The Dad & Daughter Connection

Chris Lewis
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The Dad & Daughter Connection is the podcast for fathers who want to build a strong, meaningful relationship with their daughters while empowering them to become confident, independent women. Hosted by [Your Name], this show brings you real conversations, expert insights, and inspiring stories from dads, daughters, and professionals who understand the unique challenges and joys of fatherhood. Whether you're navigating the early years, the teen phase, or beyond, The Dad & Daughter Connection is here to support you with practical advice, heartfelt discussions, and encouragement for the journey. Because being a dad isn't just about being present—it's about truly connecting. Join us as we learn, grow, and lead together—one conversation at a time. Subscribe now and start building the connection that lasts a lifetime!

  1. Oct 19

    Raising Dreamers: How Dads Can Inspire Creativity and Confidence in Daughters

    One of the major themes that emerges from the conversation is the magic that comes from truly connecting with your children. Wylde Scott reflects on powerful family moments, like renewing marriage vows with his wife in front of the Eiffel Tower with both daughters by their side—a ritual that not only celebrates love but also leaves a deep, lifelong imprint on his children about commitment and family. The episode dives into the complexities of raising uniquely different kids. Wylde Scott is refreshingly honest about the challenges of finding the right balance between guidance and independence, especially when you have one child who's fearless and adventurous and another who is more reserved. He shares how important it is to adapt your parenting—sometimes pulling back, sometimes encouraging more risk—based on your daughter's individual needs and temperament. But perhaps the heart of this episode is the conversation about creativity. As a children's author, Wylde Scott is passionate about imagination as the foundation for success in a modern world rapidly being changed by technology and artificial intelligence. He argues that as parents, we often shut down creativity without realizing it, replacing free play and exploration with constant rules, structure, and fear of failure. Instead, he urges dads to be present—not just physically, but emotionally—and to actively nurture their daughter's curiosity and creative spirit every single day. The episode also features real talk on mistakes, sacrifice, and the evolving nature of family life. Wylde Scott reminds listeners that no dad is perfect, but being fully engaged and willing to learn from your own shortcomings can only strengthen your relationship. Most of all, he encourages fathers to embrace the unpredictable, to make time for individual moments with each child, and to model the courage to pursue dreams at any age. If you're a dad striving to prepare your daughter for a world full of possibilities and challenges, this episode is for you. Tune in to learn, laugh, and walk away with new ideas for nurturing both connection and creativity. If you enjoyed this episode we ask you to take a moment to take our Dad and Daughter Connection Survey to let us know more about you as a dad. You can also sign up to get our newsletter to stay connected to our community and we will send items of interest to you to help you to be the dad that you want to be. Feel free to follow me on the following social media platforms: Facebook, Facebook Group, Instagram, LinkedIn, X.   TRANSCRIPT Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:02]: Welcome to The Dad and Daughter Connection, the podcast for dads who want to build stronger bonds and raise confident, independent daughters. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:12]: If you're looking to build a stronger bond with your daughter and help her grow into a confident, independent woman, you're in the right place. I'm Dr. Christopher Lewis, and The Dad and Daughter Connection is the podcast where we dive into real stories, expert advice, and practical tips to help you navigate the incredible journey of fatherhood. In every episode, we'll bring you conversations that inspire, challenge, and equip you to show up as the dad your daughter needs. So let's get started, because being a great dad isn't just about being there. It's about truly connecting. Welcome back to The Dad and Daughter Connection. where every week we have a great opportunity to be able to work together to build those relationships that we want to build with our daughters. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:02]: And it happens one day at a time. It's not always gonna be easy. There are gonna be times where you have to, you know, really just keep grinding and keep working to be able to build that relationship. Sometimes it's gonna be a high, sometimes it might be a low, but there are things that you can do every day to be able to keep creating and building that strong relationship that you want, with your daughters. And that's why this podcast exists. Every episode, I love being able to talk with you, to help you, to bring you individuals that can provide you with some tools for your own toolbox that hopefully at the end of this episode, you'll have some things that you can take out when you need them. And it might be today, it might be tomorrow, it might be a year from now. But it's important to be able to learn, to grow, and to be able to invest not only in your daughters, but in yourself. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:54]: That's why, as I said, I love having different people on this show that can provide you with some of the experiences that they've had. And today we've got another great guest. Today we're joined by Wild Scott, who is the author of Raising Dreamers, and he's a passionate advocate for imagination, creativity, and human potential in the age of artificial intelligence. He's a father of 2 daughters, and he definitely brings a personal perspective to the question of how we can raise confident, curious, independent young women who know how to think for themselves and imagine what's possible. And today we're going to be talking to him about his own experience as a father of 2 daughters, but also about his new book, Raising Dreamers. And we'll delve into both of those today. So I'm really excited to have Wild with us today. Wild, thanks so much for being here today. Wylde Scott [00:02:42]: Thanks for having me on, Chris. Super excited to be here. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:44]: So as I said, I know that you have 2 daughters and I am really excited to be able to to learn a little bit more from you on your own experiences. And all of us as dads, we are wanting to have those moments, those moments that are so important to be able to build those connections with our daughters. As you think about both of your daughters, what is one of the most meaningful moments that you've shared with your daughters and what made it so special? Wylde Scott [00:03:08]: So there's like, probably if you look back, there's probably 100 for each, right? If you're present, if you're always there, if you're always with them, experiencing life. I think the most recent that I would share with you was that I recently renewed my vows with my wife for the 5th time in front of the Eiffel Tower with both of my daughters as the bridesmaids. And it was a very special moment, but it's very hard for me to express how personally special that moment was for the whole family to be there doing that together. An incredible bond, an incredible just experience as a family. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:03:42]: Those are great opportunities to be able to show, show your daughters so many things about not only the love that you have for your wife, but also the commitment that you have for another person. And that definitely will leave a lasting mark on who they become for themselves as well. You know, all of us, I think, as dads, I know for me, as I've done things in my life and I've worked to try to be that dad that I want to be, we are having to really think hard about how we're balancing, balancing not only life, but balancing really how we're guiding our daughters while also giving them independence. How have you done that? How have you balanced guiding your daughters while being able to give them the independence that they needed to grow into the people that they have become? Wylde Scott [00:04:30]: I think you have to have a philosophy, and then you— and you also evolve as you go through the process. While your brain says one thing, your heart says another. That's a very difficult challenge. I think in the early years, I have to credit my wife a lot with understanding our children. And I have one who's, you know, hot on wheels all day long, not afraid of the world from the time she was 5 years old. So our existence was a lot of trying to figure out how to pull the reins back in without killing the spirit. The other one was kind of the opposite, very timid. And my wife did an amazing job of finding ways to push and push and push a little bit for the— for her to not be afraid of the world and for her to do well. Wylde Scott [00:05:07]: And then it kind of takes off, you know, that's, that's the early years. And we had an experience in our house that my 14-year-old, who who's now 25. She got herself— we started driving our kids to be very independent at an early age. And she got herself into a very prominent ballet program at the University of North Carolina School of the Arts. And it meant that she was going away to boarding school at 14 years old. And that was the first time you have this— we had a personal crisis, right? My wife and I had that personal crisis. We never thought about boarding school. It's, it's not even in our normal system, right? We never thought we would do anything like that. Wylde Scott [00:05:42]: We're both very connected to our kids. And we're very protective and all those things. And we're like, Oh my gosh, right? We're really going to let a 14-year-old go live on her own? And by the way, the campus is a very unique small campus in Winston-Salem, and it's split with a college. So it's also the art school for the University of North Carolina system. So not only sending our kid to a high school on a campus, she's also going to be there with a bunch of college students at the same time. And that forced a tremendous, you know, gut check on this theory about how, you know, how brave are you as a parent and how much do you want them to be on their own? And, and I would say I think it kind of set the tone for us. You know, we had a very hard time the first year just mentally dealing with it, and then all of a sudden one day it's like, you know, she's doing fine, she's doing great out there on her own. And she was 14, 15, 16 years old. Wylde Scott [00:06:26]: And I think it led us to be a little bit more reasonable on my younger one who's 2 years behind when she w

  2. Oct 5

    Presence Over Perfection: Creating Meaningful Dad-Daughter Connections

    Building a strong, meaningful relationship with your daughter takes intention, patience, and a genuine commitment to growth—for both parent and child. That's the heartbeat of "The Dad and Daughter Connection," a podcast devoted to helping dads nurture confidence and independence in their daughters. In the latest episode, host Dr. Christopher Lewis sits down with returning guest Arpan Shah to discuss what it really takes to create lasting, positive connections, even in challenging circumstances. One of the episode's central themes is being truly present. Arpan Shah opens up about his journey as a dad navigating dual custody, and how—even when parenting comes with logistical and emotional hurdles—intentionally showing up matters more than perfection. He shares the powerful impact of simple, everyday rituals: from regular FaceTime check-ins and nighttime meditation to asking thoughtful questions like, "How did you help someone today?" or "What new thing did you learn?" Another key takeaway is the importance of leading by example. Children learn more from their parents' behaviors than their words. Arpan Shah explains how volunteering at school, coaching basketball, and making time for shared hobbies like hiking and music aren't just fun—they show his daughter that she is valued and supported, while modeling lifelong curiosity and resilience. Honesty and forgiveness are woven throughout the conversation. Both Dr. Christopher Lewis and Arpan Shah talk about the inevitable mistakes that come with parenting. The real magic, they suggest, happens when we use those moments to communicate openly, learn together, and even let our daughters teach us a thing or two about empathy. The episode is full of practical advice for fathers who want to build a deep, trusting relationship with their daughters, such as: Prioritizing quality time over material things or work distractions Supporting your child's interests—from robotics and coding to sports and music Establishing meaningful routines and traditions Creating space for honest, two-way conversations—even when they're tough Focusing on presence instead of perfection If you're looking for real stories and actionable insights to help you on your fatherhood journey, this podcast is for you. Tune in for inspiration, support, and a reminder that your heart already knows the way—sometimes, you just need to be still, listen, and be present. Subscribe today and start strengthening your bond. Listen to the latest episode of "The Dad and Daughter Connection" now! If you enjoyed this episode we ask you to take a moment to take our Dad and Daughter Connection Survey to let us know more about you as a dad. You can also sign up to get our newsletter to stay connected to our community and we will send items of interest to you to help you to be the dad that you want to be. Feel free to follow me on the following social media platforms: Facebook, Facebook Group, Instagram, LinkedIn, X. TRANSCRIPT Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:02]: Welcome to The Dad and Daughter Connection, the podcast for dads who want to build stronger bonds and raise confident, independent daughters. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:12]: If you're looking to build a stronger bond with your daughter and help her grow into a confident, independent woman, you're in the right place. I'm Dr. Christopher Lewis, and The Dad and Daughter Connection is the podcast where we dive into real stories, expert advice, and practical tips to help you navigate the incredible journey of fatherhood. In every episode, we'll bring you conversations that inspire, challenge, and equip you to show up as the dad your daughter needs. So let's get started. Because being a great dad isn't just about being there. It's about truly connecting. Welcome back to the Dad and Daughter Connection, where every week we have a great opportunity to be able to Work together on these relationships that we want to build with our daughters. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:02]: And I just want to say thank you. Thank you for coming back every week, for you putting yourself out there, for wanting to continue to keep learning, to keep growing, and to keep being present for your daughters. Because that's what it's all about. Each one of us has to put in the work, put in the time to be able to do what we can to be able to help our daughters grow into the women that they're becoming. But also, we need to put in the time for ourselves to be able to be the fathers that we want to be. And that's why this show exists. This show exists because I want to provide you with resources that are going to help you, give you some tools for your toolbox that'll help you to be that dad that you want to be. As you know, I've got 2 daughters. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:44]: I know you've got daughters. And I love being able to allow for you every week to learn something new from new people that can provide you with some of the experiences that they've had. in their life. Because every one of us as fathers is going to father in a different way. But we can learn from each other and take little pieces here and there to be able to help us be even better dads in the future. That's why every week I bring you a different guest, a different person with different experiences. And this week we've got another great guest. Arpan Shah is with us today. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:15]: And Arpan is a, actually a past guest of another podcast that I used to do called Dads with Daughters. And I was really excited to be able to ask him to come back to join us and to, and to have us have him back on to talk with us about his own journey as a father. And I'm really excited to introduce him to you. Arpan, thanks so much for being here today. Arpan Shah [00:02:38]: Thanks for having me, Chris. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:39]: I'm really excited to be able to have you here today and for you to share some of the experiences that you've had. I always start these interviews with an opportunity to learn a little bit more about you as a dad and talk about you and the relationship with your daughter. I guess first and foremost, as you think about the relationship that you have with your daughter, I know she's 9. So as you think back to that relationship that you have with her, what is one of the most meaningful moments that you've been able to share together with your daughter? And what made it so special? Arpan Shah [00:03:07]: I think the special moments is now that she's 9. My last podcast was when she was about 4 or 5. And I was in the midst of a really bad custody battle. And so I was going through all kinds of emotions that many fathers go through in the treacherous waters of family court. And so what has changed And what's meaningful now is those little random hugs and bursts of, I love you, for no absolute reason, where you can see the unconditional love just pouring out of each other's eyes and souls when you embrace your child. And knowing that you're doing a good job, knowing that she's smart, she's got a good heart, and that she is a kind person, and she helps me out as well. And those are some of the most meaningful little milestones. Just if we can have that connection as the child grows and blooms, to nurture that and to have a hand in that is extremely humbling. Arpan Shah [00:03:57]: And something to be very grateful for. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:03:58]: As you think about what you just said, each one of us is trying to do things to intentionally build those moments and be able to have those opportunities to be able to connect with our daughters. What are some intentional ways that you've worked to strengthen your bond with your daughter, especially during challenging times? Arpan Shah [00:04:16]: Well, recently, as she's gotten older, this is much different, as I have not pondered these questions you've asked for some time now, is There is a struggle when she goes from home to home. Our parenting schedule is such where she is 7 days with me with a break in the middle where there's a date night with the other parent and with her mother. And then on 7 days with her mom, I have a date night in the middle of the week as well. So during those times, there are FaceTime calls every day. And then we do a check-in. We meditate or pray every night before going to sleep. And the way I started that was a count to 10, just a breathing to 10 where you clear your mind for those 10 seconds. And I kind of assist her in doing so. Arpan Shah [00:04:59]: So, and we'll take deep breaths, we'll hold them, we'll let them out, and we'll try to clear ourselves of all our thoughts and whatever might be on our minds. We just clear it. And it's just me and her, her voice and mine. And then we find peace. And then we touch base every day where that grows. I can get into that a little further, but I think that's something that everybody should do is just unwind with your child and debrief. How was your day today? What were some of your best moments of the day? How have you helped somebody today? What did you learn today? Those kind of questions are very important to ask. And then getting a habit of that, it keeps it in your mind throughout the day. Arpan Shah [00:05:35]: It helps you have a more positive impact as a parent. And then the child ponders those questions a lot more than you might think. Children learn more from behaviors than what you tell them to do. So it's important for you to exhibit that as well. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:05:46]: And following up with that, you talked a little bit about the fact that getting her back onto a routine and moving from routine to routine, and some fathers like yourself have a similar type of a family dynamic that has to happen based on time with mom, time with dad, you know, whatever the situation is. And you said that you've tried some different things that have worked, maybe some things that didn't work. For o

  3. Sep 21

    Building Stronger Bonds: Matt Haviland and his Daughter Olivia's Father-Daughter Journey

    At the heart of The Dad and Daughter Connection, featured in this week's episode, is the steadfast belief that the strongest father-daughter relationships are built one intentional moment at a time. In a conversation brimming with honesty and warmth, Dr. Christopher Lewis sits down with Matt Haviland and his 20-year-old daughter, Olivia Haviland, to explore what it truly means to connect, support, and empower our daughters to become confident, independent women. Listening With Intent One of the most powerful themes from this episode is the importance of truly listening. Olivia Haviland reflects on her high school years, sharing how her dad's willingness to listen without judgment made her feel seen and valued. Rather than resorting to harsh discipline, Matt Haviland chose to open a dialogue, striving to understand Olivia's perspective and guide rather than simply correct. This practice, inspired by a national survey in which teens wished their dads would "listen more," is a reminder for all fathers: be present, and let your daughter's voice be heard. Meaningful Moments Big and Small Connection isn't always about the grand gestures. Matt Haviland and Olivia share memories ranging from epic squirt gun battles to heartfelt college essays, and even "loud and obnoxious" declarations of love at McDonald's. Whether it's a shared joke, a drive together, or simply showing up at a dance recital, these moments accumulate into a reservoir of trust and comfort. As Olivia Haviland puts it, time spent together outweighs any material gift. Guidance and Independence Balancing guidance with independence is a recurring theme. Matt Haviland, a former single dad, emphasizes being intentional with the time he shared with Olivia, supporting her dreams while encouraging self-reflection and growth. For Olivia, this support translated into confidence in her career and life decisions—bolstered by her dad's encouragement to think long-term and his faith-based guidance. Real Advice for Real Dads This episode wraps with practical wisdom: prioritize time with your kids, apologize for your mistakes, and let your actions reflect your family values. Both Matt Haviland and Olivia Haviland urge dads everywhere to listen deeply and value presence over presents. Ready to strengthen your bond with your daughter? Listen to this heartfelt episode of The Dad and Daughter Connection and discover how every day can be an opportunity to connect, grow, and become the dad she needs. If you enjoyed this episode we ask you to take a moment to take our Dad and Daughter Connection Survey to let us know more about you as a dad. You can also sign up to get our newsletter to stay connected to our community and we will send items of interest to you to help you to be the dad that you want to be. Feel free to follow me on the following social media platforms: Facebook, Facebook Group, Instagram, LinkedIn, X. TRANSCRIPT Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:02]: Welcome to The Dad and Daughter Connection, the podcast for dads who want to build stronger bonds and raise confident, independent daughters. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:12]: If you're looking to build a stronger bond with your daughter and help her grow into a confident, independent woman, you're in the right place. I'm Dr. Christopher Lewis, and The Dad and Daughter Connection is the podcast where we dive into real stories, expert advice, and practical tips to help you navigate the incredible journey of fatherhood. In every episode, we'll bring you conversations that inspire, challenge, and equip you to show up as the dad your daughter needs. So let's get started, because being a great dad isn't just about being there. It's about truly connecting. Welcome back to the Dad and Daughter Connection, where every week we have a great opportunity to be able to work together to build those connections that we want to have with our daughters one day at a time. You know, I love it that you come back every week because that shows a lot about who you want to be as a father, but also who you want to be and what type of relationship you want to have, relationship that you want to have with your daughter. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:16]: And it takes time, it takes effort, and it takes work. And we have to keep showing up. And it is so important for us to be able to put the work in for ourselves, but also put in the work with our daughters to be able to have that solid relationship that we wanna have. And that's why this podcast exists. Every week, I love being able to bring you different people with different experiences that allow for you to be able to learn, to grow, to get some tools for your toolbox, and to be able to take those and use them for the future. So I am really excited today to have a, I'm gonna say a return guest. It's not really a return guest on this show, but Matt Haviland, is with us. And Matt and his daughter are with us today, his daughter Olivia. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:02]: And Matt is a past guest of a past podcast that I did called Dads with Daughters about 4 years ago. And I'm really excited to be able to have Matt on, but also this time his daughter Olivia, to be able to talk about the relationship that they've been able to build together and also what they've learned along the way to share that with you. Matt, Olivia, thanks so much for being here today. Matt Haviland [00:02:26]: Yeah, Chris, thanks again for having me back. And this is a really It's a really special moment to have Olivia with me today. So say hi. Olivia Haviland [00:02:33]: Hi. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:33]: I'm really excited to have you both here. And I want to go back a little bit because I know, Olivia, you're 20. You know, you're an adult now. You're doing the life thing. You're doing the work thing. You're out there. And as you think back to the relationship that you've been able to build with your dad, what's one thing that your dad did for you that helped you and made you feel truly seen, heard, and valued as a daughter? Olivia Haviland [00:03:02]: Um, I would say in high school, I was struggling a lot with my mental health. And then I was getting myself into a little bit of trouble. And he didn't ground me. Well, there was like boundaries where he grounded me a little bit, but he was more open to like listening as of like why I did the things that I did, instead of just like not hearing me out and just screaming at me, taking my phone, not letting me hang out with my friends and everything. So that meant a lot to me. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:03:32]: And Matt, I guess, take me back to that point for you, because I know you had your own journey as a youth and went through your own stuff. And we talked about, we talked about a lot of that in the first interview that we did. So talk to me about that for you and hearing that from Olivia and how you had to be able to kind of take what you learned to be able to help her? Matt Haviland [00:03:57]: Yeah, I was very grateful for a lot of the experiences that I had, not only personally but also professionally or through mentorship as well. I guess where I can go with that, Chris, is Olivia was born when I was 30 years old, so I wasn't super young. So by the time she's in high school, you know, I'm in my mid-40s. I would like to say I've learned a few things over those 14 or 15 years of parenting her, but I also Just like a lot of people, either parents or— I, I work with fathers also in a professional setting. You know, we learn a lot from our own previous experiences. So the things my own parents did or did not do, so learning how to correct that and apply that as much as possible. Plus working in a fatherhood field for so long, I've obviously picked up tips, either again things that I've taught guys or other men have taught me as well. But it really becomes a lot different instead of me just telling a dad what to do when I actually have to live this out. Matt Haviland [00:04:54]: But I think I could attribute a lot of it to— I was at a conference many years ago, probably 2010, 2012, and they revealed a survey result, a national survey, and they said all these teen kids wish their dad would fill in the blank. And the number one answer was listen more. And that was something that, just like Olivia just said, instead of flying off the handle, telling her how much trouble she's in, let me hear her out first. Olivia Haviland [00:05:18]: Yeah. Matt Haviland [00:05:19]: And then we can go from there. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:05:20]: Now I know that a lot of times, Matt, we as fathers are trying to build those moments, those meaningful moments that connect us with our kids. And what is one of the most meaningful moments that you've been able to share with Olivia and what made it so special? Matt Haviland [00:05:35]: Okay, she said the water fight, so clearly that must have been one. It was April Fool's Day, probably about 4 or 5 years ago. She pranked me in the house and that turned out to a full-blown squirt gun war in the house, actually Super Soakers in the house. Olivia Haviland [00:05:49]: Well, I pranked him once and then he forgot to take the tape off the faucet and pranked himself again. Matt Haviland [00:05:55]: Yeah, she did the old, you know, she tied the rubber band around the sprayer on the kitchen sink. So when I turned on the kitchen sink faucet, it hit me, and then I shut it off and hit myself again. And yes, that is a very— we're gonna remember that forever, having a squirt gun fight in the house. Not recommended. My wife had something to say about it when she got home, but it was very meaningful. Another really meaningful moment on a more emotional level was a couple years ago, Olivia wrote a paper for college, and they were to choose somebody that's inspired them inspired them, and she wrote the paper about me. And it starts out with the words, I am who I am today because of my dad. And I don't th

  4. Sep 7

    Building Lasting Bonds: Intentional Fatherhood with John Azoni

    If you're a dad on a mission to forge a lasting, meaningful bond with your daughter, "The Dad and Daughter Connection" should be your next podcast download. In a recent episode, host Dr. Christopher Lewis sits down with John Azoni, a father of two daughters (ages 9 and 11), who opens up about the real joys and sometimes messy challenges of raising confident, independent girls. Intentionality and Presence From the very start, Dr. Christopher Lewis sets the tone: fatherhood isn't about achieving perfection, but about truly connecting and learning as you go. Each week, the podcast dives into stories and practical advice to help dads show up with intention. As John Azoni shares, "There's no one right way to father our daughters," but we can always add new tools to our toolbox by learning from each other. Creating Meaningful Memories A standout theme of this episode is making memories, both big and small. John Azoni recounts an unforgettable trip to Japan with his daughter for her 10th birthday—a tradition inspired by a parenting book. But the heart of the conversation reveals that it's often the simplest moments, like cooking together or going for wonton soup every Thursday, that mean the most. One-on-one time, even a half hour at bedtime, can become the foundation for lifelong connections. Honesty, Growth, and Mistakes Both John Azoni and Dr. Christopher Lewis candidly discuss the challenges—especially during difficult times like COVID or navigating questions around faith. John Azoni is honest about making mistakes, from losing patience to not always having the answers. The key lesson? "I make a lot of mistakes and I've learned to be okay with that… I want my kids to grow up and know their dad was crazy about them." Encouragement to Other Dads The episode wraps with powerful advice: Be intentional. Don't let stress distract you from what really matters. As John Azoni puts it, "The grass is greener where you water it"—the relationships you invest in now will shape the future. If you're a dad, or know someone who is, this episode is a must-listen. It's a heartfelt reminder that showing up, being present, and embracing imperfection are the real keys to building an unbreakable bond with your daughter. Listen to the full episode of The Dad and Daughter Connection to get inspired and start your journey toward a stronger relationship today! If you enjoyed this episode we ask you to take a moment to take our Dad and Daughter Connection Survey to let us know more about you as a dad. You can also sign up to get our newsletter to stay connected to our community and we will send items of interest to you to help you to be the dad that you want to be. Feel free to follow me on the following social media platforms: Facebook, Facebook Group, Instagram, LinkedIn, X. TRANSCRIPT Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:02]: Welcome to The Dad and Daughter Connection, the podcast for dads who want to build stronger bonds and raise confident, independent daughters. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:12]: If you're looking to build a stronger bond with your daughter and help her grow into a confident, independent woman, you're in the right place. I'm Dr. Christopher Lewis, and The Dad and Daughter Connection is the podcast where we dive into real stories, expert advice, and practical tips to help you navigate the incredible journey of fatherhood. In every episode, we'll bring you conversations that inspire, challenge, and equip you to show up as the dad your daughter needs. So let's get started, because being a great dad isn't just about being there, it's about truly connecting. Welcome back to the Dad and Daughter Connection, where every week we have a great opportunity to be able to connect with one another and work on building those that we want with our daughters one day at a time. I love that you come back every week because all of us are on a journey. Whether you have toddlers, whether you have a baby at home, whether you have teenagers at home, whether you have adult kids, we all are on this continuum of being a father to a daughter. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:19]: And we can always learn more. We can always learn more to help us to be able to be better in the role that we have. We're gonna stumble, we're gonna fall, That's okay. All of us do it. There's no one right way to father our daughters. But what we can do is we can learn from other dads what's working for them, what's not working for them, and build some tools for our own toolbox, add some tools for our own toolbox, and be able to get just that much better every day because that's what we need to be doing. to be able to be there for our daughters. That's what we need to be doing to be able to be present. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:59]: And I am really excited to have another new guest this week. John Azoni is with us today, and John's a father of 2 daughters who are 9 and 11. And we're gonna be talking about the journey that he's been on with his daughters. And I'm really excited to have him here today. John, thanks so much for being here. John Azoni [00:02:15]: Thanks for having me. It's great to be here. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:17]: You know, it's really, I'm really excited to be able to have you here today and to be able to talk to you about the journey that you have been on thus far with your daughters. And I guess one of the things that I always think about when it comes to raising our daughters is we're always running after those moments. We want those moments with our kids. And as you think back to the years that you've had with your daughters thus far, what's one of the most meaningful moments that you've been able to share with them and what made it so special? And one thing I'll add is they could be separate moments as well. John Azoni [00:02:49]: So I read this book a number of years ago called Love Does. The author is Bob Goff and it's a faith-based book. And in it, he talks a lot about parenting. parenting. And he told the story of taking his kids when they turned 10 on a trip anywhere in the world they want to go to, really leaning into what is it that they are becoming, what is it that they're interested in, and, and where can we go in the world to kind of deepen that. And so I always thought that that was a cool idea. And my daughter, when she turned 10 last year, my daughter Ellie, in my mind I was kind of like maybe somewhere in the United States. I don't remember explicitly saying anywhere in the world. John Azoni [00:03:25]: So when my daughter was like, I want to go to Japan, I was like, oh, okay. Well, so after a lot of hemming and hawing, I talked to my wife. She's like, just do it. It's like once in a lifetime. We're like, all right, we're going to Japan. So, so we went to Tokyo last May and it was so cool just to learn about another culture together, to really press into, you know, the stuff that she likes. She's really into K-pop. It's obviously not in Korea, but somewhere over there. John Azoni [00:03:54]: She's into that kind of Asian culture and Hello Kitty. And they have the biggest Hello Kitty store in the world there, uh, video games and arcades where she can and do all the— she loves playing those claw games, which are really popular in Asian countries. So, so it was great. I mean, we just traveled around, we ate good food, we went to Paris Disney, um, and just spent a week together. That— and, and even just like, it was a pretty short trip, but— and people were like, well, you're just going for like 5 days? Like, aren't you gonna be— I mean, like, a big part of that is just traveling, you know? By the time you get there, I think we had 3 full days there. And I was just like, you know, it's, it's the adventure. It's like traveling is, is part of it. We're gonna learn how to do the airport together. John Azoni [00:04:30]: So on the way there, I kind of led the charge, but on the way back I was like, All right, where do you think we should turn to get to baggage claim or stuff like that? Or where do you think we should go to get our bags checked? So that was fun. And, you know, I've had other special experiences with my youngest daughter, Ryland. Currently though, we're planning her trip. She wants to go to Paris. So we're planning on going to Paris next year. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:04:50]: Those will be experiences that they will never forget. And definitely you don't have to do these huge moments. They can be small moments as well. But I had an experience like that last year with my oldest who is in college, but she was out in Colorado and I picked her up from a camp she was working in and we spent a week going to all the national parks all around in that area. So we went to Zion and Bryce and Grand Canyon and Petrified Forest, all kinds of places. And we hiked and we just had an amazing experience. And I think when you have those opportunities, not only are they great opportunities to be able to have to build memories, but you have time one-on-one. And I think that's even more important. John Azoni [00:05:32]: Yeah, one-on-one time is really special. So last weekend, my oldest daughter went to Florida with my wife because she does dance, and her dance group went to go perform at Disney in the parade. And so that was just a life dream of hers. And she got this one-on-one time with my wife. And previously, we were kind of like, all right, we're Disney'd out. We've been to Disney World. We've been on a Disney cruise. I took Ellie to Disney in Tokyo. John Azoni [00:05:58]: And we've been to Disneyland when we went to California last year. And my wife was kind of like, all right, this is the last time I got to go to Disney. And then I get a text from her in the middle of it. She's like, this is so great. It's such a different experience being one-on-one with Ellie and we're just having the best time. And at the same time, I'm home with Ryland and we had our own special weekend. We,

  5. Aug 24

    How to Let Go and Let Grow: Encouraging Independence in Daughters

    Are you a dad searching for practical ways to foster a stronger bond and raise your daughter to be capable, resilient, and self-assured? The latest episode of The Dad and Daughter Connection is a must-listen. Host Dr. Christopher Lewis welcomes Lenore Skenazy, journalist, author, and founder of the Free-Range Kids movement, for a timely, inspiring discussion on balancing love, trust, and independence in parenting. Challenging the Culture of Fear One of the episode's powerful themes is how today's parents are conditioned to overprotect. Lenore Skenazy recounts the story that ignited her movement: letting her nine-year-old son navigate the New York City subway alone, only to face national backlash and probing "what ifs" from the media. As Lenore Skenazy explains at 10:01, our culture fixates on the rarest tragedies—like stranger abductions—despite statistical evidence showing how unlikely they are. This fear loop not only restricts children's experiences but also saps much of the joy and pride of seeing them grow. The Power of Trust and Letting Go Dr. Christopher Lewis and Lenore Skenazy discuss the essential "trust loop," where letting children try things on their own—whether it's walking to the store or making pancakes—builds both competence and confidence. As Lenore Skenazy beautifully puts it at 30:28, "When adults step back, kids step up." True confidence, she explains, grows from real experiences and problem-solving, not empty reassurance. Practical Steps for Parents The episode offers actionable advice for dads: let your kids help (even messily) when they're small, encourage them to do things by themselves, and support their social independence with unstructured play. Check out the suggestions at 27:18—like organizing Free Play Fridays or starting your own "let grow" experiences. Not only will your children blossom, but you'll also rediscover the pride that comes from witnessing their real-world triumphs. Join the Movement This episode isn't just for dads. Anyone who wants to see children thrive in today's anxious, scheduled world should tune in. Lenore Skenazy shares hope, humor, and evidence-based insights that will inspire you to let go—and let grow. Ready to break the cycle and raise the confident daughter you know she can be? Listen to the full conversation now at dadanddaughterconnection.com and join a community of dads committed to showing up, connecting, and empowering the next generation. If you enjoyed this episode we ask you to take a moment to take our Dad and Daughter Connection Survey to let us know more about you as a dad. You can also sign up to get our newsletter to stay connected to our community and we will send items of interest to you to help you to be the dad that you want to be. Feel free to follow me on the following social media platforms: Facebook, Facebook Group, Instagram, LinkedIn, X. TRANSCRIPT Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:02]: Welcome to The Dad and Daughter Connection, the podcast for dads who want to build stronger bonds and raise confident, independent daughters. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:12]: If you're looking to build a stronger bond with your daughter and help her grow into a confident, independent woman, you're in the right place. I'm Dr. Christopher Lewis, and The Dad and Daughter Connection is the podcast where we dive into real stories, expert advice, and practical tips to help you navigate the incredible journey of fatherhood. In every episode, we'll bring you conversations that inspire, challenge, and equip you to show up as the dad your daughter needs. So let's get started. Because being a great dad isn't just about being there. It's about truly connecting. Welcome back to the Dad and Daughter Connection, where every week we have a great opportunity to be able to connect with not only one another, but But to be able to work and grow, to be able to become those dads that we wanna become and to be able to build the relationships and the connections that we want to build with our daughters. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:11]: I love it that you come back every week because every week there is something new that you can learn, some new tools you can add into your toolbox and things that you can do to be able to move yourself just maybe a little bit, maybe a lot, to be able to help you to be that dad that you want to be To your daughters. And that's why this podcast exists. Every week I bring you different people. We have different conversations, all in alignment to help you to be able to move forward one step at a time. It's not always gonna be easy. Being a father is not always gonna be easy, and that's okay. That's why I love being able to walk with you on this journey. You know, I'm a father of 2 daughters. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:52]: There are times that I stumble and fall and make mistakes just like you, but we all can learn. One step at a time. And today we've got another great guest. Lenore Skenazy is with us today, and I'm really excited to be able to have Lenore on because if you've ever wondered whether kids are being overprotected or whether parents are under more pressure than ever, then you're going to enjoy today's conversation because Lenore Skenazy, who is a journalist, she's an author, she's founder of the Free-Range Kids Movement, is with us today. Now, she's often called America's worst mom after allowing her 9-year-old son to ride the subway alone, Lenore turned that experience into a national conversation about raising capable, confident children. Today, through the nonprofit Let Grow, she continues to help families and schools foster independence, resilience, and real-world confidence in kids. Lenore, thanks so much for being here today. Lenore Skenazy [00:02:49]: Well, thank you. Thanks for having me. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:51]: I'm really excited to have you here today. And I always start these conversations with just an opportunity to be able to get to know you and get to know your relationship with your own father, because all of us have fathers, that have helped us to become the people that we've become. And I guess as you think back to your dad, and I know as we, we talked at the very beginning, your dad's been gone for a number of years, but as you think back to the relationship that you had with your father, what's one of the things that your father did that made you truly feel seen, heard, and valued as a daughter? Lenore Skenazy [00:03:21]: Well, I'll tell you one of the things he didn't do, and I think that was the most significant, which is that he didn't expect me or my sister— my dad had 2 daughters just like you— to be anything in particular. We didn't have to be doctors, lawyers. We almost didn't have to be successful. We just had to be ourselves. And ironically, he was so into sports. He was so into sports that he started a tennis club. That was his job for the last 30 years of his life. He built one of the first indoor tennis clubs in the suburbs of Chicago where we grew up. Lenore Skenazy [00:03:51]: Beautiful place. He was the president of it until the day he died. Ran tennis clinics and tennis parties and tennis tournaments. And my sister and I never had to play tennis. And I thought, that is pretty amazing. You know, it's not like my kid has to be a mini-me. We didn't have to be mini-anythings. And I was really grateful for that because I was never interested in any sport. Lenore Skenazy [00:04:14]: And that didn't bother him as much as he loved sports. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:04:17]: As you think back on your dad, how did he encourage you to be confident and independent in the things that you were doing and to support you in the passion and the dreams that you had? Lenore Skenazy [00:04:29]: Well, here's the deal. He always believed in me and my sister that anything we were ready to do, that was fine. And as he got older, the thing that, that we would have the most fun with is he would call up and, and he ended up in a wheelchair for like the last 12 years. So he's looking for fun. And it was always, Laura, tell me a joke, because we just love jokes. It was the era when people did tell whole long jokes. You know, a guy walks into a bar, a man's, uh, you know, guys on a golf course, whatever it was. And I don't say that he turned me into a public speaker, but he certainly realized the value of good timing and trying to get that, nail that punchline. Lenore Skenazy [00:05:09]: And knowing that part of, I just read the book A Gentleman in Moscow by, I guess, Amor Towles. And one sentence he said in there struck me as so profound. It's the novel of a guy confined to a luxury hotel since the beginning of the Russian Revolution until he's very aged. And he adapts to the fact that he'll never be able to leave this hotel. And at first, he's just a rich guy, and then he ends up getting a job there. And he's— everything he does, he does with incredible aplomb and tact and kindness. And towards the end, he said, a cheerful demeanor, which is the hallmark of an intelligent person, blah, blah, blah. And I thought, being cheerful is— it's an obligation, right? And you can rise to it. Lenore Skenazy [00:05:52]: And it is the mark of somebody smart, not somebody silly and goofy, because it means that you're putting somebody else's emotions sometimes ahead of your own. Speaker D [00:06:01]: Yeah. Lenore Skenazy [00:06:01]: And also recognizing that the sort of the more cheerful you are, certainly the more you try to put yourself out there, it pays you back. And so everybody, it's the rising tide for all the boats, all those glum boats out there. And my dad was always trying to do that. You know, he would ask the waitress, honey, what's your name? Oh, okay, Samantha. I would love a cup of coffee. And he had a way of trying to bring things up. And he expected that of me. And I am grateful for that. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:06:32]: Now, I know you said yo

  6. Aug 17

    A Change In Our Format

    Hey everyone, I wanted to take a few minutes to share a little change that's coming to The Dad & Daughter Connection. For the past several years, I've been bringing you a new episode every single week, and I am incredibly grateful for everyone who listens, shares an episode, recommends the podcast to a friend, or simply takes the time to tune in. This podcast means a lot to me, and getting to have conversations with amazing dads, daughters, authors, experts, and people who have something meaningful to teach us about fatherhood has been an incredible journey. But I've also been reminded of something that I talk about on this podcast all the time: being present matters. As much as I love doing this podcast, I'm also a dad, a husband, and someone with a lot of other responsibilities and commitments. And I've realized that trying to maintain a weekly schedule can sometimes mean I'm stretching myself a little too thin. So, beginning today, The Dad & Daughter Connection will be moving from a weekly podcast to an every-other-week schedule. Now, I want to be very clear: this isn't about slowing down or giving you less. In fact, it's about making sure I can continue giving you the kind of conversations and content you've come to expect from this podcast. I want to have the time to find great guests, ask thoughtful questions, have meaningful conversations, and produce episodes that are worth your time. And just as importantly, I want to make sure I'm protecting time for the people who matter most to me—my family. Because if I'm going to spend my time talking about the importance of being present for our daughters, I need to make sure I'm practicing what I preach. So, you're still going to hear the stories, the conversations, the laughs, and hopefully a few things that make you think differently about being a dad and raising strong, confident, independent daughters. You'll just hear them every other week instead of every week. I hope you'll stick with me for the journey. And if you've been listening all along, thank you. I truly appreciate you being part of The Dad & Daughter Connection community. Until next time, keep connecting with your daughters, keep having those important conversations, and most importantly, keep showing up.

  7. Aug 10

    Trust, Growth, and Connection: A Father's Journey with a Non-Binary Child

    This week's episode of "The Dad and Daughter Connection" delves into the evolving journey of fatherhood, offering a heartfelt conversation with author and workplace culture expert Ed Frauenheim. Through candid storytelling and honest reflection, the episode explores what it really means to support our children—especially when their paths unfold in ways we never expected. Dr. Christopher Lewis opens with his signature warmth, reminding listeners that the core of fatherhood isn't perfection, but presence. The conversation quickly pivots to Ed Frauenheim's personal growth as a father to Skyla, his strong-willed, non-binary child. Their story is not just about adjusting to pronouns or grappling with change, but about learning the art of persistent, trusting connection. One major theme running through the conversation is trust. Ed Frauenheim candidly shares early struggles trying to control Skyla, only to discover the power of letting go—of giving space, listening deeply, and trusting his child's autonomy. He admits the journey wasn't always smooth, referencing honest and sometimes painful moments of conflict that led to growth. It's the small shifts—choosing to draw beside Skyla instead of insisting on homework—that became turning points, building a deeper bond rooted in respect. The episode masterfully unpacks the challenges of moving past parental expectations when faced with a child's evolving identity. Ed Frauenheim reflects on the initial mourning and adjustments after Skyla came out as non-binary, and the courage it took to support them fully, even in spaces steeped in traditional notions of masculinity. Through his vulnerability, listeners are offered a blueprint for embracing discomfort as a catalyst for connection and understanding. Additional highlights include practical tips for other dads: creating a home where listening is prioritized, learning together about new concepts, and bringing levity to sensitive journeys through shared experiences. Ed Frauenheim emphasizes the value of apologizing, modeling openness, and never giving up on the pursuit of genuine connection. If you're a parent, caregiver, or anyone seeking to better support the young people in your life, this episode is a must-listen. It's a tribute to adaptability, unconditional love, and the transformative power of trust. Tune in for actionable wisdom, moving anecdotes, and inspiration to keep showing up, even when the path is uncertain. Catch the full episode at dadanddaughterconnection.com, and remember—the journey isn't about being perfect. It's about being present, persistent, and ready to grow. If you enjoyed this episode we ask you to take a moment to take our Dad and Daughter Connection Survey to let us know more about you as a dad. You can also sign up to get our newsletter to stay connected to our community and we will send items of interest to you to help you to be the dad that you want to be. Feel free to follow me on the following social media platforms: Facebook, Facebook Group, Instagram, LinkedIn, X. TRANSCRIPT Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:02]: Welcome to The Dad and Daughter Connection, the podcast for dads who want to build stronger bonds and raise confident, independent daughters. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:12]: If you're looking to build a stronger bond with your daughter and help her grow into a confident, independent woman, you're in the right place. I'm Dr. Christopher Lewis, and The Dad and Daughter Connection is the podcast where we dive into real stories, expert advice, and practical tips to help you navigate the incredible journey of fatherhood. In every episode, we'll bring you conversations that inspire, challenge, and equip you to show up as the dad your daughter needs. So let's get started. Because being a great dad isn't just about being there. It's about truly connecting. Welcome back to the Dad and Daughter Connection, where every week we have a great opportunity, we have a great opportunity to be able to come together to and grow together to be able to work on those relationships that we want to have with our daughters, to help us to be able to create those solid relationships, those solid bonds that are going to help our daughters to become the people that they are becoming in their lives. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:15]: That's why, that's why every week I love being able to introduce you to people with different experiences, people from all different types of walks of life that have had different experiences that'll help you to be able to, I guess, in a way, reframe and to think about How are you fathering? Because not every father will father in the same ways, and that's perfectly fine. What's important is that we learn along the way. We take those bits that make sense. Maybe we adjust those things that don't work for our family, and we help ourselves to become just a little bit better every day. Because by us becoming a little bit better, our kids are going to be better, and we're going to be able to have those relationships and those— and build those connections that are going to last a lifetime. This week, we got another great guest. Ed Frauenheim is with us. And Ed is an author, a researcher, a speaker, and a workplace culture expert whose work explores how redefining masculinity can help men lead healthier, more connected, and more fulfilling lives. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:19]: He's a co-author of Reinventing Masculinity: The Liberating Power of Compassion and Connection, a book that examines the shift from outdated restrictive ideas of manhood toward a more compassionate and emotionally healthy vision of masculinity. And in addition to his work on masculinity, he's also, also a father of 2. We're going to talk about his own journey as a father. And we're going to be able to talk a little bit further about what he's had to go through in this journey that he's been on as well. So I'm really excited to have him here. Ed, thanks so much for being here today. Ed Frauenheim [00:02:53]: Thanks, Christopher. It's a real pleasure to be with you here. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:56]: It's my pleasure having you here today. And I, I'm going to be very honest with Everyone that Ed has been on a podcast with me before, he and I did a podcast on my past podcast, Dads with Daughters. And on that podcast, we talked a lot more about Reinventing Masculinity. We're not going to talk as much about the book this go around. So I encourage you that if you want to learn a lot more about Reinventing Masculinity, I talked to Ed right when that book came out. So I encourage you to go over, I'll put a link in the notes today where you can find that other podcast. And you can listen there and learn even more. And but Today what we're going to do is first we're going to start off by chatting a little bit more about being a father. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:03:38]: And we're going to talk about some of the journey that you've been on. And I know you have 2 kids, you have a son, and then you have a non-binary child that at birth was a daughter and now is non-binary. And we're going to talk about that journey as well. So I always start off with a few questions that just to get a little bit of a sense about you as a dad. Ed Frauenheim [00:03:56]: Okay. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:03:56]: And one of the things that I love being able to delve a little bit into is as fathers, one of the things that we try to do is we try to create those moments, those moments where we can really bond with our kids, really be able to share special times and special moments with our kids as well. What's one of the most meaningful moments that you've been able to share with your youngest and what made it so special? Ed Frauenheim [00:04:20]: Thanks for that great question, Christopher. The one that comes to mind with my child Skyla, as you mentioned, Skyla was born in a female body and now identifies as non-binary. Maybe when Skyla was 9 or so, we were butting heads a lot. We were in conflict in, in part because Skyla is quite strong-willed and I can be a little bit controlling as well, or especially back then as a dad. And I remember this moment where I was in charge of making sure the kids, and Skyla in particular, got started on their homework. And I said, Skyla, time to do your homework now. And Skyla had been doing something with like cutouts and, and making some drawings, and they said, I'm, I'm, I'm almost done. Why don't you draw with me. Ed Frauenheim [00:05:02]: And I did. I kind of let down my kind of controlling guard, if you will, and immersed myself a bit in Skyla's world. And they were making these interesting characters, cartoon characters. I can't remember the name right now, but I learned how Skyla was drawing them, and I drew my own, and it was a loving experience. And then after we did that for maybe 20, 30 minutes, Skyla happily went on to her homework. their homework. And I say her there, Christopher, because you and I were talking before the podcast started about how it's— I'm still struggling to get the pronouns right, even though I'm trying to honor as best I can Skyla's non-binary identity. But many years of calling Skyla by female pronouns are still hard to shake sometimes. Ed Frauenheim [00:05:43]: And Skyla, to their credit, gives me a lot of grace, a lot of room for growth there, and does not jump down my throat when I throw out a she or her. So anyways, to me, it was a moment of connection, a moment of realizing I could trust my child. I could trust that I didn't have to be this disciplinarian and give more space in the relationship and really kind of honor Skyla's will to chart their course and figure out what they want to do and when. And yeah, I had some boundaries to set, but being a little flexible in that moment really made a difference and I think helped us to repair a bond that wasn't so strong and has gotten stronger ever since in a lot of ways. Dr. C

  8. Aug 3

    Empowering Daughters: Alan Mallory on Guiding with Adventure and Trust

    This week on The Dad and Daughter Connection, Dr. Christopher Lewis welcomed adventurer and performance coach Alan Mallory for an inspiring conversation on what it means to truly connect with your daughters. If you're a dad seeking real-world advice, heartfelt stories, and strategies to build stronger family ties, this episode is a must-listen. One of the most impactful themes that emerged is the importance of quality time and shared adventures. Alan Mallory talked passionately about how he's embraced experiences with his two daughters, from spontaneous ski trips to months traveling across the country in a fifth wheel trailer. These journeys provided special opportunities, not just for fun, but for deep conversations and growth. "When it's just the two of us, you can connect on a deeper level," he shared, highlighting the magic of one-on-one time. But beyond the adventures, Alan Mallory emphasized the vital balance between guidance and independence. He champions a parenting style rooted in mentorship rather than control: "You can't dictate the direction… you have to give them that latitude". This philosophy was shaped by his own experiences, like summiting Mount Everest alongside his family—and by seeing how trust and empowerment forge the strongest bonds. Another powerful thread: fostering communication and emotional growth. Mallory admitted to struggling at times, especially when it comes to connecting on the emotional level, teaching us all that vulnerability makes for better dads: "I could probably think of a few times where I should have been more empathetic… and just listened". It's a message that resonates—sometimes the greatest gift we can offer is our presence and our ears. For dads supporting daughters' passions or mental health journeys, this episode is rich with wisdom: encourage experimentation, be the gentle guide, and above all, show up—time is fleeting, and investing those hours pays lifelong dividends. The Dad and Daughter Connection is a source of community and inspiration for fathers everywhere. Whether you're seeking reassurance or a nudge to start a new adventure, tune in—this conversation with Alan Mallory will remind you that being a great dad is about being present, facing the adventures together, and empowering your daughter to blaze her own trail. Ready to strengthen your bond? Listen to the episode now and start building those lasting connections! If you enjoyed this episode we ask you to take a moment to take our Dad and Daughter Connection Survey to let us know more about you as a dad. You can also sign up to get our newsletter to stay connected to our community and we will send items of interest to you to help you to be the dad that you want to be. Feel free to follow me on the following social media platforms: Facebook, Facebook Group, Instagram, LinkedIn, X. TRANSCRIPT Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:02]: Welcome to the dad and Daughter Connection, the podcast for dads who want to build stronger bonds and raise confident, independent daughters. If you're looking to build a stronger bond with your daughter and help her grow into a confident, independent woman, you're in the right place. I'm Dr. Christopher Lewis, and the dad and Daughter Connection is the podcast where we dive into real stories, expert advice, and practical tips to help you navigate the incredible journey of fatherhood. In every episode, we'll bring you conversations that inspire, challenge, and equip you to show up as the dad your daughter needs. So let's get started, because being a great dad isn't just about being there. It's about truly connecting. Welcome back to the dad and Daughter Connection, where every week we have a great opportunity to be able to talk about, but also work on those relationships that we want to build with our own daughters one step at a time. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:04]: And I'm so excited that you come back every week because we're all on a journey. We're all on a journey of trying to be the best dads that we want to be and the best dads that we can be. But to get there, we've got to put in the time. We got to put in the effort. We got to learn from other dads around us and see what they're doing, see what makes sense and what works for them. But maybe, maybe that will work for you as well, and that's why this podcast exists. This podcast exists to help you to be able to connect with other dads, but also to learn from some other dads that have different experiences. And I love being able to bring you different people with different experiences every week that can do just that. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:39]: Today we got another great guest. Alan Mallory is with us. And Alan is a dynamic speaker. He's an author, he is a performance coach. But I saw him at a recent conference, and he was really talking about some of the things that he's done in his life to push himself beyond who he thought he was and who he thought he could be. He. In his presentations, he gives kind of a unique blend of psychology, engineering, project management, and some artistic flair to be able to make the presentations really a dynamic one. And in the conversation that he gave to the Rotary group that I was with, I loved the message that he gave because he really rooted his messages in his experiences, both as an adventurer, a mountaineer, but really talking about the things that he's done with his family, to be able to keep them, to bring them together and seeing that he is a father. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:33]: Of two daughters. I wanted to bring him on to talk a little bit about his own experience in being a father to daughters. So, Alan, thanks so much for being here today. Alan Mallory [00:02:41]: My pleasure. Looking forward to it. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:42]: Well, I'm really looking forward to talking to you today. And as I said, even before we started, I said this is kind of a topic that's a little bit different than ones that probably you talk about all the time. And I always start the interviews with an opportunity because I know that you have two daughters yourself, 12 and 8. And all of us as fathers want to create those moments, those meaningful moments, those things that we can share with our daughters that they'll remember but also will remember and that bring us closer together. What's one's, what's, what is the most meaningful moment that you've been able to share with your daughters and what made it so special? Alan Mallory [00:03:15]: I don't know if I could boil it down to one meaningful moment, but I mean, I've kind of emulated what my father did with me and my siblings and that spend a lot of quality time, especially out doing adventures with. With my kids. And so in many ways, I'm kind of blessed in the vocation I've chosen. I because I'm traveling all over the place, often I' bring one of my kids along and both my daughters always spent some amazing quality time. Even this past winter, different ski trips, for example, where it's just kind of a dad daughter ski trip, or when I have events in Hawaii or in kind of tropical locations, often they put their heads up to come along with those. And I found those particularly special when it's just the two of us and you can kind of connect on a deeper level and just have fun as well. It's not a chore if you're doing things that you would normally like to do anyway and that they'll like to do. And so we go kayaking or stand up paddleboarding or do some sort of adventure. Alan Mallory [00:04:11]: And I found those are the most special moments. Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:04:14]: Now your daughters are getting older and you've got that daughter that's a pre tween now and another daughter following not too far behind. And as they get older, they definitely push to get more independence. How do you balance guiding your daughters while still giving them that independence that they need to be able to grow into the people that they're bec. Alan Mallory [00:04:34]: Yeah, I mean, that's the balance that's hard to strike. And we, all of us, that are parents really go through that. One of my programs I share kind of A curve between. It's a parabolic relationship in that you have a mentor role that you want to kind of nudge your daughters in the right direction or what you believe is the right direction, but you can't dictate that direction. And that's what's almost makes the parenting journey such a roller coaster. They're their own people and sometimes they make. They need to learn through decisions that are made. And, you know, that's how we learn. Alan Mallory [00:05:03]: If we kind of prevent them from discovering and innovating and all of that, then they just end up with bigger problems down the road. And so it's through small. Allowing them the independence to make small mistakes in many ways, while providing that father mentor role that I think allows them to develop healthily. And it's a difficult balance to get. And I would say in many ways it's a balance that our society has really gone one way on. And that's this kind of, you know, over controlling, bubble wrapping our children rather than allowing them to make mistakes in life, for example. But if you want them to be strong, independent people, you have to give them that latitude. I'd say that's another thing that I learned from my father, for good or bad. Alan Mallory [00:05:46]: You know, he was always a very empowering person. We climbed Mount Everest in 2008, and this was with my father, brother, sister and I. And so also I was kind of learning from how he treated all of us, especially my sister in this case. There was one instance where basically we were in the death zone above 26,000ft. And he empowered her to kind of make her own decision, whether she wanted to continue on or not. And she was all by herself at that point because she had the altitude weakens your immune system. And so she had these awful sicknesses and she had

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