Dating Déjà vu

Dating Déjà Vu

It might be déjà vu but it also might be you! Join Christina Hathaway, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, as she dives deep into the complexities of relationships and personal growth. Each episode offers practical insights, expert advice, and heartfelt discussions on topics like communication, intimacy, family dynamics, and self-discovery. Whether you're navigating challenges in your marriage, strengthening friendships, or working on your relationship with yourself, Christina provides a compassionate and relatable perspective to help you thrive in all areas of your life!

  1. 6d ago

    When Sex Leaves the Building: Rebuilding Desire in Long-Term Relationships

    When was the last time you had sex with your partner? It's one of the most searched relationship questions online, and one of the least discussed. If you've ever wondered whether your relationship is normal, worried that the spark has disappeared, or felt disconnected from your partner, this episode is for you. In this special crossover episode of The Mindset Mirror Connection and Dating Déjà Vu, host Christina Hathaway explores why sex naturally changes throughout a relationship, what a healthy sex life actually looks like, and how couples can intentionally rebuild intimacy, desire, romance, and passion over time. Many couples experience a decline in sexual frequency and assume something is wrong. The truth is that slowing down sexually is often a normal part of relationship development. The challenge isn't how often couples have sex, it's whether both partners feel desired, emotionally safe, connected, and able to communicate openly about their needs. In this episode, you'll learn: The three stages of sexual connection in long-term relationships…from the honeymoon phase to companionship and commitment Why passion naturally evolves over time and what most couples misunderstand about intimacy The difference between passionate love and companionship love What research says about healthy sexual relationships and relationship satisfaction Why resentment, stress, mental overload, and emotional disconnection can dramatically affect desire How hormones, aging, postpartum changes, sleep deprivation, medications, and physical health impact libido Why spontaneous sex becomes less common in long-term relationships The five practical shifts that help couples rebuild intimacy and desire How to have productive conversations about sex without blame, shame, or defensiveness Ways to strengthen emotional and physical connection outside the bedroom Why scheduling intimacy can actually improve your relationship If you're feeling stuck in a sexless relationship, struggling with mismatched desire, wondering how to bring back romance, or simply wanting a healthier and more connected partnership, this conversation offers practical, compassionate, and evidence-informed guidance. The good news? A slowing sex life doesn't mean your relationship is broken. Successful long-term couples understand that intimacy isn't something that simply happens, it is something they intentionally choose to nurture, protect, and rebuild throughout every stage of their relationship. Whether you're dating, newly partnered, married, navigating parenthood, or decades into a committed relationship, you'll walk away with a deeper understanding of what healthy intimacy looks like and actionable strategies to reignite connection, desire, and closeness. - Let's connect: Schedule a clarity call with me: https://link.optimafunnels.com/widget/bookings/tmom-clarity-call0b27p0 Send me your questions: https://bit.ly/43FWH70 Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/datingdejavupod/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DatingD%C3%A9j%C3%A0vuPodcast

    50 min
  2. May 29

    5 Mindset Shifts That Will Transform Your First Dates

    Do your first dates feel more like auditions than genuine connections? In this episode of Dating Deja Vu, Christina Hathaway breaks down the five mindset shifts that can completely change the way you approach dating. Instead of obsessing over whether someone likes you, you'll learn how to stay present, trust yourself, and determine whether they're actually a good fit for you. If you've ever caught yourself overthinking every word, imagining a future together before the appetizers arrive, or trying to be the "perfect" date, this episode is for you. In This Episode: Why curiosity creates better connections than interview-style questionsHow future-tripping sabotages chemistry before it has a chance to growThe importance of authenticity over perfection on first datesWhy your life should already feel full before someone new enters itHow setting a soft time limit can help you leave with clarity instead of confusionThe difference between seeking validation and genuinely getting to know someoneHow to recognize when you're repeating old dating patternsWhy healthy dating starts with changing how you show up—not finding a different personThe goal of a first date isn't to get picked. It's to discover whether you genuinely enjoy the person sitting across from you. When you shift from performance to presence, dating becomes less stressful, more authentic, and far more effective. - Let's connect: Schedule a clarity call with me: https://link.optimafunnels.com/widget/bookings/tmom-clarity-call0b27p0 Send me your questions: https://bit.ly/43FWH70 Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/datingdejavupod/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DatingD%C3%A9j%C3%A0vuPodcast

    32 min
  3. May 15

    Are You The Partner You Want To Have? The Mirror Principle in Dating

    Emotionally available. Consistent. Communicative. Present. Mature. But here’s the uncomfortable question this episode asks:Are you showing up as the partner you say you want? In this raw and honest solo episode of Dating Deja Vu, we dive into the “mirror principle”. It's the idea that the patterns showing up in your relationships may be reflecting unresolved patterns within yourself. This conversation explores: Why we keep repeating the same relationship cyclesThe role emotional availability plays in the partners we chooseHow self-abandonment impacts dating and long-term relationshipsThe difference between wanting healthy love and being ready for itAttachment styles, self-awareness, boundaries, and emotional regulationWhy becoming the right partner matters more than finding onePractical embodiment exercises to help you shift your relationship patternsThis episode is equal parts tough love, self-reflection, and empowerment for anyone tired of repeating the same story in love. Because sometimes… it might be deja vu, but it also might be you. - Let's connect: Schedule a clarity call with me: https://link.optimafunnels.com/widget/bookings/tmom-clarity-call0b27p0 Send me your questions: https://bit.ly/43FWH70 Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/datingdejavupod/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DatingD%C3%A9j%C3%A0vuPodcast

    34 min
  4. May 8

    Megan Thee Stallion, Situationships & The Accountability Crisis

    In this episode of Dating Deja Vu, Christina breaks down the cultural double standards that normalize harmful behavior in modern relationships and why women are often labeled “crazy,” “bitter,” or “difficult” for simply telling the truth. Using the recent public breakup between Megan Thee Stallion and Klay Thompson as a starting point, Christina explores what real accountability actually looks like, why “boys will be boys” has become a dangerous excuse for emotional immaturity, and how situationships are often designed to avoid responsibility altogether. This episode dives into: Why women are socially punished for having standardsHow situationships thrive on ambiguity and avoidanceThe cultural conditioning that teaches women to tolerate disrespectWhy asking for clarity is not “too much”The difference between accountability and punishmentHow to communicate standards and non-negotiables clearlyWhy protecting men from consequences hurts everyoneThe importance of naming behavior instead of absorbing it in silenceChristina also shares practical ways to hold people accountable in relationships without losing yourself in the process, and why clarity is the real rebellion. If you’ve ever found yourself decoding mixed signals, accepting breadcrumbs, or questioning whether your standards are “too high,” this episode is for you. Remember: wanting honesty, commitment, and respect does not make you difficult. It makes you clear. - Let's connect: Schedule a clarity call with me: https://link.optimafunnels.com/widget/bookings/tmom-clarity-call0b27p0 Send me your questions: https://bit.ly/43FWH70 Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/datingdejavupod/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DatingD%C3%A9j%C3%A0vuPodcast

    30 min
  5. 08/01/2025

    46 | 10 Shifts to Transform Your Relationship

    If your relationship feels stuck or your love life is on autopilot, this episode is your reset button. Christina walks you through 10 small but powerful relationship microshifts that can bring big results—fast. Whether you're dating, committed, or married, these simple yet science-backed strategies will help you: 🩵 Feel more connected 🩵 Communicate more clearly 🩵 Build trust 🩵 And bring emotional safety back to the forefront. Perfect for anyone wondering "How can I fix my relationship without therapy?" or "Why do I keep repeating toxic relationship patterns?" Let's connect: Schedule a clarity call with me: https://link.optimafunnels.com/widget/bookings/tmom-clarity-call0b27p0 Send me your questions: https://bit.ly/43FWH70 Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/datingdejavupod/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DatingD%C3%A9j%C3%A0vuPodcast Timestamps: 00:00 – Why your relationship can't thrive if you're depleted 00:42 – Press the reset button: Why microshifts matter 01:16 – Microshift 1: Shift focus intentionally with positive interactions 02:00 – Microshift 2: Express one sincere appreciation daily 03:12 – Microshift 3: Use the 24-hour rule before addressing conflict 04:16 – Microshift 4: Practice active listening & “I feel” statements 07:12 – Microshift 5: Schedule weekly emotional check-ins 08:15 – Microshift 6: Reignite connection with hugs and kisses 09:31 – Microshift 7: Speak your partner’s love language… daily 10:59 – Microshift 8: Own your part in conflict1 2:35 – Microshift 9: Show you’ve got your partner’s back 14:09 – Microshift 10: Do something for you today 15:36 – Start now: Pick one shift and change your love life today

    17 min
  6. 07/22/2025

    45 | All or Nothing Thinking: How Perfectionism is Ruining Your Dating Life

    Is your dating life stuck in a cycle of extreme highs and sudden ghosting? You might be trapped in all or nothing thinking. In this episode of Dating Déjà Vu, Christina unpacks the dangers of black-and-white thinking in modern dating and how it sabotages real connection. If you're constantly looking for red flags, obsessed with instant chemistry, or walking away too quickly when things aren’t perfect—this episode is for you. Christina shares relatable stories, helpful mindset shifts, and her viral 3-3-3 dating rule to help you move from fear-based dating to curiosity-driven connection. Tune in now! Let's connect: Schedule a clarity call with me: https://link.optimafunnels.com/widget/bookings/tmom-clarity-call0b27p0 Send me your questions: https://bit.ly/43FWH70 Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/datingdejavupod/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DatingD%C3%A9j%C3%A0vuPodcast Timestamps: 00:00 – Welcome + Podcast intro 00:16 – Meet Christina Hathaway 00:25 – All or nothing thinking in dating 00:54 – How this mindset shows up in other areas of life 01:23 – Black-and-white thinking sabotages connection 01:47 – Christina’s personal example from high school 02:21 – What is all-or-nothing thinking? 02:49 – Extreme reactions and ghosting after good dates 03:22 – The fear behind rigid standards 03:37 – Examples of extreme thinking in dating 04:11 – Craving fast chemistry and intensity 04:43 – Labeling people too quickly 05:32 – Generalizing bad experiences 05:50 – Putting all your eggs in one basket 06:34 – Hurt becomes your whole reference point 07:03 – The illusion of control 07:20 – Vulnerability vs. protection 07:59 – Choosing curiosity over conclusions 08:27 – Questions to reflect on during early dating 08:44 – The 3-3-3 Rule for dating 09:08 – The power of slow burns 09:44 – Stop looking for reasons to leave 10:31 – Expecting uncertainty in relationships 10:43 – Christina’s personal love story 10:58 – Discomfort vs. protecting your peace 11:12 – The full 3x3x3 dating rule explained 12:07 – Avoiding infatuation cycles 12:21 – Wait for clarity before bailing 12:47 – Giving relationships space to grow 13:07 – Reflection: When have you bailed from discomfort? 13:44 – Identifying your extreme dating patterns 14:14 – Encouragement to stay in the gray 14:26 – Share, review, and support the show 14:56 – Final reminders

    15 min

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It might be déjà vu but it also might be you! Join Christina Hathaway, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, as she dives deep into the complexities of relationships and personal growth. Each episode offers practical insights, expert advice, and heartfelt discussions on topics like communication, intimacy, family dynamics, and self-discovery. Whether you're navigating challenges in your marriage, strengthening friendships, or working on your relationship with yourself, Christina provides a compassionate and relatable perspective to help you thrive in all areas of your life!