Dating Déjà vu

Dating Déjà Vu
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It might be déjà vu but it also might be you! Join Christina Hathaway, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, as she dives deep into the complexities of relationships and personal growth. Each episode offers practical insights, expert advice, and heartfelt discussions on topics like communication, intimacy, family dynamics, and self-discovery. Whether you're navigating challenges in your marriage, strengthening friendships, or working on your relationship with yourself, Christina provides a compassionate and relatable perspective to help you thrive in all areas of your life!

  1. 3d ago

    You Planned the Wedding, But Did You Prepare for the Marriage?

    Couples spend months debating venues, guest lists, flowers, and seating charts—often without ever discussing how they will manage money, resolve heated conflict, handle family boundaries, or navigate invisible labor. A wedding changes your legal and relationship status, but it doesn't automatically change your emotional habits or communication patterns. In this episode of Dating Déjà Vu, licensed marriage and family therapist Christina breaks down PREPARE/ENRICH: what it actually is, why difference doesn’t equal dysfunction, and how engaged and newlywed couples can replace unspoken assumptions with clear, healthy agreements before small misunderstandings become hardwired patterns. In this episode, we cover: Why love alone doesn’t answer the practical questions of married life What PREPARE/ENRICH is (and why it is not a compatibility test or a pass/fail exam) The hidden trap of engagement idealism: facts vs. fears vs. fantasy Why the newlywed stage is one of the best times to do relationship work The real meaning underneath recurring arguments about chores, money, and in-laws How your family-of-origin rules secretly enter your marriage What working with a certified PREPARE/ENRICH facilitator actually looks like Tune in now! - Let's connect: Schedule a clarity call with me (AZ residents only): https://igniteambition.com/ Send me your questions: https://bit.ly/43FWH70 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datingdejavupod/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

  2. Sep 25

    Why You Can't Let Go: The Psychology of Taylor Frankie Paul & Dakota's Trauma Bond

    Is it love or are you addicted to the chaos? In this episode of Dating Deja Vu, Christina Hathaway breaks down Taylor Frankie Paul and Dakota Mortensen’s on-again, off-again relationship and the controversial idea of trauma bonding. Their story raises an uncomfortable question: can intense chemistry actually be a sign of an unhealthy attachment? Christina explores why we confuse chaos with chemistry, why healthy love can feel “boring,” and why missing someone doesn’t mean you should go back to them. Because sometimes what feels like love… is just familiarity. Tune in! - Let's connect: Schedule a clarity call with me (AZ residents only): https://igniteambition.com/ Send me your questions: https://bit.ly/43FWH70 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datingdejavupod/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

  3. Sep 18

    Call Her Mommy: Are You Mothering Your Partner?

    When did you stop being his girlfriend and start being his mother? Maybe you're reminding him about appointments, helping him find a job, managing the household, planning the dates, remembering important birthdays, or constantly telling him what needs to get done. Little by little, you may find yourself carrying not just your share of the relationship—but responsibility for his life, too. In this episode of Dating Deja Vu, Christina Hathaway breaks down what happens when a relationship shifts from partnership into a dynamic where one person over-functions and the other under-functions. You'll hear about: The difference between supporting your partner and carrying your partner How the over-functioning/under-functioning relationship dynamic develops Why constantly rescuing or reminding your partner can reinforce the pattern The invisible mental load of remembering, planning, organizing, and anticipating everything Why becoming your partner's caretaker can affect resentment, attraction, and intimacy The difference between a temporary season of imbalance and a permanent relationship dynamic Why being needed can sometimes feel like being loved How dating someone's potential can keep you stuck in a relationship with who you hope they'll become What happens when you stop over-functioning and allow your partner to take responsibility Why interdependence is different from dependence How to start looking at the patterns you're participating in, choosing, and tolerating If you've ever found yourself thinking, “Why am I always the one doing everything?”, this episode invites you to look beyond what your partner isn't doing and get curious about the role you've taken on in the relationship. Stop focusing on the fantasy of who someone could become. Step back, allow them to show you who they are, and pay attention to the facts. - Let's connect: Schedule a clarity call with me (AZ residents only): https://igniteambition.com/ Send me your questions: https://bit.ly/43FWH70 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datingdejavupod/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

  4. Sep 11

    Quiet Quitting Your Relationship: 7 Signs You’re Emotionally Checked Out

    You may not be fighting. You may not be thinking about divorce. You may still share a home, raise your kids, have sex, pay the bills, and look like a perfectly functional couple from the outside. But what happens when you’ve stopped trying? In this episode of Dating Deja Vu, Christina Hathaway explores the increasingly common idea of “quiet quitting” a relationship—when you remain physically present but become emotionally disconnected from your partner. It’s not necessarily about no longer caring. Sometimes, it happens because you cared, tried, asked, and were disappointed so many times that eventually, you stopped believing anything would change. The episode also explores why independence can sometimes mask relational resignation, how unequal mental and emotional labor can contribute to withdrawal, and why conflict isn't always a bad sign. Sometimes anger and frustration mean there is still emotional investment; indifference can signal something much deeper. If you’ve ever felt like you’re still in your relationship but no longer truly in it, this episode is for you. Because sometimes the absence of conflict doesn't mean there’s peace. Sometimes it means you've stopped caring enough to fight. Listen now and get curious about what your emotional withdrawal might be telling you. - Let's connect: Schedule a clarity call with me: https://igniteambition.com/ Send me your questions: https://bit.ly/43FWH70 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datingdejavupod/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

  5. Sep 4

    The 5 Red Flags You’re Dating an Emotionally Immature Person

    What does emotional immaturity look like in dating? It’s not about being sensitive, emotional, or having big feelings. It’s about what someone does with those feelings when they feel hurt, rejected, criticized, disappointed, or vulnerable. In this episode of Dating Deja Vu, Christina Hathaway breaks down 5 signs you may be dating an emotionally immature person and explains how emotional immaturity can show up in romantic relationships. Using Pia Mellody’s developmental model of the wounded child, adapted adolescent, and functional adult, Christina explains why some people become defensive, controlling, retaliatory, or withdrawn when they feel emotionally activated—and how those patterns can create unhealthy relationship dynamics. You’ll learn how to recognize: The need to be right instead of the need to understand Attempts to control your emotions, behaviors, and choices Attacking, defending, or withdrawing when vulnerable Retaliation and “tit for tat” behavior after getting hurt The tendency to turn a relationship into “me versus you” instead of “me, you, and us” Christina also turns the mirror back on us. Because emotional immaturity isn't only something to identify in a dating partner—it can also show up in our own patterns. People-pleasing, controlling, pursuing someone who withdraws, or disappearing when intimacy feels uncomfortable can all be ways of protecting a wounded part of ourselves. Most importantly, emotional maturity doesn't mean never getting triggered. It means recognizing when you’re activated, slowing down, taking responsibility, communicating your needs, respecting boundaries, and repairing after conflict. If you’re dating, pay attention to how someone behaves when things don't go their way. How they respond to conflict, disappointment, boundaries, rejection, or being told “no” can tell you far more about their emotional maturity than how they behave when everything is going well. Because sometimes it’s deja vu but it also might be you. - Let's connect: Schedule a clarity call with me: https://igniteambition.com/ Send me your questions: https://bit.ly/43FWH70 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datingdejavupod/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

  6. Aug 28

    Are You Apologizing Wrong? Here Are the 4 Steps to a Real Apology

    Saying “I’m sorry” isn’t always the same as taking accountability. In this episode of Dating Deja Vu, Christina Hathaway breaks down what a real apology looks like in a relationship and why words alone aren’t enough to repair hurt, rebuild trust, or change unhealthy patterns. Christina introduces the four-part apology: name what you did and validate the impact, take full ownership, make amends, and commit to changing your behavior. You’ll also learn why forgiveness doesn’t have to happen immediately, how trust is rebuilt through consistent behavior, and how to recognize the difference between apologizing to genuinely repair a relationship and apologizing just to make someone stop being upset. In this episode, we talk about: What a genuine apology actually looks likeThe 4 steps to making a meaningful apologyWhy “I’m sorry if…” isn’t true accountabilityHow “but” can turn an apology into an excuseMaking amends and rebuilding trustWhy changed behavior matters more than wordsWhether you have to forgive someone after they apologizeThe difference between repairing a relationship and escaping discomfortHow repeated apologies without changed behavior create a cycle of déjà vuThe takeaway: A real apology isn’t the end of the conversation. It’s the beginning of accountability, repair, and change. Tune in! - Let's connect: Schedule a clarity call with me: https://igniteambition.com/ Send me your questions: https://bit.ly/43FWH70 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datingdejavupod/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

  7. Aug 21

    5 Simple Ways to Improve Your Relationship and Create More Connection

    What if a better relationship doesn’t require a bigger date night, an expensive gift, or a grand romantic gesture? Sometimes, the biggest changes come from the smallest things we consistently do. In this episode of Dating Deja Vu, Christina Hathaway, LMFT, shares 5 simple ways to strengthen your relationship, improve emotional connection, and create a healthier partnership. From noticing what your partner is doing right to learning how to respond to criticism with curiosity, these small shifts can change the way you experience your relationship every day. Christina also breaks down why healthy relationships aren’t conflict-free—they’re repair-rich—and why taking healthy space during conflict can actually help you reconnect. In this episode, you'll learn: Why small, intentional gestures can matter more than grand romantic gesturesHow giving your partner a genuine compliment every day can strengthen connectionHow to ask the question behind the question when your partner is being criticalWhy curiosity works better than defensiveness during relationship conflictHow to repair after an argument without ignoring your own need for spaceWhy understanding your partner doesn’t always mean experiencing things the way they doHow small daily acts of kindness communicate “I see you” and “you matter”Why compromise is a constant part of building a life togetherHow to stop trying to “win” and start looking for solutions that work for both partnersThe goal isn’t to create a perfect relationship. It’s to consistently create opportunities for connection, appreciation, understanding, and repair. Because relationships usually aren’t transformed by one huge gesture. They’re transformed by the small things you choose to do and keep doing. - Let's connect:Schedule a clarity call with me: https://link.optimafunnels.com/widget/bookings/tmom-clarity-call0b27p0 Send me your questions: https://bit.ly/43FWH70 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datingdejavupod/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

  8. Aug 14

    5 Signs You’re With the Wrong Person (Even If They’re a Good Person)

    What if the person you’re with isn’t a bad person, they’re just not the right person for you? Not every relationship ends because of cheating, abuse, betrayal, or some obvious red flag. Sometimes, the signs are much quieter. You simply start feeling different. Quality time feels like work. You walk on eggshells. You become a smaller version of yourself. You fall in love with someone’s potential instead of accepting who they actually are. In this episode of Dating Deja Vu, Christina Hathaway explores 5 signs you may not be meant to be with your partner and why these subtle signs can be so difficult to recognize and even harder to act on. Drawing from her own past relationship and experiences working with clients, Christina breaks down what happens when a relationship slowly shifts from connection to management, fear, and resentment. In this episode, we talk about: When everything starts feeling like effort and quality time feels more like a chore than something you enjoy.Walking on eggshells and how constantly monitoring what you say, feel, or need can make you lose parts of yourself.Being in love with someone's potential instead of accepting the person who is actually standing in front of you.Staying because you're afraid to be alone rather than because you genuinely want to be with that person.When everything they do starts irritating you and your body may be signaling something your brain hasn't fully acknowledged yet.The difference between being with a good person and being in a good relationship for you.Why staying in an incompatible relationship can hurt more slowly than leaving.How fear, sunk time, and the fear of starting over can keep you stuck.Why sometimes your nervous system knows the relationship isn't working before your mind is ready to catch up.Most importantly, this episode isn't about deciding whether someone is “good” or “bad.” It's about compatibility, alignment, and whether two people can actually meet each other where they are. If you've ever found yourself thinking, “Nothing is technically wrong… so why am I so unhappy?” this conversation may give you something important to sit with. Your body may already know. Sometimes your brain just needs permission to catch up. - Let's connect:Schedule a clarity call with me: https://link.optimafunnels.com/widget/bookings/tmom-clarity-call0b27p0 Send me your questions: https://bit.ly/43FWH70 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datingdejavupod/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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It might be déjà vu but it also might be you! Join Christina Hathaway, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, as she dives deep into the complexities of relationships and personal growth. Each episode offers practical insights, expert advice, and heartfelt discussions on topics like communication, intimacy, family dynamics, and self-discovery. Whether you're navigating challenges in your marriage, strengthening friendships, or working on your relationship with yourself, Christina provides a compassionate and relatable perspective to help you thrive in all areas of your life!

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  • Creator
    Dating Déjà Vu
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    68
  • Rating
    Explicit
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