To The Heights

Sharon Murphy
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  • MENTAL HEALTH

Change your perspective to change your life.  

  1. 6D AGO

    #61 You Can Be Right...Or You Can Have Peace

    Send us Fan Mail The fastest way to lose closeness with your adult child is often the most innocent: trying to help by correcting, explaining, or proving your point. When I hear moms say, “I’m not controlling, I’m guiding,” I believe them and I also see the fallout. Those conversations can leave you feeling tense, unsettled, and confused about why connection feels harder than it used to.  We dig into the heart of “You Can Have Peace Or You Can Be Right” and why being right is rarely about facts and more about priorities in the moment. I walk through the biggest triggers for family conflict with adult children: finances, career decisions, parenting your grandchildren, and heated opinions about what’s happening in the world. Then we get honest about what’s underneath the need to press the point: ego, fear of losing influence, fear of not being needed, discomfort with disagreement, and the craving for resolution. If you’ve ever replayed a conversation just to think of a better argument, you’ll recognize the pattern.  I also draw an important line for women of faith: choosing peace doesn’t mean avoiding truth or letting serious issues slide. When safety, integrity, or grave harm is at stake, love may require you to speak up. I share a practical motive check (urgency vs hesitant love) plus steps to respond with clarity: begin with prayer, pause, prepare your words, return to prayer, and ask God for peace regardless of the reaction. Finally, I outline the framework I teach for rebuilding trust: peace first, then connection, then influence.  If this hits home, subscribe, share it with a friend who’s parenting adult children, and leave a review so more families can find support. What’s one topic you’re ready to stop “winning” so you can protect the relationship? Click the link below to set up a free discovery call to begin your transformation today.  Or email me @ smurph923.sm@gmail.com to find out more about how I can help.   https://calendly.com/smurph923-sm/discovery-call https://sharonkcoaching.com/ https://subscribepage.io/The-Five-Things-Your-Adult-Child-Needs-to-Hear-From-You

    33 min

  2. APR 23

    #60 Holy Self-Care With Denise Jelinek

    Send us Fan Mail Denise Jelinick joins me to reclaim self-care as something holy, simple, and deeply Catholic rather than selfish or indulgent. We talk about boundaries, guilt, and the practical habits that help us stay peaceful and present in our real lives.  • self-care through a Catholic lens as stewardship of the body and mind  • the five P’s rule of life: prayer then person then partner then parent then provider  • why moms skip “person” and how that creates burnout  • the difference between authentic sacrifice and people-pleasing  • how serving and fixing can become a way to avoid your own life  • “three businesses” as a tool for peace and focus  • guilt as a signal for sin versus guilt as a lie  • seasons of life, discernment, and choosing where you are irreplaceable  • a simple daily practice: “What do I feel?” and “What do I need?”  If you have any questions or would like to go deeper into this topic or how it affects you in your own life, you can find me at Sharon K Coaching.com. That's Sharon k Coaching.com.  If you've enjoyed listening, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite platform. And feel free to share with anyone you think might benefit from what you've heard. https://weightlosswiththeholyspirit.com/ @catholicweightloss https://sophiainstitute.com/product/a-mothers-rule-of-life/?srsltid=AfmBOooEZQu3G51W0lfIiobDTThJ2LqnkGx6mVNX2pBvD05TIDkh00qT Click the link below to set up a free discovery call to begin your transformation today.  Or email me @ smurph923.sm@gmail.com to find out more about how I can help.   https://calendly.com/smurph923-sm/discovery-call https://sharonkcoaching.com/ https://subscribepage.io/The-Five-Things-Your-Adult-Child-Needs-to-Hear-From-You

    40 min

  3. APR 16

    #59 What Type Of Mom Are You?

    Send us Fan Mail We’re in a big transition when our kids become adults, and it can leave us wondering what our role even is anymore. We name four common “mom modes” that steal peace and share practical mindset shifts that help us show up with more trust, grace, and calm.  • The shock of moving from active parenting to guiding adults  • The anxious protector pattern and the love vs fear pause  • Releasing control through trust and a short prayer of surrender  • The guilty reflector pattern and choosing grace over rumination  • Making amends when needed and returning to the present moment  • The confused caregiver pattern and the pressure to get it right  • Dropping unsolicited advice and using questions instead  • The controlling fixer pattern and replacing directives with curiosity  • Small daily thought shifts that create more peace and hope  If this has resonated with you, I'd really love for you to share it with another mom who you think might need it.  If you have any questions or would like to go deeper into this topic or how it affects you in your own life, you can find me at Sharon KCoach.com.  If you've enjoyed listening, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite platform.  And feel free to share with anyone you think might benefit from what you've heard.  Click the link below to set up a free discovery call to begin your transformation today.  Or email me @ smurph923.sm@gmail.com to find out more about how I can help.   https://calendly.com/smurph923-sm/discovery-call https://sharonkcoaching.com/ https://subscribepage.io/The-Five-Things-Your-Adult-Child-Needs-to-Hear-From-You

    26 min

  4. APR 9

    #58 You Cannot Fix What You Cannot See

    Send us Fan Mail I got back from spring break feeling refreshed and ready to dive back into real life and then I walked into my house and saw everything differently. The shower tile. The refrigerator drawer. The laundry room. Nothing “became” dirty while I was gone. I just finally had enough space to see what had been there all along. That moment sparked a bigger question: what else do we miss simply because we are too close to it?  We take that idea beyond home routines and into the places that matter most. I talk honestly about how marriage can drift when we get stuck managing schedules and repeating the same conversations, and how tension can become so normal we stop noticing it. I also share how parenting can pull us into tunnel vision, especially when we are worried about a child, and how easy it is to overfunction or carry emotional weight without realizing it.  Then we move into spiritual clarity. When life is loud and busy, it can feel like God is quiet, but often we are the ones without room to listen. I reflect on how Jesus withdrew to pray, and why stepping away and slowing down changes our awareness, interrupts thought patterns, and widens perspective. You will leave with simple, practical ways to “step away” even if you cannot take a vacation: small environment changes, relational resets, quiet time with God, journaling, and even visiting different churches to wake up your attention again.  If you have been craving answers, peace, or direction, consider this a gentle push to stop doing more and start seeing more. Subscribe, share this with a friend who feels stuck, and leave a review so more women can find the show. Click the link below to set up a free discovery call to begin your transformation today.  Or email me @ smurph923.sm@gmail.com to find out more about how I can help.   https://calendly.com/smurph923-sm/discovery-call https://sharonkcoaching.com/ https://subscribepage.io/The-Five-Things-Your-Adult-Child-Needs-to-Hear-From-You

    22 min

  5. APR 2

    #57 When Your Husband Isn't Concerned...But You Are

    Send us Fan Mail We talk about the tension of lying awake worried about our adult kids while our husband seems calm, and how that can make us feel alone and pressured. We reframe what his “lack of concern” may mean and practice a calmer way to respond so we can be peaceful, grounded, and present.  • common differences in how mothers and fathers process concern  • the meaning we attach to his calm and how it fuels loneliness  • awareness versus urgency and why urgency creates tension  • the trap of seeking validation so we can feel relief  • overfunctioning and emotional burnout in motherhood  • questions to uncover the fear underneath the worry  • sharing concern with your husband without pressure or blame  • releasing the belief that everything depends on us  • choosing peace, staying present, and building connection to grow influence  If you're a mom with adult children and you're looking to preserve and protect your peace, to feel grounded, to feel present, to deepen the connection that you have with your children and to grow your influence in their lives, then I just want to invite you to take a look at my free guide, the five things your adult child needs to hear from you.  If you have any questions or would like to go deeper into this topic or how it affects you in your own life, you can find me at Sharon KCoaching.com. That's SharonKCoaching.com.  If you've enjoyed listening, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite platform. And feel free to share with anyone you think might benefit from what you've heard.  https://subscribepage.io/The-Five-Things-Your-Adult-Child-Needs-to-Hear-From-You Click the link below to set up a free discovery call to begin your transformation today.  Or email me @ smurph923.sm@gmail.com to find out more about how I can help.   https://calendly.com/smurph923-sm/discovery-call https://sharonkcoaching.com/ https://subscribepage.io/The-Five-Things-Your-Adult-Child-Needs-to-Hear-From-You

    15 min

  6. MAR 26

    #56 Your Nervous System Can Hijack Your Best Intentions

    Send us Fan Mail I talk about why we can feel “triggered” and react instantly in parenting and family conflict even when we’re determined to stay calm. I break down nervous system regulation so we can bring our thinking brain back online, lead with peace, and create safer connection at home.  • why our reactions can feel instant and out of our control  • how the nervous system scans for danger before we can think  • regulated state versus survival state in relationships  • fight responses like arguing lecturing defending and criticism  • flight responses like avoiding changing the subject and leaving  • freeze responses like going blank numb or overwhelmed  • fawn responses like people pleasing over apologizing and self abandonment  • the survival brain limbic system and prefrontal cortex working together  • why dysregulation takes the thinking brain offline  • how regulation helps us model steadiness for our kids at any age  • simple tools like box breathing grounding and pausing  • daily practices like walking prayer meditation and relaxing the body  • the spiritual link between inner regulation and receiving God’s peace  go ahead and click the link in the show notes and go ahead and grab that.  If you have any questions or would like to go deeper into this topic or how it affects you in your own life, you can find me at SharonKcoaching.com.  If you've enjoyed listening, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite platform. And feel free to share with anyone you think might benefit from what you've heard.  https://subscribepage.io/The-Five-Things-Your-Adult-Child-Needs-to-Hear-From-You Click the link below to set up a free discovery call to begin your transformation today.  Or email me @ smurph923.sm@gmail.com to find out more about how I can help.   https://calendly.com/smurph923-sm/discovery-call https://sharonkcoaching.com/ https://subscribepage.io/The-Five-Things-Your-Adult-Child-Needs-to-Hear-From-You

    32 min

  7. MAR 19

    #55 How Your Thoughts Shape Motherhood And Relationships

    Send us Fan Mail We explore why parenting triggers hit so hard and how the story in our mind creates the emotion we blame on our kids. We use a simple CBT based coaching model to help us choose peace, protect our relationships, and stay grounded in faith when our children make choices we do not control.  • the difference between circumstances and interpretations  • the coaching model: circumstance, thought, feeling, action, result  • why the same event produces different emotions in different people  • how anxious thoughts lead to withdrawal, control, preaching, and pressure  • how these reactions often create distance and reinforce fear  • the hidden belief that a child’s choices equal a parent’s success  • reframing faith struggles with a thought that leads to peace  • praying from peace rather than fear and desperation  • using discernment and examination of conscience to track thoughts  • key reminder: your child’s life is not your report card  If you have any questions or would like to go deeper into this topic or how it affects you in your own life, you can find me at SharonKcoaching.com. That's Sharon the Letterk Coaching.com. If you've enjoyed listening, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite platform. And feel free to share with anyone you think might benefit from what you've heard.  Click the link below to set up a free discovery call to begin your transformation today.  Or email me @ smurph923.sm@gmail.com to find out more about how I can help.   https://calendly.com/smurph923-sm/discovery-call https://sharonkcoaching.com/ https://subscribepage.io/The-Five-Things-Your-Adult-Child-Needs-to-Hear-From-You

    30 min

  8. MAR 12

    #54 The #1 Mistake Moms Make With Their Adult Children

    Send us Fan Mail We unpack why unsolicited advice, even when loving, often lands as criticism and pushes adult children away. We share a practical path to move from director to trusted influencer through listening, validation, consent, and emotional self-awareness. • the hidden impact of unsolicited advice on trust • intention versus impact in mother–adult child talks • what adult children actually seek from parents • shifting roles from authority to mentor • the three-step framework: listen, validate, ask • reading body language and respecting no • checking your emotional state before speaking • choosing connection over being right • building long-term influence through safety • normalizing the learning curve for moms Five Things Your Adult Child Needs to Hear From You If you've enjoyed listening, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite platform Feel free to share with anyone you think might benefit from what you've heard Click the link below to set up a free discovery call to begin your transformation today.  Or email me @ smurph923.sm@gmail.com to find out more about how I can help.   https://calendly.com/smurph923-sm/discovery-call https://sharonkcoaching.com/ https://subscribepage.io/The-Five-Things-Your-Adult-Child-Needs-to-Hear-From-You

    21 min
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Change your perspective to change your life.  

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  • Creator
    Sharon Murphy
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    61
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2026 To The Heights
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