/ecstatic-life-academy  ----more---- What if boundaries aren't about keeping people out—but about becoming more honest about what you're available for? In this episode of The Ecstatic Life Podcast, I’m talking about how to lovingly hold boundaries without becoming cold, rigid, or emotionally unavailable. We often think boundaries mean saying no, protecting ourselves, or keeping people from crossing a line. But healthy boundaries are really about clarity: knowing what is true for you, what you want, what you don't want, and communicating that truth honestly to the people in your life. I’m exploring the difference between having firm boundaries and building walls, and why both extremes can keep us from authentic connection. We can become so permeable that we constantly say yes when we mean no—or so guarded that we aren't available for love, intimacy, or life itself. I also share a real-life example inspired by a client who found herself unexpectedly reconnecting with family members she had intentionally distanced herself from years ago. What happens when you can be cordial, loving, and forgiving toward someone without actually wanting to reopen an intimate relationship with them? This brings us to one of the most important distinctions in this episode: Forgiveness doesn't require access. You can wish someone well without inviting them back into your inner circle. You can be kind without saying yes. You can be warm without being available. And you can close a door without slamming, locking, and barricading it. I'll also walk you through my Hell Yes / Hell No practice to help you reconnect with your body's own language of desire, boundaries, and discernment—and I'll share a simple three-part framework for communicating a loving boundary. Because ultimately, we're not trying to become better at saying yes or better at saying no. We're learning to recognize the truth of our own yes and no. And from that place of self-trust and sovereignty, real intimacy becomes possible.

  2. Sep 25 ·  Video

    The Power of Curiosity — Moving from Judgment & Reactivity into Self-Trust

    What if curiosity could be the bridge between reactivity and self-trust? In this month’s Ecstatic Life Q&A, I’m exploring why questioning can feel so difficult—and how we can cultivate a more curious, open, and self-trusting relationship with ourselves and the people we love. For many of us, especially women, we’ve learned to anticipate, manage, fix, and know. Not knowing can feel vulnerable, and questioning can feel threatening. When our nervous systems are activated, we often move toward defensiveness, judgment, blame, fixing, or shutting down rather than genuine inquiry. But curiosity requires space. In this episode, I explore: ✨ Why curiosity can feel unsafe ✨ The connection between nervous system regulation and open inquiry ✨ Replacing judgment with curiosity ✨ Getting curious about ourselves before questioning others ✨ Radical responsibility without self-blame ✨ Curiosity vs. interrogation in intimate relationships ✨ Using Nonviolent Communication to create more vulnerable conversations ✨ The courage to loosen our grip on certainty ✨ Learning to be okay with “I don’t know” ✨ A simple practice for cultivating curiosity in everyday life Because a real question isn't designed to prove you right or someone else wrong. It opens a door. A door to understanding. A door to discovery. A door back into connection with ourselves and each other. And perhaps curiosity is an act of love: I love you enough to want to understand more. I love me enough to want to understand more. 🌿 JOIN ME INSIDE THE ECSTATIC LIFE ACADEMY Want to go deeper into embodiment, nervous system regulation, self-discovery, and ecstatic living? Inside ELA, you'll receive weekly somatic practices, weekly online ecstatic dance, community connection, and access to our monthly Q&A—where you can submit your own questions for me to explore on the podcast. Join us for $11/month at https://nicoledesireegoff.com/communities/ecstatic-life-academy  And if you're already an ELA member, send me your question for next month's Q&A. What are you curious about? What are you navigating? What conversation would you love to have? Your question might become the next episode. 💛

  3. Aug 28 ·  Video

    Becoming the Mother Your Soul Came Here to Be: Spirit Babies, Loss & Wild Motherhood with Olivia Roff

    Are you a mom craving more calm, connection, and space to come home to yourself? Join me inside the Ecstatic Life Academy, a supportive community for women ready to regulate their nervous systems, reconnect with their bodies, and reclaim themselves beyond motherhood. Come dance, heal, breathe, and remember who you are. Learn more and join us today. In this episode of The Ecstatic Life Podcast, I sit down with Olivia Roff, a mystical guide for the soul and Spirit Baby Channel, for a deeply soulful conversation about motherhood as an initiation into becoming more fully ourselves. Olivia shares the story of her two miscarriages, her unexpected awakening to Spirit Babies, and the profound healing journey that ultimately led her to her soul work. We explore what it means to connect with the souls of babies before conception, how pregnancy loss can be honored as a real experience of birth and postpartum, and the ways our children can become mirrors for the parts of ourselves asking to be healed. We also dive into birth trauma, home birth, intuition, conscious conception, home education, and the process of reclaiming our inner authority as mothers. One of the ideas that stayed with me most deeply was Olivia's perspective that our children can bring us into the darkest places—not to punish us, but to invite us to come home to ourselves. We talk about the stories so many women carry around being "not enough," not being worthy of meeting their own needs, and the ways motherhood can illuminate those stories so we finally have the opportunity to heal them. This is a conversation about wild motherhood, sovereign motherhood, spiritual motherhood—and remembering that becoming the mother we desire to be often begins with becoming more deeply ourselves. If you've ever felt that your children were your greatest teachers, that motherhood was somehow asking you to become someone new, or that there was a deeper calling underneath your experience of motherhood, I think you'll find something here. Come join me in the conversation—and then ask yourself: What are my children reflecting back to me, and where are they guiding me home to my truth? Connect with Olivia: https://linktr.ee/oliviaroff  This conversation explores Olivia's spiritual beliefs and personal experiences with Spirit Babies, conception, pregnancy loss, birth, and motherhood. These perspectives are shared as spiritual frameworks and personal experiences, not as medical claims or advice.

  4. Aug 21 ·  Video

    Your Turn-On Is Your Responsibility: The Secret to a More Passionate Sex Life

    If you're ready to cultivate more pleasure in your life, join my weekly ecstatic dance party in my online community: https://nicoledesireegoff.com/communities/ecstatic-life-academy What if your sex life had less to do with what happens in the bedroom and more to do with how you live your entire life? In this episode of The Ecstatic Life Podcast, I explore the radical responsibility we have to cultivate our own pleasure, sensuality, and aliveness—and how the way we experience an ordinary Tuesday can profoundly influence what happens in our intimate relationships. As mothers, it's incredibly easy to spend our days serving, managing, multitasking, and taking care of everyone else, only to arrive at the end of the day completely depleted and wonder why we're not feeling particularly turned on. But you can't spend 14 hours abandoning your body and expect it to enthusiastically show up for you at 10 PM. Nicole explores the connection between everyday pleasure and erotic desire, including: Why your partner can't be solely responsible for your turn-on How slowing down and savoring ordinary moments expands your capacity for pleasure The connection between sensuality, embodiment, playfulness, and sexuality Why childlike wonder and curiosity can actually deepen your erotic life What happens to desire after 10, 15, or 20 years with the same person How relationship fatigue can turn lovers into co-managers of a household Why self-care isn't just maintenance—it's pleasure cultivation How to meet your partner from overflow rather than depletion And how to begin living a more “turned-on” life, whether or not you're currently having sex Plus, Nicole shares a simple Pleasure Practice you can experiment with for the next week. Because an ecstatic life isn't about being happy or “high vibe” all the time. It's about being available for the experience of being alive. My sensual embodiment playlist on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/0wvjO8jktrxD0vsz2xgT7V?si=LvFUF2axTXehm0DKRyJaJQ

  5. Aug 14 ·  Video

    The Radical Practice of Gratitude When Life Is Hard

    What if instead of constantly thinking “I have to,” we started remembering that we get to? In this deeply personal episode, I explore gratitude, agency, and the choice to be present for our lives—even when life is really, really hard. I’m sharing from the middle of a difficult season: I’m adopting my grandson, grieving the recent loss of my dog, and walking alongside my dad as he transitions from this life. This isn’t an episode about pretending everything is okay. It’s about discovering that grief and gratitude can exist in the same heart. I’ll share the simple practice that has been helping me stay grounded: writing down 10 things I’m grateful for every day, and how shifting from “I have to” to “I get to” can subtly—and powerfully—change the way we experience our lives. Because we can acknowledge what hurts without overlooking what is beautiful. We can be heartbroken and grateful. We can wish things were different and still be fully present for what is here. And we can remember that while we don’t get to choose everything that happens to us, we do get to choose how we meet our lives. This is your invitation to stop waiting for the perfect circumstances and start noticing the life that is already happening right now. If this episode resonated with you, you don’t have to do this work alone. 💛 Inside Ecstatic Life Academy, we practice this kind of embodied living together—nervous system healing, emotional awareness, self-care, feminine embodiment, movement, and the messy, beautiful work of coming home to yourself. Come join us. Let’s stop waiting for life to be perfect before we start fully living it. ✨ Ecstatic Life Academy: https://nicoledesireegoff.com/communities/ecstatic-life-academy

  6. Aug 7 ·  Video

    What Is Shadow Work? My Journey Through Trauma, Shame & Self-Worth

    Before we dive in, here's an invitation to join me inside of my private membership for nervous system healing, embodiment and somatic practices each week. Join ELA here for only $11/month: https://nicoledesireegoff.com/communities/ecstatic-life-academy ----more----What if the parts of yourself you've spent a lifetime trying to hide are actually the parts most longing to be loved? After returning from a transformative seven-day retreat, I'm sharing one of the deepest healing experiences of my life. In this episode, we're exploring the world of shadow work—not as something mystical or intimidating, but as a practical pathway toward greater freedom, wholeness, and self-love. I open up about the childhood beliefs I didn't realize I was still carrying and I also share, with tenderness, how working through a traumatic experience from my adolescence allowed me to safely access and release decades of stored rage, and how moving long-held shame around my sexuality and femininity became one of the most liberating experiences of the retreat. Together we'll explore: • What shadow work actually is (and what it isn't) • Why we develop hidden parts of ourselves in childhood • How suppressed emotions affect our nervous system and relationships • Why healing isn't about becoming someone new—but remembering who you've always been • Gentle ways you can begin exploring your own shadow without attending a retreat If you've ever struggled with feeling unworthy, "too much," not enough, or disconnected from yourself, this conversation is an invitation to meet those hidden parts with compassion instead of judgment. Because healing isn't about fixing yourself. It's about finally welcoming yourself home.

  7. Jul 31 ·  Video

    Monthly Q&A: Grief, Guilt & the Practice of Presence

    When life takes a tragic turn, how do we keep our hearts open instead of shutting down? In this deeply personal episode, I answer a beautiful question from a member of the Ecstatic Life Academy: "When life takes a tragic turn, how does practicing presence with our emotions change our experience?" After experiencing a recent personal loss, I share—in real time—how I'm navigating grief, guilt, and heartbreak through nervous system awareness, embodied movement, and compassionate presence. We talk about: ✨ Why emotions are meant to move through us ✨ The difference between feeling and drowning ✨ How grief shows up in the body ✨ Why numbing only delays healing ✨ How Ecstatic Dance has become one of my greatest healing practices ✨ What it really means to live an ecstatic life Whether you're grieving a loved one, navigating divorce, experiencing burnout, or simply carrying the weight of life, I hope this episode reminds you that healing doesn't come from escaping your emotions—it comes from learning how to stay with yourself through them. ❤️ If this episode touched you, I'd love to hear what resonated in the comments. — ✨ Join the Ecstatic Life Academy: https://nicoledesireegoff.com/community Follow me: @nicoledesireegoff

  8. Jul 24 ·  Video

    Ecstatic Life Best-of Spiritual & Nervous System Healing Mash-up

    This week is a little different. As you're listening to this episode, I'm away on a retreat—completely offline, unplugged, and giving myself the same gift of rest and presence that I encourage all of you to embrace. So instead of a brand-new conversation, I wanted to create something special. This is a collection of some of my favorite moments from The Ecstatic Life Podcast—powerful insights on nervous system healing, feminine embodiment, spirituality, trauma recovery, motherhood, relationships, and coming home to yourself. These are the conversations that have stayed with me long after the microphones were turned off. The ones that made me pause, cry, laugh, rethink old beliefs, and deepen my own healing. Whether you've been here since the beginning or you've only recently found the podcast, I hope this episode serves as both a beautiful introduction and a reminder that healing doesn't happen all at once. Sometimes the wisdom we need lands differently the second—or third—time we hear it. Thank you for allowing me the space to step away, refill my own cup, and return with fresh inspiration. I'll see you soon. Until then... take a deep breath, move your body, trust your intuition, and keep creating your own ecstatic life.

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The Ecstatic Life Podcast is for women ready to do deep healing work in their bodies, minds, spirits and hearts—and in marriage and mothering. Hosted by holistic life coach Nicole Goff, this podcast explores nervous system regulation, feminine embodiment, self-care, emotional healing, and conscious relationships. Through practical tools and soulful conversations, you’ll learn how to feel safe in your body, reconnect with your feminine energy, and create a life rooted in presence, love, and vitality.

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  • Creator
    Nicole Desiree Goff
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    87
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    Explicit
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