What People Miss

Cordelia Gaffar
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🎙️ *Welcome to* **What People Miss**—the space where high-achieving men in business can finally set down the performance and reconnect with what is real. I am **Cordelia Gaffar**, and I work with professionally successful, socially respected men—corporate leaders and founders—who are physically and mentally exhausted, helping them regain strength, confidence, and self-respect without shame, judgement, or emotional overwhelm. In each episode, we uncover what people miss when they are running companies, leading teams, and scaling visions on empty—so you can lead with a clear mind, a steady body, and a dignified heart. Take a breath, loosen your shoulders, and listen in. What you have been trained to push past may be exactly what brings you back to yourself as a man and as a leader.

  1. 2d ago

    Exploring Erotic Repair with Devi Maisha?

    Exploring Erotic Repair with Cordelia Gaffar and Devi Masha A deep dive into healing and embracing our erotic selves. In a world often divided between spirituality and physicality, we explore the transformative concept of erotic repair. This engaging discussion challenges conventional beliefs about sexuality, spirituality, and self-acceptance. What is Erotic Repair? Cordelia opens the conversation by defining erotic repair as the journey of integrating our spiritual selves with our physical experiences. She emphasizes that this integration is essential for holistic wellness. "What if your body was your Lord?" she asks, inviting listeners to reconsider their relationship with both spirituality and their bodies. The Impact of Cultural Narratives Maisha shares her perspective on how cultural narratives, particularly within the context of Abrahamic religions, create a chasm between our erotic selves and our spiritual beliefs. She highlights how these narratives often lead to shame surrounding black women's bodies and sexuality. "Black women are God because we're the portal between worlds," she asserts, emphasizing the sacredness of women's experiences in both creation and pleasure. Embracing Our Erotic Power The conversation delves into the importance of reclaiming erotic power, especially for black women. Maisha shares her journey of overcoming trauma and learning to celebrate her eroticism as a source of strength and creativity. "The erotic power is always in us," she declares, urging women to express their desires without shame. As they wrap up their discussion, Cordelia and Maisha invite listeners to reflect on their own definitions of erotic repair. They encourage embracing erotic energy not just in safe spaces like churches but in all aspects of life. The conversation is a powerful reminder that acknowledging and nurturing our erotic selves can lead to profound healing and empowerment. If you feel called to explore these themes further, tune into the full episode and join the dialogue on embracing your erotic repair journey. https://youtube.com/shorts/9wsiVp3UbEw?si=Swi5QlsE_btJQ4l7

  2. Oct 17

    Everybody's Story Abuse is Different: From Surviving to Processing and Savoring

    In this episode, Everybody’s Story of Abuse Is Different: From Surviving to Processing and Savoring, I invite you to explore the subtle but profound differences between surviving an experience, processing it, and savoring your life because of it. There is a stark distinction between surviving and savoring where you actually access pleasure on multiple levels. Although in our pattern of overriding our own emotions and feelings we tell ourselves that they are the same. You can laugh with a tight jaw and clench in your sleep. Attend every ecstatic dance, experience assisted pleasure, and even believe you are healed while still holding patterns, attachments, and protective responses that keep you disconnected from your body and yourself. Your body knows the truth. When you surrender, open your jaw even when you are not speaking you will truly free your hips and with it your soul. Here’s what I discovered: Survival seeks completion through attachment. Processing invites presence, release, and the freedom to choose differently. Through my journey with grief, relationships, and somatic awareness, I’ve learned that healing isn't a destination. It’s an ongoing invitation to feel more, release what no longer serves you, and savor life in all its colors and flavors. Take a breath. Get curious about what your body is telling you. You may discover that you're not starting over, you're revealing more of who you are. Because life is not merely something to survive. It is something to savor. Join the 21 Day Reset https://cordeliagaffar.com/services/personal-development/21-day-erotic-and-somatic-reset-150649705

  3. Oct 9

    Other Forms of Touch and Domestic Violence

    Other Forms of Touch and Domestic Violence may seem unrelated but when you bring in consent you will quickly connect the dots. The feedback from last week's episode on kissing has been interesting. One question that was repeated is: "What are other forms of touch".. akin to kissing but lesser in affect - I'm adding that part. Listen how consent is often overridden with ample conditioning on both sides of the exchange. The man is taught what to expect and the woman is taught what to accept. Both get the bare minimum and I offer a way to create erotic repair in the moment. **Before pressing play ensure that you are capable of hearing stories of extreme domestic violence which may be unsettling or even triggering.** For support with somatic repair join the 21 Day Reset for Erotic and Somatic Repair.

  4. Oct 2

    When Touch Doesn’t Feel Safe: Listening to Your Body and Reclaiming Choice

    “When Touch Doesn’t Feel Safe: Listening to Your Body and Reclaiming Choice” Unwanted touch and abuse can have serious mental health effects. When we’re taught to override our discomfort, it can become harder to recognize and honor our boundaries. This month, let’s make room to listen to our bodies and choose what feels safe. October is breast cancer, mental health and domestic violence awareness month! How are you caring for your body, emotions and relationships? It all begins within…Are you rushing to unwanted touch? As a child were you told to hug that uncle or aunt whose hand 🤚 ended up in a strange place on your body? Do you feel that ick sometimes with new people or your partner? You may need erotic and somatic repair. What happens in your body with unwanted touch? Overriding your choice is the beginning and gateway to mental health issues which can escalate in the body to cancer and or escalate in your life as accepting abuse slowly over time. Join me on October 11th for the 21 day reset.

  5. Sep 25

    Huff and Puff to Inner Peace

    Do you know how you are contributing or taking away from your joy? What keeps you steady? What does steadiness look like? Emotional or Physical state of being? Life can is exhausting these days Enjoy this short useful podcast to create your inner joy and maintain steadiness when times get hard. For more useful tips follow me on social media @ CordeliaGaffar and for somatic guidance sign up for your Wellness Consultation at cordeliagaffar.com (https://cordeliagaffar.com/services/personal-development/wellness-consultation-gaining-physical-clarity-150527446) #intimacyintelligence #theultimatejoygoddess #cordeliagaffar #podcast #WhatPeopleMiss

  6. Sep 18

    What Undermines Joy and Pleasure as a Dad with Dr. Ben

    It appears that we begin with the whole answer…believe me…there is soooo much more! There are at least five practices to implement in your marriage and relationship. Everything from healthy eating to intimacy, no stone goes unturned. The top practices that are undermining your joy and pleasure. How to create a loving spaceThe importance of AppreciationThe Distinction between Acknowledgement vs AppreciationListen and Be presentSelf- Nurturing - Respect yourself And more…. Dr. Binyamin Rothstein is a board-certified family physician with over 25 years of experience working with families. His career began serving as a physician in the US Army, after which he entered private practice and, over time, incorporated nutritional and complementary treatments in his patient care. As his career evolved, Dr. Rothstein’s focus shifted to healing the subconscious issues that prevent people from achieving their goals of health and happiness. Today, he guides men to become better husbands and fathers, drawing from both his professional expertise and personal experience as a father of eight and grandfather of many. In addition to his personal coaching, Dr. Rothstein conducts workshops and seminars on fatherhood and family dynamics across the country. Find out more about Dr. Ben https://beaterrificdad.com/about https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-binyamin-rothstein-6b1b4b5a/

  7. Sep 11

    Creating Joy and Pleasure as a Dad with Dr. Ben

    You will love this nugget filled episode with Cordelia and Dr. Ben. Yes we talk about Dads but we also talk about how that relationship creates moms. What does it take to be a Terrific Dad? Tune in and find out! Dr. Binyamin Rothstein is a board-certified family physician with over 25 years of experience working with families. His career began serving as a physician in the US Army, after which he entered private practice and, over time, incorporated nutritional and complementary treatments in his patient care. As his career evolved, Dr. Rothstein’s focus shifted to healing the subconscious issues that prevent people from achieving their goals of health and happiness. Today, he guides men to become better husbands and fathers, drawing from both his professional expertise and personal experience as a father of eight and grandfather of many. In addition to his personal coaching, Dr. Rothstein conducts workshops and seminars on fatherhood and family dynamics across the country. Find out more about Dr. Ben https://beaterrificdad.com/about https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-binyamin-rothstein-6b1b4b5a/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-binyamin-rothstein-6b1b4b5a/

  8. Sep 4

    How to Love and Savor Your Life with Cordelia Gaffar

    Most people don’t need more motivation, they need a pattern interrupt. Do you feel like you have been crawling through life lately? Here are a few ways to come back to yourself. You can’t control everything happening in the world. But you can control: what you feed your body what thoughts you keep repeatinghow you respond when life feels heavy That’s the shift…detachment from what you can’t control, and devotion to what you can. For me, savoring life starts with the small things - breath, food, presence, and choosing joy on purpose. Even chocolate can become a ritual when you slow down enough to taste it.That’s not indulgence. That’s self-respect. What helps you come back to yourself when everything feels too much? #SavorYourLife #DetachedLove #MindfulLiving #JoyPractice #CordeliaGaffar Join the 21 Day Reset to start your pattern interrupt on September 13th https://cordeliagaffar.com/services/personal-development/21-day-erotic-and-somatic-reset-150649705

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🎙️ *Welcome to* **What People Miss**—the space where high-achieving men in business can finally set down the performance and reconnect with what is real. I am **Cordelia Gaffar**, and I work with professionally successful, socially respected men—corporate leaders and founders—who are physically and mentally exhausted, helping them regain strength, confidence, and self-respect without shame, judgement, or emotional overwhelm. In each episode, we uncover what people miss when they are running companies, leading teams, and scaling visions on empty—so you can lead with a clear mind, a steady body, and a dignified heart. Take a breath, loosen your shoulders, and listen in. What you have been trained to push past may be exactly what brings you back to yourself as a man and as a leader.

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  • Creator
    Cordelia Gaffar
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    75
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Copyright 2026 Cordelia Gaffar
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    What People Miss