What Do I Need? – Learning to Listen to Yourself Helping children understand how their bodies, feelings, and thoughts can provide clues about what they need, and showing them how pausing, listening, and asking for appropriate support can help them make choices that support their wellbeing. In this episode of Mindful Moments with Miss Harrison’s Understanding Yourself series, children take the next step in getting to know themselves by exploring a simple but powerful question: “What do I need?” Children discover that their bodies communicate with them all the time. Some signals are easy to recognise—a rumbling tummy might mean hunger, a yawn might signal tiredness, and feeling too hot might mean it's time to remove a jumper. But other needs can be harder to identify. Feeling grumpy might sometimes mean we're tired. Feeling fidgety might tell us we need movement. Feeling overwhelmed might signal a need for quiet. Confusion might mean we need someone to explain something, while sadness might tell us that we need comfort or someone to talk to. Through Zara’s story, children see how easy it can be to misunderstand these signals. Zara is having what feels like a terrible afternoon. Her brother is annoying her, her homework is annoying her, and even the ticking clock is annoying her. When her dad asks what she needs, Zara initially says “nothing.” But when she pauses and pays attention, she notices that her shoulders feel heavy, her eyes are tired, and she hasn't had a drink since lunchtime. After having a drink and resting quietly for a few minutes, Zara returns to exactly the same homework and exactly the same brother—but she no longer feels quite so irritated. She realises that perhaps everything wasn't annoying. Perhaps she needed something. The episode introduces children to three places to look for clues: listen to your body, notice your feelings, and ask for what you need. Children learn that feelings don't always tell us exactly what we need, but they can invite us to become curious. Children also practise a simple Needs Check-In, asking what their body needs, how they are feeling, and what might help right now. What children will learn in this episode: How their bodies can give them clues about what they needWhy difficult feelings can sometimes be connected to unmet needsHow tiredness, hunger, thirst, movement, quiet, comfort, or connection can affect how they feelWhy feelings are useful clues even when they don't give us an immediate answerHow to carry out a simple Needs Check-InHow to put a need into words and appropriately ask someone for supportEmotional Skills from Miss Harrison: Listen to your body Ask, “What is my body telling me?” Notice whether you're hungry, thirsty, tired, restless, uncomfortable, too hot, or too cold. Notice your feelings Ask yourself how you're feeling. Frustration might mean you need a pause, loneliness might signal a need for connection, and worry might mean you need reassurance or someone to listen. Ask what might help Once you've noticed the clues, ask, “What might help me right now?” It could be movement, quiet, a drink, a conversation, some help, or simply a little rest. Put your needs into words Practise saying, “I need a little break,” “Could you help me?” “I need someone to listen,” or “Can I have some quiet time?” These skills help children develop body awareness, emotional literacy, communication, self-regulation, and the ability to recognise and express their needs appropriately. Mindful Moment Challenge: Once each day this week, pause for a simple Needs Check-In. Ask yourself: “What is my body telling me?” “How am I feeling?” “What might I need?” Maybe you need movement, a drink, some quiet, help with something, or a conversation. Or perhaps you feel perfectly comfortable and don't need anything right now. That's useful to notice too. Perfect for: Primary school-aged children learning to identify and communicate their needsClassrooms exploring PSHE, self-awareness, emotional literacy, and wellbeingFamilies helping children understand what may sit behind difficult feelingsTeachers and pastoral leaders supporting children with emotional regulationChildren developing greater awareness of the connection between their bodies, feelings, and needsQuote of the Week: "Sometimes the world needs to change, and sometimes we need to notice what's happening inside us." #MindfulMoments #UnderstandingYourself #WhatDoINeed #SelfAwareness #EmotionalLiteracy #BodyAwareness #EmotionalWellbeing #ChildrensMentalHealth #PrimaryPSHE #SocialEmotionalLearning #SelfRegulation #MindfulnessForChildren #WellbeingInSchools Send us Fan Mail Support the show