The Secure Love Club Podcast

Mimi Watt
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Your go-to space to break free from anxious dating patterns, find your confidence, and feel secure in love, with dating & relationship expert, Mimi Watt. 

  1. 2D AGO

    Ep #56: Dating Without Pressure: How I Stopped Making Every Date Mean Something

    In this episode, I’m sharing a perspective shift on dating that honestly changed everything for me, and it came from a place I didn’t expect. After taking a break from dating, doing some deep nervous system regulation, and going on a recent date with a completely different intention, I noticed how much lighter, calmer, and more confident the whole experience felt. No pressure. No performance. No “is this my person?” spiral. Just… presence, curiosity, and connection. We’re talking about the middle ground so many people miss in dating — between taking it too seriously and not taking it seriously enough. I break down how anxious attachment and dysregulation can make dating feel high-stakes and overwhelming, why pressure kills presence, and how approaching dates as experiences (not auditions) can completely shift your energy, confidence, and discernment. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why dating feels so heavy when your nervous system is dysregulatedHow anxious attachment turns dates into self-focused performance instead of connectionThe mindset shift that helps you show up calmer, more confident, and more presentWhy going on dates “just for the experience” can actually build self-trust and clarityHow to gather real data about what you want (and don’t want) without attaching too fast🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts! MIMI SOCIAL MEDIA Come say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) on Instagram HERE!

    22 min

  2. FEB 9

    Ep #55: How to Date Like a Secure Woman (Even If You’re Anxious)

    In this episode, we’re calling out one of the most frustrating patterns anxious daters get stuck in: dating the same person with a different face. You know the one… the chemistry is insane, it’s hot and heavy at the start, you’re on cloud nine — and then the moment you want depth, clarity, or commitment… they pull away. 😵‍💫 I’m breaking down why this keeps happening, and the one thing that will change your dating life forever: slowing down and setting the pace yourself. We talk about why anxious attachment makes you more likely to get swept up in someone else’s intensity, how your nervous system confuses familiar patterns with “safe,” and why moving slowly isn’t boring… it’s actually the fastest way to filter out emotionally unavailable people and choose a relationship that can go the distance. If you’re done with situationships, done with pedestal energy, and ready for something real — this episode is for you!! In this episode, you’ll learn: • Why anxious attachment makes you more likely to attach to potential instead of reality • How getting “swept up” early on leads to fast attachment and missed red flags • Why you can’t truly know someone in the first few weeks and what time reveals that chemistry can’t • The 3-phase Dating Roadmap and how it stops you from rushing into the wrong people • How to regulate the anxious part of you so you can date from self-trust, not urgency 🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts! APPLY FOR PEACEFULLY ATTACHED HERE: https://www.mimiwatt.com MIMI SOCIAL MEDIA Come say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) on Instagram HERE!

    28 min

  3. FEB 2

    Ep #54: Stop Trying to Avoid Problems (It’s Keeping You Stuck)

    In this episode, we’re talking about something we all claim we want… but secretly spend half our lives trying to avoid: problems. I’m breaking down why so many of us have developed this unconscious belief that we shouldn’t have challenges, and how that mindset actually keeps you stuck, disconnected, and living a smaller life than you’re meant for. We dive into the difference between low-quality problems vs high-quality problems, and how shifting the way you frame your challenges can instantly change your energy, confidence, and momentum (in dating, relationships, business, and life). If you’ve been trying to “wrap yourself in cotton wool” and avoid anything that feels uncomfortable… this episode is your loving wake-up call, my love: you don’t need a problem-free life — you need better problems. In this episode, you’ll learn: • Why trying to eliminate all problems can actually create a bigger one: disconnection and isolation • The truth about “life is 50/50” and why growth requires discomfort (sorry, but it’s real) • The difference between low-quality problems (draining, dead-end energy) vs high-quality problems (expansive, empowering energy) • How to reframe the way you talk about your challenges so you stop resisting your life and start moving forward • Powerful questions to ask when you feel stuck so you can shift from spiralling to solving 🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts! APPLY FOR PEACEFULLY ATTACHED HERE: https://www.mimiwatt.com MIMI SOCIAL MEDIA Come say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) on Instagram HERE!

    29 min

  4. JAN 26

    Ep #53: Decisive Action - How Making a Decision Directs Your Energy & Changes Everything

    In this episode, we’re diving into one of the most underrated reasons you feel stuck, drained, and unable to move forward in dating, life, or your personal growth: indecision. I’m breaking down why “I just need to think about it more” is often a trauma response disguised as logic, and how staying in limbo quietly leaks your energy, erodes your self-trust, and keeps you repeating the same patterns. We explore why your body often already knows the answer long before your mind catches up, and how making a clean decision instantly shifts your identity, confidence, and momentum. I also share powerful real-life examples, from challenging a client to make an on-the-spot decision, to saying yes to moves that scared the hell out of me (hello Bali and big investments), and how the universe tends to meet you halfway once you commit. If you’ve been standing on the edge of a decision, waiting for certainty, permission, or reassurance… this episode is your loving-but-firm nudge to MOVE! In this episode, you’ll learn: • Why unmade decisions drain your energy more than making the “wrong” choice ever could • How fear disguises itself as overthinking and keeps you stuck in familiar discomfort • Why decisive action is a powerful act of self-trust (especially for anxiously attached women) • How saying yes instantly redirects your energy, identity, and momentum • When to stop waiting for certainty, and let commitment create clarity 🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts! 👉🏽APPLY FOR PEACEFULLY ATTACHED HERE: https://www.mimiwatt.com/ MIMI SOCIAL MEDIA Come say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) on Instagram HERE!

    26 min

  5. JAN 19

    Ep #52: From Anxious To Secure: My Story And Path To Coaching

    In this special replay episode, I’m taking you right back to the beginning — sharing my full journey from growing up anxiously attached, through years of emotionally draining relationships, to becoming secure within myself and building a life and career that truly lights me up. This episode originally aired as the very first Secure Love Club podcast episode, and I’m resharing it to mark a full year of weekly episodes — and to give newer listeners a chance to hear the story that started it all. In this episode: • How my childhood shaped my anxious attachment and the patterns I unknowingly carried into every relationship • Why I kept choosing emotionally unavailable partners (and the huge lie I believed about myself because of it) • The subtle ways I chased love, self-abandoned, and tried to control outcomes before I knew better • The moment everything shifted when I stopped outsourcing my worth and learned how to feel safe within myself • What secure love actually feels like and how this transformation led to starting my dream business! 🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts! APPLY FOR PEACEFULLY ATTACHED HERE: https://www.mimiwatt.com/ MIMI SOCIAL MEDIA Come say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) on Instagram HERE!

    45 min

  6. JAN 12

    Ep #51: Inside the Avoidant Mind: What They’re Really Thinking When They Pull Away (My Sister’s Avoidant Perspective!)

    In this episode, I sit down with my sister, Hannah, to have an honest, nuanced conversation about what it’s actually like to experience relationships from an avoidantly attached perspective. So many anxiously attached people are left feeling confused, rejected, or questioning their worth when someone pulls away emotionally. This conversation offers a rare inside look into what’s really happening beneath the surface; not just the behaviours, but the fear, overwhelm, and coping mechanisms driving them. We talk about how childhood experiences shape avoidant attachment, why emotional closeness can feel unsafe, and how avoidance isn’t about not caring, it’s about self-protection. We also explore the anxious–avoidant push–pull dynamic, why conflict feels so threatening for avoidants, and what actually helps someone with avoidant tendencies feel safe enough to open up. In this episode: • What’s actually happening when an avoidant partner pulls away • Why their distance is about overwhelm — not indifference • How the anxious–avoidant push–pull keeps both people stuck • The hidden anxiety avoidant partners rarely show • How to tell if this dynamic can heal… or if it’s time to walk away 🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts! APPLY FOR PEACEFULLY ATTACHED HERE: https://www.mimiwatt.com/ MIMI SOCIAL MEDIA Come say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) on Instagram HERE!

    58 min

  7. JAN 5

    Ep #50: Living a Life You’re Proud Of (Not One That Just Looks Pretty)

    In this episode, we’re talking about the difference between building a life that looks good on the outside and one that actually feels right on the inside. This conversation was sparked by a powerful moment with a woman joining Peacefully Attached — and it opened up a deeper truth so many of us avoid: when our happiness rises and falls based on our relationship status, we’re not living in alignment… we’re outsourcing our fulfillment. We explore how many of us unknowingly build lives for validation, optics, and approval — careers, relationships, routines, and identities that look impressive but leave us feeling drained, restless, or quietly empty. I break down what emotional alignment really means, why ignoring it leads to burnout and anxiety, and how learning to live in integrity with yourself changes everything — including how you date. If you’ve ever felt like you “should” be happy, but aren’t… this episode is an invitation to get honest, come back into your body, and start building a life you actually respect. In this episode, you’ll learn: • The difference between a life built for appearance vs. one built for alignment • Why emotional misalignment shows up as anxiety, burnout, and restlessness • How social conditioning teaches us to seek validation over fulfillment • Why overriding your intuition creates long-term dissatisfaction • How identifying your values becomes a compass for decision-making • Why building a full, aligned life changes the way you date and attach 🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts! 👉🏽APPLY FOR PEACEFULLY ATTACHED HERE: https://www.mimiwatt.com/ MIMI SOCIAL MEDIA Come say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) on Instagram HERE!

    25 min

  8. 12/29/2025

    Ep #49: Things I DIDN’T DO to Attract Secure Love

    In this episode, I’m flipping the usual conversation around healing anxious attachment and attracting healthy love. Instead of focusing on what you should do, I’m walking you through the key things I stopped doing — the behaviours, patterns, and unconscious habits I had to let go of in order to create space for secure, grounded love. I share my personal journey of recognising anxious attachment, taking an intentional break from dating, and learning how to stop chasing intensity, proving my worth, rushing timelines, and abandoning myself just to keep a connection. We talk about why chemistry can be misleading, how urgency is often rooted in fear, and why secure love requires an identity shift — not perfection. In this episode, you’ll learn: • Why I stopped dating when my anxious attachment was highly activated • How over-giving, over-explaining, and over-performing sabotage secure love • Why slowing down and releasing timelines builds real safety • Why healing isn’t linear — and how to respond to slip-ups with self-compassion • The role support and mentorship played in making secure love possible 🎧 Tune in now! And if this episode resonates, send me a DM on Instagram—I’d love to hear your thoughts! 👉🏽APPLY FOR PEACEFULLY ATTACHED HERE: https://www.mimiwatt.com/ MIMI SOCIAL MEDIA Come say hi 👋 (or DM me your biggest takeaway) on Instagram HERE!

    34 min
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Your go-to space to break free from anxious dating patterns, find your confidence, and feel secure in love, with dating & relationship expert, Mimi Watt. 

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  • Creator
    Mimi Watt
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    56
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