To The Heights

Sharon Murphy

Change your perspective to change your life.  

  1. 2D AGO

    #57 When Your Husband Isn't Concerned...But You Are

    Send us Fan Mail We talk about the tension of lying awake worried about our adult kids while our husband seems calm, and how that can make us feel alone and pressured. We reframe what his “lack of concern” may mean and practice a calmer way to respond so we can be peaceful, grounded, and present.  • common differences in how mothers and fathers process concern  • the meaning we attach to his calm and how it fuels loneliness  • awareness versus urgency and why urgency creates tension  • the trap of seeking validation so we can feel relief  • overfunctioning and emotional burnout in motherhood  • questions to uncover the fear underneath the worry  • sharing concern with your husband without pressure or blame  • releasing the belief that everything depends on us  • choosing peace, staying present, and building connection to grow influence  If you're a mom with adult children and you're looking to preserve and protect your peace, to feel grounded, to feel present, to deepen the connection that you have with your children and to grow your influence in their lives, then I just want to invite you to take a look at my free guide, the five things your adult child needs to hear from you.  If you have any questions or would like to go deeper into this topic or how it affects you in your own life, you can find me at Sharon KCoaching.com. That's SharonKCoaching.com.  If you've enjoyed listening, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite platform. And feel free to share with anyone you think might benefit from what you've heard.  https://subscribepage.io/The-Five-Things-Your-Adult-Child-Needs-to-Hear-From-You Click the link below to set up a free discovery call to begin your transformation today.  Or email me @ smurph923.sm@gmail.com to find out more about how I can help.   https://calendly.com/smurph923-sm/discovery-call https://sharonkcoaching.com/ https://subscribepage.io/The-Five-Things-Your-Adult-Child-Needs-to-Hear-From-You

    15 min
  2. MAR 26

    #56 Your Nervous System Can Hijack Your Best Intentions

    Send us Fan Mail I talk about why we can feel “triggered” and react instantly in parenting and family conflict even when we’re determined to stay calm. I break down nervous system regulation so we can bring our thinking brain back online, lead with peace, and create safer connection at home.  • why our reactions can feel instant and out of our control  • how the nervous system scans for danger before we can think  • regulated state versus survival state in relationships  • fight responses like arguing lecturing defending and criticism  • flight responses like avoiding changing the subject and leaving  • freeze responses like going blank numb or overwhelmed  • fawn responses like people pleasing over apologizing and self abandonment  • the survival brain limbic system and prefrontal cortex working together  • why dysregulation takes the thinking brain offline  • how regulation helps us model steadiness for our kids at any age  • simple tools like box breathing grounding and pausing  • daily practices like walking prayer meditation and relaxing the body  • the spiritual link between inner regulation and receiving God’s peace  go ahead and click the link in the show notes and go ahead and grab that.  If you have any questions or would like to go deeper into this topic or how it affects you in your own life, you can find me at SharonKcoaching.com.  If you've enjoyed listening, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite platform. And feel free to share with anyone you think might benefit from what you've heard.  https://subscribepage.io/The-Five-Things-Your-Adult-Child-Needs-to-Hear-From-You Click the link below to set up a free discovery call to begin your transformation today.  Or email me @ smurph923.sm@gmail.com to find out more about how I can help.   https://calendly.com/smurph923-sm/discovery-call https://sharonkcoaching.com/ https://subscribepage.io/The-Five-Things-Your-Adult-Child-Needs-to-Hear-From-You

    32 min
  3. MAR 19

    #55 How Your Thoughts Shape Motherhood And Relationships

    Send us Fan Mail We explore why parenting triggers hit so hard and how the story in our mind creates the emotion we blame on our kids. We use a simple CBT based coaching model to help us choose peace, protect our relationships, and stay grounded in faith when our children make choices we do not control.  • the difference between circumstances and interpretations  • the coaching model: circumstance, thought, feeling, action, result  • why the same event produces different emotions in different people  • how anxious thoughts lead to withdrawal, control, preaching, and pressure  • how these reactions often create distance and reinforce fear  • the hidden belief that a child’s choices equal a parent’s success  • reframing faith struggles with a thought that leads to peace  • praying from peace rather than fear and desperation  • using discernment and examination of conscience to track thoughts  • key reminder: your child’s life is not your report card  If you have any questions or would like to go deeper into this topic or how it affects you in your own life, you can find me at SharonKcoaching.com. That's Sharon the Letterk Coaching.com. If you've enjoyed listening, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite platform. And feel free to share with anyone you think might benefit from what you've heard.  Click the link below to set up a free discovery call to begin your transformation today.  Or email me @ smurph923.sm@gmail.com to find out more about how I can help.   https://calendly.com/smurph923-sm/discovery-call https://sharonkcoaching.com/ https://subscribepage.io/The-Five-Things-Your-Adult-Child-Needs-to-Hear-From-You

    30 min
  4. MAR 5

    #53 It's Not Just You

    Send us Fan Mail Ever caught yourself whispering “Is it just me?” and feeling that sting of loneliness that follows? We dig into why our minds latch onto that question, how it quietly fuels isolation, and what to say instead so you can think clearly, act wisely, and feel supported. Drawing on coaching conversations with women navigating phones, church, sports schedules, and the pressure to get parenting right, we unpack the deeper need for belonging that sits beneath the surface of everyday complaints. We explore how the brain reacts when it senses you’re an outlier, why it swaps curiosity for self-criticism, and how a tiny reframe—“I know I’m not alone; what’s the next right step?”—points you toward practical help. You’ll hear real examples that move from light moments to heavy concerns, plus a look at how modern life has thinned everyday mentorship among women and what we can do to rebuild it. If you’ve felt tired, worried, overwhelmed, or unsure, you’ll find language that normalizes your experience and opens the door to relief. Faith is part of this path too. We talk about bringing our needs to God from peace and surrender rather than panic, and how that posture clears space for guidance and small, doable next steps. Most of all, we invite you to become the steady friend you wish you had: listen first, share honestly, protect stories, and offer simple, testable ideas. You’re not a unicorn, and nothing has gone wrong—humans have carried these feelings across generations. Subscribe, share this with someone who needs it, and leave a quick review to help more women find this conversation. What’s your “is it just me” moment you’re ready to reframe today? Click the link below to set up a free discovery call to begin your transformation today.  Or email me @ smurph923.sm@gmail.com to find out more about how I can help.   https://calendly.com/smurph923-sm/discovery-call https://sharonkcoaching.com/ https://subscribepage.io/The-Five-Things-Your-Adult-Child-Needs-to-Hear-From-You

    16 min
  5. FEB 26

    #52 Ten Lessons From Launching A Podcast And Learning To Live With Courage

    Send us Fan Mail Ever notice how “I’ll start when I feel ready” quietly turns into never? We’re celebrating a full year of weekly publishing with ten hard-won lessons about choosing courage over comfort, plus a bonus that changes how we lead at home and at work. From battling resistance that looks suspiciously like reorganizing the laundry drawer to recording on the road with imperfect gear, Sharon pulls back the curtain on what it really takes to build momentum and keep going. We unpack why confidence shows up after the reps, not before; how commitment removes the exit ramp; and why mindset outperforms skill set when life gets messy. You’ll hear practical ways to detach from other people’s opinions, reframe confusion with “everything is figureoutable,” and make “ready” a decision rather than a feeling. Along the way, we explore growth as a whole-person shift: when you step forward in one area, your identity expands and the ripple touches marriage, parenting, prayer, and purpose. If you’ve been craving a nudge to start the thing—applying for the job, having the hard talk, rebuilding a habit, or launching your own creative project—this conversation gives you a simple map: expect resistance, begin messy, keep your promise, seek wisdom, and welcome discomfort as the price of transformation. The closing charge is personal and urgent: go first, go often, and go on purpose. Subscribe, leave a review, and share this with a friend who needs a loving push. What’s the one step you’ll take today? Click the link below to set up a free discovery call to begin your transformation today.  Or email me @ smurph923.sm@gmail.com to find out more about how I can help.   https://calendly.com/smurph923-sm/discovery-call https://sharonkcoaching.com/ https://subscribepage.io/The-Five-Things-Your-Adult-Child-Needs-to-Hear-From-You

    32 min
  6. FEB 19

    #51 Are You Drifting Or Designing?

    Send us Fan Mail We explore why so many responsible, capable people slip into a quiet drift and how small, intentional practices restore clarity, purpose, and faith. Sharon shares simple questions, mindset shifts, and gentle steps to move from managing life to designing it. • defining drifting as reactive, comfortable living that dulls purpose • signs of drift in work, marriage, friendships, and personal life • why we drift: overload, fear of disruption, gratitude confusion • fixed mindset versus growth mindset and why it matters • four reflection questions to regain agency • living with intention: align choices to values and standards • identity and values as anchors for clarity • start small: choose one area and one action • Lent as a timely container for examination and renewal If you have any questions or would like to go deeper into this topic or how it affects you in your own life, you can find me at Sharon KCoach.com. That's Sharon the Letterk Coaching.com. If you've enjoyed listening, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite platform, and feel free to share with anyone you think might benefit from what you've heard. Click the link below to set up a free discovery call to begin your transformation today.  Or email me @ smurph923.sm@gmail.com to find out more about how I can help.   https://calendly.com/smurph923-sm/discovery-call https://sharonkcoaching.com/ https://subscribepage.io/The-Five-Things-Your-Adult-Child-Needs-to-Hear-From-You

    26 min
  7. FEB 12

    #50 How Faith-Filled Fasting Heals Our Attachments --- With Denise Jelinek

    Send us Fan Mail What if the moment fasting feels hardest is the moment you’re closest to freedom? We sit down with Catholic weight loss coach Denise Jelinek to unpack why cravings spike, motivation dips, and self-judgment roars right when we try to detach from food, screens, wine, or the bathroom scale. Denise shares her journey from secret bingeing and shame to a surrendered, grace-led approach that honors both neuroscience and the soul, and she explains how to recognize spiritual attacks without fear or drama. Across our conversation, we map five common traps—intensified cravings, subtle vainglory, burnout and discouragement, identity lies, and ungodly self-reliance—and pair each with concrete practices. You’ll learn how to pre-plan gentle replacements for trigger times, add physical comfort to reduce friction, and use a simple reframe—by the grace of God—to keep wins rooted in humility. Denise’s two rescue questions, “What do I know now?” and “Where do I need more care and support?” turn setbacks into formation and end the shame spiral that keeps so many stuck. We also dive into emotional literacy with 60-second pauses that ask, “What do I feel?” and “What do I need?” so true needs can be met without running back to old habits. Lent becomes a training ground for lifelong freedom: check with God first about what to fast from, replace white-knuckled rules with patient detachment, and consider fasting from the scale if it has become a noisy idol. Surrender shifts the focus from outcomes to obedience, from striving to trust, from control to communion. Listen to find practical tools, spiritual clarity, and a calmer way to pursue temperance that lasts well beyond Easter. If this speaks to you, subscribe, share with a friend who needs hope, and leave a review to help more listeners find the show. To find out more about Denise and her work: https://weightlosswiththeholyspirit.com/ Click the link below to set up a free discovery call to begin your transformation today.  Or email me @ smurph923.sm@gmail.com to find out more about how I can help.   https://calendly.com/smurph923-sm/discovery-call https://sharonkcoaching.com/ https://subscribepage.io/The-Five-Things-Your-Adult-Child-Needs-to-Hear-From-You

    46 min

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