Someone Had To Say It

LA and Tope Doks
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From Love, Faith and Family to navigating the chaos of modern life, we tackle the topics that everyone's thinking about but no one wants to say out loud! This is Someone Had To Say It with LA & Tope Doks.

  1. FROM HARD MEN TO SOFT MEN: GENTLE OR WEAK GENERATION?

    1D AGO

    FROM HARD MEN TO SOFT MEN: GENTLE OR WEAK GENERATION?

    In this episode of Someone Had to Say It, Olaoluwa and Temitope sit down for one of the most important conversations happening right now: the rise of the "soft man." We're not here to throw stones — we're here to ask the questions most people are too afraid to ask out loud.Are men today becoming emotionally intelligent, or are they simply responding to a world where traditional male dominance is fading? Is the gentleness we're seeing genuine growth, or a survival mechanism dressed up as emotional maturity?We go deep on why women say they want sensitive, emotionally available men — and why that same sensitivity can quietly kill attraction over time. We talk about toxic masculinity, unlearning generational trauma, and whether the pendulum has swung too far in the other direction.In this episode, we discuss:What "soft" actually means — and why the definition mattersWhether emotional intelligence in men is growth or a reaction to lost powerWhy women lose attraction to the sensitive men they claim to wantThe difference between toxic masculinity and genuine strengthWhat a healthy, godly man looks like in today's worldHow to raise boys who are strong and emotionally safeThis episode is for you if:You're a man trying to figure out where you stand in a rapidly changing worldYou're a woman who's confused about what you actually want in a partnerYou're a parent raising boys and wondering how to get the balance rightYou're a Christian couple navigating masculinity and femininity in modern culture🎧 LISTEN ON:Youtube: https://youtu.be/H-GUSuw_EPQApple Podcasts: https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbU9pR1VjLUxQY1FrNHJMMlA4ejBKSnFjOTB5UXxBQ3Jtc0ttZWZSMGgwOUlqaGxXdUhWbTMwLXlFeWp4aFNRTjJFcUlZcTMzempFMnRtR0VOMmxMT3g0ZTlrN1lWQXNrMVJSbWE0Q1JGR1ZySFFfcW5KOVR2MUw1bE9pOFRWenFNbGt0V29uX1h1d1lhcFVEUkhUWQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fpodcasts.apple.com%2Fus%2Fpodcast%2Fsomeone-had-to-say-it%2Fid1798080321&v=KhA67AXSV7I📲 FOLLOW US FOR MORE:Instagram: @someonehadtosayit.podTikTok: @someonehadtosayit.pod#SoftMen #Masculinity #ChristianPodcast #Manhood #ToxicMasculinity #GodlyMan #RelationshipAdvice #NigerianPodcast #AfricanDiaspora #SomeonHadToSayIt #FaithAndRelationships #EmotionalIntelligence #ChristianCouples #MarriageAdvice #MenAndWomen

    47 min
  2. WHY INFIDELITY HAPPENS IN MARRIAGES

    FEB 6

    WHY INFIDELITY HAPPENS IN MARRIAGES

    Infidelity is one of the most painful and misunderstood issues in relationships.In this episode of the Someone Had to Say it Podcast, Olaoluwa and Temitope Oladokun have an honest, thoughtful conversation about cheating, why it happens, what it reveals about relationships, and the real cost it carries for trust, intimacy, and identity.We move beyond surface-level blame to explore the emotional, psychological, and relational factors behind infidelity. From unmet needs and poor boundaries to entitlement, secrecy, and unresolved conflict, we ask the questions many people avoid.Whether you’ve experienced infidelity personally, are trying to rebuild trust, or simply want healthier relationships, this conversation will challenge how you think about cheating and faithfulness.In this episode, we discuss:Why people cheat Infidelity as a symptom vs the real issueBoundaries, honesty, and personal responsibility💬 Join the conversation in the comments.Chapters:If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to:👍 Like🔔 Subscribe📤 Share with someone who needs this conversation

    41 min
  3. MORE THAN WHAT YOU'RE WEARING - THE MODESTY CONVERSATION

    07/25/2025

    MORE THAN WHAT YOU'RE WEARING - THE MODESTY CONVERSATION

    Welcome to this seasons finale of Someone Had to Say It! with Olaoluwa and Temitope Oladokun.In this episode, we’re unpacking a topic that’s been quietly controversial in Christian circles for years: modesty. Is it just about how we dress—or is there more to it?Join us as we dive deep into the modesty conversation, asking the uncomfortable but necessary questions, like:What really comes to mind when we hear “modesty”—and where did those ideas originate?Has modesty been reduced to fashion policing instead of cultivating a posture of the heart?Where’s the line between confidence and showing off in a Christian context?When does personal expression (fashion, makeup, aesthetics) cross into vanity or distraction?Are men held to the same modesty standards, or is this a gendered expectation?How can we teach modesty in a way that’s both biblically grounded and compassionately framed?This episode is for anyone who’s ever wrestled with the tension between personal style and spiritual values. Whether you’ve been judged, done the judging, or are simply trying to understand how modesty fits into today’s faith walk—we’re talking about it.Because maybe modesty isn’t just about what’s on your body… but what’s going on in your heart.🎧 LISTEN ON:Youtube: https://youtu.be/ewpZSH80UdAApple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...📲 FOLLOW US FOR MORE:Instagram: @someonehadtosayit.podTikTok: @someonehadtosayit.podLet us know in the comments:What shaped your view of modesty growing up? And how has it evolved over time? Share your thoughts—we’d love to hear from you.Subscribe to Someone Had to Say It! on Spotify or Apple Podcasts so you never miss the conversations that someone had to say. 🎙️

    1h 1m
  4. TOO PICKY IN DATING? HOW TO BALANCE STANDARDS AND LOVE

    07/11/2025

    TOO PICKY IN DATING? HOW TO BALANCE STANDARDS AND LOVE

    Welcome back to Someone Had to Say It! with Olaoluwa and Temitope Oladokun. In this episode, we’re tackling a hot topic in modern relationships: Is there such a thing as being too picky in dating? Join us as we dive into the nuances of dating standards, exploring when pickiness is a strength and when it might hold you back from meaningful connection. We unpack: What does "picky" really mean? Is having high standards a bad thing, or a sign of self-respect? Healthy standards vs. unrealistic expectations: Where’s the line between knowing your worth and chasing a delusion disguised as a preference? Fear in modern dating: Are people more afraid of settling for the wrong partner or facing loneliness? The “ick” factor: Have you ever passed on a great person over a minor flaw or unmet expectation? Choosing well for marriage: What does it mean to make a wise, intentional choice for a lifelong partner? This episode is for anyone navigating the dating world, wrestling with their standards, or seeking clarity on how to choose a partner with purpose. We explore how fear, faith, and modern dating culture shape our decisions, offering practical and spiritual insights for building lasting connections. Because dating isn’t just about finding “the one”, it’s about choosing well. 🎧 LISTEN ON: Youtube: https://youtu.be/tN3EsZfkTvk Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... 📲 FOLLOW US FOR MORE: Instagram: @someonehadtosayit.pod TikTok: @someonehadtosayit.pod Let us know in the comments: What’s been your biggest challenge in balancing standards and openness in dating? Share your story, and let’s grow together. New episodes drop every other week—subscribe to Someone Had to Say It! on Spotify or Apple Podcasts to catch the next conversation that someone had to say. 🎙️

    56 min
  5. PREPARING FOR PARENTHOOD: HOW DO YOU KNOW YOU'RE READY?

    06/27/2025

    PREPARING FOR PARENTHOOD: HOW DO YOU KNOW YOU'RE READY?

    Welcome back to Someone Had to Say It! with Olaoluwa and Temitope Oladokun.In today’s episode, we’re diving into a life-altering transition: preparing for parenthood.• How do you know you’re actually ready to have a child?• What does emotional preparation for parenting even look like?• How does the health of your relationship as a couple impact your parenting journey?• Can you ever truly be financially ready for a baby?• How does becoming a parent shift your sense of identity and your vision for marriage or career?• And how do you prepare spiritually for something so sacred and stretching?This episode is for anyone who’s planning for a child, expecting one, or just wondering what this season requires beyond baby clothes and hospital bags.Because preparing for parenthood isn’t just practical, it’s deeply spiritual.Let’s talk about it.TIMESTAMP:🎧 LISTEN ON:Youtube: https://youtu.be/4L3mm_ogMLUApple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/someone-had-to-say-it/id1798080321📲 FOLLOW US FOR MORE:Instagram: @someonehadtosayit.podTikTok: @someonehadtosayit.podLet us know in the comments:What part of preparing for parenthood has challenged or changed you the most?Let’s grow together.New episodes drop every other week—subscribe so you don’t miss the next conversation that someone had to say. 🎙️

    50 min
  6. FAITH VS HUSTLE CULTURE: BALANCING AMBITION WITH PURPOSE

    06/06/2025

    FAITH VS HUSTLE CULTURE: BALANCING AMBITION WITH PURPOSE

    Welcome back to Someone Had to Say It! with Olaoluwa and Temitope Oladokun.In today’s honest and unfiltered episode, we’re tackling a struggle that sits quietly in many hearts, the tension between faith and hustle culture.From the pressure to “always be grinding” to the guilt of slowing down, we’re asking the hard questions: • How do you know if your ambition is God-led or ego-driven? • Is burnout just bad boundaries—or a sign of misplaced trust? • Can you stay spiritually fervent in an environment that rewards overwork? • What do you do when your church commitments are pulling you one way and your job expectations another? • Is it possible to be both content and ambitious or are those opposites?We’re unpacking what it looks like to pursue excellence without losing your soul, to set goals without worshiping them, and to stay rooted in purpose even when life gets noisy.This episode is for the believer who’s building something but doesn’t want to lose themselves (or their peace) in the process.What does balance look like in a world that’s constantly telling you to do more, be more, prove more?Let’s talk about it.🎧 LISTEN ON:Youtube: https://youtu.be/KhA67AXSV7IApple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/someone-had-to-say-it/id1798080321📲 FOLLOW US FOR MORE:Instagram: @someonehadtosayit.podTikTok: @someonehadtosayit.podLet us know in the comments:How are you navigating ambition, faith, and burnout?What’s helped—or what’s still hard?New episodes drop every other week—subscribe so you don’t miss the next conversation that someone had to say. 🎙️

    59 min
  7. THE PORNOGRAPHY EPISODE: THE SECRET NO ONE IS TALKING ABOUT

    05/23/2025

    THE PORNOGRAPHY EPISODE: THE SECRET NO ONE IS TALKING ABOUT

    Welcome back to Someone Had to Say It! with Olaoluwa and Temitope Oladokun.In today’s unfiltered episode, we’re diving deep into a conversation that many people battle silently—pornography and the quiet wreckage it leaves behind.From early exposure to secret struggles in adulthood, we’re pulling back the curtain on how porn is shaping expectations around sex, intimacy, and love—and the real impact it has on individuals, marriages, and faith.What happens when you’re married but still battling this addiction?How do you even begin to bring it up with your spouse?Can someone truly break free—and how?We’re sharing personal reflections, honest questions, and hope-filled insight for anyone navigating this complex journey.This episode is about more than porn. It’s about truth, vulnerability, healing, and finding your way back to freedom.Whether you’re single, married, healing, or supporting someone who’s struggling—this one’s for you.Would you know what to do if someone you loved confessed a porn addiction? Let’s talk about it.🎧 LISTEN ON:Youtube: https://youtu.be/9O32gpfRBlwApple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/someone-had-to-say-it/id1798080321📲 FOLLOW US FOR MORE:Instagram: @someonehadtosayit.podTikTok: @someonehadtosayit.podLet us know in the comments:Have you or someone you know had to face this battle?What helped—or what do you wish you heard sooner?New episodes drop every other week—subscribe so you don’t miss the next conversation that someone had to say. 🎙️

    1h 8m
  8. LOVE ON A BUDGET: MANAGING MONEY AS A COUPLE

    05/09/2025

    LOVE ON A BUDGET: MANAGING MONEY AS A COUPLE

    Welcome back to Someone Had to Say It! with Olaoluwa and Temitope Oladokun.In today’s unfiltered episode, we’re diving deep into a conversation that many couples tiptoe around—managing money together in a relationship.From awkward first money talks to differing spending styles, we’re breaking down the real-life struggles and strategies that come with loving someone on a budget.Is a formal budget necessary, or can mutual understanding really work?What happens when one person earns more than the other?And how do you handle your partner’s impulse buys without starting World War III?We’re sharing our own stories, practical wisdom, and insight on how couples can thrive financially without losing love or peace in the process.This isn’t just about money, it’s about trust, communication, and building a life together with intention.Whether you’re dating, engaged, or ten years deep in marriage, this one’s for you.Would you and your partner survive a money conversation today? Let’s find out. 🎧 LISTEN ON:Youtube: https://youtu.be/cp9yXepAxJYApple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/someone-had-to-say-it/id1798080321📲 FOLLOW US FOR MORE:Instagram: @someonehadtosayit.podTikTok: @someonehadtosayit.podLet us know in the comments: How do you and your partner manage money?Are you Team Spreadsheet or Team “Let’s Just Trust Each Other”?New episodes drop every other week—subscribe so you don’t miss the next conversation that someone had to say. 🎙️#SomeoneHadToSayIt #LoveOnABudget #ChristianCouples #MoneyAndMarriage #BudgetingTogether #RelationshipGoals #FinancialWisdom #FaithAndFinance #ChristianPodcast #MoneyTalks #CouplesAndCash #SHTSIPodcast

    1h 6m
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From Love, Faith and Family to navigating the chaos of modern life, we tackle the topics that everyone's thinking about but no one wants to say out loud! This is Someone Had To Say It with LA & Tope Doks.

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  • Creator
    LA and Tope Doks
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    14
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © LA and Tope Doks
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    Someone Had To Say It