Hot Mess to Higher Self with Diana Fjer

Diana Fjer
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For the woman ready to release the mess and embody her highest self.

  1. 09/24/2025

    I Know He Cares, So Why Do I Feel So Alone?

    He’s not cruel. He shows up. He cares. So why do you still feel like you’re carrying the relationship alone? This episode is for the woman who keeps asking herself, “If I know he loves me, why do I feel so lonely?” Inside, I’m breaking down: ✨ The disconnect between care and connection — and why your body knows the difference ✨ How childhood imprints taught you to settle for breadcrumbs and feel guilty for still being hungry ✨ Why loneliness inside a relationship is a nervous system signal (not a character flaw) ✨ Two self-healing practices to name your needs and validate your experience in real time ✨ Three journal prompts to uncover where you feel unmet and what connection really means for you ✨ The powerful reframe: you are not asking for too much — you’re asking for the right thing This isn’t about blaming your partner. It’s about reclaiming your clarity, your body’s wisdom, and your right to want more than surface-level care. Because care maintains, but connection nourishes. And your heart deserves to be nourished. 💖 Ready to heal the root of your relationship anxiety? Book a free discovery call for my 12-week coaching program, Healing Her: A Relationship Reset 👉 [www.dianafjer.com/healing-her] 📬 Join the mailing list for exclusive content you won’t find anywhere else: Free guides, special offers, early access to new programs, and tools to support your healing journey. 👉 [Join the mailing list!] 🌀 Follow me everywhere: @dianafjer.coach

    39 min

  2. 09/10/2025

    You Don’t Have to Wait for Him to Change

    You’ve begged, explained, cried, shut down… and nothing sticks. If you’ve ever felt like you’re the only one doing the work in your relationship, this episode is for you. Inside, Diana unpacks why you’ve been giving away your power by waiting for him to heal, and how your nervous system is actually addicted to the cycle. She shares two powerful practices you can start today to break the loop, reclaim your energy, and rewrite the story of your relationship — even if he never changes. What you’ll learn in this episode: The hidden chemistry of toxic relationship cycles (and why they’re so addictive) Why outsourcing your safety to his behavior keeps you stuck What actually shifts when you begin to heal your nervous system A somatic practice to interrupt the cycle in the moment An energetic sovereignty ritual to reclaim your power Journal prompts to uncover where you’ve been giving away control How to rewrite the ending of the pattern and reclaim your story Your healing is enough to transform how you feel, respond, and connect. You don’t have to wait for him to rise — you are the shift. 💖 Ready to heal the root of your relationship anxiety? Book a free discovery call for my 12-week coaching program, Healing Her: A Relationship Reset 👉 [www.dianafjer.com/healing-her] 📬 Join the mailing list for exclusive content you won’t find anywhere else: Free guides, special offers, early access to new programs, and tools to support your healing journey. 👉 [Join the mailing list!] 🌀 Follow me everywhere: @dianafjer.coach

    25 min

  3. 09/03/2025

    When Mindset Work Isn’t Enough — Healing on the Soul Level

    You’ve read the books. Said the affirmations. Repeated the mantras. But the overthinking is still there. The self-doubt creeps back in. The same old spiral pulls you under again. In today’s episode of Hot Mess to Higher Self, we’re breaking down why mindset work alone will always hit a ceiling—and what it really takes to heal on a soul-deep level. We’re talking polyvagal theory (in simple terms), nervous system healing, energy work, and how to actually shift those patterns that feel stuck on repeat. Inside this episode: — Why your brain can’t out-think trauma — How your body holds the key to real safety and change — What talk therapy gets wrong (and how somatic work goes deeper) — The energetic roots of emotional patterns — Soul-level healing that sticks You’ll also get two powerful practices—one somatic and one energetic—to anchor into safety, regulate your system, and clear out anything that isn’t yours. Grab a journal, get comfy, and let’s go deep. 📝 JOURNALING PROMPTSThese are included in the episode, but here they are for easy reference: 🌀 Where in my life do I keep knowing better, but still feel stuck in the same loop? 🌿 What am I still trying to fix or control with my mind, that might actually need to be felt and healed in my body instead? 🔥 What’s a story I keep telling myself about who I am, or what I deserve in relationships… and where do I think that story came from? 💫 What would it look like to give my nervous system permission to stop bracing, and start trusting? 🖤 If I could speak to the part of me that still feels scared, what would I say to her? 💌 GO DEEPER WITH DIANAReady to take this work to the next level? Inside my 12-week 1:1 coaching container Healing Her, we blend somatic healing, energy work, and soul-led transformation to help you finally feel grounded, secure, and worthy in your body—and your relationships. ✨ Learn more + book a free discovery call here: https://www.dianafjer.com/healing-her ✨ Grab your free guide: https://www.dianafjer.com/clearing-energetic-imprints   💖 Ready to heal the root of your relationship anxiety? Book a free discovery call for my 12-week coaching program, Healing Her: A Relationship Reset 👉 [www.dianafjer.com/healing-her] 📬 Join the mailing list for exclusive content you won’t find anywhere else: Free guides, special offers, early access to new programs, and tools to support your healing journey. 👉 [Join the mailing list!] 🌀 Follow me everywhere: @dianafjer.coach

    39 min

  4. 04/23/2025

    You’re Not Too Much — You’re Just Dysregulated

    This episode is for the woman who’s been shamed for feeling deeply. Together, we explore what being “too much” really means, where that story began, and how to shift it at the root. You’ll learn powerful somatic and energetic practices to release shame, regulate your emotions, and reclaim your sensitivity as a sacred gift — not a flaw. Journal Prompts from the episode: 🖋 “What does ‘too much’ mean to me?” 🖋 “Where did I learn that my needs were inconvenient?” 🖋 “What part of me is asking to be validated right now?” Tag me on socials @dianafjer.coach if this episode moved you — I’d love to hear what resonated most. 💖 Ready to heal the root of your relationship anxiety? Book a free discovery call for my 12-week coaching program, Healing Her: A Relationship Reset 👉 [www.dianafjer.com/healing-her] 📬 Join the mailing list for exclusive content you won’t find anywhere else: Free guides, special offers, early access to new programs, and tools to support your healing journey. 👉 [Join the mailing list!] 🌀 Follow me everywhere: @dianafjer.coach

    22 min

  5. 04/09/2025

    The Real Reason You’re Always Overthinking Your Relationship

    In this juicy milestone episode, we’re talking all things relationship overthinking — why it happens, what it really means, and how to finally interrupt the cycle so you can feel grounded in love. Here’s what you’ll learn: 💭 Why overthinking is a nervous system response, not a personal flaw 👧 How your childhood shaped your need to stay on high alert 🧘 Two powerful practices to calm your mind and regulate your energy 🖊️ Journal prompts to help you break the cycle and create safety within 💡 The truth about peace: it doesn’t come from him — it comes from you   Journal Prompts from this episode: When I’m overthinking, what am I afraid will happen if I stop? What do I wish he would say or do that I’m trying to find between the lines? How can I offer that reassurance to myself right now?   If you’re ready to stop spiraling, start trusting, and create a relationship that feels like home (instead of a mental war zone), this one’s for you. 🧠 Share this episode with a friend who overthinks everything (we all know one). 💖 Ready to heal the root of your relationship anxiety? Book a free discovery call for my 12-week coaching program, Healing Her: A Relationship Reset 👉 [www.dianafjer.com/healing-her] 📬 Join the mailing list for exclusive content you won’t find anywhere else: Free guides, special offers, early access to new programs, and tools to support your healing journey. 👉 [Join the mailing list!] 🌀 Follow me everywhere: @dianafjer.coach

    21 min

  6. 04/02/2025

    Why You Spiral After He Pulls Away (And How to Stop It)

    In this episode, we explore: Why emotional spirals happen when he pulls awayHow your nervous system responds to perceived disconnectionThe childhood roots of anxious attachmentTwo powerful self-healing practices to ground and regulate✨ Journal Prompts from this episode: “When someone pulls away, the story I tell myself is…”“If my inner child could speak in that moment, what would she need to hear?” 💖 Ready to heal the root of your relationship anxiety? Book a free discovery call for my 12-week coaching program, Healing Her: A Relationship Reset 👉 [www.dianafjer.com/healing-her] 📬 Join the mailing list for exclusive content you won’t find anywhere else: Free guides, special offers, early access to new programs, and tools to support your healing journey. 👉 [Join the mailing list!] 🌀 Follow me everywhere: @dianafjer.coach

    21 min

  7. 03/26/2025

    Attachment, Soulmates & Energetic Connections

    In this episode of Hot Mess to Higher Self, we explore what soulmates really are—from soul contracts and pre-determined relationships to how free will lets us choose again when a relationship no longer serves our growth. I open up about my personal story of transforming a toxic dynamic into a secure, loving partnership through deep healing work—and how you can begin shifting your own relationship patterns today. We cover: What soulmates actually are (hint: it’s not always romantic)How karmic relationships can evolve—or endThe link between attachment styles and who we attractSigns you’re holding onto past partners energeticallyTools to clear imprints and call in aligned loveHow healing your inner world transforms your outer reality 💖 Ready to heal the root of your relationship anxiety? Book a free discovery call for my 12-week coaching program, Healing Her: A Relationship Reset 👉 [www.dianafjer.com/healing-her] 📬 Join the mailing list for exclusive content you won’t find anywhere else: Free guides, special offers, early access to new programs, and tools to support your healing journey. 👉 [Join the mailing list!] 🌀 Follow me everywhere: @dianafjer.coach

    23 min

  8. 03/19/2025

    Signs You’re Healing Your Attachment Style

    Healing doesn’t always look the way we expect it to. It’s easy to focus on what hasn’t changed and overlook the subtle but powerful shifts that prove you’re making progress. In this episode, we’ll break down the real signs that your attachment style is healing—even if you don’t always feel it. You’ll learn: ✨ Why healing isn’t linear (and what to do when you backslide) ✨ How to recognize small wins that prove you’re shifting ✨ A personal story about breaking a trigger cycle in real-time ✨ Why your nervous system holds onto old patterns—and how to rewire it ✨ A guided reflection + journal prompts to help you track your own growth If you’ve ever felt like you’re stuck in old patterns, this episode will help you recognize just how far you’ve actually come. 🎧 Listen now and let’s celebrate your healing journey together! 🔗 Links & Resources: 💖 Apply for Healing Her: A Relationship Reset: Apply 📩 Join my email list for more insights & exclusive content: Sign-Up for Newsletter 📲 Connect with me on Instagram : @dianafjer.coach 💖 Ready to heal the root of your relationship anxiety? Book a free discovery call for my 12-week coaching program, Healing Her: A Relationship Reset 👉 [www.dianafjer.com/healing-her] 📬 Join the mailing list for exclusive content you won’t find anywhere else: Free guides, special offers, early access to new programs, and tools to support your healing journey. 👉 [Join the mailing list!] 🌀 Follow me everywhere: @dianafjer.coach

    19 min
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