Your Utmost Life

Misty Celli | Identity & Self-Leadership Coach
  • 5.0 (1)
  • Self-Improvement

Do you look in the mirror and think "I don't even recognize myself anymore"? Do you feel invisible, exhausted, and completely disconnected from the woman you were before life became about everyone else? You just got quieter as everything else got louder. You didn't disappear all at once. It happened slowly,  in every moment you smoothed it over, kept the peace, told yourself you'd deal with it later. Until later became never, and the woman you used to be became someone you can barely remember. You're not broken. You're not too far gone. You got lost in the loving. Your Utmost Life is the podcast for moms who are done going through the motions of a life that looks fine on the outside and feels hollow on the inside, and are ready to find their way back to themselves. Every week, Misty Celli helps women who feel invisible in the middle of their own families reconnect with who they actually are, rediscover what they actually want, and start building a life that finally feels like theirs. This isn't about doing more or becoming someone new. It's about coming back to who you've always been. You are more than everyone's everything. You are someone.

  1. 4d ago

    I Just Need More Hours", That Belief Is Exactly Why You Always Feel Behind

    Something cancels, and suddenly you have three open hours in the middle of your day. By dinner they're gone, spent on laundry, texts, errands, and a longer scroll than you'd admit to anyone. You couldn't name one thing you did that was actually for you. And the thought that follows is so familiar it barely registers anymore: if I just had more time, I'd finally get to me. If you've ever felt like you have no time for yourself, or you keep telling yourself you just need more hours in the day, this episode will change how you see that wish. I share what happened when I finally got the hours, more than once in my life, and why they never gave me back to myself. We'll talk about why time management tools keep failing capable women, why this season of older kids and fuller calendars can feel more like drift than freedom, and what your hours have been missing all along. Here's what we're getting into: Why "I just need more hours" is really an identity and permission problem wearing a time costume.The free afternoon test, and what it reveals about where your time actually goes.What research from the University of Bath found about the mental load mothers carry, and why it makes the time explanation feel so convincing.Why hours go to whatever has a name on it, and why "free time" gets claimed by whoever asks first.My own story of moving from Montana to Houston, suddenly having hours, and feeling completely lost in them.The Erased Woman, how she got so quiet, and the choice in front of you the next time an hour opens up.Your first step: the Identity Starter Kit You don't need anybody telling you how to live your life, and I'm not going to. What you need is a clear, honest answer to who you are underneath the roles, so your hours finally have somewhere to go. The free Identity Starter Kit gives you three words to recognize and reconnect with the woman beyond the roles. You'll draft your Identity Blueprint in your own words, so you can follow through without self-sacrifice, make decisions without guilt, and show up as yourself. It takes fifteen minutes. Get it at yourutmost.com/starter Say this one with me: I don't need more hours. I need to decide I'm worth the ones I have. If this episode spoke to you, please leave a review. It helps the next woman searching for time find what she's actually looking for. And if you know someone who's always saying she just needs more hours in the day, send this episode to her. You are more than everyone's everything. You are someone. If this episode met you somewhere real, reach out. I'd love to hear from you. ✨ 3 Words to Recognize and Reconnect With the Woman Beyond the Roles. A 15‑minute first step to follow through without self-sacrifice, say your first guilt-free no, and feel like yourself again today. Get the Starter Toolkit - 15 Minutes. 🎧 Enjoyed this episode? Follow the show so next week's episode is waiting for you automatically. Leave a review it takes two minutes and helps the next woman who needs this find it. If someone came to mind while you were listening, send her this episode. She needs permission to try this too. 🔗 Connect + Continue Come find me on Instagram: @yourutmostself 🧭 Ready for the next step? Everything you need is at Your Utmost Self.

  2. Sep 23

    What's Wrong With Me That I Can Lead Everyone But Myself?

    🔗 Get your free Identity Starter Kit: yourutmost.com/starter You can run a meeting, lead a team, manage a household with more moving parts than most operations charts — and still not follow through on one small thing that was only for you. If that’s your Tuesday, this episode is for you. In this episode, Misty unpacks the question ambitious mothers keep asking themselves — what’s wrong with me? — and hands you a better one. Because the problem was never your discipline. It was never your character. And more willpower was never going to fix it. What You’ll Hear in This Episode Why the woman who leads everyone still can’t seem to lead herself, and why it happens automaticallyThe difference between a character pattern and an allocation patternWhy willpower keeps failing and what it was never designed to fixThe real reason more discipline, better planners, and earlier alarms haven't fixed thisHow to tell the difference between rest and failureWhy "depleted, not undisciplined" is the reframe that actually holds under pressureWhy three words change what willpower never couldMisty’s personal story: breaking more promises to herself than she had meals in a year, and what finally changedWhy “I’m depleted” gives you a next step that “I’m undisciplined” never couldWhat it actually looks like to show up for yourself, not perfectly, but genuinelyThe one first step that changes every step after itIf you've ever driven home from being everyone's answer, only to feel the quiet verdict start up about the one thing you didn't do for yourself, this episode is for you. 🔗 Start with your three words, free: yourutmost.com/starter Key Takeaways “The only place this ‘flaw’ ever shows up is the one place where nobody’s checking. That’s not a character pattern. That’s an allocation pattern.”“A house with no room for you isn’t a home. It’s just a building you maintain for everyone else.”“You can’t out-discipline an identity.”“Depleted, not undisciplined.”“She showed up this week. Not in spite of everything you carry. Alongside it.”The Mantra from This Episode Say this one out loud. Mean it. I am depleted, not undisciplined. And I’m done building on a foundation that was never built to hold me. If this episode met you somewhere real, reach out. I'd love to hear from you. ✨ 3 Words to Recognize and Reconnect With the Woman Beyond the Roles. A 15‑minute first step to follow through without self-sacrifice, say your first guilt-free no, and feel like yourself again today. Get the Starter Toolkit - 15 Minutes. 🎧 Enjoyed this episode? Follow the show so next week's episode is waiting for you automatically. Leave a review it takes two minutes and helps the next woman who needs this find it. If someone came to mind while you were listening, send her this episode. She needs permission to try this too. 🔗 Connect + Continue Come find me on Instagram: @yourutmostself 🧭 Ready for the next step? Everything you need is at Your Utmost Self.

  3. Sep 15

    Why Your Boundaries Hold When Nobody Pushes Back (And Collapse When They Do)

    You can rehearse the perfect boundary 100 times and still lose it in the exact moment you need it most. When someone pushes back, looks hurt, or asks “why is this such a big deal?”, the script that sounded so strong in your car suddenly feels flimsy in real life. We get into why that happens, and why chasing better wording keeps you trapped in a loop of apologizing, over-explaining, and replaying the conversation for hours. We walk through the real issue underneath “I just need the right way to say no” and it is the belief that your needs only count if other people approve of them. If your limit depends on someone else cooperating, you are not protected, you are asking permission. We break down the difference between a request and a boundary, and why a boundary rooted in identity can stay steady even when the other person does not like it. Then we shift into what actually works: identity-based boundaries that come from what is true about you and your capacity right now. I share a simple, memorable way to anchor yourself in hard moments using three words you can access mid-conversation, so your limits come from the inside out instead of borrowed scripts and perfect delivery. If you are ready to stop Googling your self-respect and start building real conviction, listen now. After you finish, subscribe, share this with a friend who keeps collecting scripts, and leave a review so the next woman can find it. If this episode met you somewhere real, reach out. I'd love to hear from you. ✨ 3 Words to Recognize and Reconnect With the Woman Beyond the Roles. A 15‑minute first step to follow through without self-sacrifice, say your first guilt-free no, and feel like yourself again today. Get the Starter Toolkit - 15 Minutes. 🎧 Enjoyed this episode? Follow the show so next week's episode is waiting for you automatically. Leave a review it takes two minutes and helps the next woman who needs this find it. If someone came to mind while you were listening, send her this episode. She needs permission to try this too. 🔗 Connect + Continue Come find me on Instagram: @yourutmostself 🧭 Ready for the next step? Everything you need is at Your Utmost Self.

  4. Sep 9

    When You Love Your Family But Feel Invisible in Your Own Life (And What to Do)

    Have you ever poured yourself a cup of coffee, and before you could get it to your lips, someone had already added three things to your day? You love your family deeply. You show up. You give everything. And somehow, somewhere between everyone's needs and expectations, you stopped making it onto your own list. That's not a scheduling problem. It's not a willpower problem. And it's not who you are. In this episode, I'm going to tell you the truth about why this keeps happening, what it's actually costing you, and how to finally stop disappearing into a life that was always meant to include you. WHAT THIS EPISODE COVERS 📌 The "whoever needs me first" rule that's quietly running your days, and why it's not your fault 📌 The hidden belief that makes selflessness feel like identity, and what it's actually doing to your worth 📌 Why the planners, the apps, and the better schedules haven't worked, and what was missing all along 📌 The real cost of staying in this pattern, this week, this year, and ten years from now 📌 What Brené Brown and Michelle Obama discovered about worth, and why it matters for your Tuesday 📌 The one belief shift that reorganizes everything, including your time 📌 What your week looks like when you are on the list, not as an afterthought, but by design KEY TAKEAWAYS ✦ Your value is in your presence, not your performance. Meeting needs is a skill, and you're good at it. But a skill is something you *do.* It is not the sum of who you are. ✦ The pattern isn't personal, but staying in it is a choice. The Invisible Mama didn't appear overnight. She arrived through a loop of praise, self-sacrifice, and a belief that was never yours to carry. Recognizing it is the first step out. ✦ Worth reorganizes time. The minutes don't appear because you've earned them. They appear because you decided you were worth spending them on. ✦ You haven't done less for the people you love; you've just stopped being the only person on the list who never made it onto the list. That difference is the whole thing. ✦ A belief that requires endless proof isn't a truth. It's a trap. And you don't have to stay in it. YOUR INVITATION Here's what I want to leave you with. You didn't stumble onto this episode by accident. Something in you already knows it's time- time to stop earning your place in your own life and simply decide you have one. The Utmost Woman doesn't do less. She doesn't love less. She doesn't give less. She just finally stops disappearing from the equation. And everything - her relationships, her days, her sense of self- gets fuller because of it. That woman isn't a future version of you. She's the version that's been waiting. The question isn't whether you're ready to embrace her. The question is whether you're willing to stop proving you have to earn the right to be her.  Your life is happening right now. Your children are growing right now. The woman you ache to be is available to you right now, not after you get it all figured out, not after you've done enough, not after you've earned it. Right now. As is. Here's your step: click the link yourutmost.com/starter and get your three words to recognize and reconnect with the women beyond the roles. That's what stands between you and interrupting this pattern for good.  If this episode met you somewhere real, reach out. I'd love to hear from you. ✨ 3 Words to Recognize and Reconnect With the Woman Beyond the Roles. A 15‑minute first step to follow through without self-sacrifice, say your first guilt-free no, and feel like yourself again today. Get the Starter Toolkit - 15 Minutes. 🎧 Enjoyed this episode? Follow the show so next week's episode is waiting for you automatically. Leave a review it takes two minutes and helps the next woman who needs this find it. If someone came to mind while you were listening, send her this episode. She needs permission to try this too. 🔗 Connect + Continue Come find me on Instagram: @yourutmostself 🧭 Ready for the next step? Everything you need is at Your Utmost Self.

  5. Aug 31

    The Woman You’ve Been Erasing (How to Stop Carrying Everything Alone)

    You know that weird, sinking moment when you're handling dinner, schedules, forms, and everyone's needs and then realize you forgot yourself again? That isn't forgetfulness. It's what happens when one person becomes the household's brain and the whole family runs on her memory. If you're the one who remembers every appointment, tracks the pantry, knows which form is due when and still can't manage to book your own doctor's appointment, you are not disorganized, and you are not failing. In this episode, we're naming the belief that's actually running the show: "If I don't carry it, it won't get done right", and the quieter one underneath it, "Needing help means I'm failing." Mothers carry roughly 71% of the household's mental load, even in dual-career homes (University of Bath, 2024). This isn't a scheduling problem. It's an identity problem wearing a scheduling problem's clothes. And today we're taking it apart. What you'll walk away with: Why "If I don't do it, it won't get done right" isn't evidence of your strength, it's a design flaw you've been mistaking for personal responsibilityThe hidden standard underneath "done right", and the real question to ask insteadWhy another planner, app, or color-coded routine rarely solves what's actually happeningHow perfectionism quietly turns you into the system instead of a person living inside itWhat it costs you at night when your body is in bed but your mind is still on duty, and how that drains connection with your partner and your kidsA 30-second exercise to reconnect with who you are outside every role you play, no vision board, no ten-year plan requiredWhy handing something off rarely goes well the first time and why that's not proof you were right to never trust anyone with itA practical path forward using the Discover, Design, Do framework, so responsibility gets shared on purpose, not dumped on whoever is fastest Try this today: Name one thing out loud tonight (at dinner, in the car, wherever) that's been living only in your head. Just one piece of it. That's the whole ask. If this episode met you somewhere real, reach out. I'd love to hear from you. ✨ 3 Words to Recognize and Reconnect With the Woman Beyond the Roles. A 15‑minute first step to follow through without self-sacrifice, say your first guilt-free no, and feel like yourself again today. Get the Starter Toolkit - 15 Minutes. 🎧 Enjoyed this episode? Follow the show so next week's episode is waiting for you automatically. Leave a review it takes two minutes and helps the next woman who needs this find it. If someone came to mind while you were listening, send her this episode. She needs permission to try this too. 🔗 Connect + Continue Come find me on Instagram: @yourutmostself 🧭 Ready for the next step? Everything you need is at Your Utmost Self.

  6. Aug 26

    You're Still There: The Framework Mothers Need to Stop Disappearing and Return to Themselves

    If someone asked you right now who you are, underneath wife, mother, daughter, the one everyone counts on, could you answer? Most women can't. Not because they're lost. Because nobody ever asked them to look. In this episode, I'm giving you an actual answer. Not just an idea to sit with, a real framework for finding the woman you've been missing, and staying connected to her, starting today. In this episode you'll discover: The two versions of yourself that are quietly at war every day, and what closing that gap actually looks likeThe 3D Doctrine, the three-phase method (Discover, Design, Do) that gives finding yourself a real structure instead of just a hopeThe Identity Blueprint, one sentence that changes how you make every decisionReal "say this, not that" scripts for the moments that test you most, the favor, the last-minute ask, the extra request you always absorbIf you've ever caught yourself thinking "is this all there is?" this episode is for you. You are more than everyone's everything. You are someone! If this episode met you somewhere real, reach out. I'd love to hear from you. ✨ 3 Words to Recognize and Reconnect With the Woman Beyond the Roles. A 15‑minute first step to follow through without self-sacrifice, say your first guilt-free no, and feel like yourself again today. Get the Starter Toolkit - 15 Minutes. 🎧 Enjoyed this episode? Follow the show so next week's episode is waiting for you automatically. Leave a review it takes two minutes and helps the next woman who needs this find it. If someone came to mind while you were listening, send her this episode. She needs permission to try this too. 🔗 Connect + Continue Come find me on Instagram: @yourutmostself 🧭 Ready for the next step? Everything you need is at Your Utmost Self.

  7. Aug 18

    Stop Feeling Invisible, Even To Yourself, In One Move and 5 Minutes

    There's a voice that's been running your life quietly for years. She sounds completely reasonable. She reminds you about the dishes before you take a walk. She talks you out of twenty minutes for yourself before you even ask for them. She's not loud. She's just always there, and she's why you keep ending up last, even on your own list. In this episode, she finally gets a name. And once you know what to call her, everything starts to shift. This isn't an episode about doing more or trying harder. It's about one small move, something that takes five minutes or less, that proves to you, in real time, that the woman underneath all the giving is still there, still reachable, and worth showing up for. In this episode you'll discover: Why decisions about your own needs feel so slow, and why that's not a character flawThe quiet belief underneath exhaustion that keeps you earning your worth instead of simply having itWhy "you can't pour from an empty cup" hasn't worked for you yet, and what actually willThe Three-Word Filter,  a simple tool to help you make decisions as the woman you're becoming, not the one who always disappearsThe real cost of running on empty, not just for you, but for the people you love mostOne small move you can make today, in five minutes or less, that starts changing the pattern right now This episode is for you if: You end most days wondering where you wentYou've tried to prioritize yourself before and it never sticksYou love your family deeply and still feel invisible inside your own lifeYou're ready to stop waiting until everything else is handled first You're more than everyone's everything. You are someone! If this episode met you somewhere real, reach out. I'd love to hear from you. ✨ 3 Words to Recognize and Reconnect With the Woman Beyond the Roles. A 15‑minute first step to follow through without self-sacrifice, say your first guilt-free no, and feel like yourself again today. Get the Starter Toolkit - 15 Minutes. 🎧 Enjoyed this episode? Follow the show so next week's episode is waiting for you automatically. Leave a review it takes two minutes and helps the next woman who needs this find it. If someone came to mind while you were listening, send her this episode. She needs permission to try this too. 🔗 Connect + Continue Come find me on Instagram: @yourutmostself 🧭 Ready for the next step? Everything you need is at Your Utmost Self.

    Stop Feeling Invisible, Even To Yourself, In One Move and 5 Minutes

  8. Aug 10

    Feel Like Yourself Again, Without Those You Love Suffering

    There's a fear most ambitious mothers never say out loud, not even to themselves: what if I actually find her again, and she doesn't fit the life I've built? What if being more of myself costs me the people I love most?  We walk through why this fear is not irrational. When a family has built expectations around the version of you who adapts, overfunctions, and rarely takes up space, any real change can trigger discomfort. But that discomfort is not the same thing as rejection. I share how staying small can create a marriage that functions yet doesn’t feel close, and why returning to your identity is less about becoming someone new and more about coming home to who you have always been.  I walk through a live exercise you can do right now, in a few minutes, that lets you test this instead of just thinking about it: naming three words that are true about who you are underneath your roles, saying them out loud, and bringing a little more of that truth into one small moment today. We also talk about the deeper vulnerability under it all, the fear of being fully seen, and why “the right people will welcome your return” is more than a nice saying.  I also share a story about the night I told my husband the whole vision for what would become Your Utmost Self, and what actually happened when I stopped hiding how big it was. You'll leave this episode with a real answer to the fear of losing people, and one small, doable way to start proving it to yourself today. If you want self-leadership that actually changes your daily life, this is your next step. Subscribe for the rest of the series, share this with a mother who needs it, and leave a review so the next woman can find the show. If this episode met you somewhere real, reach out. I'd love to hear from you. ✨ 3 Words to Recognize and Reconnect With the Woman Beyond the Roles. A 15‑minute first step to follow through without self-sacrifice, say your first guilt-free no, and feel like yourself again today. Get the Starter Toolkit - 15 Minutes. 🎧 Enjoyed this episode? Follow the show so next week's episode is waiting for you automatically. Leave a review it takes two minutes and helps the next woman who needs this find it. If someone came to mind while you were listening, send her this episode. She needs permission to try this too. 🔗 Connect + Continue Come find me on Instagram: @yourutmostself 🧭 Ready for the next step? Everything you need is at Your Utmost Self.

    Feel Like Yourself Again, Without Those You Love Suffering
See All (69)

Trailer

About

Do you look in the mirror and think "I don't even recognize myself anymore"? Do you feel invisible, exhausted, and completely disconnected from the woman you were before life became about everyone else? You just got quieter as everything else got louder. You didn't disappear all at once. It happened slowly,  in every moment you smoothed it over, kept the peace, told yourself you'd deal with it later. Until later became never, and the woman you used to be became someone you can barely remember. You're not broken. You're not too far gone. You got lost in the loving. Your Utmost Life is the podcast for moms who are done going through the motions of a life that looks fine on the outside and feels hollow on the inside, and are ready to find their way back to themselves. Every week, Misty Celli helps women who feel invisible in the middle of their own families reconnect with who they actually are, rediscover what they actually want, and start building a life that finally feels like theirs. This isn't about doing more or becoming someone new. It's about coming back to who you've always been. You are more than everyone's everything. You are someone.

Information

  • Creator
    Misty Celli | Identity & Self-Leadership Coach
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    69
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 © 2026 Your Utmost Life
  • Show Website
    Your Utmost Life

You Might Also Like